Escalating while making out

dhutchins78641 · 2018-03-17T01:01:04+00:00

Anecdote: Went to girls house after some dates. We made out on couch, then moved to bed. I took off my shirt cuz I'm half decent looking, feels good, and it's my choice. Kisses for a few more minutes then I asked if she wanted to take hers off too. She said something along the lines of no, I don't feel comfortable doing that right now. I respond with "that's fine, I'm having plenty of fun doing just this." We got tired and I returned home. Next time we hang out, same thing. Went to her place, made out I take my shirt off. But this time she takes hers off and we have sex. My advice: escalate one step at a time beginning with yourself. Maybe she'd grab your ass than be grabbed or suck your dick instead of being eaten out. If she shows resistance, then back off. Don't make a big deal out of it. If you actually like her, the time you spend together is more important and she'll open up sexually eventually (some are just slower than others). If you're mostly in it for sex, and she doesn't reciprocate your escalation, then move on to the next one.

TL;DR Some girls take longer to feel comfortable with you/themselves sexually. Escalate, but don't force the issue or make a big deal if she refuses. If you care about her, be patient. If you care more for the sex, move on.

anonanonetc · 2018-03-16T19:03:39+00:00

I think I haven’t slept with ONE girl I made out with, and that was because I was drunk and making out with a random girl on the street (which was stupid). Get her alone and close.

SJ_Shark_Byte · 2018-03-16T22:06:42+00:00

Have you isolated her? Have been touching her all over? Did you try lifting her shirt or putting your hand on her pussy? You gotta make the next move up man. Gotta get to a point where clothes start peelin off

HazyHung · 2018-03-16T23:25:54+00:00

Don't listen to those guys lol. Especially if she is shy and getting comfy. If she is physically noticeably shy, how do you think she feels in her head? Probably way worse than most of these guys on this sub. Just get her alone like you normally would and talk with her about it. Like ask her "I don't want to make you uncomfortable or feel rushed, but what are your opinion on going further than making out?" Make sure she understands that you will respect her choice of waiting longer or not. Don't be put off if it takes longer either, the chase will be well worth it.

Title	Escalating while making out
Author	Lexbahnic
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	March 16, 2018 6:58 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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