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You should read the book, Most Connected Guy in Town. It's free and dedicated specifically towards Instagram/Snapchat success. Link: https://gumroad.com/snapsocialguru#UjsVF
/r/seduction19/01/21 01:03 AM
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Send me the rest of the convo. I'll give you some feedback
/r/seduction18/01/21 09:03 AM
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"They say they just want to be friends" = they don't find you attractive. If this is a consistent theme, then yeah, you actually do have some changing to do. Also, if you're consistently blocking chicks because they don't find you sexually appealing, then that too subcommunicates a lot. You've got to relax and take it all as a joke. Have more fun with it. You say you aren't taking it personal but you're tone says otherwise
/r/seduction18/01/21 08:20 AM
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Do you have the most awesome ebook, Most Interesting Man in the Room?
/r/seduction18/01/21 12:43 AM
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Send me your profile and text convos and I'm happy to judge / give you pointers. I'm 28 and had to hop back on online dating this year (typically against it). After two weeks I got the hang of it, started getting great matches, and got a date. Honestly you should also focus on being a winner in your personal life. Your self esteem is taking a huge hit
/r/seduction18/01/21 12:42 AM
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Is that the same as methylated?
/r/seduction17/01/21 10:05 PM
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Yessir anytime.
/r/seduction17/01/21 07:35 PM
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Yes if you're smooth. Wouldn't lead with it though unless the woman I'm speaking with also talks that language. I'd say lead with your confidence and then bust out the other languages if it'd help with your cause. Think of it like spice. You're the main dish but the languages thing is the spice. People love you for you, not the spice.
/r/seduction17/01/21 07:31 PM
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Seduction and attraction really only works for people who are in the market. This woman isn't in the market. "Pleasure to meet you" and move on.
/r/seduction17/01/21 07:29 PM
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I won't try to fuck you bro
/r/seduction17/01/21 11:55 AM
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Do you want to know the biggest peacock trick that's going to get a lot of compliments and attention? Lifting bro. Go get in shape
/r/seduction17/01/21 11:01 AM
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Send me your dating profile in a DM. I'll give you an audit. Prob has to do with a combination of how you message these chicks + your profile setup. It shouldn't be sloppy easy. But it shouldn't be mission impossible either.
/r/seduction17/01/21 10:42 AM
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You better not have mine you fucking pirate.
/r/seduction16/01/21 06:32 PM
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Send me your profile and a couple of matches you've gotten (but that didn't lead anywhere). I'll give you a couple pointers. Like yourself, I prefer RL dating too but then got on the apps and realized it's a whole diff ballgame. Learned lots.
/r/seduction15/01/21 11:26 PM
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My ex was like that. Had a job she really enjoyed, hobbies (huge into rock climbing and cycling), etc. Overall it was a breath of fresh air to date someone who had great things going on in her life.
/r/seduction28/12/20 07:16 AM
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Yes. Here are some of the things I look out for: - Her relationships (or lack of them) - How healthy her relationships are with others - Not popularity (quantity), but quality of relationships All of those are green flags to me and that make me stick around. I’ve dated beautiful women with absolutely atrocious relationships with other women, for example. Or they have trouble building rapport or connecting with my friends. Etc. I don’t need the most popular woman in the room. But I certainly am n…
/r/seduction28/12/20 06:25 AM
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Two of my best friends are Indian and did extremely well. Both have strong accents. Average height. Average looks (they stay in shape, but not really). Both balding in their late 20s. Both really cool guys. Super chill, easy to get along with, and put a lot of effort into learning social dynamics and dating. Now they’re pretty much naturals. Curious to hear how long you’ve put the work in for, and also, I’m curious how much emphasis you put on your appearances. Seems like you think women care ab…
/r/seduction18/12/20 12:46 AM
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Really good. DM me if you ever have a convo. You get it and you hit on a lot of great nuances. Cheers. If you ever want to do a self-post on /r/matureseduction, i'd welcome it. Sounds like youre very level headed in how you see dating and seduction
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:04 PM
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Most Connected Guy in Town Previously written as a set of articles called “Snapchat Guide to Game”, which a couple members of this subreddit will remember from back in the day.
/r/seduction15/12/20 01:17 AM
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What are some examples of them doing whatever they want and you brushing it off? Or what’s giving you the feeling that you’re being used?
/r/seduction13/12/20 07:29 PM
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Glad to here! Yeah I knew it’d help a couple ladies out. Just switch a couple of the pronouns and youre set to go
/r/seduction09/12/20 03:55 PM
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100% agree with this.
/r/seduction09/12/20 05:23 AM
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I suggest my buddy, Manny. He has a profile on Twitter called @wellbuiltstyle. He helped me tremendously
/r/seduction09/12/20 05:23 AM
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You’re good, appreciate the comment
/r/seduction09/12/20 05:06 AM
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I don't want to keep someone who will easily fall for my lies. I want them to hold the same boundaries I hold for myself and meet equally confident people who value their self-worth. You can have a great sex life without giving up ethics, but I see your point as to why a cheater might have more sex.
/r/seduction08/12/20 08:16 PM
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Exactly
/r/seduction08/12/20 03:28 PM
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My pleasure, thank you for reading
/r/seduction08/12/20 07:25 AM
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Thank you, I much appreciate that
/r/seduction08/12/20 07:25 AM
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I’m curious to hear an example you have in mind as to how those can harm you. I’m open to criticism and disagreement. Cheers
/r/seduction08/12/20 07:24 AM
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Thanks brotha, much appreciate it. Took me about 11 years to develop (got a head start on PUA stuff at age 16), but hey we got here lol.
/r/seduction08/12/20 05:29 AM
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Thanks brotha. Was worried people wouldn’t like it
/r/seduction08/12/20 05:25 AM
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Damn I just got told to brush my teeth on /r/seduction
/r/seduction05/12/20 08:24 PM
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This subreddit is a combo of horny 17 year olds who want chicks to text them right away versus 28 year old men who have gotten past the “fucking” phase and want to use game as a way to meet someone special and wholesome. Both styles of game require absolute different approaches and until Reddit’s seduction community (yes, I say Reddit because there are many other corners of the internet that don’t face this specific problem) learns those differences, it’ll continue to fuck itself up. This subred…
/r/seduction25/11/20 03:41 AM
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waduuup!
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:31 PM
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share more
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:27 PM
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what worked for you? regarding your Twitter douche comment; you gotta find what works for you. don't bash or be quick to label; gotta give everyone room to explore different avenues. Some strategies could be highly effective and congruent for you; others not so much. Find your style without hating on others
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:23 PM
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Never early enough to start scheming the next move. Stay safe
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:22 PM
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Stay safe, wear a mask.
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:21 PM
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Tons, DM me
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:21 PM
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You do sound confused...
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:21 PM
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you bet! anytime
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:21 PM
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woop!
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:20 PM
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Take pandemic into consideration. it WILL make things more difficult, go easy on yourself and be patient, but also persistent. and yes, by all means, be considerate of others and their space. It's a tough time for a lot of people.
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:20 PM
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Solid suggestions, I approve!! Find and do something that aligns with your personality
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:19 PM
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Good question. I'd say when I started my journey five years ago, I was more on the introverted spectrum. Rule #1 helped me bypass that gradually. Something not posted in the image was what I said about quality > quantity in friends. You don't need a LARGE circle to thrive.
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:18 PM
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I am by no means the expert on this, but when I first moved to SF I had to make my own rules. I think the only guy talking about this back then was RSD Luke, but his stuff was too gamey for my style and overly-focused on hitting clubs every night (not doable for most people). Let me know if you guys have any questions about this stuff, happy to elaborate. Couldn’t squeeze it all in one post. Long story short I moved to SF five years ago after college not knowing anyone. Now I’ve got a great, tig…
/r/seduction20/11/20 12:40 AM
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Quick bullet points: Being playfully challenging + confident = chemistry and attraction. It’s a repeatable formula that is hard to screw up. A lot of guys are afraid of being challenging and cannot handle tension. Unfortunately, this leads to boring dates that lead nowhere. If you can successfully create tension, while also being cordial and respectful, she will find you as “interesting”. My favorite example of this is the movie, Ocean 11, with George Clooney and Julia Roberts at the restaurant …
/r/seduction09/11/20 01:32 AM
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Disagree -- not a numbers game. Not entirely. Of course everyone needs access and thats rule #1. But to say it's purely a numbers game is a horrendous and impersonal dating strategy.
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:20 PM
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What?
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:19 PM
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Fuck it, I’m going to say it since no one else will. Day game, and other spam approach methods, are a myth. They’re a scam. It’s a highly ineffective method of building relationships and unnatural talking to human beings. Day game, and other methods of spam approaching, are almost always an absolute waste of time that don’t produce any results. It was something marketed and packaged by the oldschool PUA industry to sell courses and coaching. But it doesn’t work. You shouldn’t hate yourself for i…
/r/seduction05/11/20 03:25 PM
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I read this book a couple of years ago and found it to be very much focused on the anatomy of a woman's body, as opposed to focusing on mindset, psychology, and best practices. Are there any chapters in the book that you recommend most? Thanks.
/r/seduction03/11/20 09:15 PM
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Other quick bullet points: I disagree with the PUA sentiment that “texting is only for logistics”. There’s A LOT of value that can be built over text that can help further establish attraction, value, and familiarity. ESPECIALLY in dating apps, there’s a lot of “noise”. Women have hundreds of options. But if you know how to present yourself well, you can differentiate yourself from all the options out there. One of the best ways to improve your texting is by only texting when you’re in a positiv…
/r/seduction31/10/20 08:55 PM
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Anything as simple as “how are you?” Would work.
/r/seduction12/10/20 04:19 PM
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Thanks. I haven’t started one but i will consider it!
/r/seduction12/10/20 04:17 PM
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Be mindful. It’s a strange time to meet people. Be the first to admit before they do.
/r/seduction12/10/20 04:21 AM
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Lack of social intelligence
/r/seduction10/10/20 03:29 AM
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Part 2 is prob coming out by Sunday. Will be recording tomorrow, but have a new mic coming on the way due to audio issues (and me being an idiot recording in a noisy room, lol).
/r/seduction07/10/20 08:18 AM
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Rule #1 be attractive everyone knows that
/r/seduction01/10/20 02:03 AM
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be attractive
/r/seduction30/09/20 05:05 PM
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Yeah I actually agree tbh. Kinda like coming at peace with it and learning how to work with it as opposed to pretending it isn’t there. 100% seems like the more healthy option. Couple friends and I intend on joining kickboxing after the pandemic is over
/r/seduction30/09/20 01:50 PM
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Good explanation
/r/seduction30/09/20 01:35 PM
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Ya, I don’t disagree that’s important
/r/seduction30/09/20 03:21 AM
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Confident and assertive characteristics: - socially intelligent - empathetic - unapologetic It has to be the perfect balance. Aggressive: - socially unintelligent - ignoring the social cues - talking at you, not to you Very big differences. The key thing to note is that yes, you can be direct and assertive without necessarily being an asshole or without alienating anyone. It is a hard communication style to master but that’s why guys who’ve mastered it are perceived as more alluring and attracti…
/r/seduction30/09/20 02:31 AM
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Good tinder bios spread like wildfire... with that said, I have a really good one. $10 USD dm me
/r/seduction29/09/20 11:06 PM
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David DeAngelo is the guy who coined the term and taught it to thousands of guys. I’d start there
/r/seduction29/09/20 07:52 PM
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Cocky comedy
/r/seduction29/09/20 06:57 PM
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Adapt to your environment and culture, dont fight the current you won’t win
/r/seduction29/09/20 03:02 AM
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What region? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/j1es60/the_three_ways_to_meet_women_a_social_circle_cold/g70t0mp/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:43 AM
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“Hey how ya doin?!” “I’m great, you?” ——> “Oh man. I had an insane weekend. My brother showed up Saturday night out of nowhere and asked that we hit the city. I was in bed wrapped up...” Team meeting: “ok... does anyone have any thoughts on this new project... anyone? No one?” Me: “actually... I’m a bit hesitant. Here’s why... blah blah blah.” Anything and everything that I would typically filter or keep to myself due to some lame fear, I’d practice expressing. Repeatedly did this every day unti…
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:36 AM
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So some of the steps I started off with was just basic courtesies: saying hello strangers in an elevator, smiling and saying good morning to people I passed in the hallway. This helped me “loosen” up. Also, I’d have times I’d go out to a bar or club simply to observe. I witnessed naturals who were really good at just talking to strangers. This helped me normalize cold approach. Finally, I started saying more authentic or “brave” statements that I was afraid of expressing (nothing dumb or offensi…
/r/seduction28/09/20 06:59 PM
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Cold approaching and talking to strangers (especially beautiful women) is extremely difficult to overcome but it can be done. I gave up dating apps entirely 2 years ago because I was angry that I didn’t have the guts to approach a beautiful woman. With that said, my biggest learning was that it comes down to how much permission you give yourself to express. Meaning, if you have trouble talking to women, you probably have communication trouble in a couple other areas of life too. Once I began giv…
/r/seduction28/09/20 06:33 PM
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It’s in the post
/r/seduction28/09/20 03:07 PM
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If I met someone and had good rapport with them, I would grab their Instagram or Snapchat handle to continue the conversation and develop it more
/r/seduction28/09/20 03:07 PM
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Not sure if anyone’s told you but that’s a very pessimistic state of mind. You ok?
/r/seduction26/09/20 08:15 AM
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Yep, agreed. One of the biggest misconceptions that it all happens “naturally” but the truth is there’s some strategy involved FYI everything I learned was post-college
/r/seduction26/09/20 02:34 AM
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Sorry here’s the updated link: https://gumroad.com/l/mostconnected Used to be a series of Reddit posts I made that got popular, so I decided to combine them all into an ebook
/r/seduction25/09/20 11:50 PM
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When I moved to San Francisco five years ago, I knew nobody. On top of that, I was in a psychotic relationship I had just broken off, so I was also an emotional garbage can. Today, things are much different, and I always have something to do (a lot of the people I met come from my social circle or an extension of it) Here are a few things I did: "Snapchat closed" everyone and anyone I met, even if briefly. Said “yes” to every social situation, no matter how small or lame. (I’d say this is most i…
/r/seduction25/09/20 07:10 PM
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Yeah I was looking but Brent Smith is a very generic name so I couldn’t find him lol
/r/seduction24/09/20 11:16 PM
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The thrill is finished. You have to appreciate and expect the expiration dates that come with casual relationships. If he doesn't agree to hang out on Saturday, move on and part ways as friends.
/r/seduction24/09/20 08:01 PM
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AMS?
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:47 PM
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Link to Brent smiths content?
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:46 PM
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Thanks Scarlett!
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:46 PM
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How many times have you asked her out without her committing? You can try just going direct, "OK, let's cut the shit, let's hang" type of thing. Feel free to send me the texts and I can analyze them a bit better. Def don't want to mislead
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:29 PM
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You're orbiting, she has no intention of hanging out with you again. Curious, was she recently out of a breakup when you two hung out?
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:17 PM
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yeah, but over time it's just an extension of your personality. becomes really easy and natural, like an afterthought. after a period of time you don't have to think about it much; once you've made the full transition there is no going back
/r/seduction24/09/20 05:52 PM
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What’s your age and what city? That’ll play a huge impact too.
/r/seduction24/09/20 04:04 AM
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Yes but also get your shit together Seduction and attraction becomes a lot easier when you feel good about yourself
/r/seduction24/09/20 01:52 AM
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If you’re judging the general woman population based on what you’re seeing on Tinder/Bumble, your outlook is going to be extremely skewed lol. I will say, the online dating apps are filled with the type of women who are partying tons, getting over an ex, or straight up just trying to grow their Instagram / get attention. There’s a huuuuuge portion of awesome, good looking women who don’t even think about dating apps. They’re just living their lives hoping to meet a good guy. That’s where you com…
/r/seduction24/09/20 01:51 AM
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This isn’t the answer you’re looking for but it’s an answer other men need to hear: Be careful of the type of women you choose to engage with. Do you really want to waste your time with a girl who’s ranting on Facebook about how much men suck? It’s toxic. She isn’t in a healthy state of mind. She’s bitter about a recent guy she’s dealt with or recently went through a breakup. Everyone goes through this once in a while, so I’m not hating on her, I’m moreso making a claim on the opportunity itself…
/r/seduction20/09/20 10:19 PM
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My dilemma with dating apps is that they rob men of important real-world skillsets that are immensely valuable. For example, being able to talk to strangers or spark a conversation with someone out of the blue is one of the most rewarding life-skills. When you master it, you start to have a lot more fun and become more charismatic. It opens up TONS of opportunities for you. Unfortunately, this skill becomes A LOT more difficult to develop when you know you can just sit on the toilet and swipe ri…
/r/seduction16/09/20 06:43 PM
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There’s definitely a hierarchy. For example, I don’t know how productive it is to cold approach someone when you don’t know how to read a room, sense a vibe, and play off that. You need a good foundation of empathy and social awareness for cold approaching. I don’t think it’s a BAD idea to learn seduction simultaneously, but what I would say is to be mindful of your foundation and don’t skip steps. I recorded a podcast on this (never published it) a while ago because I thought the seduction comm…
/r/seduction16/09/20 03:33 AM
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This subreddit is filled with horny 17-23 year olds, try AskMen.
/r/seduction15/09/20 11:31 PM
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Fear of social ostracism: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/is5jxm/master_communicators_are_bold_and_fearless_they/g55m771/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:54 PM
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This ebook is a great start if you are looking to land more dates and hangouts via Snapchat/Instagram: https://gum.co/mostconnected I will say, however, that it would be very inefficient to hit up strangers on Snapchat/Instagram who you've never met or bumped into. You want to have at least some form of real-world interaction with them before reaching out.
/r/seduction14/09/20 07:34 PM
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Essentially what I was trying to say is that this “myth” has been around since we were children. It’s been programmed for a long time. So breaking out of it can take effort but that effort is worth the while.
/r/seduction14/09/20 02:05 PM
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Thank u
/r/seduction14/09/20 04:11 AM
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San Francisco, New York City, San Diego.
/r/seduction14/09/20 02:10 AM
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Investing in a coach is a great idea but id say you should build up your base and foundations a lot more before you pull the trigger. All they’re going to do in bootcamp is try to force concepts into your head without taking the time to understand you or your thought patterns. Not sure how long you’ve been studying seduction but give it 1-3 years before you hire a coach.
/r/seduction14/09/20 02:09 AM
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I’d call it “mature seduction”. I write about it often but have been influenced by books like 6 Pillars of Self Esteem, Not Nice, and Radical Honesty. I like to focus on seduction as a communication style that’s applicable to all areas of life, not just a means to an end (ie getting laid).
/r/seduction13/09/20 09:44 PM
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Other key bullet points: A lot of guys who are learning seduction are afraid of social ostracization; this inhibits their ability to communicate powerfully. “Naturals” have discovered communication styles that provoke more emotion, without offending or shooting themselves in the foot. Being fully congruent with your personality takes bravery; but its this bravery that makes people want to “tune in” and listen to you more, sparking attraction: Source: https://socialite.substack.com/p/the-master-c…
/r/seduction13/09/20 08:03 PM
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how’s not putting in the effort working out for you?
/r/seduction13/09/20 05:34 PM
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Something not talked about in the seduction community is the differences in dating across age groups. Attracting 18-24 is way different than attracting 25-33. Playboy game works very well in the former group. Gentleman game works very well in the 25-33 age group. A good analogy is advertising: you wouldn’t use the same ad on younger audience as you would with an older audience. It’s a whole different style and approach. 25 is the age to find this out. You’re at the crossroads of adulthood.
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:17 AM
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2021 here we come!!!
/r/seduction12/09/20 08:13 PM
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You the best
/r/seduction12/09/20 02:19 AM
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I've always believed in investing in online courses, here are some of the ones I found more useful: David DeAngelo's Cocky Funny (game changer for flirting) David DeAngelo's course on approaching women and becoming a man Todd's "texting machine", which I believe is now free on YouTube, absolutely changed the way i think about texting RSD's "Blueprint Decoded", super extensive and really good PlayingFire's tinder ebook is pretty damn good even tho I don't like his style/vibe Those are the ones I …
/r/seduction11/09/20 05:46 PM
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Always operate within the social rules set in place. Practice social intelligence, or better put, awareness. Just read the room and you’ll be fine. With regards to flirting, Google David DeAngelo’s “cocky funny” stuff. It’s old content but highly effective. I learned this stuff at age 17 after an addiction to Runescape, lol. Imagine a socially awkward kid with pretty good game... that was me after combing David’s stuff one summer.
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:16 PM
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Wrong subreddit professor. Try /r/science
/r/seduction10/09/20 12:31 AM
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It takes balls of steel and there are negative repercussions if you screw it up. You can get rejected, socially ostracized, kicked out, or worse... get beat up. So your lizard brain fools you into being a quiet little bitch for the rest of life. Of course, there are “naturals” who discover it’s all a myth and none of those worst case scenarios ever happen. People tend to be generally pretty nice. And when you allow for more freedom of expression, women tend to take interest. Life becomes pretty …
/r/seduction09/09/20 01:47 PM
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Have you tried therapy? Seriously. Seduction works if you’ve got a good foundation you can work or build from. You need to work on that man. I think a basic set of pickup and social skills can help, but I get the sense that direct feedback from a therapist would help you more.
/r/seduction09/09/20 05:10 AM
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I don’t overthink it and I get on with my life. I send her a message later on if I feel like it or let it sit for a couple of days. But assuming it’s just the preliminary stages of dating (I.e we haven’t even gone on a date yet), I don’t overthink anything nor expect anything. I’m just having fun.
/r/seduction08/09/20 09:32 PM
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I feel that I don't really care to force things and just to go with the flow of life. I think it's an important communication style just like interviewing, career negotiation or cold-calling is. You have to learn what behaviors and mindsets are effective versus ineffective. I also like the idea that social skills and dating skills are amazing EQUALIZERS. Meaning, you can come from any background and still succeed in life with the help of these skills. It doesn' matter if you don't come from weal…
/r/seduction08/09/20 07:20 PM
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Which part of that rule was violated? (It’s all free and my own content)
/r/seduction19/04/20 12:43 AM
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Alright bro
/r/seduction13/04/20 02:51 PM
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They will.
/r/seduction13/04/20 06:22 AM
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You mean, being natural, at ease, and being more human? 🤣
/r/seduction13/04/20 05:30 AM
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Being advanced is nowhere near "being able to say what you are afraid to say" Chime in! What is it? :)
/r/seduction13/04/20 05:21 AM
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I think that understanding where your fear of being expressive is coming from is a great method towards becoming a top-notch communicator.
/r/seduction13/04/20 02:16 AM
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It’s an internal thought pattern. 100% worth analyzing. Personally, when I started to ask myself WHY I was so afraid of approaching a woman, I realized that it was because I was afraid to truly express myself. Ultimately, that question led me towards a path of more “honest” or “direct” communication. Furthermore, this analyzation helped me realize that nothing I was saying was wrong / inappropriate / rude / offensive. Ultimately, this process helped me become more direct without being offensive.…
/r/seduction13/04/20 01:23 AM
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Very worried. Lol
/r/seduction13/04/20 12:27 AM
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I think it’s something a lot of intermediate guys already have. They’ve developed a solid set of skills and are getting results, now are ready to hit the next level and ease into their skills more.
/r/seduction12/04/20 08:28 PM
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What's better to teach someone is empathy and social intelligence. Empathy as in seeing things from the perspective of the girl and trying to imagine how she feels or wants to be treated and social intelligence so that you can develop a better sense of what is appropriate at any given moment. Everything in game must be done with social intelligence. This is a fundamental of any skill that has to do with relating to others (negotiation, sales, business, networking, dating, etc).
/r/seduction12/04/20 07:36 PM
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The issues you outlined in your previous response were very much confidence and identity issues, expressed through texting. You’re right that there’s a lot of room for error but to say “texting is just for logistics” is not right and IMO causes more harm than good. There’s a spectrum to it and you have to learn how to be expressive over text. It matters greatly and it’s an extension of a good, well-rounded personality. If texting was just for logistics, then every guy here would have massive suc…
/r/seduction11/04/20 08:35 PM
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None of that sounds like a texting problem. That sounds like a huge confidence and identity problem. Texting her less won’t fix that, you’re just hiding the inevitable by texting her less lol
/r/seduction11/04/20 07:55 PM
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Your ex wife would hate it if you learned an advanced level of game (or, maybe she’d love it). Have some free resources: https://www.reddit.com/user/SnapSocialGuru/comments/fwpm43/top_pua_dating_resources_during_covid19/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction11/04/20 07:14 PM
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Time to put a smile on your face and learn some game, bud. Report back in six months after a series of baby steps and repeated efforts. Here, I even put together a list of resources for you: https://www.reddit.com/user/SnapSocialGuru/comments/fwpm43/top_pua_dating_resources_during_covid19/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Good luck and keep me posted with progress. I expect a message from you every 3 months with a list of new learnings, improvements, and areas for growth.
/r/seduction11/04/20 07:09 PM
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I’m not going to say it doesn’t happen because I’m sure there’s one or two cave trolls in here who are ACTUALLY pulling it off. But typically, guys aren’t leveraging Instagram to FIND women. They’re leveraging to build or strengthen a pre-existing relationship. A better route for you (and any gentleman here who’s interested) would be to go on Tinder / Bumble / Hinge... Spark up a conversation... then ask for the Instagram. From there, it’s a lot easier to “convert” a prospect into a customer. Fo…
/r/seduction11/04/20 07:06 PM
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The idea that “texting is just for logistics” is some of the stupidest shit that’s regurgitated around here. People focused so much on learning PUA they forget how to be human and hold a regular conversation.
/r/seduction10/04/20 09:58 PM
2

