FIRST OF ALL...

This is a thing that you're in for life. It's not a sprint, it definitely takes the most benefit if you play it for the long term. It also takes a long time, so if you're expecting results in a couple months, sorry but you won't see any.

 

THE PROS OF SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME

On the long term, you'll build yourself a social circle and social proof that will automatically make it fun and way easier for you to hook up with girls, if you're busy you still have all those leads coming in. If you combine your cold approach skills with social circle game, you'll see massive results and you'll see how much value those cold approach experiences will bring you in social situations.

 

APPLICATIONS OF SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME

Everything you do is social, so you can use that and leverage it. Once you're the "cool popular guy" that can bring girls, it'll boost your career, you'll meet more people that will introduce you to more jobs and clients. Same night lays will be easier with all the social proof. Your life will be more colorful and happier, with women on a regular basis and friends that can help you with different things. Your social skills will get better than if you just practiced cold approach, especially in ways that cold approach doesn't tackle. The best thing is, if you have a well-rounded social circle, it'll have great impact on long term relationships. A girl that you pull because you have good game and then sees that your life is fucking boring will lose attraction. But, if she sees that this amazing guy that pulled her out of a club has all this friends and this amazing lifestyle out of the club, she'll fall in love with you immediately, and in the long term she'll want to spend time with you and be loyal to you, because of all the social value you can give to her.

 

HOW SOCIAL CIRCLE WORKS

Before we learn how you can build a social circle, I want you to understand how it works, which roles are in the social circle and how you need to interact and fill those roles, because the way the roles are filled is crucial.

Inner circle (~5-10 people):

It's your best friends (guys/girls), they're part of your life, you take care of them and they take care of you. Your girlfriend can be part of this circle, but it's like your hand: your girlfriend is your thumb and your friends are the other fingers - be the guy that owns it in life and still shares it with her, don't be like "I'm so sad, I suck at life", keep that to your best friends. She’s the only person in your inner circle that you can fuck, you can’t fuck no one else in this circle. The people in your inner circle have to be social as well. They're going to hang out with you all the time, if they don't like going out to loud venues and talking to people for example, they're going to fuck your social life. The inner circle has to be a brotherhood - you have the same mindset, goals, ambitions, etc. That has a "social gravity", people notice the energy between you and wants to be part of it.

Outer circle (~10-50 people):

It's the friends of your best friends or your more "deviate friends". They're still part of your life, you're still very good friends with them, but they aren't as close as your best friends, they don't have the same mindset as you.

Extended circle (~50+ people):

It's everyone you know on campus, gym, etc. All the friends of your friends and all the people that you know in the places that you go. You're friends with them, but you wouldn't invite them to your wedding or something.

The bubbles:

This is a social circle that doesn't have any contact with the other circles, but you hang out with them. For example, if you work out with some guys, you hang out with them but they don't know the rest of your friends.

 

ROLES

In those social circles, you have different roles. Like I said, these roles must be filled correctly. Some roles can overlap, for example the first lady can be the organizer too.

The alphas. You need the alphas. The guys that are cool with themselves, charismatic, talk to people, go out frequently, etc. Usually, they overlap with the guys in the inner circle and can go to the outer circle. Just keep in mind the more you have around you, the better it is, the better quality your social circle will have.

The chodes. You need the chodes. You have to respect and accept them. Often, they aren't good with girls, but they're crushing it in something else. As long as they bring good energy and fun to the parties, you should have as much of them as well. They can help you with some problems in your life, like finances, school, etc.

The first lady. They can overlap or be two different people. The organizer is someone who organizes things (parties, meetings for coffee, etc). If you don't want to do it or don't have the time to do it, get someone to do it for you. The first lady is the anchor of the females in the social circle. She has to be, at least, a 7 (if she's not hot, she'll not attract other hot girls). She has to be a girl that really likes to socialize with guys AND girls (very critical). Needs to be a very open and positive girl, which makes her really rare. So, when you find a girl like this, do NOT fuck her. This girl is like a diamond, you have to treat her like it. Once she's attracted (socially hooked) to you (you’re attractive and getting laid, so she'll try to fuck you), you got to friendzone her. Don't be like "Fuck you bitch, I'll not fuck you", be like "You're awesome, you're like my little sister!". So, she's hot and attracted to you, but you honestly friendzone her, don't be like "Oh, one day, maybe I could do this..." – no, put in your head that this girl doesn't have a pussy.

