Needing advice | seduction

Bigballerway93 · 2017-12-11T00:13:32+00:00

I'm honestly not sure if this is going to help me or not but at this point, I don't know what else to do. I'm a 24 year old recent...

I'm honestly not sure if this is going to help me or not but at this point, I don't know what else to do. I'm a 24 year old recent college grad who lives at home with his parents while figuring out the next steps of life. While I am an attractive guy myself, I still have major struggles when it comes to dating. I've never been in a relationship and the only times I've had sex were when I was on the verge of black out drunk. Besides that, I've failed countless times with women. Whether it's asking a girl out or even trying to muster up the courage to kiss a girl, I just haven't been very successful. I'm at the point where I'm too anxious to ask a girl out anymore. Even in my college days, I failed with countless girls and as a result, my confidence has dropped tremendously. I can accept that a lot of my trouble starts with me but I honestly don't know how to fix this by myself. The only "advice" friends have given me is that I shouldn't be a bitch, which is probably the worst advice I've heard. I've thought of seeking a therapist but I shouldn't have to pay someone to listen to my problems. If anyone out there can relate to what I'm going through, I ask you to please help me

[–]Turkpowered 8 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

"Too anxious" is overall what I got out of this. Your friends basically said don't be a bitch and just talk to a girl. You don't agree with this advice. Before I give me real advice, I just want to say from experience I know that advice sounds terrible, but it worked for me. I nearly shat myself the first time I walked to a girl and said hi. We didn't end up going on a date or anything, but we talked all friendly for an hour. That gave me a huge confidence boost since I learned "worst case scenario I lose nothing".

Anyways, I recommend you just talk to random girls, BUT with 0 intentions of hitting on them. For example, you are at Starbucks and in line... You ordered coffee and waiting for them to make it. If there is a girl in front of you, say something like "hey what is that drink, I never had that before". Once she explains it, say "that sounds really good I'll try it sometime." Don't flirt. Don't ask for a number. Nothing. Just say thanks, have a nice day and leave.

I said this because it's much easier to talk to girls this way since it doesn't make you scared because you aren't fearing rejection. All you are doing is making a friendly conversation and leaving. This way you get way way way more comfortable approaching. It works.

I was at ABC store the other day. I was looking at an isle. This girl came next to me and picked up a drink I had never seen before. I think I said something like "hmm can you vouch for that drink?" And she said yeah it's great blaa blaa. We talked about drinks for a few minutes and I left.

I did that because I had my best friend next to me who has approach anxiety (I do too but not that much anymore) and wanted to show him how simple it is to talk to someone. It was completely unplanned. He ended up saying "hmm I'm definitely trying that".

So yeah do that kind of random chat and leave until you are more comfortable enough to step it up into flirting.

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Title	Needing advice
Author	Bigballerway93
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	December 11, 2017 12:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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