Happy cake day bro
/r/seduction09/04/20 12:10 AM
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Hey man. Welcome back to the dating scene. It sounds like you’re coming in with a great attitude and a solid idea of what you need to improve. I compiled a list of “top resources” to consume, especially during this time of COVID. Check it out, and let me know if you have questions: https://www.reddit.com/user/SnapSocialGuru/comments/fwpm43/top_pua_dating_resources_during_covid19/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction09/04/20 12:09 AM
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That advice you’ve heard often in the past is tailored towards guys who are texting women who still haven’t “bought into” the guy. With those scenarios, it makes more sense to limit texting and slow play it. Personally, the way I’d view the situation is like this; “Hmm. She must’ve gotten busy but I know there’s a strong connection here. Not gonna take it personally (yet), but I won’t continue to push it much longer if she doesn’t set plans. Gonna keep it light and fun with her, and ultimately g…
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:46 PM
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She had a boyfriend for a while but I was recently texting her to see how she was handling all the coronavirus issues and she told me she no longer is dating the guy she was with for several years. ​ Huge green light. ​ We texted a bit, and I wanted to gauge her interest, so we went hiking 2 weekends ago just her and I. It was also for a chance for me to see if we’d click and see where she’s at dating wise. I’d say it went extremely well. We had good conversations the entire 3 hours and she said…
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:29 PM
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As You Are. Particularly take note of the chapter where he talks about whether or not people are in the "mood" to chat. Other books: https://www.reddit.com/user/SnapSocialGuru/comments/fwpm43/top_pua_dating_resources_during_covid19/
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:18 PM
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Here are some of mine that I learned from and really helped me go from “good” to “great”: Pat Stedman Owen Cook Nick Sparks Nathaniel Branden Mario Puzo Full list of others here
/r/seduction08/04/20 12:11 AM
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Amen
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:19 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fv6i04/whats_the_best_pick_up_book_u_have_read_that_have/fmiv0ui/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:58 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fv6i04/whats_the_best_pick_up_book_u_have_read_that_have/fmiv0ui/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction06/04/20 11:41 PM
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Yes. In that case, chances are higher, since she has been incredibly receptive to you.
/r/seduction06/04/20 11:38 PM
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Nothing in your title touched on a person’s confidence and self-deservedness. A strong inner game cannot be skipped. And no amount of external successes make up for it. True inner work takes years to cultivate. Sources that help on this: 6 Pillars of Self Esteem, confident friends, therapy or a coach, meditation, and journaling. Source: I started learning about PUA stuff at age 16. Now 28 and career successful, live an incredible location, went to a top university. But had cycles in that time wh…
/r/seduction06/04/20 11:38 PM
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Doesn’t work. Not unless you have a tremendous amount of perceived value. And even then, women have a strong “anti-slut” defense. Must be done in a smooth manner, even if you both know what’s going on.
/r/seduction06/04/20 11:33 PM
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Social momentum, as it relates to a relationship, is real. You're losing social momentum in all of your interactions, and as a result, they're completely fizzling out. Attention is the currency for these interactions and you aren't giving much. I encourage you to keep in mind the idea of social momentum. Don't let more than a couple of days between convos.
/r/seduction06/04/20 07:45 PM
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It’s not his mannerisms that people like, it’s his vibe and the way he carries himself. Take note how him and others similar make you feel. He has a very relaxed, casual, yet present vibe to him. Try and achieve that and you’ll find that people will become attracted to you. Key part of this is also your INNER THOUGHTS, as a key part of having a solid vibe is also a solid set of belief systems / inner game.
/r/seduction06/04/20 07:22 PM
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Girl game = when she is trying to seduce you, she knows you’re high status. Usually bad when she’s using it to hide some of her insecurities and flaws. This is how guys end up in very toxic relationships.
/r/seduction06/04/20 06:38 PM
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You can be offended and upset, you still handle it in a strong and mature manner. "Hey, that was kind of hurtful. I love flirting and messing around with you, but let's also be mindful of each other's feelings. Sound good?" These aren't mutually exclusive. This is a necessary skill.
/r/seduction06/04/20 05:06 PM
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I don't know what your title means.
/r/seduction06/04/20 05:03 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fv6i04/whats_the_best_pick_up_book_u_have_read_that_have/fmiv0ui/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction06/04/20 02:42 PM
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The most beautiful, high-value, high-class women who have the most options don’t fall for “game”. Confidence is great, self-deservedness is better. If you want to completely destroy your approach anxiety, take a look at how approachable YOU are (most guys with approach anxiety are also guys who find it “weird” when others talk to them out of the blue). Girl game is very, very real. Know how to look for it and read it because it’ll help you avoid women with red flags. Tactics are great, behaviors…
/r/seduction06/04/20 03:44 AM
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Anything by Bruce Bryans on Amazon. Radical Honesty. Getting Real. Nick Sparks’ book is also exceptional. I wrote a book called Most Interesting Man in the Room aimed at helping you develop a more well-rounded, intriguing personality.
/r/seduction05/04/20 08:11 PM
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Best books that improved my game had nothing to do with PUA / Dating, so I 100% agree with this. Learn to see the parallels from other fields and apply them.
/r/seduction05/04/20 08:08 PM
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Big part of “validating” yourself is not taking yourself seriously, being able to laugh at your errors in this journey, and coming in with a curious mindset. Getting great at “the game” is a continuous effort. It doesn’t happen overnight and we ALL start somewhere. You slowly want to inhibit each and every bad habit you have. Focus on it one at a time. Incremental changes will make your game good over the year. Stay strong, don’t beat yourself up. And instead of comparing yourself to others, fin…
/r/seduction05/04/20 06:43 PM
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No worries man, we’re free to disagree with each other. Cheers.
/r/seduction04/04/20 01:44 AM
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You can like people for who they are, while also wanting to hang out with people who motivate you to achieve more, who are “higher” on the ladder than you are, etc. Those aren’t mutually exclusive. You can want both and it’s not wrong for wanting those things. Certain social circles can elevate you while other social circles can lower your mood.
/r/seduction04/04/20 01:39 AM
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For this reason gaming must be a side hustle. If it becomes the primary focus, you’ve lost before you had a chance at the prize. Love this. And appreciate the feedback on video format. I want it to be something people can listen to in the background while they do other things :)
/r/seduction03/04/20 08:18 PM
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Yes, true, but don’t overestimate the competition. A lot of people think this stuff is silly and won’t put in the time.
/r/seduction03/04/20 08:03 PM
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Kinda getting used to publishing on YouTube and sharing the ideas in my head. Definitely working on being more concise and formatting the information in a way that is easy to consume :) I think your strategy can work very well. The idea is to try out what works for your taste, your town, and the type of people you ultimately want to meet. I think if you’ve got a strategy in place (as opposed to entirely leaving thing up to “chance”), you are going to hit new levels.
/r/seduction03/04/20 06:19 PM
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There’s a lot of pickup and dating advice out there. The market has become saturated and will continue to do so. Which is why it’s utterly important to be able to discern good advice from bad advice. There’s a lot of stuff out there that isn’t effective. And it’s my goal to shine the light on that. This texting advice given is the video is an example of advice that’ll cost you many, many dates and many, many social opportunities. If your goal is to date beautiful women with incredible personalit…
/r/seduction23/03/20 12:21 AM
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Perfect, thank you. I'll look into it.
/r/seduction13/01/20 05:01 PM
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Understood. What’s been your biggest challenge with this thus far? And anything you’ve tried in particular thus far?
/r/seduction11/01/20 07:19 PM
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Which program by like, specifically?
/r/seduction11/01/20 07:18 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ceoiwx/how_do_you_keep_female_friends/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction11/01/20 07:16 PM
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Does HTWF cover how to grow your social circle and social circle strategy?
/r/seduction10/01/20 10:44 PM
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A lot of this stuff we personally had to tackle this year. We struggled with all of those things and have found some neat ways to go about it. Appreciate your response! And if you’re ever in SF You should 100% reach out. Happy to grab a drink / coffee.
/r/seduction10/01/20 09:00 PM
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You really wouldn’t be doing us a favor as much as you’d be doing the other guys a favor. We can talk about this stuff all day, we just want to orchestrate in a way that’s going to help everyone as much as possible.
/r/seduction10/01/20 08:56 PM
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Dating apps are a fucking joke. There is no glory in being able to swipe right or left. If you truly value your growth, you’ll do what it takes to develop the lifestyle and bravery to meet quality women IRL. Dating apps are for losers.
/r/seduction02/01/20 07:37 PM
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Sounds good, I’ll add a body of text next time. Thanks for the heads up.
/r/seduction26/11/19 01:59 AM
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Very well put! Read the vibe and the situation and act accordingly.
/r/seduction26/11/19 01:56 AM
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You know what else is normal? Talking to strangers. Asking someone out on a date. Teasing, flirting, bantering. Yet those are concepts concepts that people struggle with all the time. Glad it’s normalized in your world but that’s not the case for everyone.
/r/seduction26/11/19 01:18 AM
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Very different than the concept I’m talking about here.
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:58 AM
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Major key 🔑
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:58 AM
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Intuition, awareness, trial and error, tons of mentoring of friends who needed help and for whatever reason I understood it on a “deeper” level. Sort of like how some people naturally understand math and numbers. I just kinda “got” some of this, then studied up more. Lucky to have a lot of friends IRL who have exceptional people skills, as well.
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:39 AM
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You’re headed in the right direction. I can tell with your level of awareness. Keep tweaking and improving. But your awareness 👍
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:23 AM
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Women judge based on behavior, men judge on looks (initially). But when they’ve entered the interaction and taken things forward, that’s when being discretionary becomes more powerful. Being discretionary is a major power move that subcommunicates confidence, abundance, and boundary. Those are all extremely high status traits to behold.
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:19 AM
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I don’t know if I agree with that. I’m referring to legitimately parting ways as friends and keeping it that way. It’s a strong boundary to have that only increases your self respect and the respect you get from those around you. I think your version of the “male friendzone” is extremely dark.
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:05 AM
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Well put.
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:02 AM
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MORE CONTEXT I've got a few buddies who share their dating experiences with me. They’re great at sparking convos but they can’t seem to land dates or generate any deep interest from a woman. The truth is this: they don't know how to have an interesting personality. They take themselves way too seriously and don't know how to "let go". As a result, their personality comes across as too stiff and too serious. And while that personality-type might work in a business setting or job interview, it isn…
/r/seduction29/10/19 11:30 PM
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Very true. At that point, “game” becomes very easy. You get it!
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:18 PM
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Both.
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:13 PM
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I have no issue complimenting a woman on her looks, style, or personality if it’s genuine. I especially have no issue with it if I have a genuine appreciation for who she is as a person and want to “gift” her in the form of a compliment. I have absolutely zero worry about how many other compliments she may or may not receive on a daily basis from other men. If we’re in a conversation, and there’s a clear connection, AND if there’s something I genuinely appreciate about her... I compliment.
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:40 AM
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It’s a great ride to be on, my friend.
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:10 AM
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I’ve heard of Letting Go by David Hawkins, his book is on my top shelf. You’re on the right path, my friend. I can tell by the way you talk.
/r/seduction24/10/19 01:31 AM
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You can. Test it out. Gather social feedback. If it works for you, do it more. But never overdo it; has to be genuine!
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:02 PM
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It has to be genuine. Correct. And it can’t come out of the blue. It’s great if you’re already in a deep convo and there is clear chemistry. If you’re approaching a woman out of the blue with a line like this, it’s ineffective.
/r/seduction23/10/19 05:54 PM
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Correct. Genuine above everything.
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:47 PM
2

The OG!
/r/seduction23/10/19 02:56 PM
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No one said don’t be genuine, my friend.
/r/seduction23/10/19 12:57 PM
2

Always use social intelligence and read the room.
/r/seduction23/10/19 12:57 PM
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I think that’s fine, that suspicion is a little more balanced than the OG comment. And I want to be mindful for all the people reading this advice and it’s this — it must be genuine. Furthermore, it must be, in a way, specific. AKA: you wouldn’t say the compliment to anyone else, and even admitting the compliment took a sense of “vulnerability” or bravery. True compliments take a degree of authenticity and realness than many people won’t ever expose. The key thing here is this: it’s all about hu…
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:56 AM
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I don’t mean to come off as rude with this comment, but if you’re finding yourself constantly being suspicious when someone goes out of their way to compliment you, then you need to look deep within yourself and ask why. Sure — there are times when people are manipulative. However, if it’s a moment of sincerity where another person is being vulnerable and going out of their way to express themselves authentically in the form of a compliment, and you are SKEPTICAL of good human nature like that, …
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:35 AM
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Very, very well put. You get it.
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:24 AM
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It’s sincerity above all, as mentioned.
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:23 AM
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That’s a great point. But, no, they don’t always assume you have an ulterior motive. It depends on the kind of guy you are. If you’re the typical “nice guy” who does nice things for people with an ulterior motive, people will read right through the insincerity. HOWEVER, if you’re a more established guy (who’s worked on his appearance, social skills, and game)... then a compliment can be a very alluring thing. And if you think every guy is making a genuine effort or move, you’re wrong. You’d be s…
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:46 AM
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More context: If you’ve been studying game, pickup, and social dynamics for a while (and also taken the time to hit the gym and revamp your fashion-sense), chances are that many women think very highly of you. If that’s the case, do this: give more compliments. There’s nothing more alluring and charming than a strong, perfectly delivered compliment (especially from a high-status guy who’s taken the time to improve his social and dating skills…which is very rare nowadays). Some of you have put a …
/r/seduction22/10/19 11:58 PM
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More context: If you’ve been studying game, pickup, and social dynamics for a while (and also taken the time to hit the gym and revamp your fashion-sense), chances are that many women think very highly of you. If that’s the case, do this: give more compliments. There’s nothing more alluring and charming than a strong, perfectly delivered compliment (especially from a high-status guy who’s taken the time to improve his social and dating skills…which is very rare nowadays). Some of you have put a …
/r/seduction22/10/19 10:57 PM
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I wrote a 5-part guide a while back. It still works: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5muavh/55_the_snapchat_guide_to_game_how_to_get_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Let me know if you have any questions.
/r/seduction21/10/19 03:22 AM
1

No, you can’t.
/r/seduction17/10/19 02:34 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/seduction16/10/19 07:21 PM
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I'm unsure -- but to be clear to anyone who's confused: the purpose of this post is to share how to develop better social and dating skills. If you see the opposite sex as an enemy, you will be incapable of developing better connections with people.
/r/seduction16/10/19 07:05 PM
2

Thanks buddy I read absolutely none of that wall of text.
/r/seduction16/10/19 06:13 PM
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Ask yourself this: where do people who enjoy those things hang out? Are they at bars? If so, what type of bars? Are they at art events? If so, what type of art events? Strategize the ways you can marry your interests with a social activity.
/r/seduction16/10/19 06:03 PM
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This guy salsas.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:21 PM
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I get a comment like that every time and that’s why there’s a wealth of additional information / context in the comment section. Please don’t be lazy, take the time to read through them.
/r/seduction16/10/19 01:03 PM
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It’s something you’ve got to strategize and think about. Where is a place you can hang out where people love music? Where can you hang out where people love music AND socializing? Where can you hang where people love music AND socializing AND enjoy exactly the type of music you enjoy? This is the social strategy we’re referring to in this thread.
/r/seduction16/10/19 01:02 PM
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Lmfao because all people care about is attraction and that’s the only thing they EVER judge people on and they never ever ever ever use ANY logic to pick guys! Good luck. Heads up, applies to business and social networking world as well. Have fun ruining all your relationships.
/r/seduction16/10/19 12:57 PM
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Ah, yes, the classic “I’m just naturally going to meet women without any social strategy in mind whatsoever”. Works like a charm! /s
/r/seduction16/10/19 12:53 PM
1

Are you still interested in meeting women? Or are you just out of the “game” for now?
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:15 AM
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Exactly. I know many men who do yoga because they genuinely love it. I found that comment above yours to be a little bit distasteful. Not all women are anti-social and they don’t instantly write off men because they do yoga. Unbelievable.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:07 AM
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This is great social strategy here. In many cases, a cold approach is detrimental. In social environments like this one, a friendly warm approach is better. You don’t need to go for the kill right away. Just be friendly and get along with everybody. That alone will open doors for you. It doesn’t always have to be about pickup to meet more women.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:06 AM
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Why not? What’s changed? There are “seasons”. I personally go through weeks of introversion and zero social activity. Those are my valleys. I also go through peaks. You must understand your seasons.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:03 AM
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Yes. That is true. The last step is more nuanced. But 100% fits into the equation. The first two points are moot if you show up to the world with an unappealing personality. You must put your best foot forward. I haven’t talked about it yet but it is something I’m developing a more “in depth” ebook about. Your personality is your greatest weapon as it’s what’s going to intrigue people and “open the door” to many social opportunities.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:02 AM
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This is great. Thanks for the additional context.
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:56 AM
1

Tell me more. What do you mean?
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:56 AM
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Can be great, I usually recommend 2-3 so that you have a more consistent flow of social opportunities coming your way. If you put all of your eggs in one basket, it can limit the amount of people you’re exposed to. A necessary staple for dating and social success is simply just ACCESS to people (simple but you’d be surprised how many guys don’t think about it).
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:55 AM
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All the comments go into more detail, if you’re still confused I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:54 AM
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The caveat is that it must be congruent to your personality. If you’re only doing yoga to meet women, people will sense it. If you’re doing yoga because you truly love it AND you happen to meet women as a side-effect, then it can work.
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:35 AM
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This is true. I’ve done yoga sporadically throughout the years and found it to be beneficial. Not MY type of environment, personally, but definitely worth giving a shot!
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:03 AM
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How so? Asking for the guys in the audience who are looking for new hobbies to explore.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:57 AM
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I love it — definitely social activities (except mountain biking as I’m not sure how many new people you meet on the trail?) + they relate to your interests.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:52 AM
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It will depend on your personality and interests. There’s so many hobbies out there. For me, when I was growing my social circle and meeting more women IRL (as opposed through online), I met people through a social running club, a wine-tasting group, and a meditation class I attended every week. If you’re not into running, wine, or meditation, those might not make sense for you as they wouldn’t be congruent to your personality. I’d suggest you consider doing something that absolutely interests y…
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:27 AM
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🤣
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:27 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction10/10/19 02:52 PM
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We’re just talking about the idea of approaching and the mentality to talk to more people in a seamless, confident manner. Escalating is a whoooooole other art / science.
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:47 AM
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🙏🙏🙏
/r/seduction09/10/19 10:37 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:51 PM
1

Well put.
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:21 PM
1

🙏
/r/seduction09/10/19 07:26 PM
4

This was exceptionally put. Thank you.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:33 PM
1

Asking you to clarify what you’re asking or what you meant.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:26 PM
1

What part of the post has been rehashed? You aren’t being clear.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:23 PM
0

The truth will set you free.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:09 PM
2

As long as you’re making an honest effort, you’ll make leaps in no time.
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:39 PM
1

No problem!
/r/seduction09/10/19 04:29 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/seduction09/10/19 02:58 PM
1

Well put.
/r/seduction09/10/19 02:58 PM
5

Do the opposite of what I wrote.
/r/seduction09/10/19 02:57 PM
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Nobody cares / nobody witnesses or observes you as closely as you think they do. Work on your vibe and how you present yourself to others; do this mercilessly. Read social cues and gain social feedback without taking it personally, but for the sake of improving your people skills to an “exceptional” level. If you’re afraid of this, I’m sorry, but it’s an absolute requirement to overcome.
/r/seduction09/10/19 01:26 PM
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Thank you. It was meant to be.
/r/seduction09/10/19 12:58 PM
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If a guy approached her in an un-creepy way and really he is a genuine person. I'm totally fine with it. Bingo. Just keep it genuine, friendly, and light-hearted. Notice the signals and if she’s interested, that’s when “game” becomes effective.
/r/seduction09/10/19 12:58 PM
1

Based on the story and women’s stories, it sounds like this guy missed social cues entirely.
/r/seduction09/10/19 12:56 PM
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It’s a self check in process. When a stranger tries to do small talk with you, do you rush to end it or do you attempt to converse? When someone talks to you out of the blue, do you act “too cool” or are you warm back? Are you annoyed when others try to spark a conversation with you, or do you welcome it? If the answer to any of those is negative, chances are you aren’t approachable and the “vibe” you give off is cold. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Soci…
/r/seduction09/10/19 02:54 AM
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I don’t know. But my life changed when I realized I wasn’t approaching women: I was being friendly and treating every human being in a normal, warm manner. Same with “day game”. I never do day game. But what I do do is this: I talk to everyone around me and find ways to be social. All of a sudden, talking to anyone was easy. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction09/10/19 01:44 AM
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How comfortable are YOU with a stranger approaching you? When they approach you, how do you behave?
/r/seduction08/10/19 11:27 PM
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Amen.
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:24 PM
1

You seem like a jokester with a good heart.
/r/seduction02/10/19 10:14 PM
3

Women don’t care about your bald head like you think they do. Your vibe is throwing them off, big time.
/r/seduction02/10/19 09:18 PM
2

The feeling of being in a flow state in the dating world is so nice when you’re just flooded with availability and options This resonates a lot! This is “natural” game!
/r/seduction02/10/19 06:56 PM
2

Fortune cookies actually
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:53 PM
2

I’ll give you a list of full of paragraphs and long walls of text next time, princess. ;)
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:51 PM
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Scroll up, read the questions, and see for yourself. :) there’s a reason why there’s an entire community built around this stuff.
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:51 PM
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🙏
/r/seduction02/10/19 01:48 PM
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If someone offers you insight or advice, you don’t want to respond in an unproductive manner. It might seem small but if this is how you reply when you ask a question and the person doesn’t give you an answer your don’t want to hear, I wouldn’t be surprised if this effects areas of your dating life too. Again, it’s all about people skills here and how you make those around you feel.
/r/seduction02/10/19 04:53 AM
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You need to find ways to get yourself out of that anxious, overthinking state of mind. Why does it happen? What triggers it? What have you done to fix it? When you’re in really good moods, why is that? It’s this level of introspection that’s going to help you fix your vibe and inner state of mind. An anxious, overthinking state of mind is not effective when it comes to social and dating success.
/r/seduction02/10/19 04:50 AM
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I’d rather be around someone who is authentic albeit goofy than a stiff who banks on their looks or outer workings. Love this. Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction02/10/19 04:24 AM
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Thank you 🤙
/r/seduction02/10/19 03:38 AM
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Journal Meditate New hobbies Therapy or coaching These are the top 4 things that helped me. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction02/10/19 03:37 AM
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✅
/r/seduction02/10/19 03:36 AM
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“Hey, curious, what is / was your initial impression of me when we met?” I love doing this. Especially on the second, third, fourth date.
/r/seduction02/10/19 03:20 AM
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That’s correct but not applicable to everyone. You can have a wildly successful, confident person who lives an interesting lifestyle who still suffers with women. To many, it’s a genuine skill set they have to learn. They’re confident in many forms but when it comes to dating and women, they freeze up. Conversely, there are a lot of guys who do know how to approach women and are extremely popular. Yet, internally they’re filled with insecurities about themselves and the world.
/r/seduction02/10/19 03:13 AM
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Inner = your mindset, philosophies, reframes, your unique personality and character traits. Outer = your social life strategy, approaching, ability to flirt, ability to express interesting in a savvy manner, etc. Two very different things.
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:55 AM
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Social feedback; how others respond to you and how they describe you. It’s something that you must be keen about (without overly caring about what others think about you) in order to have exceptional social and dating skills.
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:29 AM
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“Fake it till you make it” is a good strategy if you’re a beginner who’s learning the ropes. But if you’ve never faced your inner demons, it can become toxic and repelling. Overtime, you want to be authentic, natural, real, honest, and well-intentioned. The more you hide, the more people will turn the other way. You can’t fool people, and especially higher-quality people who discern carefully and don’t let just ANYONE into their lives. And anyone who you fool is someone who you don’t want in you…
/r/seduction02/10/19 01:37 AM
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🙏
/r/seduction02/10/19 01:28 AM
1

Thanks for sharing! Agree with the awareness aspect.
/r/seduction02/10/19 01:06 AM
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Amen. Well put. Simple and to the point.
/r/seduction02/10/19 01:04 AM
1

Got a link? Happy to take a look
/r/seduction25/09/19 02:49 PM
1

I love it. Thank you for sharing.
/r/seduction25/09/19 02:44 PM
1

I like that, great mindset. Acquired mindset that you learned over the years or how did you get to that point with cold approach?
/r/seduction25/09/19 12:51 PM
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No
/r/seduction17/09/19 04:16 AM
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“You need to feel more, think less” I love this. Be more intuitive.
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:14 AM
1