The organizer. Someone who organizes things (parties, meetings for coffee, etc). If you don't want to do it or don't have the time to do it, get someone to do it for you.

The groupies. They talk with their friends about your parties and bring them (tell them to invite all their friends if necessary, say "bring your hot friends"). Scan for hotness, coolness or if they’ve hot friends. They like you because you're a cool guy and they like to party. They're in the extended circle, you don't have a real bond with them, but they want to be part of it. They’re the perfect girl to fuck - hot, doesn't know your inner circle, so if you leave them and they talk shit about you, it won't affect your life.

Girls from outer circle. This depends. You need to look at the girls and see "What's the relationship that she has with my friends?" and "How much risk do I want to take with her?". If they talk with the people that talk shit about you and with your friends, you'll have fights in your social circle, and that's really bad. If you decide to lay girls on the outer circle, try to keep it on a low key and don't let too many people know about it.

The orbiters. They're "male groupies". They think you're cool, they want to hang out with you. Don't invite too much of them to your house parties and shit. Groupies, invite as much as humanly possible, stack that shit in your house. Orbitals, invite like 2 or 3 of them.

The fatties. Treat them super well and be super nice, they'll love you for that. Many of them have hot friends, so they're going to talk about you and tell them to meet you. They keep pushing you and keep winging you, they're your income of pussy.

The couples. You can have them in parties, but you don't want too many of them. When you have too many couples, the party dies down. If you have them in your parties or meetings, try to separate them, like sit them in different parts of the table. In a house party, make sure the percentage of couples is really low.

 

10 RULES OF A SOCIAL GUY

You have to be a farmer instead of a hunter. Hunters go out, get the pray and leave. Farmers plant the seeds, take care of them for a long time, but when they grow, there's a lot of food. You can be a hunter sometimes, go out and pull some chicks, but be a farmer, have all this social circle working in the background. The mindset is: let the time play for you, relationships only build in the long term.

Be a connector. This is the best value that you can provide to each member of your community. It's your job to introduce people to each other, especially people with different skills. If you have a girl in college that has bad grades, introduce her to your nerd friend. They'll easily connect with each other, and now they'll help you when you need.

Be a mentor. You should know shit, basically, and you should give that advice when someone asks for it (never unsolicited, if they don't ask, don't tell), which is exactly what I’m not doing here lol. Read books and stuff like that. Offer as much value as possible.

Be scholar. This might be contradictory, but it isn't, it's complementary. You teach what you know and you learn from those who are better than you. This will give you a lot of social proof, because people aren't going to think "Oh, he's arrogant, he thinks he knows everything". No, you're humble, you're willing to learn, to listen to people and take their advice. People will be willing to help, they love to help.

Be a leader. You can give up power here and there (if everyone wants to go to one place and you don't, it's your job to shut the fuck up and go with the group , don't ruin the vibe for the sake of leading). Make sure that you're a leader in general, not all the time. You want to be part of the discussions of which venue the group will go, what activities you’ll do, etc. Your opinion should be valuable and ideally you should have people asking you where you want to go. Bring the ideas to where the group should go.

Be a helping hand. When someone needs help in your inner circle or outer circle, help them. If possible, try to help them before they ask for it, this will have a bigger impact. If you don't have the social awareness to do that, it's fine. Talk to people that are close to you, and eventually you'll be able to anticipate when they need help.

Be a good entertainer. You have to keep in mind that people don't really care about your problems. They don't want to hear that. You have your inner circle, those 5 guys (not your girlfriend) to talk about your problems with, everyone else doesn't give a shit about your problems. They want you to be this cool guy (that sometimes is mad too, but generally has a good vibe and is a good entertainer). Always be a fun guy, don't drag people down (if you're in a bad mood, don't go to their party, just stay home).

Be a good listener. No one deals with your crap, but you deal with others crap lol. Listen to their problems and help them. If they want to bitch around, you listen to it and cut it short. But if they want real advice, you give your honest advice and try to help them as much as possible, try to be there and read people, to know what they need ("Hey man, I can tell that you're stressed up, what's up?").

