[FR] A Painful Lesson. Well, more pain than "lesson".

2017-11-19T17:35:42+00:00

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JUST_WANTTOBEHAPPY · 2017-11-21T15:07:32+00:00

This is the most relatable subreddit post I seen lately. Your introspection is very much appreciated.

Scrub_TLC · 2017-11-19T15:35:59+00:00

Your last two paragraphs are gold! I would love to game with you ;)

I don't see a fundamental flaw in your logic anywhere. The only thing I would say if you have to be less emotional about kicking your own butt over acting out of congruence with your own emotions.

Game is game cause you play it and have fun.

Free yourself from outcome. Acknowledge the lesson to learn here is to test the boundary between honest emotional connection+investment VS being needy and establish where exactly that line is.

Vulnerability can be very useful here. You can play aloof but if you have a real connection like deeper conversational connection then she is a thinker, not a silly club socialite. Rule of thumb is people you can get philosophical with you can express connection and feeling through words. Whereas kinda the "fun club slut" or "flighty social butterflies" keep the conversation light and escalate through kino and your sexual friendly energy.

If you are honest with yourself you can feel out a person's personality almost right off the bat. Are they a cup of coffee on a blanket talking about a book person or are they a let's do some addys off the toilet set in the club bathroom person. With one, you go real casual low pressure escalate over the course of the night with breaks and the other feel free to connect more like day game since they are deeper and can handle a complex conversation. I think you know which is which and you can free yourself from further issue by just taking a stab at it rather than thinking too much about strategy.

I want to say thanks for a great post, thinking about your issue helped me see some of my own issues more clearly ;)

Title	[FR] A Painful Lesson. Well, more pain than "lesson".
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	21
Comments	7
Date	November 19, 2017 5:56 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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