I hustle but don't get the results i want

2017-12-17T00:01:54+00:00

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2017-12-16T23:49:17+00:00

I recommend for you changing your focus to building your social circle and making friends. Forget about girls for a bit. Your neediness is seeping out and the fact you're trying hard and getting disappointed is probably a sign that you need a break to reflect on things, introspect but also build up some self esteem. Friends can be a great support for self esteem and once you feel better and have reflected on things you're doing well and things you can improve in, you'll be in better mental shape when you do start hustling again.

Also during your reflection process. Imagine being a girl. This is an empathy experiment. And sometimes in pickup I think guys who don't get results simply lack cognitive empathy. They don't know how they come off to girls. If they knew, then they wouldn't be confused about why their game isn't working. Really get into the experience of being a girl. Imagine you have been brought up by a dad and mum and you have nailpolish and wear girl clothes and have a pussy and tits and wear a bra that is a little uncomfortable, and you look in the mirror and see your pretty girl self. And then you go out on a date wih this fuckboy called sedditarian. Imagine the date in detail how he talks to you or treats you and after the date when you look at your phone what do you see? Why do you choose not to see him again?

dayrone150 · 2017-12-16T23:30:29+00:00

My motto is hustle till you make it bud. Just don't try too hard.

nycxjz · 2017-12-17T00:05:19+00:00

Sounds like your people filter is hurting you. Perhaps you can loosen this up a bit?

whomeverIwishtobe · 2017-12-18T05:34:58+00:00

I have advice. Commit 100% to changing this right now. That means eating clean. Exercising. Putting hard work into your appearance. Your sense of style. Your social life. Your hygiene. Work on you. You have to start shaping your life into something you are proud of and gain confidence through it. I know hard cases who have long term girlfriends. Anyone can find someone they are out there. I was a hard case. Now when I go out, I can easily close but last time I went out I tried for 50 blowouts. 50. Girl had to ignore me or blow me out completely, me chickening out didn’t count. I made it to 40 and I was groaning and whining and not wanting to do it. I have a girlfriend / fiancé at home. I don’t need to be dragging myself through the mud and I could be happy and comforable fucking at home. But I have a passion for this and desire that motivates me to keep trying. I have anxiety and major depression. But I FORCE myself to approach and use dating apps. GO ALL IN.

Edit: just so u know I got 7 numbers that night. 1 date, and could have F closed tonight but the chick has some issues and I’m not feeling it. Go for it man, put the work in do the hard part and the good will come.

Title	I hustle but don't get the results i want
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Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	December 16, 2017 10:19 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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