Be reliable. If you promise something, keep your word. If you don't, people notice that, and they stop trusting you, especially the organizer. If you say that you're going to talk with the bouncers, or get a restaurant, don't fuck it up.

Be a defender. This is an alpha male trait, it's very important. When you have shy girls and chodes in your group and they get into trouble, it's your job to defend them. Not your job to go there and fight for them, but to help them staying in their ground and to cheer them. Those people are very insecure, and they're willing to follow someone who helps them. Also a very attractive trait, obviously.

 

DEFINING YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE

Pick your niche. This is very important. Sometimes you see people trying to impress others by being something that they don't really are. Go to the environments that fit your personality. For example, if your inner circle likes rock and you invite all the hippie girls to your party, they'll have to listen to that music - result: they won’t come to your next party. If you want to fuck a girl, it's cool to go to the house music club, but don't make people hang out with you if they don't like the party. Try to keep the social circle as homogeneous as possible, people need to like to hang out with each other.

Have different environments. I know this sounds contradictory, but try to go to different places and hang out with different people. For example, go to the theater class, chess class, sports class, etc.

Make a toxic list. Let go from people that drag you down. This is a big one. Review the 20 most important people and see their impact in your life, the relationship with that person, how you evolved last year, what went wrong, what's the vibe with her, etc. Then, decide if you still hang out with her or if you take her out of your life. You'll have a lot of people coming into your social group and you need to keep it clean. It's tough, but you need to do it. If they're fighting with each other, doing shit to your social circle, let go. You can’t be like "I don't want this motherfuker in my parties again", he's related to your inner/outer circle and you need to keep them as clean and good energy as possible, so you can’t talk shit about him. It sounds complicated, and sometimes it is, but you got to do it.

Manage your own expectations about other people. Now that you have other alpha males and orbiters, they'll be pulling your girls and being flirtatious with them. Especially if they're naturals, they're good with girls they already know, but are like a chode with strangers. So don't be disappointed, they'll not understand why you're disappointed and that's the point. Don't put pressure on people, don't expect anyone to owe you something.

Get the logistics right. You have to know the bars and the clubs of your social niche. Going back to the rock guys example, you have to know all the places, all the geeks, all the bands. If you know a bar or something, move to there. If this place is where your social circle hangs out, how easy will it be to pull them to your place? Get it down, prepare your apartment. You need to be able to host people. If someone crashes in your place make sure that you host them, but not in your room, because you want to fuck. Get a room full of sheets and mattresses on the floor or something and get a bag with toothbrushes. Prepare your place to have drinking games, some wine and beer (a cocktail bar is good too, some drinks to mix with each other, you'll not drink that, alcohol is bad for you, but the other people want to drink it). Have enough places to sit (except in your room, just your bed), buy plastic chairs that you can fold or something, have plastic bags for the trash.

Create a brand. This is a very big one. Have a brand that people can relate to and talk about and everyone knows what it means. Inside jokes, some character that people can relate to (can be the "host" that manages the parties and shit), give your house/party place a name and create a Facebook group for it.

Create memories and rituals. Every eastern, you have your eastern brunch. Every Sunday, you have a barbecue. Stuff like that. It needs to be something that people are looking forward to. For the memories, organize some happenings (go out for a few days to the woods with them, go on a trip, etc).

House parties. It's your fucking job to plan everything. Keep in mind things are going to get messy, things are going to go wrong, people are going to get drunk and there will be fights - prepare yourself to deal with it. Make sure that the parties have a ratio of 2:1 (girls:guys), but invite more girls than that, they'll often not come and flake. Make sure that you have always new people coming in to your parties (like 25% or so). Have a simple theme and try to stick to the theme (for example, everyone needs to wear a hat). Have music playing, get a good DJ (if you can) that can feel what the crowd wants to hear instead of having a playlist. Have a bar keeper. Use the lighting to create the atmosphere (you can also have different rooms, like a dancing room, a smokers room, a chill out room, etc). Have plastic bags everywhere. Make people buy their own booze or specific drinks ("Who can bring vodka?"). Get one or two bouncers, you can't keep track of everything if it's a big party (50+ people). Have drinking games prepared and physical games like Twister. Always have a plan B in mind in case the cops come (if the plan B is going to a club, let the Uber guys know beforehand that maybe you'll need several of them for that night so they can be around, get everyone in an Uber and continue the party in the club). If you don't have money for all this stuff, invite people to the bars (it's a great place), if you have 60 people or something, you'll be a fucking champion and you'll get in there for free, so if you can't have these parties, find a good bar.

