Unlike most so-called experts and instructors I don't believe that one approach is better for you than the other in the sense that one is good for your mental, emotional, or social health and one isn't. I believe however that one approach can be better for certain scenarios over others.

That is not what I'm going to discuss today though. Instead we're going to be exploring the practicality of both approaches to one's life as a whole.

Lets look at time. Arguably one of the most valuable resources on earth. When viewed in isolation from other factors, generally direct is the faster approach. You confirm attraction from her side very quickly so you get to skip a few steps or at the very least you get a very clear picture of where her interest is at and work from there. Sure if you are very skilled you can also get that sense from an indirect approach but by its very nature, since you skirt around the issue instead of going straight to the point, indirect takes a lot longer.

On the surface, it seems that direct is the most time efficient approach but is it really? Here's the thing that occurred to me that inspired me to write this in the first place: if you only do cold approach and you only follow up with women individually then direct is the faster approach but if you use cold approach to feed a lifestyle then indirect is way faster in the long run and produces more closes. What does this mean? This means that if you create a social circle that lends itself to getting you girls you will get more girls faster using an indirect approach.

Make no mistake, in terms of ratio of opens to closes direct produces a lot less closes than indirect does. Some people will argue against that but they will be merely proving my point. Since only 'some' argue against that its very easy to see that they are the minority which means there may be anomalies but for most cases direct produces less closes than indirect does. The reason for this is because when you go direct your run the risk of opening girls that are not interested enough to want to continue the interaction after you've made your intentions known. It doesn't mean they are completely uninterested, they are just not interested enough to passively admit their interest by allowing the interaction to continue. But I digress.

You need to know that can't do this if you're not the leader of a social circle because the leader or other members may not have the same priorities you do. Now I'm not gonna get deep into social circle here but basically its all about being the guy that invites people to a regular get together. The reason this is important is twofold. First, since you're the one inviting, you have all the power and you can filter through people until you create the ideal social circle for yourself by simply choosing to stop inviting certain people and choosing to continue to invite others. Second, you don't really become friends with someone if you're not seeing that person regularly. Think about it, most people you're friends with either come from school, work, or an interest that brings many people together. You see each other repeatedly. I'm not saying you wont get along with someone you only meet once but it will be very hard for the two of you to just hang out for the heck of it without starting some sort of sexual relationship. This is why the only person you take to a restaurant or to see a movie after meeting them once is a sexual prospect.

Understanding how using indirect to feed a social circle gets you more girls faster is really quite simple. If you look at every girl individually, they still take longer to close but if you look at the frequency of a girl being ready to have sex with you, you will notice it will start to rise drastically. This is because after the approach you're no longer gaming one girl at a time, you now game every girl you've met simultaneously. For illustration purposes lets say it takes you two weeks to get an individual girl to want to have sex with you and lets say you meet one girl a day. By the time you reach the two week point with the first girl, you already have another girl lined up to have sex with on the next day, and the next day, and the next day. You basically end up creating a queue for yourself. And it gets even better. This is an unrealistic example because the reality is it might take shorter or longer for different girls and that is what is so awesome because that means there will be girls that will be ready for you at the same time which makes having threesomes and other types of group sex way easier.

The real time saver here is not in the approach, its the follow up. If you think about it, a date is very disruptive. You need to set aside a time in your day for only that and its usually not something you would be doing anyway even if you didn't have a girl with you. I used to have times in my life where I'd have a date every day of the week. I thought I looked kinda cool doing that but I also wished I could just have one date with all of them at the same time and maybe have my friends around or be doing something I like in case the girl is boring. Well if you're the leader of a social circle then you will be with the people whose company you enjoy the most, you'll be doing something that you definitely enjoy doing and you won't even need to deviate from your regular schedule to get girls to have sex with you.

Some of you might be confused as to how exactly this helps you get girls to want to have sex. Most likely you are pretty new to the game or have been getting really bad advice. You see the way you get a girl to want to have sex with you is not by buying her dinner or taking her out for romantic walks in the park. These are simply the mediums most people use to try to demonstrate the traits that women find attractive. So think about it, you have a social circle that you've filtered to only have your favorite people in it and the other girls that you are seducing. Already this shows that you are a leader, your friends give you social proof, and the girls give you pre-selection and create jealousy and a competitive environment amongst each other. Not only do you get laid more often but you also do less work to get it.

Some might also argue that you can do the same thing with direct. You can't. If you make multiple direct approaches and you gather all those women in one place the girls will start to dissipate as soon as they find out how each of you met. And if for some reason they decide to stick around, once you show a little favoritism towards one girl, where it would be a sign to compete had you gone indirect, it would be a sign that you're off the market having gone direct. Since you've already made your intentions clear they already know what happens when you pick a favorite and if they know that you and that girl will likely be having sex they sure as hell don't want sloppy seconds. So make sure when you go for the close you're still isolating and pulling smoothly. If you make out with everyone in front of everyone the whole thing will break apart in a hurry even if you went indirect initially. The only exception to this is if you already have a high enough social value. If a celebrity did this then there surely will be girls that will be ok with it. So you can do this but only if you're rich, famous, extremely good looking, or once you already have a substantial number of attractive women in your social circle. If you can fill a club with all the girls in your social circle then you can start to consider using direct.

In conclusion, the most time effective approach for everyday life by far is an indirect approach you use to feed a larger system that gets you girls. There are exceptions though, like seeing a girl you are extremely attracted to in a situation that is not conducive to an indirect approach or when you are in an environment where you don't have your social circle at your disposal like when traveling. For these situations, direct might be the more favorable approach.