No. I’m not saying play a game. Be excited, yes, but appropriately so.
/r/seduction12/09/19 12:07 AM
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🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/seduction11/09/19 08:29 PM
1

Happy to help
/r/seduction11/09/19 05:59 PM
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My pleasure
/r/seduction11/09/19 05:59 PM
1

Be a normal, regular guy. Be easygoing, light-hearted, and fun. Keep things simple and don't fret about anything and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction11/09/19 04:26 PM
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Good, celebrate and give yourself kudos. But remember; tame the over-excitement.
/r/seduction11/09/19 04:15 PM
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A few small tweaks every month will accumulate and improve your social and dating skills. It’s small tweaks like this one that add up.
/r/seduction11/09/19 04:07 PM
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Perfect timing, synchronicity.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:07 PM
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Thanks for the upvotes guys. I archived my top posts on Reddit over time, here’s the link: https://www.reddit.com/user/SnapSocialGuru/?sort=top&t=all Enjoy.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:46 AM
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Top players have a multitude of different moods and mindsets that level up their game. Applies to dating, career, school, etc.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:26 AM
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Overexcitement is just another symptom of overinvestment. If you don't have a valid reason to be legitimately invested in a person, you've shown a lack of self respect in investing too much of yourself in that other person. This.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:18 AM
2

Well put.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:08 AM
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Staying level-headed and at ease makes your game 10x better and more natural. When you’re too excited, you can’t think straight and risk making rash decisions. However, the perfect balance of excitement is killer.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:01 AM
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Correct. Lost count of the analysis I’ve done 🤷🏻‍♂️ Edit: it’s now made public.
/r/seduction19/07/19 02:20 AM
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Weird. Thanks for the feedback. Probably some uploading issues with Reddit. Here’s the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/dEA0sJPvyh8
/r/seduction19/07/19 02:14 AM
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Thought I’d do this text analysis on the topic because a lot of guys burn their social capital entirely by failing to build rapport or comfort with girls via text. Sometimes, you 100% need to do it and skip the logistics (for now). Its up to you to be socially intelligent and determine if A) you need to build more social capital before you go for the ASK or B) go right for the logistics. This is what sets up the good guys from the rookies. They can’t tell which route to take. Part of developing …
/r/seduction18/07/19 11:12 PM
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TL;DW: Keeping the texting to a minimum can help create more chemistry, tension, and excitement. If you overdo the texting, you risk losing them and spending unnecessary amounts of social capital. Know when to build comfort/rapport, but also know when to peel back. ​ So I thought I'd create this video because it's a great example of a girl who's clearly into you. Now that you can see that she is, how do you take advantage of that? ​ The beauty of "game" is that it teaches you how to have above-a…
/r/seduction17/07/19 05:06 PM
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Both.
/r/seduction15/07/19 11:52 PM
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Yes and no. If you’re strictly using texting for logistics, she will be flakey. There must be some rapport building.
/r/seduction15/07/19 11:49 PM
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A classic trap a lot of guys fall into when they want to keep the conversation flowing with a girl is this: They try to “entertain” her too much. 100% be cool, funny, interesting... but when you overdo it, you risk losing her. I analyze this texting conversation and share how to mitigate situations better. Send me your texts and I’m happy to analyze them. PS: Notice my client’s opener. Super solid, highly recommend you learn from him on that. -Laz (snapsocialguru)
/r/seduction15/07/19 07:31 PM
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I created this video because I see guys who are trying to re-engaged girls from the past but always fail miserably because they don’t have a bit of patience with the process. Check out the video and let me know what you think. If you find yourself in similar situations, play it cool and learn how to “nurture” your leads in a way that’ll keep the warm and excited to hang out with you (even if they can’t hangout for a while). Hope this helps, Laz PS: yes as always, you’re welcome to send me your t…
/r/seduction14/07/19 10:44 PM
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Saw this text screenshot on /r/seduction and thought it’d be interesting to do an analysis on it. In the text message, the guy gets a “breakup” text from a girl + essentially gets friend zoned. Not a problem to have these situations, actually. In the video I show you how you can take advantage of this opportunity so it’s a win/win for both you and the girl. If you find yourself getting mad/upset in these situations... you’re doing it wrong. Cheers. -Laz (snapsocialguru) Ps: feel free to PM me yo…
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:05 PM
1

Respect for the honesty. It's something not a lot of people talk about.
/r/seduction18/12/18 06:18 PM
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Haha... the good ‘ole breakup. How old are you? If you’re coming back into the game between ages 25-30, it’s a whole different ball game. It takes great presence and observations to get it right. You’ll hit the same walls over and over again. You’ll have to iterate. You’ll come home and journal it out, knowing you got something in your game missing. After a few months, you’ll begin getting results. But they’ll be sporadic. After a few more months, they become consistent. But you’ve really got to…
/r/seduction16/12/18 07:11 PM
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No problem. By the way that’s how social excellence works. We all have to go back to the drawing board sometimes and evaluate how we do things. We iterate and iterate until we get it right. 90% of the population doesn’t do this. YOU are a separating factor. Get ready for the great things to come, amigo. ;)
/r/seduction16/12/18 10:53 AM
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Probably not the best type of girl to be chasing. If she was as interested in you as you are in her, she wouldn’t hang with “him”.
/r/seduction13/12/18 08:43 PM
1

100%. Well put man — agree with everything you said. 👍
/r/seduction13/12/18 03:20 PM
1

It’s a status thing, you’re right on this.
/r/seduction13/12/18 03:17 PM
2

This is an incredible question. It’s something i struggled with too. So here’s what’s happening. And it’s what happened to me. You made it out of the awkward, introverted shell. You broke out of it in an exceptional manner and now are on the extreme end of the spectrum where you can pretty much talk to anyone. You’re socially aware, confident, and people love to be around you. A lot of guys wish they had this but will never get to it. The cost of reaching this point is that you never really step…
/r/seduction13/12/18 03:17 PM
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I’ll tell them. 😉
/r/seduction12/12/18 11:38 PM
1

Just because you’re cordial and respectful to everyone doesn’t mean you’re needy, beta, or insecure. That’s a scarcity mindset. You’re thinking it’s a finite resource. “If I give too much value, I’m losing or getting taken advantage of.” There’s a confident way of going about it. BTW: I’m not talking about being nice to everyone without limit. You have to have a strong frame and come from a place of strength, not a weak place where you’re trying to be “nice” to get something out of it. That’s ca…
/r/seduction12/12/18 11:31 PM
1

Thanks. Any recommendations where I can go to continue being brainwashed?
/r/seduction12/12/18 05:11 PM
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😰🤯😭
/r/seduction12/12/18 05:06 PM
5

😂😘
/r/seduction12/12/18 05:04 PM
3

Go to a therapist and get your mind sorted out because if you hate yourself and your life, you can’t play this game. Straight up man. There’s darkness in your post in you need to fix this right away. Women and seduction can’t fix you.
/r/seduction12/12/18 04:39 PM
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You always have to use social intelligence before you use seduction. In other words, first comes social intelligence, then seduction. And it seems very clear to me that through social intelligence, you understand the odds are stacked AGAINST you because 1) she’s already rejected you 2) she’s not showing interest AT ALL and 3) you aren’t even sure she’s single. Yet, you proceed to want to do a “risky” move and invite her to your place for drinks? This is a lack of social intelligence. This is a m…
/r/seduction11/12/18 09:26 PM
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Yeah man. People do this all the time. All you’ve got to do is give them a sheet of paper and ask them to sign on the dotted line. From there, you’ve “closed them” and can take them to your closet. No man. No. Thats not seduction. Prior to being able to succeed in seduction, you’ve got to have your basic social skills down. Which is sounds you need to focus on. If you don’t have that, or don’t want to improve that, you’re playing the wrong game. If you’re interested in just sex without the fun o…
/r/seduction11/12/18 04:45 PM
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Happy to help.
/r/seduction11/12/18 03:19 AM
6

Your identity and personality can be changed and shifted for your benefit. I recommend you “kill the boy” inside of you that’s holding you back and start considering what you’re truly capable of. Who you think you are today is meaningless. Time to let go of your identity and form a new and better one. Tons of resources here on /r/seduction to begin learning from. Good luck.
/r/seduction09/12/18 09:38 PM
6

Why are you seeking approval from women you approach on the street who have zero clue who you are and what you’re about? Kinda weird, isn’t it?
/r/seduction09/12/18 06:37 AM
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It took (and is taking a lot). It’s a continual process. Meditation Lots of books Lots of courses Working out lots Coaching/mentoring Leaning over my “edge” daily. Leaning over my “edge” daily. Leaning over my “edge” daily. Never saying “no” to social situations Joining social groups where I’d meet new people Coming home and writing in my journal how all my social interactions went and how I could improve Constant contemplation and reframing negatives into positives Listening to YouTube videos b…
/r/seduction08/12/18 06:33 PM
1

“Hi. We’re neighbors”. :) Yes, that simple.
/r/seduction08/12/18 06:06 PM
1

That’s where you read the social cues to figure out if she’s down to talk or not. Best to err on the side of too chatty, then dial it down as necessary.
/r/seduction08/12/18 06:00 PM
3

I hate to be discouraging but someone has to be blunt: You don’t know her. You and 500 other guys are thinking the same thing when they see her photos on Twitter. Your “hook” is you messaging her out of the blue with an anonymous account with 2 followers on it. If you were in her shoes, how would you find yourself remotely compelling? You’ve got to step it up, man.
/r/seduction08/12/18 06:51 AM
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It’s never a bad idea to be the one who breaks the ice and sparks a conversation. “Nobody ever lived a bad life by making too many friends.” the top salesperson I work with. Good luck!
/r/seduction08/12/18 06:47 AM
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Exactly. And there are some teachers out there who have made serious breakthroughs that young bucks deserve to know and understand. There are some insights I’ve learned this year that I’ve never seen shared elsewhere in the PUA community.
/r/seduction05/12/18 06:52 PM
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It doesn’t retract from your own “ah ha” moments. If you’re someone who’s taking action and pushing their edge on a daily basis, it’s good to know that there are others out there who are going through the same struggle. It can be a lonely ride. To have a community revolving around this is awesome. I went through a major breakup seven months ago and had to relearn a lot of styles I let go of. Furthermore, turning 26, I also had to learn a completely new style (because I’m no longer into college c…
/r/seduction05/12/18 06:06 PM
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Nope. One of my best buds ferociously deployed this tactic. It was filled with high flake rates, ingenuine conversations, and coldness. Stick to building real connections with people you've actually met IRL.
/r/seduction12/11/18 07:55 PM
1

What’s crap about it?
/r/seduction12/11/18 05:58 PM
1

What’s the statement behind the question?
/r/seduction12/11/18 12:05 AM
1

What would be useful?
/r/seduction11/11/18 11:55 PM
1

Is it? What would you have said instead?
/r/seduction11/11/18 10:54 PM
2

There’s a great book called Pimp, by Iceberg Slim. Definitely insightful read, that goes into what you’re referring to. But I wouldn’t say that’s real game, nor of interest to everyone. A friend of mine owns a chain of strip clubs and can go into great detail of certain human behavior, red flags, etc. But it’s not the epitome for everyone, and he’d agree with that.
/r/seduction11/11/18 10:06 PM
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Thought I’d post this here. RSDtyler talks about “trusting on your faculties” as a way to be in optimal state of mind. This is one way to get it done.
/r/seduction30/09/18 04:43 PM
3

Sexually inexperienced and awkward for 25-years of his life. .. Studies pickup for 2 weeks... Expects instant results. BRUH LOL. Baby steps. It'll take you at least a YEAR to get some decent results. Any small win should excite you. Seriously. You're starting from the bottom of the bottom. Keep going. Damn.
/r/seduction18/07/18 06:42 PM
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That moment when you realize that life isn't all about pickup and approaching women. You'll figure it out, man. You'll learn balance. You'll learn priorities. It'll make your game better. Or you'll find excuses and slump into mediocrity. But don't be negative. That's the worst thing you can do.
/r/seduction18/07/18 06:04 PM
1

Cringe :( Sdfu.
/r/seduction13/07/18 07:24 AM
1

If you’re ever in San Francisco and would like to grab a drink, let me know. Best of luck man. Exciting times!
/r/seduction08/07/18 07:29 PM
1

Good luck. Message me and keep me posted.
/r/seduction08/07/18 01:52 AM
1

Here’s a good guide on how to do game in small town / small cities. The main differentiation from “gaming” in small towns versus big cities is the amount you approach. You can’t constantly cold approach in a small town. You’ve got to worry about your reputation + there’s not enough people to approach. So it’s a dead end strategy. Thus, you have to focus your efforts on building a social circle + getting into parties. This will expose you to various opportunities you otherwise wouldn’t have. Good…
/r/seduction06/07/18 07:17 PM
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Yep. Can’t disagree with that. But sometimes, you just wanna try and see things through. Doesn’t hurt, and it’s a good strategy to have in your back pocket.
/r/seduction06/07/18 04:37 PM
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Also, what’s his location? Something I was thinking about this morning is how some college grads decide to move to shit towns. “Oh, I’ve got a great job opportunity but it’s in Bumfuck, Nowhere. How do I get dates?” If dating and meeting lots of women is a priority for you... you probably wanna move to a big or lively city. Otherwise, you’re going to climb an uphill battle. No question about it. Source: I lived in 2 small towns prior to moving to SF. Even if I move back to those towns, now that …
/r/seduction06/07/18 03:05 PM
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I also did a lot of comparing, which is unfair. So yea, I agree 100% Another great point I forgot to mention... If you rebound too quickly as a form of revenge, anger, or a similar emotion... It’s anchor. This anchor serves as a form of “emotional attachment”, which ironically keep you HOOKED on your ex, even if that’s what you’re trying to avoid. Move on too quickly, and you also compare all the new girls to your EX. And the new girls are never enough. They’re never “as good”. And this loop jus…
/r/seduction06/07/18 03:35 AM
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It's a mistake because it adds unnecessary pressure. This pressure kills the spontaneity of the date. It kills the chemistry. She smells that you have an agenda. And girls hate when you've got an ulterior motive. It screams, "This guy can't relax. Why isn't he trying to just have fun and enjoy the vibe?" Here's what I focus on in first dates: Creating a solid connection. Listening intently. Teasing/playfulness. Giving powerful, meaningful compliments (based on observations I make about her). Hav…
/r/seduction05/07/18 09:32 PM
2

I'm in my early twenties, I know I still have a lot of time to meet new girls. 100%. The girls aren't going anywhere. When you're back from your journey, they will still be there. Only more eager to meet you and vibe with you. Take your time, get recuperated, and come back strong. Nothing wrong with a break.
/r/seduction05/07/18 09:27 PM
2

Jesus Christ was also my favorite.
/r/seduction05/07/18 07:36 PM
1

Thanks man. And calm down. Jesus. It’s just the Internet. Happy 4th.
/r/seduction04/07/18 04:01 PM
1

I don’t mind replies like this. I really don’t. I get them all the time. “Oh this is shit / Oh this won’t work” My problem is your type never have an ALTERNATIVE offered. I don’t give a fuck about your opinion unless you bother to provide an alternative. Thanks man.
/r/seduction04/07/18 03:44 PM
6

Hot Latina with good morals.
/r/seduction04/07/18 03:06 AM
18

I went through a breakup 8 weeks ago. It was a 2 year relationship. And it was my 3rd LTR. And let me tell you. IT DOESNT GET EASIER. But I do know the cycles I go through. I know what works. And what doesn’t. Here’s what’s initially going to happen: you’re going to want to get back out and fuck tons of girls. You say to yourself, “this will make me confident again! It’ll prove I’ve got ‘game’. It’ll prove I’m cool.” But that shit begins to feel shallow after a while. It doesn’t fulfill you. And…
/r/seduction04/07/18 03:04 AM
5

Sure! At the top of my head, here are some I witness (in no particular order): Neediness: needing/desperately wanting an interaction/relationship to go a certain way. Insecurity: question yourself, second-guessing, doubting. Confident guys will play coy, have a unique, confident tonality. No personality. Nothing eccentric about them. LAME dudes. These are the type who "interview" girls and don't tease/flirt/make jokes/push-pull. Lack of friendships/relationships. A key thing to notice in a "cool…
/r/seduction03/07/18 09:54 PM
1

There is a big part of your personality that's pungent. It's repelling girls away (of course, excluding the horny Craigslister who no high-value guy would ever want to chase because they're TRASH). Your homies don't want to bang you. That's why they don't mind your personality. Furthermore, you likely act very different around your guy friends than you do around women. Again, I can't nail down what's repelling women away from you, but it's definitely a personality trait of yours.
/r/seduction03/07/18 09:16 PM
7

Your personality sucks. You got looks. Your friends like you. You’ve even had “logistics” down. But girls are repelled by you. To the point that they give you fake numbers. Not sure how much a stranger can help you behind a computer screen, but that’s a good start, my friend.
/r/seduction03/07/18 08:44 PM
3

It's a new habit you've got to adopt. Not natural to a lot of people, but definitely worth it.
/r/seduction03/07/18 05:54 PM
6

Wow, bro. Deep. Now fuck off.
/r/seduction03/07/18 05:49 PM
7

It can be a red flag, for sure. But you've got to look at the context. Is she still sleeping around like crazy? The "Any Dick Will Do" Mentality is a red flag because it shows a girl who has no value for herself + no standards. She'll be quick to betray and replace you. You're just a commodity. So no, you're not wrong for judging. When it comes to dating, you definitely want to screen out the "bad apples" who'll bring chaos/negativity into your life. If she went through a bad breakup, was young,…
/r/seduction03/07/18 04:00 PM
1

Hi -> the ask.
/r/seduction03/07/18 12:48 PM
3

I slid into the DMs recently. And it worked. With a “10”. When you slide into the DMs, she knows you’re interested. When you stalk her insta and like a few pics already, she knows you’re interested. So if you’re going to message her at all, you better be a man and get straight to the point. “We should get some drinks next week.” This will work if: she’s single and intrigued. She will be intrigued if your Instagram is on point. If not, you’re just another lame hitting her up. G’luck.
/r/seduction03/07/18 12:32 PM
90

Bruh. It’s cool. You don’t go 0 to 100 real quick in this game. It’s a build up. This is the first stage of your build up. Give yourself a pat on the back, walk with your chin up, and feel that sense of confidence you’re wanting to feel. Because it’s the start of many great things to come. 🥂 FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction03/07/18 02:33 AM
2

Your friends are exceptional. But they’re the exception to the rule. It’s possible, but uncommon. But yes — totally posible — and within reach to be a sexual, high value person in a small town. But what I’m saying is the strategy to get there is going to be different than what it is in a big city.
/r/seduction03/07/18 01:53 AM
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Yep. Here’s a good guide. The main differentiation from “gaming” in small towns versus big cities is the amount you approach. You can’t constantly cold approach in a small town. You’ve got to worry about your reputation + there’s not enough people to approach. So it’s a dead end strategy. Thus, you have to focus your efforts on building a social circle + getting into parties. This will expose you to various opportunities you otherwise wouldn’t have. Good luck! Source: I lived in a small agricult…
/r/seduction02/07/18 08:11 PM
1

Sounds like there’s a major “inner game” issue going on for you. That’s what I’m sensing. And people smell it from a mile away. Couldn’t tell you what it is from reading your post, but there’s definitely something there.
/r/seduction02/07/18 06:40 AM
1

Huh?
/r/seduction02/07/18 03:57 AM
1

Acting class. But much more relaxed. For everyone
/r/seduction02/07/18 03:00 AM
2

Try, then walk away. It could be poor social skills. It can also be them. Any guy who’s not too friendly is to be avoided. Best people to know will welcome you.
/r/seduction02/07/18 02:26 AM
9

Yes, it does take a while. But not as long as you might think. 7 weeks ago I was dumped. I’m having to build my momentum from scratch. Today, I’m meeting a new person a day. The momentum is spilling into all areas of my social life. This ain’t going to solve all your “dating” problems. So if nothing has changed for you (in a positive manner), you want to be introspective and figure out why that is.
/r/seduction01/07/18 11:07 PM
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Go back to your cave, troll. Gonna answer this anyway, for the other guys. Yes, make friends. Build new relationships. You never know where those newly forged connections will take you. I’ve been adding everyone I get along with on Instagram to stay in touch. Definitely been getting invited to a lot more things + exposed to various opportunities.
/r/seduction01/07/18 11:04 PM
1

Try Pat Stedman from patstedman.com. He's my coach and he's phenomenal. He does really, really deep work.
/r/seduction28/06/18 05:18 PM
1

🤟
/r/seduction28/06/18 02:38 AM
2

PUA shite is just dudes knowing how to be a tad more social than they’re used to, knowing how to take advantage of an opportunity, and confidence within themselves. When you get to the core of it all.
/r/seduction27/06/18 01:44 PM
3

Eye contact is the most underrated way of “approaching” ever. The shit you can do with eye contact is INSANS. So yep... totally agree
/r/seduction27/06/18 04:42 AM
1

Pickup myths. Gotta sell the nightmare to sell the dream.
/r/seduction27/06/18 02:29 AM
3

In my experience, that perception isn’t too far off. Naturally, I’m inclined to assume the worst too (I grew up in a small town filled with gangs and confrontation). But what I’ve found is that all people are generally nice. Especially if you’re chill too.
/r/seduction27/06/18 01:32 AM
1

Love this. Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction27/06/18 01:31 AM
6

My suggestion is similar to yours. Which is... get a wingman. He doesn’t have to have great game. He just has to be someone social who you can have fun with. This propelled my social momentum TONS.
/r/seduction27/06/18 01:30 AM
8

What would be some mindsets better oriented towards “introverts”?
/r/seduction26/06/18 11:36 PM
16

What mentality have you found that works better for your style, if any? I can agree with this -- but knowing myself -- I also take a FULL day at the end of the week to recharge. This helps.
/r/seduction26/06/18 10:41 PM
14

Calm your tits, bro beans. There is like 1 tactic in here.
/r/seduction26/06/18 09:34 PM
3

Nah. Fuck going for girls you aren’t attract to. I’m a man of standards. Settling for trash lowers my self esteem. Ironically, your game is getting better because you DIDN’T make a move. Advanced guys know they can get laid. They don’t have to prove it to themselves every time some girl spreads her legs. Food for thought, my friend.
/r/seduction26/06/18 04:08 AM
3

If you live in a medium sized city where there isn’t much to do and the city doesn’t have a “culture” to it, there won’t be much to do. Essentially, you’re playing “small town” game. Thus, all your efforts should be refocused on building a healthy, expansive social circle that’ll expose you to cool parties and new people. Source: I lived in a town of 70,000 people. Then went to a smaller town of 60,000 people. Before finally moving to SF. Things are much better now.
/r/seduction26/06/18 01:40 AM
3

They recommend the books assuming you’re also getting out and dating people. Don’t trash them. But read + date.
/r/seduction26/06/18 01:38 AM
1

Sounds like an incredibly boring conversation, mate. Nothing to take away from this because it’s so bland. It’s like trying to learn something from staring at a wall. There’s nothing to see.
/r/seduction26/06/18 12:01 AM
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I sense a lot of frustration in your post. And while I can give a perfectly good explanation to what Pook means in these passages, the clarity won’t help you. I can only read so much from one post — but my read is that you don’t get out much. You’re letting some book passage warp your sense of reality. And you can’t offer an argument against it. Because you haven’t gathered enough reference experiences of your own to argue anything. Get out more man. Get your heart broken. Learn a few lessons. J…
/r/seduction25/06/18 11:59 PM
1

I purchased it from the website. Not sure if it's still for sale due to the legal stuff with RSD.
/r/seduction25/06/18 10:56 PM
1

Yes. It teaches you a lot about texting. Pay close attention to the concept of "social capital" that Todd teaches you. This is key.
/r/seduction25/06/18 08:42 PM
26

“I like you. I wanna see where this goes. We should be exclusive.” Boom. Do this in person. Not over text. Don’t rush it. Or do. Whatever you want man! Either way, it’ll be a great learning experience.
/r/seduction25/06/18 06:57 PM
1

I’d argue that makes him even more of a playboy.
/r/seduction23/06/18 03:15 PM
1

By demons I mean you’ll have to look at the ugly parts of yourself (that you will be ashamed to admit you have) and then slowly work towards fixing them. If you have REALLY bad demons — it might warp your entire sense of reality. You might have to change the way you think ENTIRELY (as opposed to making one small shift). It’s all good. But it can be a trip. Source: I went through a major breakup this year and I had to rethink relationships entirely. It completely fucked with my head but major gro…
/r/seduction23/06/18 03:14 PM
4

