Sup guys. Went out tonight a little later than usual since I fell asleep around 10pm, but I headed out to the local bar scenes around 12:30-12:45am. I went to a poppin' bar and happened to see some local guys who were chatting up the ladies. I talked to random people here and there, as well as well some girls but nothing stuck. Moved to another bar with a wing, and there I had a good interaction with a girl who just moved into town. I was asking her to chill since the bars were about to close in the next thirty minutes or so but she responded that she was down but she responded "Can I bring a friend?" And then she went to ask her friends. She basically disappeared with them so I caught up with her and number closed her and she said that she might be down to do something. I could have stayed with her but we ended up going to another bar. At this bar, a girl to my right was by herself and I ended up talking with her. I asked her about why she was by herself and it turns out her friend is dancing with a guy on the dance floor. She turns out to be a nerdy girl who is a bit of a tomboy without any perfume, but I liked her energy so I stuck around. We talked video games, movies, and my culture (I'm Chinese), and did some light escalation. I tried to go for the kiss a bit too early, so she just did a lip kiss but it wasn't a full-on make out. After the bars closed, she found her friend and we stepped out for a bit. My wing Eddy ended up seeing me and he entertained her friend and the guy they were with. Some ghetto characters tried to cockblock, and I just stood there and let them run their game and it didn't go anywhere with them, as expected. Before long their Uber arrived and they went disappeared off to a hookah lounge.

At this point I could have just called it a night and took an Uber to my car and drove home. What I did was instead I walked all the way from the last bar to the hookah lounge, which was only a 4 minute walk from my car. I got her Snapchat before they went in the Uber, so I was able to end up going to where she went. I noticed her friend getting it on with her guy and she was there on her phone by herself. I ended up sitting down next to her and reinitiating our conversation from earlier. The vibe was light and playful, but hardly sexual. I tried a lot of different types of physicality, like touching her arm, writing a Chinese character on her arm, trying to get her pulse, and putting my arm around her, but it never felt truly on. I did end up getting her legs on mine and having my hands on her legs and her hands on mine. At one point she felt my boner, and I pointed it out and she cracked up. I tried to kiss her a few times, but after the first kiss it was unconfident and botched. I noticed her friend making out while I was still doing a lot of talking, so I realized that I needed to slow down and be more sensual. After the first failed kiss and moments of silence, I feel like her energy turned from excited to one of coldness. I could tell she wasn't feeling it and I had to slowly raise her energy a bit to do so but there wasn't enough time because they called a Lyft back to their hotel and the guy was coming with them. Looking back, I should have got in the cab with them or asked where her hotel was so I can go back with them -- big mistake on my part. It seemed like her friend was like "He's <the guy she was with> coming with us, but he's just gonna cuddle :)" and saying stuff like "I thought you guys were going outside." So her friend seemed to have wanted to isolate herself. Overall I feel like I was pushing a lot for her to come back to my place, with talk of 420 suckers, light-up frisbee, Mario Kart, etc. when it probably made a lot more sense to pull to their place. Sometimes you have to take a step back and think logistically and logically. She has since blocked me on SC but it was a good try on my part. I'll list my pros and cons.

+: - Persisted despite objections - Pulled to a location other than where she was - Had a nice, long instant date with her - Attempted escalate despite a lot of failures - Built a lot of comfort and rapport - Calling out some of her awkwardness, like when she had her pursue and arms crossed at the hookah bar (I instead told her to put her purse on the table)

-: - not escalating fast enough and trying enough (looking up Vin DiCarlo's Escalation Ladder now and this is helping) - not leading her enough - not taking a step back and looking at logistics (they're from out of town and have to check out tomorrow morning) - not building enough attraction, seduction - talking too fast/much when there was time to be slow and sensual - positioning her in the chair so that there could be more eye contact and intimacy - running out of things to say, sometimes I didn't embrace the silences and just filled it with random shit like her hobbies/interests

Overall, despite not getting laid, I'm proud of myself for persisting and despite my failures they taught me more of what I should not and what I should do more of. Any suggestions/tips would be very much appreciated!