I have no problem approaching women, but I have no idea how to flirt or build sexual chemistry.

project_nl · 2017-12-19T10:40:59+00:00

I kinda have the opposite problem. I dont know to approach but I know how to get intimate with a girl.

My advice could be taken with a grain of salt because I only have been intimate with 2 girls (both 17y old aswel) so that means Im (19y) little inexperienced.

Flirting is actually having a normal conversation while showing that you are sexually interested in her. You do this by touching/eye contact/talking.

You should talk to her like she is your friend, so you have confidence in what you say. But also show that you want to have fun with her. You do this by teasing her about little things she says or does. Teasing is a very very effective way to show that you're playful and funny. Dont go overboard though, because you dont want to sound like an asshole.

Touching is my favorite part. I love cuddeling/hugging and rubbing her on her back. This is all heavy touching and you need first to be comfortable so you can feel confident doing it. Light touching during a conversation/activity has a really strong effect. Like for example, when you're both going to watch a movie, wrap your arm around her from the start. When you're both sitting on a couch, you can do the same thing or just have your warm hand on her leg (if youre more comfortable with each other you can have it on the inside of her leg and rub it lightly). Or when you talk, touch her naturally and occasionally.

Also from what I've learned on the internet and friends, is that you should feel confident doing the intimate things. I personally have no problem with hugging/cuddeling/touching/foreplay but I do feel unconfident and awkward when I kiss or have sex. So I try to keep it light when kissing and not trying to have sex as quick as possible but I do all the other things a lot because I feel confident in them. I know a lot of guys dont feel confident to hug and cuddle so you need to see what works out for you. It is also possible that you dont feel confident in any of these. If so, try to focus on one of these things at a time.

Like I said I personally dont have had a lot of girls in my life. Social anxiety in high school and after high school I just didnt have any contact with girls. I only Met 2 girls last 4 years. But both 2 became my girlfriends. From my own personaly experience I believe that if you read books/this subreddit/watch youtube that you will learn a lot. A friend of mine who is pretty good at seducing told me 'getting women to like you is plain and simple, its all science'

Title	I have no problem approaching women, but I have no idea how to flirt or build sexual chemistry.
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Date	December 18, 2017 12:30 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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