When I moved to San Francisco three years ago, I knew nobody. On top of that, I was in a psychotic relationship I had just broken off, so I was also an emotional garbage can. Today, things are much different, and I have a healthy amount of social circles. Here are a few things I did (which I've been sharing with others on Reddit, as well): "Snapchat closed" everyone and anyone I met, even if briefly. Said “yes” to every social situation, no matter how small or lame. (I’d say this is most importa…
/r/seduction23/06/18 05:23 AM
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I love this. I hope this myth continues. It makes it less likely that consumerists will never come here. More for me and my boys who are constantly meeting tons of new (and interesting) people.
/r/seduction23/06/18 05:23 AM
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Read 6 Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Brendan. This is a topic that goes far deeper than anyone on this forum can answer. For context, this dude wrote like 4 books on self esteem. It’s his life work. But be careful. The book is deep. You might face some demons you don’t want to face. Good luck.
/r/seduction23/06/18 05:21 AM
3

The Cad Club. Pat Stedman. AJA Cortes. SiliconGangster. The Son Whisperer.
/r/seduction23/06/18 02:56 AM
1

Pat Stedman.
/r/seduction23/06/18 02:51 AM
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If I’m in a bar with some friends and someone says something funny, I’m doing anything but looking around. I’m enjoying the moment. I’m fully present of what’s in front of me. My energy brings others in. I open people around me when my energy is high — whether or not I know if they’re into me or not. Looking for signals incessantly takes you away from the moment. It makes you the guy who’s anxiously looking around, while everyone else seems to be having more fun. Stay present. FYI: I recently st…
/r/seduction23/06/18 02:50 AM
9

That sounds about right. With 80% of women you meet, things will lead nowhere. With 20% of women you meet, things will be magical. Yes, that’s even if you’ve got an incredible personality. (Note: his is also true for online dating, where only 1/10 matches will lead to a date, roughly.) Keep analyzing where you can be stronger, but also give yourself a pat on the back. You’re doing well.
/r/seduction21/06/18 12:18 AM
2

When I was leveraging Snapchat to land dates, one of the things I learned is that people love messages that are "relevant" to them. One of the things you can do is pay attention to what the girl posts on her Story, then send her a message relevant to her interests. I call this the "Personalized" approach. It's a way to get someone's attention, without coming across as needy. Best of luck!
/r/seduction20/06/18 05:32 PM
6

So what happened? How could guys with more experience, confidence, wit, and looks be shot down by the most in-demand women in the area? And how could someone like me (who lacks in these certain areas) succeed when such smooth ladies-men fail? It all has to do with patience. These guys failed because they came on entirely too strong, too fast. After a couple of dates, they wanted to marry the person. Though they were smooth, they could not hold back their desire for a girlfriend. The women sensed…
/r/seduction31/05/18 03:23 PM
2

You’re angry AND negative. I can smell your toxicity from here. STOP. Quit calling girls “bitches” or anything remotely similar. High quality women won’t stand for that asshair bullshit. Hold yourself to a higher standard, quit acting like a “fuck boy”, and begin acting like a man with ethics. Do those things and I guarantee you’ll attract a higher caliber of women. Top notch girls are incredible selectors. Trust. And they can smell your bullshit better than I can. Until you become better, you’l…
/r/seduction31/05/18 02:08 AM
1

There’s a big comeback coming. I went through a huge life change. Big revival. Huge insights. Guys are going to learn some shit.
/r/seduction31/05/18 01:18 AM
1

It’s not about looking good. It’s about presenting yourself well. Post anything you can tell a good story about. People will perceive you better for it.
/r/seduction31/05/18 12:08 AM
9

Yes. 100x You’re the product. Instagram is your marketing and sales. Use it wisely and girls will come to YOU. Source: I wrote the book on social media for pickup and actively use Instagram for my endeavors.
/r/seduction30/05/18 09:10 PM
7

HAHAHAHAHAHA
/r/seduction30/05/18 07:53 PM
1

No.
/r/seduction26/05/18 05:12 PM
1

Message her. Read part 3 of my Snapchat Guide to Game for specific ways to go about it. Good luck.
/r/seduction26/05/18 05:11 PM
16

“Negs” is just an outdated term for being playful, making light jokes/teases, and showing the fun side of your personality. When you think of it like that, yes.. negs TOTALLY matter, Best to have them than not. When they come from a secure, confident person... they’re magic. Throw negs. Throw serious comments. Be serious. Be playful. Be kind. Be immature. A well-rounded personality is tasteful.
/r/seduction25/05/18 07:25 PM
1

Nah, you can't be a fat fuck and expect people to be receptive to your advances. In shape? Healthy? These are powerful signs of "preselection". They give positive cues to your recipients. It doesn't solve for a lack of game. But it'll make things a hell of a lot easier. Looks open the door. Game gets you in. TLDR: Just hit the gym already, bro. You really asked?
/r/seduction24/05/18 08:56 PM
1

That’s preferable. Pick one platform and go all out on it. Cheers.
/r/seduction24/05/18 12:24 AM
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If you're looking for ways to easily spark conversations with any girl on Instagram, I'd highly recommend this book. I wrote it because I was meeting tons of girls on Tinder (and then following up with them on Snapchat or Instagram). It was a successful strategy. There are definitely ways to market yourself so that she talks to you, as well. Best of luck!
/r/seduction23/05/18 11:06 PM
1

Once you begin to see results, you realize it's a fun process. I'd say the time commitment is no more than 20-30 minutes accumulated throughout the week. This strategy is especially effective if you're using Tinder/Bumble, as well. Just a thought.
/r/seduction23/05/18 09:35 PM
1

How to use Snapchat and Instagram to land more dates + hangouts with girls. I wrote the book, so feel free to ask me any question. This is the marketing piece of "game". The "selling". Lots of guys have "good product". They've learned confidence, self-esteem, etc. But they suck at marketing or selling themselves. Gotta have both.
/r/seduction23/05/18 09:23 PM
6

It's easier said than done, too. Sometimes, you will want to have that "easy lay" for the validation boost or out of pure horniness. That's okay. But don't engage in it. Be detached. When you're looking for something more casual and consistent with a girl, be on the look out for the following: Good conversation and chemistry. Good health and takes care of her body (or at least tries). No major insecurities or instabilities in her emotion. Positive friendships with others (men and women + parents…
/r/seduction23/05/18 09:10 PM
8

I consciously and actively pick only the best girls. I think of myself as an investor. I don't pick bad accounts. High-quality women (top notch in looks, health, smarts, etc.) are great selectors too. They don't pick bad accounts. I know that if I consistently settle for less, I'm signaling to the outside world that I'm worth less. Energy exists. What you consistently engage in is what you will attract. Don't settle for less. Hold yourself to a high standard. It builds your self-esteem incredibl…
/r/seduction23/05/18 09:06 PM
7

Friendships and positive relationships are an indicator of status. When girls recognize this, it signals to their brain, "Hey, this guy must be cool and normal." It's a form of preselection. Which is VERY important to have in the dating market. (Followed by a good personality, good "game", etc.) You don't feel that way about girls because men are more focused on the physical. The cues we look for initially are a lot simpler.
/r/seduction23/05/18 05:10 PM
1

I wrote a book on how to use social media to spark conversations and grow relationships. I specifically wrote about social media because it’s a big pond where “all the fish are”. People are constantly checking their Instagram and Snapchat, so if you know how to hack it in your favor, the results can be incredible. Each chapter has action items anybody can do. Let me know if you have further questions.
/r/seduction23/05/18 02:38 PM
18

I like this. I really do. Many of these points are pure gold. I agree with all points except point #1. Freedom isn’t free. And the best knowledge isn’t free. This year, I hired a relationship coach. Specifically, I hired Pat Stedman (google him). His coaching was top notch. And pricey. But the insights I learned were deeper than anything some random blog was going to give me. I made LEAPS. And the reason I state this is because I don’t want some young guy to be reluctant to invest in himself in …
/r/seduction23/05/18 08:00 AM
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These type of questions scream, "I care what others think of me. I don't want others to think less of me." Always be authentic. Always be honest. Always be fully accepting and confident of yourself. When you play that game, it doesn't matter what comes out of your mouth. You'll win and you'll attract equally attractive people. Liars, game-players, insecure men attract the worst type of girls. Don't play that game. PS: You have a self-esteem issue.
/r/seduction22/05/18 09:52 PM
8

That’s why I said it.
/r/seduction22/05/18 08:44 PM
1

This book It's the only book that teaches you how to effectively use social media to grow your social circle and get more dates. It includes real-world examples, case studies, and action items at the end of every chapter. Let me know if you've got questions. Im the author.
/r/seduction22/05/18 08:29 PM
3

Part of it was that she thoroughly enjoys her independence. That's the good part. The other part of her is avoidant. She's afraid of intimacy and "giving" herself to someone. This is called an "avoidant attachment style". After digging deeper, she's not single because of her strengths. But because of her weaknesses. It took some time to talk this through.
/r/seduction22/05/18 08:25 PM
10

Newb post. If you’re overly worried about whether you’re alpha or beta, you already lost. Old paradigm.
/r/seduction22/05/18 08:03 PM
2

100% right. Thank you for the perspective.
/r/seduction22/05/18 07:48 PM
3

I think when people ask this type of question, they're asking to dig deep. Thus, it should be authentic and vulnerable, but confident. I've got a friend who's single and I asked something similar. I can't figure out why she's chosen to be single when she's such a catch. When I asked the question, it was because I truly wanted to know about her. It was introspective. This is the type of question asked but that isn't anybody's business. They don't have to ask it. But the fact that it's asked says …
/r/seduction22/05/18 07:14 PM
3

She's desperate for validation and attention. I can bet $100 you're not the only guy on her roster. The best way to deal with these type of girls is two ways: 1) Consistently make them feel "special". It's their ego. But you MUST be very "high value" yourself (otherwise you're another scrub). 2). Ignore. These type of girls lack depth and will suck you into their world. Guys with high standards + values don't typically involve themselves with these type of girls. Good luck.
/r/seduction22/05/18 06:29 PM
0

Tinder.
/r/seduction22/05/18 05:58 PM
5

Text this: "Hey, it's [YOUR NAME], the guy from [RESTAURANT] who laughed at your joke. Drinks sometime this week?" Your job with these type of opportunities isn't to win them over. They've already picked you. Your job is to not screw it up. Good luck. :-) PS: Also, be immediate. Don't wait because you're afraid to come across as "needy" or "lame".
/r/seduction22/05/18 05:38 PM
53

The subcommunication behind this question is: "You're interesting. You seem to have your shit together. How is it that someone hasn't 'caught' you yet?" It's not a shit test. They're asking you out of curiosity (the good type of curiosity). A good response would be genuine and thoughtful. A moment to be real and vulnerable. EDIT: I want to go into more detail about why I gave OP this answer (and any guy in similar shoes). It sounds like OP is seeing a few girls or at least doesn't "struggle" wit…
/r/seduction22/05/18 05:13 PM
1

Why’d you delete this man? I could say so much on this topic. Lots has changed since age 17-25 for me.
/r/seduction20/05/18 05:00 PM
10

I think it's great to be aware of the "slimy, seedy, manipulative" side of seduction. Not because anyone should use it, but because then you can avoid it and be more ethical. Girls use "game" too, btw. Not in the same way as guys, but if you're aware of ways YOU can be seduced as a guy, you can avoid it too. Girls who use game as a "mask" to hide their baggage are extremely important to avoid. Especially as you become ready to commit to a relationship.
/r/seduction18/05/18 12:00 AM
1

I don't know how old you are, but you've just learned an incredibly valuable lesson. Screen your women. There's an array of red flags this girl is expressing. The first is a horrendous upbringing. The second is an abusive ex-boyfriend. When you analyze these situations -- and ask what impact they'd have on her persona -- it's not hard to see why she's a bad fucking pick. Move on. I'm happy for you. This relationship with your ex could've been drawn out for months or even YEARS. It's not you. It'…
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:18 PM
1

RSD Free Tours are solid. Really great energy. Also attended Todd's "Opening Mastery" two years ago. Life changing stuff. It beats reading a book or watching a YouTube video.
/r/seduction15/05/18 09:17 PM
5

The reason why this direct, hard-hitting openers can work so well on Tinder is that everyone there is already a "qualified lead". They're ready to meet new people and engage in something. I commonly use the simple line, "Drinks next week?", and it works well. Keep it simple. Keep it direct. You will win. -SnapSocialGuru
/r/seduction11/05/18 08:04 PM
1

Text Machine is far superior. It's a game changer, IMO.
/r/seduction07/05/18 05:33 PM
10

This is a great question. I’m gonna go deep, so brace yourself. What a lot of guys don’t realize is that when they consciously (and many times this is also subconsciously) decide to play “games”, they also attract a certain type of girl (usually one with her own immaturity issues, no matter how psychically appealing she might be). When you attract crappy girls, you deal with crappy problems. The best type of girls you can attract are good selectors. They won’t fall for bullshit. To elevate yours…
/r/seduction21/04/18 05:20 AM
3

Her being single. Her replying to your texts and being DEEPLY engaged with you. No inconsistency. Not merely being a little touchy but also OK spending long amounts of time with you OUTSIDE of class. Think dinner, study sessions at your place, chillin at the park, etc. You’re a classmate bro. A cool classmate, but at the end of it all, just a classmate.
/r/seduction21/04/18 02:05 AM
3

She was never interested. It sounds like she was being friendly and wanted a classmate. At times it sounds like she was being a tad flirtatious, but no clear signs of interest. Move on and don’t look back. She’s emotionally unavailable.
/r/seduction21/04/18 01:51 AM
1

I'm just too chicken shit to escalate. That's your problem. You're a little bitch. All talk, no walk. Sorry man, don't mean to be brutal. But it's true.
/r/seduction20/04/18 11:31 PM
0

What I've yet to figure out.
/r/seduction20/04/18 10:46 PM
1

I'd say this thread should be off-limits to you. It makes zero sense and not a problem you're even close to facing. To worry about this stuff will be a detriment to you at this stage of your self-development. If you're a "vet", have banged many girls, and have similar issues as OP, this is something that deserves serious introspection.
/r/seduction20/04/18 10:22 PM
6

I was going to suggest that same book. It's a scary road to go down. To your last point, a therapist wouldn't be a bad idea. A relationship coach would be a great idea. Engaging in deeper relationships (aka try banging 1-5 girls in one year, instead of 20-50) and reading books on attachment styles would be very good. This trial and error will fix a lot. Nothing like a few breakups to rock your world. It might be a lot of pain, but it can be solved. It's not an overnight thing. Not even close. As…
/r/seduction20/04/18 09:50 PM
17

Game doesn't have to be a numbers game. At some point, most guys hit the quality > quantity point. They realized that getting laid was easy. Predictable. It was no longer fulfilling. Most guys, especially as they age, decide they want a deeper, more fulfilling relationship. They begin to work on their confidence and insecurities. They begin to attract higher quality women in their lives. It sounds like you never took the time to TRULY work on your inner game. And no, "pulling" doesn't solve ever…
/r/seduction20/04/18 09:08 PM
1

Yeah. Maybe try not taking a downer before you go out and socialize. Especially if you’re a newb.
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:39 PM
6

It looks like she wants to hangout. Quit overthinking it. Make it work on a weekday.
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:38 PM
2

"Apparently". I think you should go out, try a few things, then report back. It's clear you don't have much experience. Simply putting yourself out there and making a few mistakes will solve 50% of your problems. If there's "tension" -- and she likes you -- the tension is welcomed. There is no discomfort. Just bliss. Like a movie.
/r/seduction20/04/18 12:09 AM
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Take her for a drink anywhere, bro. Quit overthinking it. It doesn't have to be perfect. It just has to happen. PS: As much as we all like getting laid, it's probably not best to think about how badly you want to "smoosh". Especially if you haven't even hung out, yet. She'll know you're coming with an agenda. She'll read the thirst it in your behaviors. Don't think three steps ahead. Just stay focused on the interaction and have fun.
/r/seduction20/04/18 12:03 AM
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I haven't found out how to channel anxiety into confidence. But what I have learned is that there are "mental tools" that will transform the way you think. This is something I learned once I began seeing a therapist (rough breakup and I wanted to bounce back healthy). Here are some recommendations I have: If you have insurance, go visit a therapist. They're incredibly affordable and life-changing. The benefit largely outweighs the cost. Purchase this book. It's the #1 book recommended by therapi…
/r/seduction17/04/18 06:52 PM
4

Great source. Very reliable.
/r/seduction14/04/18 05:52 AM
5

You live under a rock bro.
/r/seduction14/04/18 03:58 AM
3

Are they?
/r/seduction14/04/18 03:12 AM
2

RSD is a business. Max is a highly in-demand person. They're asking questions to make sure you're a good fit for the mentorship program. Not because they're trying to alienate you. This is to avoid wasting your time/money on a high-end product that isn't a good fit for you. It's also because they can't afford to waste time on crappy students. Every consultancy and serious business does this. This wasn't out of line. In fact, it's probably smart. Source: I work in sales.
/r/seduction28/03/18 11:23 PM
1

Don’t troll me bro.
/r/seduction26/03/18 03:55 PM
5

You don’t like my italics and bold font?
/r/seduction25/03/18 09:25 PM
2

Is this a shit test?
/r/seduction25/03/18 09:25 PM
2

I haven’t paid for a boot camp. But I have paid for premium coaching services of other sorts. And here’s my take: they’re worth it. The coaches see people from all walks of life and have learned how to address their needs. Talk to a few. Do a free consultation with them first. See if it’s a match. It’s likely you’ll come out far better.
/r/seduction24/03/18 06:45 PM
1

Really bad comparison considering most corporate training courses suck ass.
/r/seduction24/03/18 06:44 PM
1

I would.
/r/seduction24/03/18 07:03 AM
2

Love this. Always a great contributor to this community. Thank you.
/r/seduction20/03/18 12:31 AM
5

This is fucking awesome. Makes me admire the guy even more. All odds stacked against him and the dude still overcomes. Slayer.
/r/seduction19/03/18 03:05 PM
2

All good man. I’m not the smoothest guy on the web but I’ve got a few brag worthy stories up my sleeve. I can tell you that you only get to this level by fucking up so many times. Like, you have to learn to enjoy the screw ups you make. Because the next time you’re in a place of opportunity, you’ll know exactly how to capitalize. You’ll refine, refine, and refine your methods and technique over time. But that refinement doesn’t come without fuck ups, lost chances, mistakes, etc. Sounds totally c…
/r/seduction19/03/18 01:59 AM
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It’s a different way of thinking and perceiving what you’re doing. If tomorrow someone walks outside feeling more encouraged to practice their social or seduction skills, it’s a win. That’s the aim of this post. Practicality is subjective. But I know that when I discovered the subtle difference between “practicing” my skills versus intentionally looking to impress someone in hopes of them liking me... my way of being completely changed. I also could’ve said this entire response as “Maybe, maybe …
/r/seduction19/03/18 12:09 AM
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100%. Now that I’m hearing everyone’s input on him, I think he’s even more impressive. Dude did a lot purely with his social skills.
/r/seduction18/03/18 08:51 PM
1

Yes! How’d you know?
/r/seduction18/03/18 08:50 PM
5

I practice my writing daily. Not always where I want it to be. But the style is laid back and casual because his usually goes to my subscribers who I know and converse with on a more intimate, daily basis.
/r/seduction18/03/18 07:02 PM
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😂
/r/seduction18/03/18 07:01 PM
10

Indeed. Evolution of your game. I’m personally at the point where I’m still consciously doing t but I’m no time it’ll be 100% natural self amusement.
/r/seduction18/03/18 07:01 PM
3

Very powerful quote. Love love love the idea of submitting. Not always trying to be the conquerer. Value in both, depending on the situation.
/r/seduction18/03/18 06:57 PM
2

This is part 2 to the post which I sent to my email subscribers. Love the idea of consciously (and tangible value) practicing your seduction skills so much that I wanted to share it here Strippers have people skills out the wazoo, and are extremely good at making an average schlub wandering in feel like he's the President or something. In short, being in a strip club makes a man feel important in the ways he wants to feel important and rarely does. The other day I was talking to you about Casano…
/r/seduction18/03/18 06:51 PM
3

Throw it back in her court. "Are you down to link up or not? You seem cool, but I don't want wishy-washiness." Or, you can totally disqualify her and let her know you're not interested in anything remotely serious. "I am in a place to have extreme amounts of fun and seeing what happens. Are you up for it or nah?" I'm 25 years old man. I'm an adult with a career and bills. I'm personally not going to up with a lot of B.S. anymore. She's either interested in me or not. No wishy-washiness, games, o…
/r/seduction15/03/18 05:58 PM
1

What would make you terrified to use this? (Curious, not hatin’.)
/r/seduction14/03/18 05:21 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/seduction08/03/18 09:23 PM
1

Happy to help.
/r/seduction08/03/18 08:31 PM
20

I'm going to launch a PDF that has every important and life-altering resource I've accessed. 7-years worth of important resources since I've embarked on the journey at age 17. If there's enough interest for something like this, I'll do it. It'll be lots of work. But I'll do it.
/r/seduction08/03/18 07:28 PM
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No, fuck you, I’m not giving you any suggestions. Just kidding, come here. I love you. — Silly ass basic example of push pull. It’s a flirting technique meant to bump up the chemistry. Don’t overthink it amigo.
/r/seduction08/03/18 04:19 PM
3

Excellent point.
/r/seduction08/03/18 02:26 AM
21

We call that "Parrot Game" in the pickup community. It's a common phenomenon, and a lot of guys purchase parrots nowadays. Highly encourage you to do the same.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:35 PM
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I wrote a major article on this last week. It came with a one-pager you can print and take anywhere with you. Take a look.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:33 PM
3

RSD is arguably the top pickup company in the world. Naturally, they will attract a few haters who make strange claims. Quite frankly, I don't care about Tyler's lay count and I find it to be a poor metric to measure success. Many people here learned a tremendous amount and reached significant improvements purely from RSD's free videos. Thus, the results of their students speak for themselves. (BTW: Anytime you're looking to invest in a company's pickup program and course, take a look at the suc…
/r/seduction06/03/18 10:27 PM
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I wanted to write this guide for guys who are really just starting off. When you're dealing with various types of personalities and looking to analyze them (Todd calls these "blueprints"), you're beginning to get into more nitty-gritty stuff. I think what you mention in your response about shy girls is spot-on. But it's not something I'd bring up to a beginner who just wants to wet his beak. I've found simplicity to be a great way to operate when it comes to social and dating skills. I wanted to…
/r/seduction05/03/18 07:56 PM
5

Thanks man.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:55 PM
3

Thanks brotha. 🙏 Cheers.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:17 PM
1

Exactly this. The philosophy that people are just people is an awesome one. When you recognize we’re all just “one”, as meta as that sounds, a weight of anxiety is taken off your shoulders. Lastly this post is all about the interaction with a girl who ALREADY likes you. I’d speak to your coach about approaching because that’s a whole other playing field with different dynamics.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:10 PM
3

PM me for my Venmo.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:01 PM
4

God bless.
/r/seduction05/03/18 06:09 AM
4

I love to talk. There are definitely other posts here who are more precise and sharp.
/r/seduction05/03/18 05:24 AM
5

Haha! I had a shot and I blew it.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:23 AM
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I’m sorry that you didn’t find this useful. I’m hoping some people do though.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:15 AM
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Well put and I think the big emphasis is it has to be a “light negative”. In fact, you should probably start small with this, especially if you’re less experienced. More advanced guys reading this have probably done things like pretend they’re getting up to walk away, and the girl will grab their arm and say, “No wait”. Start small. Once you master the push-pull thing you can have more fun with it (and afford to be more extravagant with it).
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:02 AM
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Haha, someone always has to point out the typos. Edited. Thanks man.
/r/seduction05/03/18 03:55 AM
5

Yep. That’s what I’m referring to. LTRs. Single life where she’s equally attractive (physically and mentally),,, Can’t get mad if she has a roster. It’s a “free market”, as /u/Todd-Valentine says in his relationship manifesto.
/r/seduction03/03/18 05:41 AM
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Jealousy. The idea of her meeting someone she likes more or who has better “game” than me. One of the deepest and most difficult insecurities to handle.
/r/seduction03/03/18 05:01 AM
1

PUA will do far more than "get you girls". It'll vastly improve your people skills and social intelligence, too. I think Julien Blanc's worldwide fiasco fucked shit up. I also think Mystery's show on VH1 (years ago) showed a pre-mature pickup community. It's also easy to "hate" on a skill that many people think should come naturally. To admit that you need help "attracting women and getting more dates" takes a lot of bravery. IRL, try admitting you've read a book on dating skills. See what peopl…
/r/seduction02/03/18 11:33 PM
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Postpone it until Sunday evening when my new post comes out. Dead serious.
/r/seduction02/03/18 09:49 PM
2

Rich Gang - Tapout Especially lil Wayne’s verse.
/r/seduction02/03/18 03:51 PM
4

I took one of /u/Todd-Valentine ‘s in person events. It was called “Opening Mastery”. Cost only $127 and a few hours long. Man, absolutely best PUA content I’ve ever consumed. Worth every dollar. So I back up this statement.
/r/seduction01/03/18 11:38 PM
2

Only the best kind. No, but typically an equally friendly or receptive response. It usually sparks a conversation that I can work with.
/r/seduction27/02/18 07:31 PM
1

