Wondering if I did what was right. [M20, F25]

2018-02-20T08:40:10+00:00

We have all been there. I have. You love a girl and it ends and it hurts and its depressing as hell. Shes all you think about and you get sad over and over and over. My only comforting thing is I was in a broken state as I just described, it was the worst time of my life yet I am ok now. Time will fix your heartache my friend, and eventually meeting someone new.

123hamed · 2018-02-20T09:14:10+00:00

You did an incredibly brave thing by breaking contact with her. Thinking rationally is not what most people do when they are in love. She doesn't sound like she is after a serious relationship and that's ok. Some people don't really know what they want in life. These things come with time. You just need to make sure that your expectations are in line with her's. If they aren't then its better to move on to save disappointment down the line - which is exactly what you did. Be proud of it.

2018-02-20T08:25:24+00:00

Is it sad that this is the longest thing I read in a long time?

Anyways, I don't really know what to tell you since this is slightly different than your average breakup. It's been a year since me and my GF separated. Our situation was similar to yours. At first it was like FWB but then we both ended up wanting more.

I know it feels like shit. I don't know if she will turn around or not, but if she doesn't it really hurts. However, to be honest, you don't want this girl with the mentality she currently has. She is making sure you don't talk to anyone else but is talking or trying to talk to other guys on dating apps or whatever herself. If you force her to be in a relationship right now and find out she may be doing something else with another guy, then the pain you have right now will be nothing compared to what you will have. So maybe just give it time, but in the mean time don't wait for her. Go out there and look for the next gal.

I don't even know where I'm going with this. This needs to be spoken in person as it is too much to type. So I recommend you open up to your friends. It's what I did and it helped.

One big advice I'll give ya... If you two don't get back together and end up being 100% over, then move and and don't try to be "friends" with her. It doesn't work when the breakup is fresh. It makes your wound only bigger. Also get rid of all pics and texts and snaps and whatever you have of her. Taking a look at these prevents the healing from starting. I learned that the hard way and didn't heal at all for 2 months. After I got rid of everything I started to heal much faster.

Good luck bro. Let me know if I can help any other way.

Memphis_Blues_Again · 2018-02-20T15:09:04+00:00

You did alright. Very mature, too - especially when you consider she's older than you and acts immature.

Don't worry, you will find someone else. Don't bother with this girl any more. It's just pointless to build a house on such a shaky foundation. If you think about her a lot and the loneliness creeps up, understand it's just the habit and biology that's making you feel blue.

As you can see, you are probably capable of making a girl feel good - so find someone who will appreciate it more. Move on and good luck!

Title	Wondering if I did what was right. [M20, F25]
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Upvotes	8
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Date	February 20, 2018 5:46 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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