More chill parties. Dinners, barbecues, etc. It's for smaller groups, so the energy will be different. Don't take hard booze (unless you want to make fancier cocktails), stick to wine and fruit juice. You can get a fancy recipe that takes a lot of work, so you can split the work through everyone, and you all cook together, laugh together, sit together, low music, some wine, a lot of chat and socializing - this creates a really strong bond. This works best for inner/outer circle. You can easily split the costs with everybody, so it's nice. Have a thing to do after (watch a movie, play some games, smoke weed) but don't go to a big party after. It can be a videogame night. Don't invite a lot of girls, because it'll be a super competitive environment and a "boys night".

Talk with everyone. Talk with the bouncer and get him a Redbull, talk with the staff of the club, make friendships with everyone. I guarantee you they'll love you and give you free entrance, access to the bar, access to the VIP area, help you when you get in trouble. They're people too, connect to them and they'll give you back.

Never eat alone. You have to eat every day. Don't look at it as intake of calories, look at it as a social activity. Organize gatherings around it. Even if you're working, you'll have that time to socialize. Announce on groups (Facebook class group, work group, etc) that you’ll eat something at a certain place and tell them to join you.

 

ALCOHOL AND DRUGS

People drink and do drugs. I hope you don't, especially if you're the host or something, you need to be sober. Have your own drink here and there, it's fine, but don't make it an habit. When it comes to drugs though, keep in mind that most drugs are destructive. You don't want drugs on your inner circle, it'll ruin your social circle. Drugs correlate with suppliers, people with low self-esteem and bad energy in general. If someone on your external circle does coke that's fine, you can tell him your opinion on drugs but don't lecture him. However, the moment you cultivate it on your inner circle, your parties will be drug parties, and this is a place you don't want to be. You'll attract the kind of people you want to have on your toxic list.

 

IF YOU DON'T HAVE TIME

There's no time efficient way to be social. If it's inconvenient, go anyway, manage your time later. What you'll notice is that most of those times will be fucking amazing and you'll not regret having said "yes". One thing that can save you time is your organizer, it's very critical in this type of stuff.

 

SPECIAL RULES FOR PUAS

Don't discriminate people that have bad game. They're probably better than you at something else.

Don't AMOG the alphas. Don't have frame battles with them.

Don't give unsolicited advice. You start gaming, you start talking about it with them, they'll hate you for it. If you want to help, lead by example and when they see you pulling and ask you how you did it, don't start a fucking seminar, just give them a little tip and that's it.

Learn to enjoy boys nights. You don't need to be approaching girls, simply enjoy having a beer with them.

Pick up is creepy to most people. Don't be too open about it and don't use pick up terminology. Don't be apologetic if they say you watch some videos on YouTube, but don't talk about techniques trying to sound smart, they're going to be confused and find you weird.

Don't close too much in front of your social circle, like kiss closing and pulling. Especially in front of the girls, if they see you doing this every fucking time, it flips from being attractive to being weird, because they'll feel judged. If you close a girl and she's from the outer circle (like I said, you don't close girls from the inner circle), try not to close her in front of others, otherwise they'll slutshame her.

A gentleman doesn't talk about what he does. With your best buddies, you can share every fucking detail. When you're in a party around people you don't know very well, be careful with what you say.

Don't get lazy. Just because you're doing social circle game, you shouldn't stop doing cold approach and going out on your own. Remember, it's a skill, if you stop doing it you lose it. Combine both, don't use social circle as an excuse to not take action.

Don't you dare to lay your inner circle. Already said it before, I'm repeating it again. Don't do it, never. The first lady will die as a virgin from your point of view.