Have you seen this book? It’s a best seller. For almost two decades. Surprise! Women and men aren’t too different. We’re all just people. And we all want the same thing: sex, love, companionship. Understand that powerful desire and your game will be good.
/r/seduction27/02/18 05:10 PM
4

Get a coach. I rarely recommend that. But get a coach. Get someone who can give you in-person feedback and see what you're doing wrong. We can't help you. One can only help you so much through a computer screen.
/r/seduction27/02/18 05:51 AM
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One of the things that opened my eyes is that women want to be desired by men My best opener on Tinder is... "There she is." It works because it makes girls feel special. Like you were actually waiting for them to "swipe right" too. Despite how many girls they knew you were potentially talking to.
/r/seduction27/02/18 05:48 AM
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Amen. Jesus.
/r/seduction27/02/18 03:35 AM
2

Hang in there. Life happens for you, not to you. Everything is for a reason.
/r/seduction27/02/18 02:38 AM
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The biggest things I see with new guys is "impatience". This will be your #1 demoralizer, so look out for it. You'll want quick wins. You'll want quick results. But when you've been an anti-social nerd for 19.5 days (or 7,117 days)... it's going to take a while to grow out of that. So be patient. Do small, baby steps daily. In a year, you'll be icy. Swear.
/r/seduction27/02/18 02:37 AM
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"It's always greener on the other side." By the way, MANY guys have thoughts like this. You're in a relationship and think to yourself, "Man, it'd be so much better to be single." Then you're single and you wish you had an intimate companion you could fall back on. It's the cycles of game. Sometimes you're ready for companionship. Other times you're hungry and you want to hunt. Embrace whichever stage you're at.
/r/seduction26/02/18 07:43 PM
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Dump your girlfriend. And be single. You're clearly not in a position to seriously date someone when you also have a voice inside telling you to "bang more chicks". You don't need counseling or serious help. You just need a little maturity and discipline.
/r/seduction26/02/18 07:02 PM
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I love OG Pollard. And I love your responses. I’ve expressed that many times (and always upvote because you’re on point). But I’m also for living within the social constructs set in front of us. Yes, 100% do whatever the fuck you want. And fuck anyone else’s opinion. But, “flex your style” within reason. It has to be done in a socially intelligent way. Else, you risk outcasting yourself. There’s a fine balance to this. I’ll tell my son this.
/r/seduction26/02/18 06:49 AM
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Dead.
/r/seduction26/02/18 05:06 AM
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Think of a rapper with gold chains going to shop at a Walmart. Or a 75-year-old man going dancing at a popular night club. You’d stick out like a sore thumb. When it comes to social and dating scenes, you want to blend in. Not stick out. There are various other places to meet smart, interesting people. You don’t have to creep around a college campus and hit on people who aren’t interested to accomplish that.
/r/seduction26/02/18 05:05 AM
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Looks matter. They aren’t everything. But they matter. Here’s a list of a few other things that matter too.
/r/seduction25/02/18 06:54 PM
2

I’m all about testing the waters. In other words, making small advancements to “test” if they’re into me before I confidently make a “big move” It sounds like you’re in a position where you’d like to do the same (or else you risk ruining a great dynamic you’ve got going). Here’s a post I wrote a year ago on the topic . There’s definitely a time and place to be more direct/aggressive. But more subtle and passive methods can work great too.
/r/seduction25/02/18 06:51 PM
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I wrote about this earlier in the year. Here’s some baby steps I did throughout the year: Made eye contact with anyone on the street. Held eye contact with anyone for 2-3 seconds. Practiced a small smile in the mirror. Began smiling at people I made eye contact with. Began saying hi or hello to people at stores, cashiers, baristas, etc. Made small talk with people in line. As you can see, everything added up. The small momentum grew into a big snowball. It’s slow. This all took me roughly a year…
/r/seduction24/02/18 08:47 PM
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/r/Nicegirls
/r/seduction24/02/18 08:43 PM
1

Hey man, welcome back!
/r/seduction22/02/18 12:16 AM
5

This is a really positive way of looking at online game. 110% agree with your last sentence as well. The more reference experience you can gather = the sharper your pickup skills + people skills become.
/r/seduction21/02/18 04:22 PM
2

You.
/r/seduction15/02/18 10:27 PM
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I like female friends. There are many benefits to having female friends. They have other friends. Friends she can introduce to you. Friends who are probably attractive. Friends who you can bring along to parties for social proof. Friends who will teach you how to be comfortable with feminine presence. Female friends are cool. You don't have to bang every girl you meet. Shocker, I know.
/r/seduction15/02/18 10:19 PM
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I was in your shoes two years ago when I moved to San Francisco. I was working 9 to 5 + hitting the gym + commuting. Then, I'd hit the hay by 9:30 PM (which always came very quickly and it always felt like time was slipping away from me). I ended up going on 40+ dates that year and met an amazing girl who's still my gf today. (my longest relationship yet). Here's what I recommend to any guy in your shoes who's got little time to spare for pickup/dating: Use Tinder/Bumble as a supplement. The ben…
/r/seduction14/02/18 01:12 AM
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Good wine, my own place, and a huge list of cool bars and restaurants to check out (thanks, Yelp!).
/r/seduction13/02/18 09:09 PM
1

Thank you. I’m glad to hear this helped. Best of luck in your journey.
/r/seduction13/02/18 01:29 PM
2

When it comes to relationships, you should accommodate. At least when it comes to small things that cost you nothing. Your girlfriend isn't telling you to "text her more". She's telling you, "Hey, I enjoy hearing from you. I'm feeling a tad ignored at times. Can you make me feel better?" Perfectly normal (especially after 1-2 hours of not texting, if you two text often enough). Change it if it's little or no cost to you. Don't change it if it's a massive character change or value. This is a rela…
/r/seduction13/02/18 01:11 AM
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I feel like an outcast and noting to do on weekends I think your feelings of being an "outcast" is going to deteriorate your confidence and that will spill onto other aspects of the relationship. This is what can kill attraction over time. Drastically. I'd encourage any guy in a relationship to keep a good handle of on other aspects of their life (career, health, social circle, hobbies). Not because your "girlfriend will dump you" if you don't engage in those things, but because you'll lose your…
/r/seduction12/02/18 08:48 PM
1

Good to know. Appreciate it.
/r/seduction11/02/18 12:59 AM
2

Something unique about having the soft cover in your hands and analyzing the text though!
/r/seduction11/02/18 12:55 AM
1

Found the book on [amazon]((https://www.amazon.com/dp/0375761179/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_c_api_O62FAb0BDM8JD) in case any other fellow nerds want to go down the rabbit hole. Definitely going to study it.
/r/seduction10/02/18 10:15 PM
1

This is an AWESOME resource. Holy shit. No idea this existed or that the pickup stuff went this far back. Wonder if we can find something even earlier (early 1900s?).
/r/seduction10/02/18 09:09 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction04/02/18 03:48 PM
2

At the top of my head: http://go.howtotalktoanybody.com And https://www.textanddatesmachine.com/buy/
/r/seduction01/02/18 05:45 AM
2

I’ve purchased many courses (over $5,000 worth), but the RSD courses were always the worst. Crappy customer service. General information inside the courses that were put together last minute. Their YouTube videos are better. I do however recommend Text Machine by /u/Todd-Valentine If he’s active on Reddit maybe he can reply here and let you know if he can still distribute that course (since he left rsd).
/r/seduction01/02/18 05:06 AM
2

Read. Go outside. Reflect. Repeat.
/r/seduction01/02/18 05:04 AM
5

Read in between the lines. It’s a super power.
/r/seduction27/01/18 06:31 AM
5

I think the idea of "learning pickup skills" get a lot of hate. (And Julien Blanc's fiasco with the media certainly didn't help the community get a positive look.) However, learning dating skills, people skills, and successful relationship management skills are crucial to happiness and success. I think we live in a society that tells us "we should" know this stuff or it should come naturally. But if it were that easy, divorce rates probably wouldn't be so high in America. It's a valuable skill j…
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:21 PM
4

This is really good. Simple, but good. Thanks for sharing, mate.
/r/seduction25/01/18 07:33 PM
1

That’s a social circle, even if small. I wasn’t referring to how BIG your social circle is or how popular you are. I also don’t recommend in engaging in “futile” interactions. It also doesn’t make sense to be a part of things that aren’t “fun” (aka that you don’t find enjoyable). A solid circle can be 2-3 close friends and your family members. That’s my boat. Many acquaintances I can plug into for parties, events, opportunities. Family members and close friends for support, love, and well-being.
/r/seduction25/01/18 06:16 PM
2

I hope you’re able to oversee a small error and can understand the bigger point that was being made about mindset and inner-beliefs.
/r/seduction24/01/18 11:39 PM
1

You should look into books, as well. Howard Roark from The Fountainhead would be an exceptional example for your studies.
/r/seduction23/01/18 09:58 PM
2

I don't expect to get with her but I want her to know what she's missing. No offense, but I don't think she's missing out on anything. It's clear that you care far too much about your reputation and whether you come across as "beta" or "alpha". (By the way, nobody outside the pickup community cares about that crap of being an "alpha male". It's of zero importance.) In fact, she does not even notice your bitterness. Get over it and move on. Ask yourself what you can do to improve your game - not …
/r/seduction23/01/18 05:34 PM
3

Yes. But I'm curious, what have you done to learn this topic so far? What have you read? What books or products have you purchased?
/r/seduction23/01/18 05:27 PM
2

The answer to your first question is accept it and fully focus on improving the other aspects of yourself which you can control. However, your second question tells me you’re putting far too much emphasis and worry on your looks. Game in whichever way you’d like but just do it. As far as your third question, that’s fine and normal. We all have our down days. I do have a resource on this. Give me one second to find it. edit: read the BONUS mindset in this post.
/r/seduction23/01/18 01:06 AM
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You’re right. All knowledge and epiphanies must be backed up by action. Although, I’d disagree that there is no roadmap to certain successes. Certain plans, strategies, and game plays work. They work so well that success becomes highly predictable. I go into this in my book which I plan to publish in a few months. But certain successes aren’t accidents. They’re meticulously planned and executed (while still having fun).
/r/seduction23/01/18 01:02 AM
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Can’t every guy do what, exactly? Access to the hottest girls is independent of who you are as a person. You can have all of these qualities in the post. But if you live in Small Town, USA, it doesn’t matter. You’re going to need to be somewhere that has access to “Vegas Playmates”. If that’s what you’re into.
/r/seduction22/01/18 10:49 PM
2

Great points. You don't have to be muscular, but being an actual healthy weight (not just "Not overweight.") helps tremendously.
/r/seduction22/01/18 08:17 PM
1

Thanks man. I appreciate you giving me your attention. These posts take some time to think out, write, edit, format. Glad to see everyone is liking it thus far.
/r/seduction22/01/18 08:07 PM
1

Thanks man!
/r/seduction22/01/18 07:56 PM
1

First and foremost, it's tough. But it can be done. I moved to San Francisco almost three years ago and had to start my social circle + dating life from scratch. I recommend this resource.
/r/seduction22/01/18 06:54 PM
1

Interesting. I didn't realize there was a behavioral/evolutionary aspect to this. Good to know (and probably something I should look into more to validate my theories). Really love your point about "checkpoints", as well, to gauge interest. I call it "testing the waters" and have found it to be crucial to reading other people.
/r/seduction22/01/18 05:21 PM
1

Glad I can help!
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:56 PM
2

Thanks man. Greatly appreciate your feedback and endorsement. I put a lot of time into these posts.
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:45 PM
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Your situation is interesting. I’ve seen it play out a few times with other people. Luckily you’re aware and observant of what’s going on. At some point or another, you will have to practice “filtering” yourself. Although it’s less about filtering yourself and more about social intelligence. For example, a comedian doesn’t go on stage and just start telling whichever jokes HE thinks are funny. He tells the jokes he’s tested before and which he knows work. In other words, he knows his audience an…
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:35 PM
2

Mine too. I just ran a mile and now I’m headed to the hustle.
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:24 PM
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😉
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:24 PM
1

Thank you. I strive to explain tough concepts in a simple manner. It’s a challenge but it helps everyone learn better.
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:22 PM
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You’re*
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:31 PM
1

Thanks amigo. 🤙 this one took me a long time to write so I appreciate everyone’s interest.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:28 PM
5

I upvoted you just to make your day a little better.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:28 PM
1

Correct. Thank you!
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:27 PM
0

That means a ton to me. It took me a week to finalize this post + Edit for Reddit. Thank you.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:27 PM
2

Thanks for reading. And absolutely correct: people are complex.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:26 PM
1

I’m saying take care of your appearance because it’s going to have a big impact on your confidence. It’ll also have a big impact on the way people perceive you. I’ll dare say that looks alone won’t attract a majority of girls.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:25 PM
14

Really really fascinating way of putting it. Thank you. Learned a new concept. 😎
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:21 PM
1

Happy to help, man. Glad you enjoyed it.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:19 PM
1

