I don't know how to meet and attract women.

theozoph · 2014-12-06T02:58:01+00:00

Basic advice is to head over to our parent sub, read the sidebar material, and start applying the advice we give there : improve your sexual market value (your attractive traits) by exercising, learning and practicing Game, and working on your own goals. Go into monk mode for a few months, and learn to flirt without expecting results, for the fun of it. Kill your ego and learn to accept failure as a learning experience, as it will take time to let go of your bad habits.

As to your height situation, you can mitigate it by becoming ripped (lifting is the fastest way to get there, so get your ass to the gym and follow a starting strength program like StrongLifts 5x5), and learning a martial art to improve your physical confidence. You don't have to be tall if you can project an image of physical power.

All this will take time, but you're young, you've just discovered the Red Pill, and you have all your life ahead of you to make the most of it.

Start cracking.

OddiseeNujabe · 2014-12-06T00:33:50+00:00

Don't make girls your goal. Your goals may be, from what I'm gathering, good grades, getting in great shape, and learning a new instrument. Have some sort of shareable passion. Don't worry about the past. If you're away from home perfect. Work on you and making homies. Women are attracted to men who dont need em. Be attractive by feeling awesome about yourself.

thatusernameisa · 2014-12-07T05:46:24+00:00

I don't party

There's you first problem. Just go to college bars or public parties. You don't have to drink or do drugs.

You need exposure.

so I have weird blocks of time off

So cruise the cafeterias.

I am learning guitar a little bit

Learn all of the songs girls like.

I have no idea how to go about approaching women

Simple, you don't. Getting a good physique will get them looking at you.

Ignoring women, acting dismissive and bored, and treating them like trash gets them hotter than anything.

Get some friends, and have a good time. Ignore the women around you. Laugh loud, smile a lot, and act brutish. They'll come over and try to be the center of attention. Deny it. Make them work to get anything from you, but never deliver.

Keep that beard at a stubble. Shave every few days.

Women are watching you. You just don't know it. Look for flipping of hair, batting of eyes, and obnoxious laughing at the worst of your jokes. They'll suggest you get more private, go and take them.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-12-06T03:22:38+00:00

If you're that smart, then you're 3/4 of the way there.

Shit's a puzzle, yo. Put it together.

Misteralcala · 2014-12-06T03:38:23+00:00

Do what I did. I decided that I would have fun with the whole approach endeavor. I was about where you are in age, I had a job and a car and that seemed to be enough for the success of other guys that had one thing that I lacked - confidence. So I decided I was tired of hanging back in the shadows and freezing up and blowing my chances like I had been up until then. I set it up like a game.

Instead of trying to hookup in my little shit hole town, I went to the big city 25 miles away to practice my game. Realization hit me that these girls had no idea who I was. I could be as silly, charismatic, dickish or cocky as I wanted, and they would probably never see me again unless (by some miracle) I got a number and closed. Realizing I was an anonymous stranger that would soon be forgotten freed me from the crushing consequences of failure. I was able to instead focus on the successes. I was playing against myself to try to beat my own high score. Every approach was a victory, and every failure was a learning experience that made me stronger the next time I went out.

I would get dressed up, hit the ATM, go out to the bars and clubs and just approach women. I figured out what worked for me and what didn't. Just being myself and not nervous was enough to get me a few numbers - none of which panned out at first because I had a lot to learn. The thrill of getting an 8 or 9's number was unlike anything I had known. Before I knew it I came out of my shell. I was talking to women in grocery lines and gas stations and my rapport got me talking where before I would try to be invisible. It gave me the courage to push on and be more forward and sexual. Pretty soon I was grinding and kissing on girls in the bars and clubs, and before I knew it, I had a few more notches on my bed post. Things progressed and before long I was the ladies man I always wanted to be. You never lose that touch - I'm a lot older and married, and I can still turn it on if I want to. Good luck - if I could do it, so can you.

oldredder · 2014-12-06T11:11:08+00:00

I don't know how I should go about meeting women, I don't party.

Problem solved. It's the parties that lead to the lays.

Title	I don't know how to meet and attract women.
Author	thatusernameisa
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	December 6, 2014 12:15 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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