I had a girl I went on a date with last week tell me she didn’t feel any romantic spark at all. I’m just wondering if this is something that can be created or not?

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DirkDieGurke · 2017-12-11T04:30:51+00:00

Accept that it is a numbers game. You can be attractive and have good game, but sometimes she just isn't into you and that's how it goes. You're not her 'type' and it's not your fault.

Wendel_az · 2017-12-11T05:19:32+00:00

Maybe. But It is not worth the effort, the best relations I had the girls were really into me, that made everything easier and fun

recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-11T07:08:17+00:00

she didn’t feel any romantic spark at all. I’m just wondering if this is something that can be created or not?

No, it can't be. There's a misconception that "seduction" is about making people feel anything.

Really, it's more like a team sport. Or a mutual discovery process where both people are exploring if they feel something.

I did a little kino there to see her reaction and decided to take it kinda slow based on her reactions and not being reciprocated. Was that a mistake on my part?

This is a natural thing to explore, but you're taking responsibility for things that aren't under your control. Seduction is basically about:

Socializing
Putting yourself out there in a confident way
Being in tune with the people around you so you can adapt as needed.
Taking actions when your social awareness brings an opportunity to your attention that you want to take.

But be aware that, this other person you're interacting with, is a different person with their own feelings, thoughts, and history that your actions can only affect to a degree. You certainly can't change them if they aren't feeling it.

All you can really do is put yourself out there and see if you are interested and then discover if they are too.

What you did was fine. You were adjusting what you did based on what she was doing. If she was down, she would have done something to encourage you to do more.

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