Keep at it. It’s a constant work of art.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:18 PM
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There are no affiliate links in this post.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:18 PM
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Thanks for reading. It means a lot to me. I am NEVER nervous what I say anymore. I’m quick witted, have great banter, and can overall hold great conversation. My ability to have good conversation comes in clutch A LOT. The CAVEAT to all of this, however, is that I’m not always secure in who I am as a person. I might feel “weaker” or “below” the person I’m speaking with, at times, depending who it is (or depending on the day when I have a lot of shit bothering me). In those moments, I accept it a…
/r/seduction22/01/18 06:20 AM
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🤫😉
/r/seduction22/01/18 05:12 AM
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I believe it man. You sound like a pretty cool dude. And this again proves my first point about being likable. If you’re a truly solid person, people will oversee a lot of things. Good stuff man.
/r/seduction22/01/18 05:12 AM
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Thanks for reading. Excited to hear others can relate with this stuff. Otherwise I’d be weirded out by myself. 😅
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:35 AM
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Great question. The answer to this will be different for everyone. It can be many things. It can be a reflection of things such as a lack of trust, lack of empathy, maybe you’re an asshole, lack of interpersonal skills, betrayal, excessive hubris, etc. An example would be an ex-girlfriend for example. I dated her and observed that she had bad relationships with many other girls. Nobody seemed to like her. Drama drama drama. I overlooked the red flag because she was attractive. But that signal, w…
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:34 AM
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Really well put man.
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:23 AM
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No harsh feelings man, I appreciate your insights. 🤙
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:11 AM
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Not male friends exclusively. I’m speaking relationships in general (men, women, parents, grandparents, colleagues, etc). Social proof can also be conveyed in many ways (again, not exclusive to women). Otherwise, we’re on the same page. Refer back to being “likable” (#1 on list) which is something you’re touching on in regards to attraction. I agree that being likable can trump many other aspects (hence why I listed it as most important). Your last paragraph is really spot on by the way. Somethi…
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:04 AM
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Thanks man, I appreciate you reading tbh.
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:58 AM
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Thank YOU for reading. It always fun formatting the posts for Reddit. Markdown is rough. 😂
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:52 AM
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Don’t overly focus on that example, because if you do, it’ll take away from the bigger picture. The message I was looking to convey was that relationships matter. And the relationships you have (or lack thereof) can be a signal of deeper-rooted issues worth looking into (and potentially fixing). I’ve found that measuring someone by the quality of their relationships with others is an accurate depiction of the person’s character. (I.e. I’m more inclined to trust you if I know others trust you as …
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:50 AM
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Touché. 😂 Same with horror movies. Nobody likes them anymore!
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:36 AM
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You’re right. Having difficulty establishing a solid inner circle and relationships (especially from scratch) doesn’t always insinuate negative personality traits, as I described. As a 25-year-old who’s no longer in college living in the same house as his frat-buddies, I can admit that its incredibly difficult to maintain friendships and other relations with people. In fact, I’m still getting used to it. However, if there’s a consistent lack of relationships, to me it is a red flag. At least bas…
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:12 AM
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I like going out alone too. Depending on the occasion, I’ll sometimes do it. But a consistent lack of relationships in one’s life can be a signal of a deeper rooted issue.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:09 AM
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You asked for it 😂
/r/seduction22/01/18 12:25 AM
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this is a good start
/r/seduction22/01/18 12:14 AM
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Thank you. 🙏
/r/seduction21/01/18 11:48 PM
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That’s fine. I still enjoy the idea of improving though. It’s fun.
/r/seduction21/01/18 08:29 PM
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No, you can flunk all those traits and still get laid I agree. You can do the "bare minimum" and still get results. Personally, I take an approach where it'll positively impact all aspects of my life. Not just with dating. If you're solely interested in getting laid, I suppose your approach helps. If you're interested in getting laid + improving other aspects of your life, a more well-rounded approach is beneficial.
/r/seduction21/01/18 08:03 PM
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This is hilariously accurate.
/r/seduction19/01/18 02:03 PM
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Do whatever you want to do. Sometimes I pay, I like to treat. It feels good to be generous. Other times, I don't, and we split the tab. When I want to flip the gender scripts, I'll ask if she'd like to pay. There is no rule, except the one you want to play by. Do whatever you want to do.
/r/seduction18/01/18 09:28 PM
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Sometimes, you do gotta break it down. That’s why the charisma, social, and dating skill industry is worth of $2B. By the way, this is a problem far bigger than the pickup community. Even seasoned businesspeople struggle with this type of stuff. It’s difficult. It’s a lifelong skill to learn. And it takes constant awareness / improvement.
/r/seduction18/01/18 07:55 PM
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This is the best fucking simile ever. Kudos, my friend.
/r/seduction18/01/18 04:14 PM
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One thing I've failed to mention is I applied this far outside my pickup and dating life. I've included baby steps in my hobbies such as gym, writing, and reading. Use to be able to run for only five minutes. Now I can do 30. Also, happy cake-day!
/r/seduction16/01/18 07:36 PM
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Great job, brotha.
/r/seduction16/01/18 02:02 PM
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Curious, have you ever taken an improv class before? Or something similar? It might sound like an interesting solution. But it might work for exactly what you just mentioned. It does feel like I've hit a ceiling though. I think I'm still passively exuding an air of low confidence and inexperience. Interaction still isn't an unconscious, reflexive process; even after all this time, it's an extremely conscious process of parsing external stimuli and then "computing" an appropriate, engaging and ef…
/r/seduction15/01/18 09:13 PM
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The best part about social and dating skills can be trained. And developed. Drastically. No matter who you are. The second best part is that you live in the best arena to learn them. Earth. Humans are your test-subject. And they're literally everywhere. My advice? Go get more experience. Smile at people. Say hi. Put a little pressure on yourself each day. Flex your social "muscles". Read various articles and books on the topic. Purchase courses. Watch YouTube videos. There is no excuse today for…
/r/seduction15/01/18 07:55 PM
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Thanks for reading man. Happy Sunday.
/r/seduction15/01/18 02:49 AM
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I can only speak for myself. Others who’ve read my content can chime in. First and foremost, I do it because it’s fun. All my homies are on Snapchat/Instagram. Every girl I’ve ever flirted with on Snapchat. It only makes sense I use it too. I enjoy sending people silly photos. I enjoy posting about my day. I enjoy making hilarious rants about some dumb shit I saw throughout the day. Second, when I share, it’s inclusive. It gives people the opportunity to easily spark conversations with me. It gi…
/r/seduction15/01/18 02:39 AM
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I’m predictable. ;)
/r/seduction14/01/18 11:16 PM
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It won’t affect your chances if you’ve made a tremendous first impression (in person). Having an “unpopular” account is fine if you continue to grow it. We all start somewhere. Snapchat stories are watched. You don’t need a gallery.
/r/seduction14/01/18 10:39 PM
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Oh shit. This is badass.
/r/seduction14/01/18 10:16 PM
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If I was in your shoes, I’d start with Snapchat. There is no “follower” count, which makes the platform a lot less about popularity and status. Start adding everyone in your phone book. Post stories every week. Add everyone you meet in person. Hope this helps! Check out my guides if you have a hunger for more.
/r/seduction14/01/18 10:15 PM
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Texting is great. It’s also very difficult for some. Snapping someone back and forth is a lot more interactive than sending someone blocks of texts. In other words, texting isn’t the only medium for success anymore. It can be great. But it’s not the only thing.
/r/seduction14/01/18 10:12 PM
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The invisible script I’m reading here is: “Social media is bad. Anyone who uses social media is fake. America sucks.” An alternative script could be: “I want to share my experiences with the friends who can’t be with me tonight. Social media is an awesome way of staying in touch with friends. America is aight.” Reframe in there.
/r/seduction14/01/18 09:41 PM
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Love this. Beginning, middle, and end. Create a story like that and watch the messages flood in. This is how I’m able to maintain old friendships, spark new conversations, and maintain overall relationships. It’s a hack.
/r/seduction14/01/18 08:38 PM
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You’re right. People should be coming from a place of “sharing” when posting on social media. Not to “show off”. But there’s another reason why every guy should be posting on Snapchat or Instagram stories. It’s because in the dating and social scene, the #1 currency is attention. When you create awesome Snapchat stories that others love watching, you’ll not only grab people’s attention, but you’ll also get their engagement. People will spark conversations with you. People will invite you out to …
/r/seduction14/01/18 05:34 PM
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Thanks for the tag, mate. I’ll be writing a response shortly.
/r/seduction14/01/18 05:20 PM
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I can play those games. Or I can’t. Either way it’s cool.
/r/seduction14/01/18 03:50 AM
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Right.
/r/seduction13/01/18 09:15 PM
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“Feel better.” That’s it. Flakes happen all the time. It comes with the territory. Learn to handle these with finesse and a reschedule should be a piece of cake.
/r/seduction13/01/18 05:33 PM
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Really coming at me this morning, friend.
/r/seduction13/01/18 05:07 PM
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I highly recommend reading "The Magic of Thinking Big". I hardly recommend books anymore. But this one is truly life-changing for your mindset.
/r/seduction12/01/18 08:28 PM
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Here's how you don't fuck it up. On the first date, focus on having fun. Get to know her. Crack jokes. Share something about yourself others may not know. (Don't worry about getting laid or whatever on the first date. Hardly anything happens on the first date. Purely focus on having a good time.) Second date, continue the fun. This time make it drinks. I like fancy wine bars a lot. Gives the opportunity for more "intimate" conversations. Let the rest happen from there...
/r/seduction12/01/18 05:58 PM
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I'm not sure what's going on here. Girls are often coming to your place. And they feel comfortable coming to your place. Alone. With you. And you can't figure out what to do? To answer your questions, my "go-to-routine" or "technique" to trick a girl into sleeping with me is non-existent. All of the work is done BEFORE she ever walks through my door. Attraction is clearly there. Interest is clearly there. Chemistry is clearly there. All you've got to do is lift a finger. And if you're questionin…
/r/seduction12/01/18 05:37 PM
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I don't know. That's none of my business. And I'm not going to investigate if the girl is truly happy in her relationship or not. There plenty of better opportunities to invest time on.
/r/seduction12/01/18 05:22 PM
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Everyone has different ethics. Personally, I believe in the "bro code". I don't want my girlfriend to be fucked with, so I won't ever fuck with yours. It's about respect for your fellow human beings.
/r/seduction11/01/18 07:33 PM
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Pic or it didn't happen. Let's see how bad it really is.
/r/seduction11/01/18 07:02 PM
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Prove it here, Jon.
/r/seduction09/01/18 01:54 PM
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I like this advice a lot. Most guys think Tinder and online dating is just about logging on and waiting for things to happen. Then they complain and say, "Online dating doesn't work!". The best guys do a variety of different tests on their profile. They change their photos. They rewrite their bios. They test different openers. Until it clicks. Luckily, most guys are lazy and will never put in this work. That's why it's easy to stand out (if you know what you're doing). Great job, man.
/r/seduction02/01/18 10:07 PM
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Overthinking is a symptom of lack of confidence. Lack of confidence in yourself and your decisions. The first step is to have undeniable confidence. Start by doing this. This takes time to build up but it works. Second, start seeing yourself as a "scientist". See every interaction from every possible angle. Test different approaches. But never beat yourself up over it. Over time, you'll have very sharp decision-making skills for every single social interaction you have. If you fuck up, it's okay…
/r/seduction02/01/18 05:57 PM
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That'll be a problem.
/r/seduction02/01/18 05:15 PM
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When you consider how many conversations, interactions, opportunities, and situations you’ll have in the next five years... it’s true. Even if it’s a small town, suburb, or if you have a small circle of friends. Source: I lived in a small, agricultural town in California for 21 years of my life.
/r/seduction02/01/18 04:53 PM
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It’s a dead-end and waste of time to chase someone in a relationship. Cut your losses and put your eggs in another basket. I’m all for chasing opportunities, but in these situations, move on.
/r/seduction02/01/18 04:13 PM
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You and hundreds of other guys will beat themselves up not understand the real definition of “abundance” mentality. Abundance doesn’t just apply to girls. It also applies to conversations and chances. There will be endless more opportunities to prove yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. Yet.
/r/seduction02/01/18 04:10 PM
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Yes, that counts. The more you can increase the level of interactions you have with someone, the better. This is what turns an acquaintanceship into a friendship.
/r/seduction02/01/18 06:33 AM
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You must find a way to stay “top of mind”. When someone invites you into their circle, or invites you to a party, they’re essentially saying, “I’m comfortable with you”. Comfort is created from familiarity. I’ve personally had tremendous success using social media (Snapchat) to increase familiarity. You can add people, comment on their stories, and stay in regular contact after meeting. Don’t expect people to remember to hit you up if you don’t have a way to stay “top of mind”. In the social and…
/r/seduction01/01/18 07:35 PM
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Confidently admitting an insecurity or flaw is a superpower. It won’t turn her off. It’ll make her trust you more.
/r/seduction01/01/18 07:25 PM
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Love this. It’s completely different from the, “I’m gonna go outside and approach all day approach”. This subreddit needs to recognize that there’s many other effective forms of meeting women. No one talks about this.
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:14 PM
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This social analysis is fucking incredible. Never cease to impress, my man.
/r/seduction16/12/17 05:09 PM
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If you’re a new guy reading this, there’s a caveat. Which is, you must first learn how to take the “pussy off the pedestal”, before you can successfully put it back on. I’ve seen guys who are incredibly good at making others feel special, warm, and enlightened. And they do it intentionally. And it works. But it doesn’t come from a place of weakness. It comes from a place that says, “Hey, I’ve got all my shit together, and I don’t need anyone’s attention or validation. So I’m gonna make sure you …
/r/seduction13/12/17 04:19 PM
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Thank you for reading.
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:12 AM
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You don't get around them. You participate in them and act with the same energy as the drunkards around you. Nobody cares about your choice to not drink. Source: My best friend (and the #1 cold approacher I know) doesn't drink. He still has just as much fun as anyone else.
/r/seduction08/12/17 07:31 PM
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Test it out. You’ll figure it out.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:17 PM
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Own it. “This is going to sound weird but...” It’s banter. It’s meant to be silly and light-hearted.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:14 PM
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Yes, instinct. Your first gut reaction. Roll with it. With the exception of racism of offensiveness, have zero filter. Over time any mistakes your make will correct themselves.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:10 PM
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Lower your standard for success. Not everything you say has to be funny, relevant, or interesting. Just say whatever comes to instinct first and then roll with it. When you stop putting so much pressure on yourself to say something cool or interesting, your bantering will get much better. Source: I took a 6-week improv class. Went from “too serious” to funny.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:07 PM
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Women standards are not that high and you don't need to improve yourself. Do you notice the invisible script? "If you want to better or improve yourself, it's bad, because you're just trying to impress others." Women date all types of people. People date all types of people. Does that mean you shouldn't want to work on yourself? Probably not. But I think the angle you decided to come at this with is interesting.
/r/seduction06/12/17 05:12 PM
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Are you suggesting everyone go do heroin?
/r/seduction06/12/17 03:17 PM
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You and me both. This struck a cord with me.
/r/seduction05/12/17 07:33 PM
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Here was my go-to formula that worked well. Keep it simple. Not meant to be overthought: First date = casual drinks at a bar. Building rapport & getting to know each other. Relatively low pressure. Second date = drinks again, this time in a social environment with friends. Evaluate how she is with others and if she’s a cool, down to earth person. If you made it this far, chances are she’s interested in you (also not a bad idea to try moving things forward at this stage). Third date = something t…
/r/seduction05/12/17 02:54 AM
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I’ve been in three LTRs. Here’s how they ended and here’s stuff I learned: Don’t cheat or lie. It fucks the other person up + brings their negative energy back to you. Bad cycle. Have a backbone. Have standards. Don’t tolerate second rate behavior (although, little slip ups happen, be able to laugh those off). Show attention, be generous with your time, don’t be afraid to be loving (but also be well-balance, never drop off your friends, and pursue things you want to pursue). My last two relation…
/r/seduction05/12/17 02:47 AM
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I'd say getting laid is a healthy byproduct of self-improvement. ;) Empathy, emotional intelligence, etc. isn't talked about nearly enough in this sub. Pickup skills are just people skills. If you understand people well, chances are it'll transfer directly to your pickup skills.
/r/seduction05/12/17 02:02 AM
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I think the 40 date thing is outrageous and not everyone has to strive for that. (In my situation, I was new to the city + recently dumped. I was EAGER to put myself out there & meet new people). If you want to strive for same results, then no, it won’t be easy. Even for a good looking guy. The fruits in this game go to the guy who puts effort into his looks, style, life, personality, etc. Problem is that is a lot for some guys to juggle with.
/r/seduction05/12/17 01:48 AM
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I always encourage people to do both. Online game really sharpens up your text game, comebacks, and wit. In person sharpens confidence and courage. Check out this data on how online dating has changed the game within the last 10 years alone. Having good, online game is almost a must-have for some guys (or, at the very least, a great supplement) to social and dating life.
/r/seduction04/12/17 07:04 PM
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The 1% rule. We all start somewhere. Focus on improving by 1% daily and in a year you'll have results beyond what you imagined.
/r/seduction04/12/17 06:52 PM
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Love this post. Very contrarian to the, "Oh, Tinder is broken and strongly biased against the average guy", stuff I see around the internet. If anyone puts as much effort into their profile, messaging, and work... They will succeed. It does take work. But the bar is so low (compared to the lazy fellas who think it's just about putting a profile up and waiting for results to come), that it can be easy to differentiate yourself from the crowd.
/r/seduction04/12/17 06:28 PM
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I like the video. A lot of things mentioned in the video (self knowledge, empathy, etc) correlate strongly with my point of views. I’ve seen this work well with women across all backgrounds. I’ve never had to put on much of a different schtick with extremely good looking women. Apply these concepts correctly to your personality and you’ll notice its universally welcomed by everyone. (Disclaimer: not everyone will like you 100% of the time. Never. Not even at ludicrous levels of game. Some will f…
/r/seduction04/12/17 03:31 PM
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Glad it’s helped man!
/r/seduction04/12/17 03:20 PM
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A friend from high school is autistic and although he had it tough coming up (would make the same mistakes over and over again), he’s in a much better place today. No question, your impediment will make it harder for you. But I’ve seen it done.
/r/seduction04/12/17 03:18 PM
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I attended one of Todd's in-person events about how to cold-approach. It was called Opening Mastery, and it was a great event (with invaluable amounts of tips and tricks being shared). Just want to show my appreciation and welcome back Todd. I'd highly recommend Todd and any of his advice to anyone.
/r/seduction04/12/17 05:29 AM
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This is one of the most awesome comments I’ve read in a while. (Second to /u/recyclablebanthas comment here of course). ;) I love how you explain the idea of oak tree stability and the rareness of authenticity. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction04/12/17 04:44 AM
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Thanks man! Appreciate you reading.
/r/seduction04/12/17 04:08 AM
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Love this. Even more simplistic. But sometimes worth explaining a bit more for the sake of learning.
/r/seduction04/12/17 03:39 AM
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I believe you might be referring to this post. It's not just about "getting invited" to places. It's also about saying "yes" to every social situations you want to open yourself up to. For example, when I moved to San Francisco after college and knew nobody, I started doing improv. I also did toast-masters. I also went to happy-hours sponsored by work. Was it necessarily stuff I was uber-excited to do? No. But we all start somewhere. That's how we gain social momentum. You get to the position wh…
/r/seduction02/12/17 11:16 PM
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This.
/r/seduction02/12/17 06:20 PM
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Love this. To piggyback off what you said about, “wait for her expression”... This is something we learn in sales too. Don’t fill in the awkward silences - let the other person do it sometimes. This is what creates that “tension”, but the good kind of tension. Good job, man, and kudos for hiring a coach to teach you. Your proactiveness is what’s going to separate you from the rest.
/r/seduction02/12/17 04:27 AM
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I'd advocate balancing both. I'd say it's contextual and it varies from person to person you meet. I'm not going to be my full-self with everyone. In fact, with some types, I'll be pretty dialed-down and let them have the spotlight. No need to be pushing my personality onto everyone at all times (because that will repel a lot of people, as well, and you might in return say, "Oh, well, I'm just being myself and that's all that matters"). The pickup community tends to put a lot of emphasis on bein…
/r/seduction01/12/17 08:56 PM
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Best guys do both.
/r/seduction01/12/17 06:33 PM
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Or when your main goal is to be a people-person who wants to be more social.
/r/seduction01/12/17 06:21 PM
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I'd argue that if you're conscious of your behaviors, it's not pretending. It's awareness. He's making himself a more appealing person to be around by dropping behavior that doesn't serve him + adapting behaviors that mean well. You can't do this without a certain level of self-awareness. No self-awareness = no growth.
/r/seduction01/12/17 06:16 PM
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He isn't pretending. He's learning from those around him and adopting the behaviors he deems as positive. If you're pretending, you're probably doing it wrong.
/r/seduction01/12/17 06:11 PM
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Thanks. It was tough to explain in a digestible manner. I used to do social breakdowns for fun, it was my hobby to analyze situations like this.
/r/seduction01/12/17 06:21 AM
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Bold emphasis below is my own. During the night she says I'm probably gonna want to see you again just don't get weird on me OK? It was incompatibility from the start and she sensed it. The only thing I can think of is that I just showed a tad too much eagerness to make small talk and I feel like she got just a small whiff of neediness. Other than that I am just perplexed. I'm really into this girl and I don't know if it was a mistake I made or if she was just so preoccupied about her surgery. I…
/r/seduction01/12/17 05:53 AM
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I was struggling with the same thing in early 2016. I had just moved to San Francisco and a lot of girls I was meeting were interested - but busy - so we usually had to schedule drinks in advance. What I ended up doing was supplementing my texting with social media. Specifically, Snapchat. I leveraged Snapchat as a way to stay “top of mind” and relevant to these girls who were caught up in their own lives (and likely getting hit up by several other guys too). This absolutely helped my dating lif…
/r/seduction01/12/17 05:42 AM
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Love this! There’s a great book called, “Steal like an Artist”, which talks about a similar concept.
/r/seduction01/12/17 03:19 AM
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There’s some truth behind that. I’m not going to treat the homies the same way I would treat a girl I’m into romantically. But the foundation is the same, which is, you’ve got to be likable. If you aren’t likable, everything else falls flat and doesn’t work (kino, witty text game, push/pull, teasing, etc).
/r/seduction01/12/17 01:55 AM
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The concept is easy. The applicability is not. Otherwise, this subreddit probably wouldn't exist.
/r/seduction01/12/17 12:42 AM
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Being likable is probably the single most important thing in pickup and dating. If I could give anyone advice on how to improve their dating life, I'd say, "be likable". When you strip down all the tactics and philosophies out there, it all strips down to being a likable person. That's it. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction30/11/17 11:21 PM
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Here's the best relationship I'd give anyone, based on 3+ LTRs: Have a backbone If she does something that bothers you or disrespects you, call it out. Boundaries are exceptionally important in a relationship. Don't worry about being a dominant asshole. Have fun, be vulnerable, and establish boundaries as needed. This alone will make your relationship 100x better.
/r/seduction30/11/17 08:57 PM
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Agreed. Furthermore, to play the devil's advocate, I'm curious why people are still overly focused on texting. Today, there are mediums like Snapchat or Instagram stories that offer richer, more interactive means of communicating with photos. Not sure how effective sending back-and-forth walls of text is these days for dating.
/r/seduction30/11/17 08:53 PM
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Absolutely. I love thinking this stuff out.
/r/seduction30/11/17 01:37 PM
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Haha, not yet.
/r/seduction30/11/17 01:33 PM
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Not OP but here’s my take on his answer. (What you’ll read below very contrarian to most advice on this sub, but very effective nonetheless.) I believe our friend here is suggesting we be cool, friendly guys with a tad bit of game. Have patience and understand relationships take time to build. Don’t be overly focused on slaying the pussy, and instead focus on just getting that human connection with another person. Ironically, if done well, you end up being in a very favorable position, where you…
/r/seduction30/11/17 05:34 AM
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I went to Todd’s in person event called, “Opening Mastery”. One of the most valuable takeaways was, “The best course of action is always being yourself”. Basically, he’s encouraging you to say and do whatever you want. Don’t overthink it. Whatever comes to mind first, say or do that. One year later I still live by this mantra and it’s made me a funnier, wittier, and more social person to be around. Hope this helps!
/r/seduction30/11/17 04:13 AM
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https://www.instagram.com/askmystery/
/r/seduction29/11/17 06:49 PM
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For those of you who don't know, Mystery and Style are some of the founding fathers of the PUA movement. Will always have massive respect for these guys! I'm following Mystery on Instagram & Facebook. His coaching business continues to this day (although not thriving like it was in the early 2000's). He isn't a relevant public figure like he once was. He was considered a demi-god at one point amongst all the people in the pickup community. "Style", AKA Neil Strauss, has always been an incredible…
/r/seduction29/11/17 05:56 PM
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Got links to those resources? They seem good but want to make sure Google doesn't redirect me to the wrong source.
/r/seduction28/11/17 05:53 PM
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I’m not sure who Tom is but thank you for sharing! Definitely enjoy reading anything regarding the evolution of game. For anyone interested in learning more about the origins of pickup and how the founding fathers started, read The Game.
/r/seduction28/11/17 04:53 AM
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Great post man, thanks for sharing. We all start somewhere. Even the best were once newbs.
/r/seduction28/11/17 04:52 AM
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Girls like to entertain the idea of you being desired by other girls. But they don’t necessarily want to see you with another girl. Unfortunately, there’s probably no way to salvage this, but it’s okay. Source: I made the asshole move of inviting two girls on one date (expecting one to flake). They both actually showed up.
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:20 AM
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New guys have what I call “Green Light” Syndrome. They’ve got to do everything right or else they think attraction doesn’t get sparked. It’s not a big deal man. If you’re a likable guy, the girl isn’t going to say, “Omg, but he didn’t initiate kino in the first 10-minutes! He must be a BETA MALE!” Truth is, as long as you’re a decent, likable dude... She’s probably going to like you (even if you don’t do kino).
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:18 AM
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Boss!
/r/seduction22/11/17 05:03 PM
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Yes - I went through a horrendous breakup two years ago and started back on Tinder and Bumble. Slowly, I started gaining my wit, confidence, and humor back. Then, I graduated to social-circle game and meeting new people through friends. Eventually, talking to strangers at bars was seamless. I encourage everyone to do a combination of everything (social circle game, cold-approach, and online dating).
/r/seduction20/11/17 08:50 PM
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There's a great lesson in this post. I've been face to face with customers daily, honestly, my general confidence around people has skyrocketed. I'm saying hi to everyone, chatting with strangers and having a grand old time. There are tremendous benefits from being an open and friendly person. One of those benefits is insurmountable confidence and social momentum. Like you said, say hello to everyone, you never know who you will meet. This is a solid form of doing "cold approach", as well.
/r/seduction20/11/17 08:47 PM
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It’s almost 2018 man. Get rid of the negative mentality. You’re behind on times.
/r/seduction19/11/17 01:29 AM
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Here’s my advice to anyone using Tinder and other similar dating apps: First, do your research. Nowadays, there many experts (first who comes to mind is Playingfire.com) who specialize in dating apps game. Research them. Second, pay the premiums. If you have to pay $6-$7 (or whatever it is these days) for more exposure, do it. It’s a small price to pay for exponential results. The game is rapidly changing nowadays. It’s not just about “attraction” anymore, but also how you leverage social media …
/r/seduction18/11/17 11:46 PM
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I had the mindset of "I'm super attractive and all of these girls want me" whether it's true or not I could be unstoppable in the seduction game I don't know many guys who have that mindset. I also don't know how realistic that mindset is. Many of the top players I know are pretty average looking (and they know it). They're not fooling anyone, especially not themselves. A good alternative would be, "I accept me for who I am, I'm going to put myself as much as possible, and let the rest handle it…
/r/seduction18/11/17 10:08 PM
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Seth Godin has an awesome quote relating to this: The same thing is true of your job. The tasks could be done by many people, but someone who is great at your job embraces the mental effort necessary to do task switching, to read between the lines, to keep many balls going at the same time. Strategy and tactics both. Sometimes, we think that these are the things that get in the way of our work. In fact, they are the work. Some guys think that flakes, ghosting, and rejections are what’s stopping …
/r/seduction18/11/17 06:06 PM
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The problem with this is that it doesn't develop a well-rounded personality. It's like bragging about doing 1,000 push-ups. Sure, it's unbelievable, but so what? It develops only one part of you. I like to take a more well-rounded approach where I might get fewer numbers, but I'm taking the time to develop a deep relationship with each person. That's what I believe is more difficult.
/r/seduction17/11/17 11:55 PM
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I'm not going to attempt selling you on it, but as another dude who works 9-5, I can relate 100%. After working eight hours and a long commute, the last thing I want to do is go out and meet new people. I just want to go home, eat dinner, read a book, and get a good night's sleep. I needed a way to "sell" myself without constantly going out and having to meet new people. Everyone I met throughout the weekend or happy hours, I'd add on Snapchat or Instagram. I posted stories and the watched. It w…
/r/seduction14/11/17 08:15 PM
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Curious, what's annoying about it?
/r/seduction13/11/17 05:22 PM
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It's not a big deal. I would go. Plus, if it gets weird, its a good opportunity for you go practice conflict management.
/r/seduction13/11/17 06:22 AM
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Great question, and most everyone reading this article will probably get to the stage you're at (which I would argue is good). At your stage, you can afford to be more selective with your time. I do the "Raincheck". It's a kind rejection that goes something like, "Thanks for the invite! Can't today because XYZ, but next time?" That's a rejection that doesn't reject THEM, it just rejects their OFFER at this time. It's a subtle shift.
/r/seduction13/11/17 06:20 AM
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I'd argue that people with tremendous personalities are reading advice, books, or courses. The idea that top performers aren't consuming any advice or feedback is a myth. It's because they're so adept to new ideas or methods that makes them who they are.
/r/seduction13/11/17 06:15 AM
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Social media today is what texting was in early 2000's Nobody wanted to adopt it. They said calling was better. Then it replaced calling. Now social media, to some extent, is replacing texting. Over time, more and more people will adopt social media as part of their overall social and dating strategy.
/r/seduction13/11/17 06:05 AM
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It's too early for you. But that can change over time. Cheers.
/r/seduction13/11/17 05:59 AM
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I went through a terrible breakup in November 2015. At that time, I was also in the process of moving to a new city. So now, not only did I lose the person I love, but I was also stuck in a city where I knew nobody. I went through a two-month slump, but then, things started to pick up. I slowly started dating and meeting new people again, and by the end of 2016, I had gone on over 40+ dates and met someone who I was more compatible with. It goes to show how even if you're deep in the slumps, you…
/r/seduction13/11/17 03:49 AM
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Then your problems are far bigger than just a social circle. It's maybe your personality or sense of humor. In other words, you're referring to a far bigger problem that's outside the scope of this article. I'd consider pondering about what's holding you back.
/r/seduction13/11/17 03:13 AM
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I think it depends on age + country. Here in America it's split 50/50. The best question to ask is what do the people around you seem to use.
/r/seduction13/11/17 02:50 AM
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Happy to hear that. I'm on the same journey as you. I'm very curious about what it takes to build an incredible social life. It's a tough thing to figure out but I think it can be done.
/r/seduction13/11/17 02:49 AM
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Really like the social engineering aspect you bring to this conversation. I don't think that topic has ever been discussed in the context as pickup. I sincerely thank you for bringing that to my attention.
/r/seduction13/11/17 02:48 AM
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You just ask. You can't pussyfoot this stuff or be around-the-corner about it. If you have a good personality and she likes you, she's going to say yes. There is no tricking or "seeding" into it. It just happens.
/r/seduction12/11/17 10:44 PM
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Well put.
/r/seduction12/11/17 10:18 PM
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Thanks, bot. Don't vote in other threads, fam.
/r/seduction12/11/17 08:32 PM
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In sales, we have this old saying, "Don't ask, don't get". It's self-explanatory, but you'd be surprised by how much you can get if you simply ask. Good rule to apply in any aspect of life.
/r/seduction12/11/17 08:31 PM
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me irl
/r/seduction12/11/17 08:29 PM
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Rollo, from TheRationalMale, just wrote an awesome piece on creepiness. I'm going to quote some of his stuff in my response to you (since your biggest fear is coming off creepy). Here are some things you probably shouldn't do: Getting in my personal space when I don’t know/barely know you. It’s weird and uncomfortable, and if you’re bigger than me then it can feel quite intimidating. Be mindful of how touchy or aggressive you're being. It's fine to be authentic, honest.. but it also has to be ca…
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:42 PM
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My Snapchat audience and I just put this together. It might be useful to you. A lot of times, being more social isn't about better tactics. It's as simple as changing your mindset and psychology. Hope this helps!
/r/seduction11/11/17 05:52 AM
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Tinder and Bumble are tough. You can expect 1/10 girls to turn into a date. You should never overly rely on Tinder or Bumble for dates. Instead, use it as part of your overall "stack". You should be meeting people through your social circle, cold approach, and online game. Diversifying your options will guarantee the most success.
/r/seduction11/11/17 02:29 AM
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"See you at 5, right?" "Hey, first round on your today." "We still on for this damn thing?" Keep it simple. Keep it playful. It's low pressure. This happens all the time.
/r/seduction11/11/17 02:26 AM
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I don't get their phone number. Immediately after I get their Snap, I send them a message to break the ice. "Hey, nice to meet you! Don't send me too many selfies now." Read the Snapchat Guide to Game Part 3 on how to seamless spark conversations and build relationships.
/r/seduction10/11/17 07:53 PM
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Truthfully, I think if you focus solely on having fun, you'll have a lot of success. Anything can happen. And it sounds like there's potential for a lot of random fun throughout the night. Just enjoy it, man. If it happens, great, if not... no worries. I wouldn't put so much stress on trying to get laid. Not good to overthink it, and people can smell the thirst from a mile away. Best of luck!
/r/seduction10/11/17 07:52 PM
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Nobody is on Tinder for deep, enlightening conversations. Save the long talk for your priest. The moment a conversation starts going well & flowing, Snapchat close it. It's a far better method of getting to know someone. I don't feel the need to promote my own content but I feel like this and this might be helpful for you and anyone reading this. Best of luck my dude.
/r/seduction10/11/17 04:04 PM
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I went on 20+ tinder dates last year and here's my take. It is a little awkward. Tinder and online dating is still a very new experience to a lot of people. Own it, acknowledge it, and move on. If you can be playful about the whole situation, the other person will usually appreciate it and open up. Best of luck.
/r/seduction10/11/17 01:53 PM
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Love this.
/r/seduction10/11/17 01:45 PM
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I want to further my point by quoting Roosh, "A 'creep' is just a man with no social calibration who goes from 0-100 real quick. PUAs apply gas slowly for smooth, natural acceleration." Love this. Contrary to popular belief, it's not all about "being aggressive" all the time. That's too easy. We're guys. Naturally, we're aggressive people. What's not easy is taking your time, being patient, and understanding the vibe of the whole situation at hand.
/r/seduction10/11/17 06:02 AM
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It's math. Being direct + not acknowledging the other person's reaction = creepy. Being direct + reading the other person + knowing when to slow things down = welcomed. You have to learn how to read the person and acknowledge when you might be making them uncomfortable. It's a courtship dance. Know when to push, know when to pull.
/r/seduction10/11/17 04:53 AM
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When girls know they have a boundary they cannot cross, they'll have fun with it. When they've got a boyfriend, they know the worst thing that can happen is "just flirting". It's like the kid who taunts you across the fence at the playground. He know's he can get away with it because they're a fence in between you too. Same thing with girls who have boyfriends. There is a clear boundary that cannot be crossed, so they'll have fun with it.
/r/seduction09/11/17 06:28 PM
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I never condone chasing girls who have boyfriends. First, it's a dead-end. She's emotionally unavailable. As a leader, you have to know when to cut your losses. Second, I follow the bro-code. I respect the fellow man. I treat others how I'd like to be treated. If I don't want some jabroni sliding into my girl's DMs, why would I do the same? It's all about having standards and following some rules of decency for yourself. It's the respectable, high-value thing to do. Others will admire you for th…
/r/seduction09/11/17 06:08 PM
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Join a fraternity or big club. That'll solve 80% of your problems. Then apply the rest of these tips. Youll be fine.
/r/seduction09/11/17 05:50 AM
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College isn’t about cold approaching. It’s about putting yourself in the right situations to meet new people. Join an honor society. Join the biggest clubs. Sit next to cute girls in class. Throw study sessions. Cold approach is ineffective in places where there’s plenty of opportunities to meet people naturally.
/r/seduction08/11/17 11:55 PM
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In relationships and social life, yes, women seem to appreciate leadership and decisiveness. (Honestly, guys honor it too) The key is to not come off like a fucking pushy asshole. Show leadership and decisiveness, but also be aware of other people’s feelings. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction08/11/17 01:57 PM
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Curious, what makes you hate Snapchat (or Instagram)? A lot of people are in the same shoes as you.
/r/seduction08/11/17 01:54 PM
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When I moved to San Francisco two years ago, I knew nobody. All my friends lived hours away, so I was starting from scratch. On top of that, I was in a psychotic relationship I had just broken off, so I was also an emotional garbage can. Today, things are much different, and I always have something to do. Here are a few things I did (which I've been sharing with others on Reddit, as well): 1) "Snapchat closed" everyone and anyone I met, even if briefly. 2) Said “yes” to every social situation, n…
/r/seduction08/11/17 05:30 AM
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Here is my prediction of what will happen in the next year or so. Texting will become obsolete. Instagram or Snapchat will take over as the replacement. Specifically, in the dating and social realm. There is NO NEED to text back and forth “walls of text” with someone when you can be having far richer means of interacting (such as videos, pictures, and selfies on Snapchat or Instagram.) If you’re still relying solely on texting people when it comes to dating, my prediction is you probably have lo…
/r/seduction06/11/17 03:28 PM
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Awesome video man. Saw you at the Free Tour last week. Keep up the great work, bro!
/r/seduction06/11/17 04:44 AM
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Thanks for the tag, guys. Quit worrying about “streaks”. They don’t determine shit. Send her a snap based on something you two had a conversation about. Sort of like an insider joke. For example, my crush loves green smoothies (and she posts about them often). So I tried making a smoothie and sent her a pic of it. It sparked a conversation. That conversation led to more comfort and conversations. Which, eventually led to us dating. Do the same. Comment on her stories. Send her snaps about previo…
/r/seduction06/11/17 03:54 AM
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Welcome to your first great lesson.
/r/seduction05/11/17 04:45 AM
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You can’t. You have to build rapport first. Then you build some more. Then maybe you can be direct and sexual.
/r/seduction04/11/17 11:17 PM
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If she’s your girlfriend, it’s for a reason. You fell for her and she stood out from the crowd. Make her feel different. Call her sexy. Tell her you can’t wait to fuck her and you’ve been on her mind all day. That’s the name of the game in relationships.
/r/seduction04/11/17 09:53 PM
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You weren’t outright rejected if you never made a move. Next time, grab her Snapchat or Instagram and stay in touch. One week later ask her to go out with you and seal the deal. Yes, it can be that simple and easy... if she likes you.
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:15 PM
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College isn’t about cold approaching. It’s about putting yourself in the right situations to meet new people. Join a fraternity. Join the biggest clubs. Sit next to cute girls in class. Throw study sessions. Cold approach is ineffective in places where there’s plenty of opportunity to meet people naturally.
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:12 PM
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Been in a relationship for a year now and it still feels like the first date. If you know your girl can leave at any time (which she can), you’ll stay sharp. Be very openly sexual and explicit. She’ll appreciate it. Girls want to be desired just as much as you want to be desired.
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:06 PM
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I hear ya. Good insights man. Best of luck with the business in Chicago. I was just there and checked out Lincoln Park Zoo (shocked its free!).
/r/seduction02/11/17 06:04 PM
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Love this dude, thanks for providing value. I disagree with this one point in regards to relationships: If trust is broken, it will never be repaired. It will always be in the back of either persons head no matter what and it's best to just end it. Definitely, have a backbone, but don't always make it about "breaking up". In a relationship, there will be a few slip-ups that temporarily break trust. This happens on both sides. I've learned that relationships shouldn't be like "walking on eggshell…
/r/seduction02/11/17 05:06 PM
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No hard feelings - appreciate you reading anyway
/r/seduction02/11/17 03:01 AM
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Because we're dudes.
/r/seduction27/10/17 12:48 PM
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It's good if you're just starting off and if you haven't developed your own personality, yet. The method allows you to rely on routines, tactics, etc without needing to think too much about the interaction. Over time, as you get better, you find yourself needing to rely less and less on tactics or routines. That's when you can begin "just doing you" and find same levels of success (if not better).
/r/seduction27/10/17 12:40 PM
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Showing feeling too quick is a display of flimsiness. Holding feelings back is a display of control. One earns respect, one does not. We've all learned the hard way.
/r/seduction27/10/17 12:36 PM
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I'll answer each question individually. Committing ~30-minutes a week is a small price to pay for something that will have a potentially big impact on your social life. Why do you believe that's a problem for you? There is no single piece of advice that is going to work for everyone. "Leverage social media" = Use social media. Comment on people's stuff. Message people. Post stuff. Put yourself out there and make sure people know you exist. Don't be the guy after high-school everyone asks about, …
/r/seduction26/10/17 05:37 PM
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The biggest misconception is that you have to create a story out of something interesting. It could be a story of you going grocery shopping and it could be interesting. Watch a comedy special on Netflix. Notice how comedians can make a funny story out of something bland.
/r/seduction26/10/17 05:31 PM
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Hijacking this to ask, why do we feel insecure about making eye contact? I was just asking myself this yesterday while walking downtown. I can hold eye contact with anyone really well, but, I still feel like I shouldn't be doing it. Any insights on this would be appreciated.
/r/seduction25/10/17 06:48 PM
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Seconded. Subscribe to that subreddit and learn what doesn't work.
/r/seduction25/10/17 05:15 PM
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That's true. I'd encourage you to read this. It's a comment I wrote earlier in the week. You'll have to start somewhere, but I assure you, you will be able to work your way up. Let me know if this is useful.
/r/seduction25/10/17 04:50 PM
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Never underestimate how much vulnerability it takes for another person to hit you up first. Accept invites the same way you'd accept free money. People will like you more for it.
/r/seduction25/10/17 04:34 PM
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Absolutely, handle your shit and be adult. But at the same time, be very aware that the excuses you have are legitimate.
/r/seduction25/10/17 04:26 PM
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Get this man a bee... Nevermind.
/r/seduction25/10/17 02:52 PM
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Love this. Embrace the mystery.
/r/seduction25/10/17 02:48 PM
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Keep it up, grow 1% daily! :) Today, you might hold the door for someone. Tomorrow, you might say "hey" to someone. 90 days from now, you might be holding a conversation with a complete stranger. We all start somewhere, doesn't matter where, just start. Then go from there.
/r/seduction25/10/17 12:58 PM
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One day, you'll forget you're even doing "kino". At some point, when you get really good, you can break the rules and forget all about "kino". That's when the magic happens. Something to look forward to. ;) Keep it up! 1% improvements every day.
/r/seduction25/10/17 12:52 PM
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Love this. I also like that you're setting attainable goals for yourself. "Next event, I'm going to talk to one girl. Not... "Next event, I'm going to approach everyone in the venue." Grow by 1% every day and you'll be better than 99% of guys out there. Keep it up.
/r/seduction25/10/17 12:49 PM
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Know how to tell a story and show your life (without showing off). If you know how to tell a story on Instagram or Snapchat, people will become more familiar with who you are and your lifestyle. Don't be a show-off, but don't be a wall-flower, either.
/r/seduction24/10/17 11:11 PM
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Don't overrely on social media. Leverage it, but don't depend on it. Nothing can trump a good personality. Good personality + social media presence = unstoppable.
/r/seduction24/10/17 10:27 PM
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Curious, why'd you say no?
/r/seduction24/10/17 02:02 PM
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Extremely glad to read this. Thank you for sharing.
/r/seduction24/10/17 01:35 AM
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The Kaizen approach Absolutely.
/r/seduction24/10/17 12:00 AM
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Texting is for setting up plans. (and possibly the worst of getting to know someone) Snapchat is for fun, silly conversations that help build familiarity. Leverage both. 80% Snapchat, 20% text.
/r/seduction23/10/17 08:16 PM
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For social situations, it can be anything. Happy hour after work? Go to it, even if you don’t feel like it. Date that you’re not particularly excited about? Go anyway. Family event that you’re gonna hate going to? Doesn’t matter, go. What I realized was that I was secluding myself by being too selective about what to go to (and what to not go to). I became a “yes man” for several months. I went to shit I didn’t even want to go to, just to build my social momentum and confidence. And it worked. T…
/r/seduction23/10/17 07:57 PM
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Two years ago, I moved to SF not knowing anyone. Today, I have a healthy social life and I always have something to do. Here are some things I did: Snapchat closed everyone I met, even if briefly. Said “yes” to every social situation, no matter how small or lame. (I’d say this is most important) Lightly invited myself to people’s events. “Oh, sounds fun! If you need a wingman to the party hit me up, bro.” Created Snapchat stories so I could stay “top of mind” for people I was meeting. (I’d say t…
/r/seduction23/10/17 06:55 PM
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Thank you for reading.
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:52 PM
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Thanks for reading.
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:52 PM
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You’re over complicating and digging into the weeds. Improve what you can control, every day, little by little, and you’ll get better. However, if you’ve actually measured this and come to a different conclusion, then I’d encourage you to publish your findings.
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:07 PM
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Thank you for blessing us with your presence, /u/PopcornPlayaa28.
/r/seduction23/10/17 06:56 AM
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Everyone should read this. Incredibly powerful, and maturely put.
/r/seduction23/10/17 06:35 AM
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It’s so easy to overestimate the importance of one defining moment and underestimate the value of making better decisions on a daily basis. Almost every habit that you have — good or bad — is the result of many small decisions over time. And yet, how easily we forget this when we want to make a change. So often we convince ourselves that change is only meaningful if there is some large, visible outcome associated with it. Whether it is losing weight, building a business, traveling the world or a…
/r/seduction23/10/17 06:33 AM
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Then do it. Everyone’s 1% is different. But don’t go for home-runs it you don’t know how to swing. You’ll just frustrate yourself.
/r/seduction23/10/17 05:05 AM
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I never imagined this post to be about math, but I kinda like it. Carry on.
/r/seduction23/10/17 03:44 AM
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You overestimate other people’s willingness to improve. And underestimate a hungry man’s willingness to improve.
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:47 AM
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Pickup skills are just great people skills. Know how to be someone who can smile and is a pleasure to be around? Good, that alone will take you far. The problem is most guys confuse pickup skills for “alienating others”. Then you’re just an asshole. Don’t be an asshole and you’ll get ahead of 99% of dudes.
/r/seduction22/10/17 11:47 PM
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You’ve got a very, very fucked up view of girls.
/r/seduction22/10/17 02:06 AM
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“If you’re thinking of ‘buying a book’, just buy it. Don’t waste 5 seconds debating it. Even one idea makes it worth it.” - Ramit
/r/seduction21/10/17 07:09 PM
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Unless she sees you the same way, there is no getting out. Period. But there’s an easy way to find out if there’s hope, without completely burning the bridge in the process. Light compliments. “Oh, you look good today, what’s the special occasion?” “I mean, I’d totally bang you of course, but I’m glad we’re just friends.” “Have your boobs gotten bigger?” Does she bite? Does she take the compliments well? Keep going. Otherwise, abort. I’m not a fan of going in super hard with people I’ve already …
/r/seduction21/10/17 07:00 PM
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This happened to me on a first date. Some cholo came up to my girl and he couldn’t pick up the social cues that her and I were together that night. So I started whispering things into her ear like, “This guy totally wants you, you should totally get his number.” It was a silly move, but it worked. She began to divert her attention back to me, giggling, and effectively blowing him off. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction20/10/17 02:54 PM
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Some guys go through cycles (I'm personally one of them). For several months, they can be going out and living life like a bachelor. Then, suddenly, they feel like having a girlfriend and getting to know someone on a deeper level. Both are amazing experiences.
/r/seduction19/10/17 07:02 PM
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Haha. This is hilarious.
/r/seduction19/10/17 03:02 PM
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My best friend is the same way. He could crush it in pickup if he wanted to. But he likes the idea of Disney love and soulmates. I think it’s corny, but if he likes it, I respect it. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction19/10/17 03:01 PM
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“What’s something I can do to improve by 1%?” Ask yourself this daily. Act on it. Repeat. 12 months from now, your roommate will admire you instead.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:23 AM
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You are VASTLY overestimating how much this will matter to you in 6 months. As a 17 year old, you’re gonna have THOUSANDS more interactions in your lifetime. Quit overthinking this, grab her Snapchat, and continue moving things forward.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:14 AM
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Pro tip: don’t interview. For every two questions you ask, make a statement or comment. Good conversation isn’t about only asking questions. It’s about contributing your own thoughts to help carry the conversation.
/r/seduction18/10/17 04:33 PM
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Modern day interpretation: talk to everyone, not just the hot girls you want to approach. (This is also how you gain major, social momentum).
/r/seduction18/10/17 03:49 AM
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To each their own. It’s how I got 40+ dates last year despite working 9-5. Some people can’t afford to do approaches 24/7, so they begin to rely on social media to build deeper relationships. And that’s 100% okay.
/r/seduction17/10/17 08:24 PM
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If anyone reading this is interested in a strong, counter argument for point #2, read this Long story short, one of the things I realized is people date people they’re familiar with. If you’re posting great Snapchat stories, you’re giving people the opportunity to easily familiarize themselves with you. This is a powerful alternative to texting.
/r/seduction17/10/17 12:59 PM
8

