I've been listening to the Audiobook for the art of seduction, I've gone through it 3 times in 3 months and I feel like for the most part I'm getting it, but then there are moments when the book reads something to the the like 'go for what you want, but give them everything they want, so that you can play the big picture game while distracting them with little picture stuff.' which I'm starting to feel like this is what it's all about, bringing opposites together to create the perfect storm.

So as I understand it, you need to push and pull, give them enough in the short run so that you get what you want in the long run, which is the real, bigger picture, game.

The bigger picture is usually a hook up, whether it's a one night stand, or a fwb; or something to the extent of I get something really great once, or I'll get something really good over and over again. So in terms of marriage, this is covered. I get a really good wife over and over again who is an amazing cook, beautiful, sexy, Etc. So with this, I understand why some men believe seduction is over once they are married. I don't believe it's over, but I believe that the game has been won. Man manages to convince woman that he has enough (resources, supplies, money/food/shelter/water) to support her and their kids, and she stays to cook, clean, and fuck. So now we need a new game.

Personally, I feel like my new goal is anal. My wife seems opposed, but has awkwardly brought it up more than a handful of times since our first failed attempt. The failure was because neither of us were prepared, she was (unbeknownst to me) highly opposed to anal in the first place. Though, as previously mentioned, she sounds like she is coming around to it. This goal has to have a reward for her though, and I feel like that's what the art of seduction is getting at, so let's go back to the original statement that was made.

There is a Big Picture that contains the Playing Field for her to earn the Rewards that will give me What I Want.

Big picture: Anal Playing Field: Sexuality Reward: Attention/affection What I Want: Sex

Do I have this right at all or am I just shooting in the dark here? I'm not understanding this well, so please feel free to reword and explain things again that I might have misunderstood. Am I even a little right? Lol let me know. Thanks!