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How to tell if she's just not into me or if she's into me but is too shy to express it?

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January 19, 2018

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Title	How to tell if she's just not into me or if she's into me but is too shy to express it?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	January 19, 2018 9:40 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7rh9ef/how_to_tell_if_shes_just_not_into_me_or_if_shes/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/how-to-tell-if-shes-just-not-into-me-or-if-shes.1440309 https://theredarchive.com/post/1440309

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

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[–]iHasABaseball 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

I can assure you that no one on this subreddit has the ability to read minds any more than you do, and we have even less information than you do about this girl and your interactions.

You find out by talking to her, then asking her out. If she says yes, she's probably interested. If she says no, she's probably not.

What do you hope to walk away with in this thread?

In any case, you're too worried about the outcome. Stop living in the future regarding this girl -- it's giving you anxiety. Why does it matter if she's into you? What if she's not? Is that okay?

Be present with her. If she initiates conversation, stop calculating your responses and simply talk with her. Be in that moment; keep your mind from wandering off into lala future land. Lala future land doesn't fucking exist anywhere except in your mind. This isn't about saying the "perfect thing" to get her interested in you. It's about being 100% present, being yourself and having fun, listening to her, latching onto meaningful things she expresses, getting her laughing or emotional in some positive way.

I know that's far, far easier said than done. Especially if you've experienced some of the things you listed in your post. But what I just wrote is what you have to consciously focus on doing and make a habit.

There is no greater strength in life than being present and not allowing your mind to go into fits of anxiety of what might or might not happen next week, next month, next year, etc. Dwelling on the past is regret; dwelling on the future is anxiety. Neither do anything positive for your life. Be present and know that no matter what the future holds, you'll be perfectly alright in that present moment -- if you decide to be.

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[–]Lambdal7 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link