You’ve been socially awkward for 24 years of your life... and you’re expecting it to all go away in ONE summer of approaching? Jesus. We live in a world that glamorizes quick results and overnight successes. You’ve got a long way to go. Keep going or die miserable. Either way, you’re insignificant dust. Stop crying and have some fun.
/r/seduction14/10/17 03:00 PM
5

I’m assuming when you met up, absolutely nothing sexual happened (hand holding, kissing, etc). Otherwise, you would have told us that. You assumed she likes you. Based on her response about mixed signals, she 100% doesn’t. Move on.
/r/seduction14/10/17 02:46 PM
1

Every interaction is like a snowflake. They're all different. This rule is more of a guideline but I'm assuming most guys can use it to their own discretion. Some girls may take less time, some may take more time. I agree with your comment.
/r/seduction18/07/17 05:12 AM
1

You're the man!
/r/seduction10/07/17 04:06 PM
2

"If she is paid to be nice to you, she's probably not interested." - me, just now.
/r/seduction16/06/17 06:16 PM
2

If Seduction implies sexual escalation and the holy trail is an "f close" then we've just become an episode of the movie SuperBad and we should all play the part of Jonah Hill. Sounds appetizing!
/r/seduction27/05/17 03:42 PM
2

Can't say I ever had problems with it. This isn't confusing in the slightest way, is it that difficult to comprehend? Lol
/r/seduction27/05/17 03:39 PM
1

Whatever works for you man. That's the point of this post: be versatile.
/r/seduction25/05/17 10:32 PM
1

I went to an in-person event by Todd (from RSD). I've always resonated with him more so than others pick up instructors because of his chill, down-to-earth style. Anyway, one of the things he said during the event changed my life forever. He said, "The best course of action is always being yourself." It was a liberating moment.
/r/seduction25/05/17 04:37 PM
2

my Snapchat Guide to Game might help
/r/seduction25/05/17 01:09 AM
2

Mistexterpretation.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:55 PM
1

It's where I work 8-6, 5 days a week. Of course I drop it all the time, haha. Apologies that I reference it to my dating life. There's truthfully MANY parallels.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:23 PM
1

Silicon Valley is where I live but if I lived in Montana I'd just say Montana.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:21 PM
4

Definitely not all of them. At this point, compatibility was my biggest measure of success more so than, "Well, did I get it in?!" (Mind you, I was brand spankin' new to the city AND going through a breakup, so to be meeting people at all was a huge factor for me). But yeah, definitely not all of them.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:19 PM
1

You're getting way too stuck in the verbiage of it all. The point was that there is multiple ways of going about situations like these, and it's best to find your own style and what works best for you.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:17 PM
3

God forbid anyone uses the word, "maybe", right? You're getting too stuck in the verbiage of it. The point I was looking to make was this: there are multiple ways of approaching these types of situations. Find what works best for you!
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:16 PM
1

Best of luck dude!
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:15 PM
1

I think you get the point though, as you mentioned in the first paragraph, which is that there's multiple ways of going about it and it doesn't always have to be this "direct masculine approach where otherwise she'll think you're beta". I think if a girl likes you, she isn't really going to care how you ask her out.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:14 PM
1

You and me both. It's a never ending game.
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:13 PM
1

Love it, haha. As someone who's got a clogged inbox and gets hundreds of messages from BDRs, I'll definitely be coming to you for some cold email advice. :)
/r/seduction24/05/17 03:12 PM
1

Here you go. I wrote these a few months ago and they've helped hundreds of guys tremendously it seems like. PM me if you've got questions.
/r/seduction17/05/17 12:09 AM
1

I agree with you entirely. Self-improvement is far more than just "never disrespect yourself". Physical health, emotional health, style, etc. are all equally important, if not more.
/r/seduction16/05/17 04:23 PM
1

Rarely. Mindsets like these also helped me overcome a lot of negative self-talk.
/r/seduction15/05/17 08:21 PM
1

Thank you. Cheers!
/r/seduction15/05/17 04:02 PM
1

Thanks for the recommendation, I'll check him out.
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:57 PM
1

I agree. I miscommunicated. I tell my guys all the time that the only thing they've really got to worry about is simply being someone likable or trustworthy.
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:38 AM
1

Dude, I agreed with everything you said.
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:11 AM
2

Now you're overthinking it. Be say whatever you want to say. Trial and error. Repeat.
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:03 AM
1

You and me both - my text game has always been "eh" despite being in Game for 7+ years. I'm not too creative or witty. Yeah, chat for a dayish, MAYBE two, and go for the close. I have a rule, it's called the "One Week Rule". For one week, I don't ask her out, make any sexual intentions, etc. I just have fun and get to know her. This takes HUGE pressure off my chest and ends up making me a lot more fun and expressive. Ironically, by the end of the week (sometimes longer), we always end up making …
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:51 AM
1

I think what will help you (that A LOT of guys don't do) is just having fun and getting to know them. As quickly as you see things going well, go for the Snapchat close. You don't need to swing for the fences right away, as most guys do. On Tinder, if you take your time and don't ask for anything, you'll actually separate yourself from the bunch. This goes against most traditional pickup advice (be assertive! go for the close!) but online game is an entirely different beast.
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:37 AM
-1

Seconding this. Emphasis on "having your shit together", though. If you're able to talk to strangers with ease and have great interpersonal skills, you don't need anything more than a basic phone. But most of us do not have captivating, stellar interpersonal skills. Hence why it is great to use things like Snapchat (which btw works GREAT). Read more on Snapchat here.
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:34 AM
4

It depends on where you live and where you're from. If you're from rural Montana, for example, will you be meeting lots of hot chicks and going on incredible dates? Probably not. But what if you're from lively San Francisco where new people are coming into the city every day? You'll find there are many attractive women who are eager to meet new people & get to know the city. I don't know where you're from, what your profile looks like, or how good your conversational skills are. But there's a lo…
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:31 AM
6

You see it all the time but your brain doesn't register it as a "cold approach daygame". All you see and think is, "Oh, it's just a regular guy and girl chatting." But what you didn't see is that guy going up to her, saying hello, her getting caught off guard, but him saving the conversation by acknowledging her discomfort. Come to San Francisco, Market Street. Take a seat anywhere and you'll see it.
/r/seduction29/04/17 01:12 AM
1

You got this.
/r/seduction22/04/17 01:31 AM
2

No.
/r/seduction22/04/17 01:30 AM
0

I just wrote about this last week. The psychology and mindsets that helped me get 40+ dates in 9 months
/r/seduction20/04/17 04:16 PM
6

I think you did great by suggesting to hang out. I think you did wrong by suggesting she goes to "buy jeans with you". Assuming she's just a "chatting buddy" or not, I'm not sure anyone would be compelled to say "yes" to that offer. Try something a little more social and fun next time (I.e., grabbing drinks with friends, bowling with friends, studying together, grabbing a bite to eat, etc).
/r/seduction20/04/17 01:16 AM
6

Because it was filmed in France.
/r/seduction20/04/17 01:09 AM
1

Thank you!
/r/seduction18/04/17 01:31 PM
1

Curious, how long have you been doing this for? When did you get into the Seduction community?
/r/seduction18/04/17 12:43 AM
1

As someone just starting off and aspiring to get better with women, you will get a lot more “no” answers than you will get “yes” answers. If the inevitability of those “no” responses demotivates you, you need to start looking at the “no” a little differently.
/r/seduction18/04/17 12:22 AM
2

I recently published the top psychological mindsets I have that help me get results. My beginnings were similar to yours except I grew up too skinny (I was called a "stick" and bullied from age 5-16). It does take time to rewire your way of thinking so above all be patient with yourself.
/r/seduction17/04/17 11:56 PM
3

Now, I've recently started a new job that pays minimum wage. Meaning I don't have the financial comfort of living alone just yet. Logistics arent an issue, banging girls in my parents house is not a problem either. Only issue is the possibility of girls finding this as a turn-off and if they'd ever question why exactly I still live at home. Stay home. Save up. And put yourself in a better financial situation. You have to think long-term here and look past what girls might think for now. Girls wi…
/r/seduction17/04/17 04:50 PM
7

I'd warn against the Art of Seduction. It's a very dense book full of advanced concepts. Do not read if you are new or intermediate, you might find yourself overthinking a lot of things. However, if you've been around the block for some time now... Get ready to have your mind blown.
/r/seduction14/04/17 11:49 PM
1

Be considerate. Do not intentionally be flagrant.
/r/seduction13/04/17 02:35 PM
2

Thank you.
/r/seduction13/04/17 02:00 AM
1

Wouldn't drive the point home.
/r/seduction12/04/17 03:25 PM
5

I agree, my Snapchat name is atrocious. Nobody will disagree with you on that, lol. For some background: I was going on about a date a week at the time. Some of these dates were second, third, and fourth dates. None of it was monotonous or felt like a "time suck". I was new to the city, freshly single after a bad breakup.. so I was eager to go out and try new things again. It was an extremely valuable period of my life.
/r/seduction10/04/17 06:39 AM
2

Awesome man, glad things are going well.
/r/seduction10/04/17 06:28 AM
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Oh man, I used to think that too. A LOT. Made me feel like i was the one "out of the loop". I started having fun being myself. Admittedly, yes, a little weird at times due to mis-calibration but now I just say screw it. I'd say I'm a far happier person now.
/r/seduction09/04/17 10:49 PM
2

Unless you're an offensive person with flagrant thoughts, I wouldn't worry too much about saying anything offensive.
/r/seduction08/04/17 08:39 AM
1

I actually just wrote about this on my website and thought you might find it useful. link It's not exactly about small-talk but instead how to make talking seamless and easy (no matter the situation). Let me know if you get a chance to read it or if you have any question.
/r/seduction08/04/17 01:45 AM
1

If you're going to use a site/app for singles, you probably don't want to use anything that would remotely insinuate you're seeing someone.
/r/seduction07/04/17 10:18 PM
6

LPT: If it is her job to be friendly, she's probably being friendly.
/r/seduction07/04/17 09:27 PM
2

That's awesome man. I know the feeling (usually go through cycles of it... 2 years of serious dating, then 1-2 years of monogamy, then repeat. I'm currently in a relationship again). Relationships when timed right can be incredible, especially if you've gone through the trials and tribulations of dating several people now. You'll come into a relationship with lots of lessons and value under your belt, so I would recommend you jump in! Relationships are fun. Go for it.
/r/seduction04/04/17 01:22 PM
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Upvoted for visibility. Can you elaborate what made her flaking "rude"? I can understand it being rude after the 3rd of 4th time flaking. But this seems like it was an isolated incident where the girl simply forgot to text him letting him know she was there. In which case, anything could have happened. She might have pregamed too hard and blacked out at the concert or maybe she decided to not go last minute. Who knows. By the way, I'm not trying to make up for her lack of communication, but it's…
/r/seduction28/03/17 03:51 PM
2

People like people who are relatable, not mysterious. The "mysterious" guys out there (one of my best homies is this way, utter natural) rarely understand they're being mysterious to others. In other words, it's not a ploy nor a front their trying to activate for the sake of making people like them. Just be relatable. I'm surprised nobody is telling you to be to keep it real, no fronts or gimmicks.
/r/seduction28/03/17 03:23 AM
1

Removed. Contacted mods to see what's up - no response yet.
/r/seduction26/03/17 10:42 PM
9

If you're in college, the typical advice you're going to get is: join a club, sport, fraternity, or other activity and problem solved. That's great advice, actually, because in college it really is that easy. Source: I joined a social fraternity and we threw incredible parties at our house and my social circle was HUGE. But it sounds like that route hasn't been working for you so I'm going to offer another route. Download Snapchat, add everyone you know and meet in college, and then start postin…
/r/seduction24/03/17 04:59 AM
1

Dude - thank YOU! Happy to help.
/r/seduction23/03/17 05:09 PM
3

I'm just like you. Creative, expressive... then I get the number and feel like I can't bring out this side of me. I started fucking around with Snapchat in college and actually found it a lot more fun than regular texting. You can have fun, be expressive, and creative because Snapchat is all about visuals (video and picture messaging). That's what I resorted to and what I still use to get to know a girl. Eventually, I'll get her number when the timing is right to make plans. That's what I recomm…
/r/seduction23/03/17 03:49 PM
2

You would really like Part 1 + Part 3 of the Snapchat Guide to Game then. I'm on the train so can't easily provide links at the moment, but search it on /r/Seduction and it should come up. :-)
/r/seduction23/03/17 03:44 PM
12

Love this video - someone from my Facebook group shared it with me today. I unknowingly applied the same concepts of this video to my Snapchat Guide to Game. People love stories and they feel much more emotion through them. This is why I tell guys to have a beginning, middle, and end to every snapchat story they create. It's worth the effort. This is also why Snapchat is infinitely better than texting in order to "Game" girls, establish familiarity, and eventually ask her out. You can't do this …
/r/seduction23/03/17 05:10 AM
3

