how do i tell if she is ACTUALLY busy, or just doesn't have the guts to be honest?

RealMystique · 2018-01-24T07:46:41+00:00

Women often have a habit of dropping everything to meet up with a guy that they like. It's not good thing , but will generally work in your favor. In other words if you have asked her out on multiple occasions and she still can't seem to find the time, then you need to stop investing. She is most likely using you for comfort in some way, or she is keeping you as an option whilst she waits to see how other options turn out. I would cut contact and ignore her "sadness". If she actively tries to organize something with you then , fine. If not then you have your answer. Regardless you shouldn't be putting so much of your energy into a girl that's not investing.

mirage1e · 2018-01-24T05:19:45+00:00

Women will never be straight forward. No idea if it’s because they still want the attention or because they are nervous to hurt someone’s feelings... it’ll always be a mystery. But lazylazy99 is absolutely right. In my experience, women are beasts; no matter how much they have going on, if they want to see you they will MAKE time to see you or find a way. If she says no and doesn’t indicate an alternative day, move on right away and don’t waste your time.

TruthSFree · 2018-01-24T13:45:29+00:00

There was a time when all a guy had to do was declare his interest and then the girl did all the work to facilitate. Why? Because we had better things to do. Somewhere along the line this got reversed and it is a jacked up trend. Declare your interest, never call more than she does, never text more than she does. If she prefers fcuk boys to you, she wasn't worth it in the first place. Yea, I know, that is a recipe to be lonely, but it's also a recipe for self-esteem, which leads to more confidence (a non-needy attitude) which leads to higher quality girls.

2018-01-24T14:29:16+00:00

I’m going to echo some of the above comments. In my experience, if a girl cancels and doesn’t offer alternative plans, she’s not very interested. I never text her again. If she texts me, game on.

Most women want to avoid a confrontation. Hence, you get plausible reasons, but without her trying to reschedule. She hopes you get the message.

It’s better to move on because it’s rare to hear of a guy continuing to contact and it working out.

TheXXL · 2018-01-30T10:01:47+00:00

i honestly cant tell if she isn't interested or is genuinely busy with stuff

And what end result do you expect from knowing that? Would it somehow magically change the fact that she is not meeting you? You have two possible outcomes: She is genuinely busy = she won't meet you. She is pretending to be busy = she won't meet you.

And now tell me what the difference would be. See the problem there? I wonder why after all the time and the millions of threads here, people still don't get that it is absolutely stupid to not have any options! Seduction is not a magic pill that makes the one girl yours. It is a toolset to filter out the ones who are too much work/not interested/not fitting etc. and to actually seduce the ones who are a match. For this to work though, you actually have to have options.

Title	how do i tell if she is ACTUALLY busy, or just doesn't have the guts to be honest?
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Date	January 24, 2018 4:07 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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