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[–]SnapSocialGuru 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When I moved to San Francisco three years ago, I knew nobody.
On top of that, I was in a psychotic relationship I had just broken off, so I was also an emotional garbage can.
Today, things are much different, and I have a healthy amount of social circles.
Here are a few things I did (which I've been sharing with others on Reddit, as well):
"Snapchat closed" everyone and anyone I met, even if briefly.
Said “yes” to every social situation, no matter how small or lame. (I’d say this is most important)
Lightly invited myself to people’s events. “Oh, sounds fun! If you need a friend to go with, hit me up, bro.”
Created Snapchat stories so I could stay “top of mind” for people I was meeting. (I’d say this is second most important)
Hopped on Tinder and befriended anyone before trying to close them. If things didn’t work out, I still wanted to be friends. Meeting new people was more important than sex at this point.
Branched out by getting introduced to friends of friends. I started off with coworkers then branched out from there.
Drastically lowered my “standard” for new friendships. If you're funny = you’re now my friend. That easy.
Said “yes” to EVERY social situation. Yes, I’m repeating this one because it’s that important.
Took up a social hobby. No new friends from this but it was nice to meet new people with shared interest. I did Toastmasters, improv, and wine tasting classes.
Seriously seriously seriously leveraged social media to make it easy for old friends to stay in touch with me. I found that if people forget about you = your social life is done. I managed to rekindle old friendships and stay in touch with new people. Got invited to awesome weekend getaways in Lake Tahoe this way.
Tl:dr: leverage social media, say yes to everything, and make friends out of anyone (old tinder hookups, coworkers, nerdy engineer at work).
Hope this helps!
[–]le_wraith 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If it's San Francisco just forget about it. 10 dudes to every girl in bars and clubs. Move to NYC.
[–]SnapSocialGuru -2 points-1 points0 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love this. I hope this myth continues. It makes it less likely that consumerists will never come here. More for me and my boys who are constantly meeting tons of new (and interesting) people.
[–]johnmo007 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's simple freedom from outcome, just realise that we are all in this matrix called social conditioning and that ,what girls think about you don't matter the girls will sense that vibe which will draw them in
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