Again, that's fine. You're being vetted for effort. And saying you're a host actually makes you relatable to lots of other 20 year old females you're probably speaking to. Source: my first job at 20 years old was at Sears in the stockroom. It was the last thing from glamorous. Think lifting heavy boxes for 8 hour days in a sweaty, dim-lit room.
/r/seduction22/03/17 01:31 AM
1

This is golden.
/r/seduction22/03/17 12:19 AM
12

When girls ask this question, they don't really care what you do or how you say it. Essentially, what they're doing is vetting that you aren't a 20-something-year-old-loser still living with his mom and watching Seinfeld reruns in a sweaty basement. So as long as you have a job of any type or have SOMETHING going on, you're in the green. With that said, I do have a template that anyone can leverage. I call it "Refer to a movie". It helps paint the picture of what you do. Example: I work in busin…
/r/seduction21/03/17 10:50 PM
1

Hey man, great to hear from you! Love to see some of the more seasoned guys around I agree 1000%. I think that if you are someone who is confident (and confidence is a spectrum, btw, no single person is confident 100% of the time) then the need for lines evaporates almost entirely. With that said, I think everyone has got a few lines or funny jokes up their sleeve they rely on here and there. I think when people get overanalytical and obsessive with their "line" or "tactic" that they get into tr…
/r/seduction21/03/17 08:10 PM
1

Thank YOU! Happy to help.
/r/seduction21/03/17 06:42 PM
1

Well put. Thank you. I'm actually going to write a big post about this in the next few weeks.
/r/seduction21/03/17 06:42 PM
12

Upvoting this because while this is great advice, it's also not necessary. The trap guys fall into is that they think they must Snap cool or interesting stuff to spark attraction. Not true. You can be a pretty average, regular dude and still have amazing success on Snapchat. Anyway, I talk more about this here in case you're interested.
/r/seduction21/03/17 05:40 AM
3

What about Trader Joe's?
/r/seduction21/03/17 05:23 AM
9

It's total sarcasm. It's just meant to be a silly icebreaker to start the conversation in a fun tone.
/r/seduction21/03/17 05:19 AM
18

I keep it simple. "Hey, it's [Name], the guy from [where you met]. I'll try not to send you too many awkward selfies." It's a quick ice breaker that helps establish a friendly and fun tone. Works really well and I teach this to my students as well.
/r/seduction21/03/17 01:59 AM
5

I don't follow any specific steps or methods because each interaction is very different from the rest (furthermore, it makes me feel gimmicky or sleazy if I'm following a specific set of steps for something that should be smooth & natural). Typically, I'll just ask myself: "OK, what do I feel like doing at this point? Clearly, the interaction is going great...What do I feel like doing next?" Notice how I'm not referring to any specific guidelines or specific, set of step-by-step criteria. I'm si…
/r/seduction17/03/17 07:51 PM
1

I found dating sites helped me gain momentum "IRL". I found meeting people in any capacity was good. The whole negative connotation behind online dating is outdated. Everyone does it nowadays. If it helps you meet more people, its good.
/r/seduction11/03/17 01:20 AM
2

They talk to coworkers about it. Chiming in to say I've done it too with a coworker in another office. It always comes back to you. Don't shit where you eat. Don't believe the common mistake everyone seem to bump into? Try it and report back.
/r/seduction10/03/17 06:48 PM
2

No, I'm saying people should invest as much time into building a social circle as they do pickup.
/r/seduction10/03/17 03:28 PM
-7

I'm saying it's better to go out with company than alone and that ideally if you're going out you should be having fun, not being miserable. So yes, that's what I'm saying.
/r/seduction10/03/17 03:01 AM
0

I'm on a bus home from a solo night out Why do people do this? I don't understand the justification for going out alone. Going out is meant to be fun and full of laughter with friends. Instead, hundreds of guys in the community are going out and feeling miserable after a night out. That's not normal. I guarantee if guys put as much effort into their social circle, they'd get far better outcomes than just "going out solo".
/r/seduction09/03/17 11:45 PM
1

How often do you go out? Are you a part of any club or sport groups? What about Greek Life? This is the best place to start if you are in a university.
/r/seduction09/03/17 07:37 PM
2

Snapchat to build familiarity, texting to make the plans.
/r/seduction08/03/17 04:25 PM
0

Every guy feels that way: "I don't like texting as a means to get to know someone - much prefer talking or in person". Including myself. But understand the girl doesn't feel that way. She's going to want to feel a lot more familiar with you before she ever decides to hang out with you. Most of the time that you immediately go for the date, you'll get ghosted. You do whatever feels right for you but just have that in mind.
/r/seduction08/03/17 02:23 PM
-2

Why don't you try to get to know first, instead? Then ask for the date. See if she's even your type. I don't understand the rush behind asking for the date immediately. She probably thinks you're too eager.
/r/seduction08/03/17 01:51 PM
3

Stop being so data driven and start asking yourself "What do I feel like doing or saying in this moment?" Become more intuitive.
/r/seduction08/03/17 01:49 PM
4

Personally, I just like to get to know the girl on the first date. Call me old fashioned. Hell, you can even call me a pussy. But on the first date, I don't even make any moves. I just crack jokes, self-amuse, ask good questions, and have fun. That's it. Ironically, this lack of escalation always leads to a second and third date. Your call. But don't be surprised when a girl doesn't go on the second date because you went in way too hard the first time.
/r/seduction08/03/17 06:42 AM
36

That's probably one of the best mindsets to have. I think the whole idea of going out to "practice" your approach, negging, etc. is a little unnatural and uncomfortable. Whereas if you go out with the idea of having fun and letting the chips fall where they may, a lot of things happen for you naturally.
/r/seduction08/03/17 06:36 AM
3

Asking a girl out should be a nonevent. In other words, if you spend enough time building a relationship with them and establishing familiarity, asking them out is a mere triviality. Of course they will say yes. A lot of guys overly focus on the last part, though. Which is asking them out or going for the "close". Trust me, the girl decided long ago if she was going to kiss you that night or if she was going to go out with you. It has nothing to do with your ask and everything to do with your ac…
/r/seduction07/03/17 01:54 PM
2

This is going to follow me for the rest of my Reddit career.
/r/seduction07/03/17 01:48 PM
5

Girls love attention on social media. The more followers, the better. They have dozens of guys request to follow them each day. They don't know any of these guys and 95% of the time have never met them. You would fall under that category the moment you follow them too. There's literally nothing in it for you to follow or add them. Social guys who are killing the game aren't doing it by adding girls' Instagram accounts who they found on Tinder. They're out in the real world forming relationships,…
/r/seduction07/03/17 05:54 AM
5

And don't forget to floss and brush your tongue, too. No but really, this is sound advice. Thanks man.
/r/seduction06/03/17 04:44 PM
4

I've found both of them to be incredible writers. However, the answer to your question depends on the person and the situation in front of them. Models is for the average guy who just wants to get better, overall. A newbie can read the book and benefit greatly. Greene's Art of Seduction is for the advanced. If you read it too early on, you'll just confuse yourself and get overwhelmed with the tactics. I would recommend Greene if you are advanced and really want to dive deep on tactics. They are …
/r/seduction06/03/17 03:46 AM
4

This works. A lot of people mess this part up by going for the date immediately and completely skipping the part where the girl gets the chance to know them. Then they wonder why girls always say no or reply with "I'm busy". She's intentionally dodging you.
/r/seduction06/03/17 02:01 AM
15

I agree.
/r/seduction06/03/17 01:59 AM
6

I am confident Then go find a girl who is single and who you have a reasonable chance of success with. I don't quite understand this community's bad habit of chasing girls who are unavailable. "How do I hook up with a girl who won't follow me back on Insta?" "Is it weird if I try to add a girl I don't know or haven't met on Snapchat? How do I game her?" I will cut to the chase. You don't. BTW: Girl's who have a boyfriend will very openly flirt with you and even make sexual innuendos with you (if…
/r/seduction16/02/17 11:12 PM
11

You mean, you're getting massive anxiety because you're realizing people don't want to stop and talk to a random stranger right after they're done working a 10 hour shift? Shocker, bro. Look, I wish you all the best and if you're getting reasonable success keep at it. But you might want to consider skimping the "rush hour" approaching entirely, and instead putting yourself in more socially open situations where people are actually eager to talk (ex: happy hours, networking events, and parks). Cu…
/r/seduction16/02/17 02:18 AM
0

No, not really. I know a lot of people here will swear by meditation, but it has no impact on my game. You'll be 100% fine without it.
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:03 PM
1

What's up dude?
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:52 AM
2

Even more fun when you're a normal, regular dude who has an ounce or two of confidence.
/r/seduction14/02/17 01:39 PM
4

I used to be like this, so 100% understand. I'm happy to tell you that it can definitely be worked on and improved! So just keep at it, start small, and a year from now I guarantee your eye contact will be powerful.
/r/seduction13/02/17 11:31 PM
4

All of a sudden, this HB9 walks across and shoots me a smile. I'll admit I was a little drunk but I gave a smile back. Thought little of it. Then I noticed she was still walking but she turned back and looked at me again. I gave another smile. Can I just say how awesome this is? First, it's FUN! A lot of people forget the game is supposed to be a fun, silly, spontaneous thing! Second, this is how a lot of my own cold approaches start off too. When you notice it eye contact like OP mentioned, fee…
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:52 PM
8

"You and I click like pen and paper." "We're different. We're like Bonnie and Clyde." "You're whiter than toothpaste, hun." I use these all the time. Cheesy. But potentially hilarious depending who you are using them with.
/r/seduction10/02/17 11:32 PM
2

That makes sense. But that's never happened to me (never heard that happening to my students either) so I'd say to not worry about it too much.
/r/seduction10/02/17 09:55 PM
2

Just replying to people's stories in any way is great. That's my style but you might have your own. Additionally, the "personalized approach", which is about noticing what people post about on their stories. Then sending them a personal snap about a similar topic. I.E. I sent a girl who posted a green smoothie a picture of my green smoothie, conversation flowed from there.
/r/seduction10/02/17 09:14 PM
2

Let me know if you need help with this, by the way. There's a few ways I have of sparking conversation (because I agree, it's tough to remember to whip out your phone sometimes).
/r/seduction10/02/17 08:28 PM
1

Thanks man - I appreciate that. New posts coming soon on how to get more hangouts. Rooting for ya.
/r/seduction10/02/17 08:26 PM
1

Haha, whatever, you get it the point man!
/r/seduction10/02/17 08:25 PM
1

Posting here just to request something. I speak for many of us when I say that if you're looking to utilize a "hail mary", you've already likely lost. Unless you're the Patriots. With that said, whatever you end up trying, come back to us with an update. We'd love to hear how it all went down, g.
/r/seduction10/02/17 07:58 PM
1

I'm not sure which "rapport materials" or "triggers" you're referring to in your post, so I'm just going to omit that here. Almost inevitably, the reason why guys fail to get more hangouts is because they skipped rapport. This is something I teach to my students on Snapchat (snapsocialguru) all the time. If you don't build rapport, familiarity, and comfort... the girl gets flaky. That's it. Girls don't go on dates with guys they're unfamiliar with. But my focusing on building rapport, moving thi…
/r/seduction10/02/17 07:14 PM
1

Chasing isn't the right word OP should continue conversation with her, rebuilding rapport, and seeing where things go. It's called relationship building.
/r/seduction10/02/17 03:06 AM
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Are you attempting to ask her out before even establishing who you are and your interest in her? If yes, then no. Don't just ask her out. Social value comes first. Date comes second. I teach this to guys who follow me on Snapchat all the time who are having serious trouble getting more hangouts. They're shocked that when they ask a girl out, the girl usually ends up going dark or saying "I'm busy". That's because they try asking her out first and try establishing their social value second. But i…
/r/seduction09/02/17 06:13 PM
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You're experiencing "sexually analytical freeze" (SAF). Yup, I just made that up. What that means is that you're overthinking this so much that you end up not ever taking action at all. Instead, you're waiting on someone to tell you how to do it. A cornerstone of the /r/seduction community is to go out and try things yourself. Testing things out, man! You tell us: does it work better to make a sexual comment once a week or once every few days? Is it better if you say X or if you say Y? Whatever …
/r/seduction09/02/17 04:19 PM
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You stressing about not stressing is going to only stress you out more. It's the first date man, so not much can happen anyway. Enjoy it, have fun, and quit overthinking it. You don't have to be this confident superhero made out of steel to get results. You just have to be normal.
/r/seduction09/02/17 02:34 PM
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You mean, you aren't interested in approaching every single living being with a pulse? Yeah man, that's fine. We call it "standards".
/r/seduction09/02/17 02:32 PM
4

Keep frame at all times. She called me out on multiple things and I messed up by replying "fair point" and falling into her frame. She reiterates: "I'm not criticizing or attacking you, I'm just being honest and want to help you." You're allowed to agree with people, man. It doesn't mean you have a "weak frame". Chillax, lol. Approach every meeting with a chick as a date. Everything is a screening/test and you should both measure each other up. I'm sure this will greatly help you build strong re…
/r/seduction09/02/17 12:52 AM
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Has anyone actually called you out and said, "Hey! You're the guy who talks to every girl! HANG HIM!!!" Or is this just an irrational, "what if?" fear you have going on in your head? Let me just put it this way: No person wakes up hungover the next morning thinking, "Man, /u/Feeling-Euphoric was really talking to a lot of girls yesterday night! Screw that guy!".
/r/seduction09/02/17 12:37 AM
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I love this. I get asked about this all the time on my Snapchat account. "How do I start a conversation with a girl that has zero interest in me at all?" "How do I hit up a random girl I've never met before in my entire life?" "Is it weird if I message a girl who has no idea who the hell I am?" This is where the "abundance" mentality plays a vital part in game. Go for the girls who are actually interested in engaging with you, not the ones who could care less about you. Do that and I guarantee y…
/r/seduction09/02/17 12:35 AM
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To live, you must actually have fun and learn to let go. Realize nobody gives two cents how awkward you think you are.
/r/seduction09/02/17 12:32 AM
4

What's your process for getting a "Day 2"? You included nothing about that.
/r/seduction07/02/17 10:57 PM
1

Become the bartender.
/r/seduction07/02/17 01:46 AM
1

Just came here to say that you're on the right track to core confidence. You're going to have a lot of these occasional situations where you swing between too assholish or too pussy. Eventually, you'll find the perfect balance. By the way, this is natural for a lot of guys who are going through this growth. They have a lot of contrasting thoughts like this. The important part is that you're actually aware of your thinking. You're conscious that you don't have it all figured out right now. And th…
/r/seduction07/02/17 12:56 AM
1

Streaks can be a great way to tell how much rapport you've built with a girl based on the number of conversations with her. So I wouldn't say to avoid streaks altogether. I know guys who leverage these "streaks" for their own benefit. But with that said, I wouldn't waste energy or effort on a girl who's going to get extremely upset about their "streaks". You're handling it as well as you can! Great job landing those meetups with the other girls.
/r/seduction07/02/17 12:28 AM
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I would almost never recommend it. Have you heard of the old quote, "Don't shit where you eat"? There are lots of problems that can be created from dating women at work. You never know who you're going to piss off and how it can backfire. This is where the "abundance mentality" really kicks into gear. There are hundreds of women out there, do you really need to be hitting on the ones you work with and will have to see every day? This is a question to ask yourself and ultimately consider if datin…
/r/seduction06/02/17 06:02 PM
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The best course of action is always being yourself. Learned that at Todd's in-person event. Basically, what it means is that don't overthink which course of action you should take when approaching someone. Whatever you feel like saying or doing first is the best course of action.
/r/seduction05/02/17 01:04 AM
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I would have got her Snap but that's my preference. What you can do now is just start texting her. "Hey, it's that guy from last night. Make it home alright?" That's it. Then she responds and you start a conversation. The worst thing you can do right now is let it sit and go cold. So I'd probably not overthink it and just text her already.
/r/seduction28/01/17 06:01 PM
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Thanks for the tag. I describe three different types of things to post about: Day to Day (dentist, errands, groceries, studying, making dinner). Work/Professional (work achievements, meetings, showing us what you do, etc). Actual cool shit (you got to a party, concerts, hiking, social events, etc). The common misbelief is that you only have to post "cool shit" otherwise you look lame. But if you only post cool shit, you start to seem less and less relatable. So instead, I recommend you post abou…
/r/seduction28/01/17 05:57 PM
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My suggestion to you is to take it slower. Have you ever considered that the person on the other end might feel like you're moving forward too quickly? Focus more on relationship building. Take it slow. Just because you sent a few back and forth Tinder messages doesn't mean a person will agree to your date. People take warming up. It isn't the "line" you're using that's holding you back, it's your behavior.
/r/seduction25/01/17 01:23 PM
3

"Sexual market value". Just look at it as social value, essentially. Or how cool you're perceived in the eyes of others.
/r/seduction22/01/17 12:45 AM
4

Step 1: Start asking everyone you meet and vibe with in real life/tinder if they have Snapchat. Add them. Step 2: Post good stories of your life, hobbies, etc. People will respond to them. Step 3: Start replying to people's stories as well and sparking conversations with others. Step 4. Repeat. After you've built enough social value, you will get invited to places or people will be more open to hanging out.
/r/seduction22/01/17 12:44 AM
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I love this. A lot of guys completely oversee social media as part of their overall dating and social strategy. You aren't going to be in college and have access to a wealth of people forever. Start adding people on Snapchat, Facebook, or Linkedin. It pays HUGE dividends down the line. Invest in your social circle as much as you invest in pickup and you will be AMAZED by how much of the work will be done for you. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite …
/r/seduction21/01/17 06:15 PM
2

Again, great mindset in taking the long-term approach. You know you're going to see her again inevitably so you're no worried about rushing it. Keep it up man. Would love to see some more progress!
/r/seduction18/01/17 09:56 PM
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Correct.
/r/seduction18/01/17 09:55 PM
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Great mini-FR. Do I think you could have done better by suggesting to hang out with her at some point? Yes. But assuming someone new is reading this post - this is a classic example of holding the "Im the prize" mindset in a way that's light hearted and funny. A lot of guys can take this mindset too far and come off way too cocky (and push people away). Great job dude, thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction18/01/17 02:30 PM
4

I'm not going to tell you what to say but I will tell you how to respond to shit tests: Misinterpret. Exaggerate. Completely ignore. Do one of these and you can pass it. Learned this directly from Todd, in person, and it had never failed me.
/r/seduction18/01/17 02:19 PM
1

When you're texting way more than she's texting you. But if she's equally responsive and engaged, you're fine.
/r/seduction18/01/17 02:17 PM
1

I'm always a little iffy about inviting girls over to come over directly, especially on just the second date. It may be a smoother transition if you meet elsewhere, near your place, then invite her over after for the views. Regardless, congratulations on the first date, because most guys end up killing it due to over escalating. You played it safe and now get to reap the rewards (wait, you can play it safe and eat your cake too!? Yup).
/r/seduction18/01/17 02:16 PM
13

Whats going to fuck you up isn't the "cursing". It's going to be the lack of social awareness to those around you.
/r/seduction18/01/17 02:13 AM
7

The reason why I love his system so much is because it is for regular, average people. I worked 60 hours a week, 9-5 so I didn't really have the time to go on tons of dates, approach dozens of girls, or always be out at clubs/bars. Yet, because I knew how to leverage Snapchat, I was still able to have a thriving social and dating life, despite living a fairly average and normal life.
/r/seduction14/01/17 06:11 PM
3

I've organically met girls through work, social circle, and while out with friends. However, I also proactively put 1-3 hours a week to online dating or approaching just to keep things fun. None of my results, however, would have succeeded if I didn't become a well-rounded person who had hobbies and interests of his own. So also definitely invest in yourself.
/r/seduction13/01/17 01:55 PM
3

If you'd like to learn how to banter and be more playful, I highly encourage you to enroll in an improv 101 class. This will teach you how to be more playful and banter.
/r/seduction12/01/17 09:33 PM
1

Ignore the "guru" title to my username. It's a hilariously inaccurate username. I'm a completely average dude who leveraged Snapchat to improve his social life - that's it. I share my findings from the past year here. Thanks for the two cents - not many will put in the effort you did for feedback like this.
/r/seduction11/01/17 12:15 AM
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In my experience, not a lot of people are messaging others or commenting on stories. Many people are lurkers on Snapchat; they don't post many stories themselves nor comment on a story. It can be very similar to Reddit in this aspect. You will find exceptions to this statement, for sure, so take it with a grain of salt as it's only my experience. Furthermore, the majority of people who do post stories aren't posting in an engaging manner (read Part 1 of the Guide). Instead, they post one-off pho…
/r/seduction11/01/17 12:09 AM
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This means you were already applying parts 2-5 to some capacity. And that's great. What's obvious to some may not be so obvious to others, and I wanted to make sure I was addressing how to take an interaction from beginning to end. From the moment you add someone on Snapchat to the moment you want to see them again.
/r/seduction10/01/17 11:52 PM
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The last two sentences is exactly what this is. I appreciate you calling that out and the quote "you are great but here's how more people can see that" is what Snapchat can do for you if applied correctly. Thats all the guide is in a nutshell.
/r/seduction10/01/17 11:45 PM
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Haha. Dead. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction10/01/17 07:07 PM
1

Best summary of all the lessons I've read thus far. I will be giving more examples of stories anyone can do, but don't get stuck on the idea of them having to be clever. Over the weekend, I got great stories of someone getting surgery on their toe, a person prepping for the storm (setting up sand bags and cleaning the roof gutters), and someone going back to college after the break. On the surface these might seem boring but people make them interesting by applying the beginning, middle, and end…
/r/seduction10/01/17 07:06 PM
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You (and anyone who relates with your post) desperately need to read No More Mr Nice Guy. Now. The author addresses all of your questions better than anyone here could. After you read the book, it'd be great to hear back from you and your progress.
/r/seduction06/01/17 01:48 PM
3

I finally got my shit together, and I am doing the things that are truly important to me, damn I was finally looking at the things that actually matter. This is also addressed in Mark Manson's new book, The Art of Not Giving a Fuck. I highly recommend the book if you find yourself overreactive or putting too much emphasis on things that don't matter. This book will hit you hard.
/r/seduction06/01/17 12:41 AM
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Live a productive, well-rounded life so that you have far more to look forward to than just your date. People put far too much pressure on first dates not realizing they are actually just opportunities to be yourself, have fun, and not worry about an outcome. Great things hardly happen on the first date, so just have fun and quit worrying about the outcome! FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction04/01/17 05:29 PM
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You don't (and I mean that in the most helpful way possible). Quick example. A goal of mine is to get a raise at work (let's say $10,000 raise by end of year). I cannot control the dollar value I'll end up getting. That's up to my Director to decide and economic circumstances of the company. However, I can control my negotiation skills (by practicing), my professional skills (by making sure I always do a great job), and my networking skills (so I'm always on great terms with my bosses). Manson w…
/r/seduction03/01/17 10:35 PM
2

I actually just posted about this on my Snapchat story and lots of people found it valuable. Everyone talks about what they want in 2017, but they don't talk about how they're going to get it. With that said, I do have one suggestion and it's this: hold yourself accountable You can do this by: Tracking progress (keep a journal + vision board). Maintain a routine/system (buy a journal + a daily to-do list). Download productivity app, Way of Life (habit tracker). What are your thoughts on this? Gr…
/r/seduction03/01/17 08:51 PM
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Correct!
/r/seduction03/01/17 04:18 PM
2

So true. By the way, if anyone is looking to make any investments, I'd recommend RSD Todd's 30 day challenge to approaching, which can be found in his Valentine University course. I took it and it helped me with approaching and opening people (I started with from zero).
/r/seduction03/01/17 01:34 PM
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Great book on this topic is Manson's new book, The Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It's all about caring only about what you can control and then not giving a shit about the rest. FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.
/r/seduction03/01/17 01:29 PM
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As someone who went through a big breakup in the beginning of 2016 and essentially had to start from nothing again, here my take: 1) Take action. Small steps, over and over. Slowly pushing you comfort zone over time. 2) Read and learn. Buy a course (RSD offers most diverse set of products, to my knowledge). Reflect and keep a journal. 3) And most importantly, don't be too hard on yourself. Be patient and kind, give kudos to yourself for even trying. Beating yourself up along this process can be …
/r/seduction02/01/17 09:50 PM
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it opens people up. from the guy's standpoint via text, being able to keep it short and also keep the conversation flowing is optimal, as well.
/r/seduction29/10/16 05:19 PM
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thanks for this. if anyone is heavy on textgame, this is golden also
/r/seduction29/10/16 04:51 PM
1

Yo! great question. it's not going to work well and here is why: you've got no social capital with her. build some value with these girls via tinder and then go ahead and message them on instagram. i understand where you're coming from with this message and it's great that you're trying to be empathetic in your approach. but empathy won't replace social capital. build social capital first, then you can go ahead and ask for a drink. hope this helps.
/r/seduction28/10/16 11:53 PM
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