The girl I approached yesterday at a pub got scared of me.

Runbmc717 · 2018-01-01T18:06:51+00:00

In general, learning to deal with rejection is the most important part of gaining women's approval. If you actually are comfortable knowing she may be uninterested, you won't feel upset afterwards at all. It's a positive sign that after a bit you moved forward with your night, so good job on that.

Women can sense neediness from a mile away. It's tough to fake it. My guess is that based on you writing this up after one rejection, you walked up hoping she'd be interested and say yes, rather than assuming. You should assume that every person wants to get to know you, rather than hoping for that. Any girl who doesn't want to be around you isn't worth your time. Internalize that, and repeat it over and over until you believe it. You are approaching her to see if SHE IS WORTH YOUR TIME, not to prove to her that you're worth her time.

Look at every rejection/break-up/disinterested woman as a positive sign. Do you really want to coerce a woman into liking you? I certainly don't. There's a difference between moving a girl from neutral to interested in you and trying to convince a girl you're cool.

Another note, did you approach her from behind? If you startle her that way, there's almost no way to recover from that. Approaching from somewhere between 8 and 2 o clock is going to work out best (in other words, approaching her from an angle where she can at least see you coming).

pavan2304 · 2018-01-01T17:59:06+00:00

I remember one girl at the club pretending she doesn't hear me, looking at me all stupid. Some women are bat crazy. Let it go.

2018-01-01T22:39:49+00:00

If she got scared of you and you left her alone, that's her problem not yours. It ONLY becomes a problem if she tries to get you kicked out/ blocks you from approaching other girls. In the meantime, let her sit and sulk.

It's not your fault you thought she was attractive and approached her. You aren't responsible for her emotions, she is. Flick it off like water off a duck's ass. You're all good, friend!

xSilentKillx21 · 2018-01-01T17:25:10+00:00

More info on the situation.. how did you approach her. What did you say. What did you wear. Etc

kappapi514 · 2018-01-01T18:46:25+00:00

You don’t want anything to do with that... unless you approached like you were gonna end up stalking her, all it shows is that she is nuts. In today’s culture where flirting is considered by some to be sexual assault, she seems like the kind to file for a VPO for asking for a number. Dodged a bullet.

Title	The girl I approached yesterday at a pub got scared of me.
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Date	January 1, 2018 5:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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