I’m excited to give you this advice because it’s a small tweak that’s going to bring you MASSIVE results.

Results include increased charisma, confidence, new friends/relationships, popularity, and social momentum.

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Okay, so here’s the mistake I’ve seen “new guys” make.

They don’t socialize with everyone.

They only socialize with “targets”. They’re stuck thinking about “gaming” and “escalating”.

It’s all fine. That’s not BAD. But it’s not OPTIMAL, either.

But here’s what’s optimal:

Talk to everyone. Including guys. Even the girl you’re not completely attracted to. Socialize. Bullshit. Shoot the shit. Say something that isn’t exactly “alpha”. Share. VIBE! Get along with the group! DONT WORRY ABOUT LOOKING TOO COOL.

(Taking an improv class will 100% help with this. It helped me.)

What’s going to happen after you do this is that your social momentum will go through the roof. Your mood will be extremely high, and as a result, so will your confidence.

Over time, you’ll be able to talk to anyone and hold a good conversation with anyone.

Again, most beginners don’t do this. They’re only talking to the girls they’re sexually interested in. Even when they’re in a group setting or party, they’re only trying to talk to that one person. Or they’re trying to do “game”, so everything they do or say comes off as try-hard and slick.

Don’t be a fool, but relax man. You can be silly and slightly goofy. People will like you more for it. Yes, even women. If it comes from a confident place.

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TL;DR; Shoot the shit with everyone. Yes, spit game. But also, socialize with everyone. Not everyone is a target. Learn to “let go” and express yourself. This small tweak will result in CRAZY social momentum.

HMU.

Laz

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Edit: two resources that’ll help with this as well. This video and this book by nick sparks. Cheers!

Edit #2: by talking to everyone, I don’t mean 100% of people. It doesn’t have to be EVERRYYYYYYONE. Most guys focus on like 5-10% of people. And those are only people they’re interested in. If you bump that number up to 40-50% of people in the room you’re in, you’re golden.