In case you missed it, I'm starting a 5-part youtube series on how to approach strangers and be able to talk to anyone. After this series, you will have mastered cold approach and reached a higher level of social confidence.

Here's the breakdown of the upcoming parts:

  • Part 1: Normalization and rewiring: link
  • Part 2: Courtesies and desensitization (technical) -- link below, released today
  • Part 3: Becoming more approachable (mindset change) -- coming next Sunday
  • Part 4: Radical honesty // "full permission" communication (mindset change/technical)
  • Part 5: Genuine approaches (completely technical)

This took me about 9-12 months to master and can now confidently approach someone 80% of the time (yes, there are days and moments where I'll chicken out, save it for another time, etc).

It's a skill that's utterly important and valuable because it transfers to all aspects of life (business networking, social circle development, when starting a new job, etc).

But with the access to dating apps and dozens of women at our fingertips, why would we take the time and effort to develop a skill that requires a lot of bravery?

I've never seen any pickup coach or dating guru talk about approaching the way I do. The most common form of advice is to do day-game cold-approach pickup for 1-3 hours a day.

That's also the most intimidating, nerve-wracking, difficult thing you can do and most people give up before they even begin. It also takes A LOT of time and the learning curve is very, very steep. Not saying it can't be done, but it's just a lot harder for the average guy.

I started my process through baby steps. Then, I started stacking baby steps until finally one day I was able to confidently approach women and talk to anyone. Two years ago I couldn't even make eye contact with a stranger and say hello. I was overly reliant on dating apps. I vowed to myself that I'd never be afraid to talk to a stranger ever again, especially if it's a beautiful woman who I am attracted to.

Here's part 2: https://youtu.be/C_OLqrQyUNs

Five key bullet points covered in today's video:

  1. A lot of guys are "unbalanced introverts", especially in the seduction community. If you want to be able to approach anyone (including the most beautiful girl in the room), you have to become more balanced. My approach will teach you how to do that without exerting too much energy. Over time, you will become more extroverted.
  2. You know you've made the full transformation when social interactions energize you, not sap your energy.
  3. "Courtesies" can be practiced anywhere, anytime. They're always welcomed and you will face zero rejection. They're a terrific way to "warm-up" for the weekend when there are more social events where approaching is heavily encouraged and welcomed. It's also a great way to train your brain that talking to strangers is perfectly normal and easy.
  4. Day game gurus and pickup teachers typically go 0 to 100 real quick. This doesn't allow you to make a full transformation because it throws you into the deep end without giving you enough time to iron out your social flaws. With this slower approach, you have the room and space to face your insecurities and anxieties. A 3-day Bootcamp is too fast-paced and allows for minimal progress, for example. Hence why we start with baby steps and "stacking". You NEED room for introspection (otherwise you learn the hard skill but not the psychology to repeatedly be successful).
  5. Build the momentum now so that in 3-6 months, the next natural progression is to approach a woman and make it seem easy. Don't start with the hardest step if you haven't earned the right. You need to start with baby steps and work your way up gradually. That's the only way to cure approach anxiety forever (otherwise, it keeps coming back -- give yourself time for a transformation, don't try to cure it in 2 weeks).

After this five-part series, you will have a good understanding of what to do (and what NOT to do) to succeed at cold approach dating. You will rely less on dating apps (which IMO there's a huge over-reliance on it by most guys, and as a result has led to dating apps being a "crutch"). This way of cold approaching will NOT ask you to "spam approach". You will never have to hit the streets in the middle of the day and allocate 2-3 hours purely approaching women you see on the street. This is a lot more practicable and less intimidating, yet just as successful if not more.

Let me know if there's something I missed from today's video OR if there's something you'd like to get addressed in the upcoming videos. If you want to conquer this area of your life, it can 100% be done. So don't let me skip or speed through anything that's important.

Heads up, all of these are going to be put on a playlist, which you can access here for future reference. After this series is complete, I intend on focusing on social circle development.