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[–]WIA20XX 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Not seduction, you're in the friend zone.
Cut off all contact. Bang at least ten other chicks. Re-open the lines of communication.
She's now dealing with the new you, same face, different person. The only way to change her behavior is to change yours on a deep level.
[–]Tribetter -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Bang 10 chicks? Oh sure thing!
[–]WIA20XX 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This ain't a relationship board, try r/dating or r/relationship for that.
You think I'm kidding, but the process will fix your issues. You have to be a different guy. Your sub-communications and body language are off/don't meet her expectations.
You gotta change yourself. This chick is wake-up call.
A chick doesn't go out with a guy expecting him to be lame. She thinks he's cute, and wants him to act like some imaginary guy in her head.
But then you go out, fail to meet this arbitrary standard, and all that cuteness that got you into the first few dates is gone. She doesn't feel like she thinks that she should feel.
Ten chicks later you will have changed your behavior and expectations. You will have boundaries, and you may have expectations of your own from her.
Most guys in your position basically try to reason with the girl, or promise to do whatever. As if those things ever worked.
They come to seduction boards looking for the perfect line, thinking that one good word will change the tide.
Or friend zone themselves. Why sit there and watch her get fucked by other guys? Have her texting you her problems, helping her move a grand piano and not getting anything by gratitude.
Time to grow. Time to get your balls back.
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Once an impression has been formed it's difficult to change it. It would be healthier to learn your lesson and move on
She said you didn't make any moves, not that you didn't touch her hands a couple times and didn't smirk enough. If you want to turn her on, make bold moves
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[–]tab13092 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Tbh, I just recently (like a bit over a year ago) got back in to dating after being in a really LTR so I was more or less starting from ground zero and ran in to this a few times.
Best bet, cut your loses and learn from it dude. You'll chase and chase and wonder/worry about something that's out of your control. You made an attempt, and it didn't pan out. Just take this as a wake up call that you've gotta get the ball rolling in your end of the court so next time it's not because you didn't make a move.
First chick I started actually seeing pretty regularly all went well, and after a few dates (both lived busy lives, so generally we only had time to go out like once a week) things went smooth as could be. Then, we had sex and I absolutely blew it. It's the first time I'd had sex with anyone in like 6+ months and having been in a really LTR I have honestly not had a boat load of sexual partners. Those stacked up against me, and though I have been much better with women, I ended up just being nervous rather then enjoying the moment.
Needless to say, we went separate ways not a week later. Initially kinda bummed me out, but I took it as a good learning experience rather then just being down on myself. One of the hotter chicks I've dated/slept with tbh, so I figured "Hell, if I did it once I can easily do it again"
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Hey, tab13092, just a quick heads-up: seperate is actually spelled separate. You can remember it by -par- in the middle. Have a nice day!
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