It's only funny when everybody laughs. Pick up guys often see too much Julien shit and start insulting people for "self-amusement". Your reputation matters. When you insult others, your status goes down. This is very critical. Once you insult a girl or make a bad joke about her insecurities, she's going to hate you forever.

Never switch into game mode. "I'm throwing this fucking party, is about to close, time to hunt!". Don't do that shit. It's also a matter of congruence. Game isn't a thing you turn on and off, it's always there. You don't switch into being you, you’re always you.

 

HOW TO START FROM SCRATCH

This is the part where I tell you exactly what you need to do to get a social circle, doesn’t matter at what stage you are.

You’re in a new city. Let's say you'll stay there for 5 months. First thing you do is get yourself an Airbnb for a couple of days, because you need to get a feeling for the city, the cool spots, the districts, the transportation, the logistics, etc. Don't rent an apartment for those 5 months, especially based on forums, they'll give you stuff outside the city. So get yourself an Airbnb, a time limit, some criteria and start walking around the city and talk to people, ask their opinions about the districts and the popular places. Then, if you like big clubs with loud music, get the location of those clubs (usually they're next to each other) to see where you'll be going out. If you can't live there for financial reasons, try to be there a lot. After knowing where the cool spots are, talk to people everywhere you go, every place you stay, bus stops, supermarkets are good (that's where your neighbors are going to be), whatever. After that (and this is critical), go to a club with a cold approach mentality, but don't close (yet). Talk to every fucking being in there, doesn't matter what gender is. If it breaths, you're going to talk to. Do that for like 4 days in a row, and make yourself the rule that you won't pull until you know everyone in that club. After those days, you should know everyone, start inviting them to some pre-party things, especially the regulars of that club (drinking games in your house and shit). Bring more and more people to that. Some people will fit in, some don't, start filtering. Be patient - this is a numbers game, if you don't like your current social circle, keep approaching, keep expanding your social circle, until you meet the people you resonate with and can build a real connection with. Even if you have been with the "wrong people" for months, don't worry if it's not clicking yet.

In college. Same thing, talk to everyone, don't close on the first interaction, keep hanging out, get a coffee, go to a bar next time... baby step it. Don't be afraid to invite yourself, especially if it's a public place. If you do it properly and you're a nice person, people will be fine with it ("We're going with a few friends to a bar" "Can I come with you guys?"). Keep connecting with people and after a while you can close. Don't close on campus (or don't let anyone know you closed).

On work. It's a very delicate topic. Remember, don't shit where you eat, don't try to pull your workmates. Your work is your only source of income, if you get the fame that you bang your colleagues, it's going to hit on your career. Since you do cold approach pick up (you should), you don't need to rely on girls that work on your department, go to the street and meet people there. Don't game at work, don't pull at work.

 

PERSONAL TIPS

Obviously, I didn’t came up with all of this. I added some stuff here and there, but I had to study and watch some stuff to know it, I’m not a fucking guru. However, I have some personal tips that are helpful in some situations.

When you pull a girl that was with her friends, after sex tell her to call her friends for you and your girl to have dinner or whatever with them. On the dinner, talk with everyone and take that opportunity to get her friends’ numbers so you can date them later.

Another tip is places where resistance to bring people together is very low. Those places are groups in college, concerts, clubs, volunteer centers, etc.

If you want to bring important people to a dinner, tell person A that person B is going to be there and tell person B that person A is going to be there. Both of them will go because of the other person presence.

When you’re in a place where no one knows each other, you’ll notice that they’re on their phone, bored, kind of lost, nobody wants to talk. Start chatting, even with people that you already know, you’ll be the center of the room. People will be thankful that you brought color in there. Also, if you have some task to do, immediately take over the group and lead, because people are confused and will appreciate if someone does the “dirty work” for them and often agree with your choices.

If you want to meet everyone “accidently”, stay at a place where everyone will pass, like the close to the entry door. Everyone is going to pass there, so they’ll bump into you. Go in with massive familiarity and it’ll be reciprocated.

 

That’s everything I know about social circle game. The post is quite long (tried to keep it short though), but I think you got plenty of useful information from it. I know there will be skeptical guys, so, likes always, test it before saying it doesn't work.

 

Have a good one.