Sup, Seddit? Today we’re going to talk about the mindset of approaching that’s been very helpful to me. (To preface this, I want to say that I am not some seduction/pick-up guru. I’m just like you guys, and am taking steps to become better. Everything I post I’m also actively working on.)

To start, read this phrase out loud to yourself: Approach from a place of joy. Repeat it over and over.

That phrase is directly from Neil Strauss a.k.a. Style, the greatest (former) pick-up artist in the world. What it means is for you to be happy, and to spread that happiness to people around you.

What we have to stop doing is approaching with the intention of sexual conquest. Because when you don't get laid from the approach, you see it as a failure and get discouraged.

Also: that mindset isn’t healthy because you start to view women as objects solely for your pleasure, and NOT people.

Flip your intentions to start wanting to make someones day better. To want to get to know them. To possibly make a new friend.

I’ve been working on this for about the past two months or so, and it’s had a tremendous effect on my social life. I’m not afraid to go out solo anymore because I have the confidence to talk to anyone. And when I do go out I ALWAYS have a good time. You never know where a simple “hello” could lead you, so lets start finding out.

Here’s a simple exercise to start internalizing this behavior: With a smile and eye contact, say hello to almost everyone you pass by or are in close proximity to. Both men and women. If they say hello back, ask them how their day is going!

That’s it. Nothing more. The conversation can end right there, because we’re taking baby steps. No wild expectations.

Once you start doing this regularly, you will feel yourself becoming more outgoing, energetic, and happier— traits of the attractive person we all want to be, and that other people want to be around.

Now there will be people who just don’t want to be bothered and might not respond. And that’s ok. We’re all human and have bad days. Don’t take it personal, and don’t take it as a loss. Move on.

Recap:

Say hello to almost everyone you see or are in close proximity to. Be sure to smile and make eye contact!

Mission: Say hello and/or how are you/how’s your day going to FIVE people everyday, both men and women. If you want to take it a step further, ask them their name and make small talk.

Remember, we’re not trying to have sex with, game, or seduce anyone. We’re trying to open up a bit more and make new friends along the way. I guarantee you, this WILL make you more attractive. Other people will notice it, and you’ll start to feel it yourself.

Let me know how it goes for you guys! Talk soon.