FYI: I recently started a blog that talks more about this kind of stuff: Socialite Magazine.

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Since my breakup, I’ve been going out a lot more.

I’ve been getting exposed to some seriously fuckin’ “natural” guys.

And I’m astounded. Impressed. Shocked...

These are the type of guys who’ve never studied game — and yet — can open ANYBODY.

These guys are what I call “killers”. They have no fear. They talk to anyone within distance.

Naturally, as a student of persuasion, seduction, and social skills… I ask them questions about their charisma and energy:

“How are you so social!?”“Don’t you get nervous when you say hi?”“HOW DID YOU DO THAT!?”

Here are two commonalities I’ve come across that these “natural” types ALL share…

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First, they all have this mindset…

“I talk to people without expecting anything in return. I have no agenda.”

This is pretty counter-intuitive. Especially because in the PUA community, we’re taught to lead with “intention”. Otherwise, we’re wasting our time.

Well, that doesn’t fucking matter to the natural. He doesn’t care about “wasting his time”. He just talks and expects nothing back in return.

They say hi to everyone, just to say hi. Not because they wanna “approach” or “open”. They don’t care about getting the number.

(Of course, if things go well, they do know how to move things forward, though).

A lot of the superman naturals I’ve come across say things like,

“Yeah man. Idk. I just talk to people. I’m not really trying to get anything from them. I’m just saying whats up.”

That was a ridiculously common theme. No intention. Pure play. Didn’t give a single fuck about the “pussy”.

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Second, from a tactical standpoint, they do this…

They put themselves in good situations. Consistently.

When they’re at a bar, club, or networking event… They put themselves at the center of the action.

For example, if they’re at the club, they put themselves in high-traffic areas.

Instead of being at the corner of the venue talking to their buddy, they position themselves RIGHT NEXT to the bar-area where everyone is going/walking. They do not isolate themselves from the action. They stick themselves in the center of it.

Naturally, this exposes them to vast amounts of people. They can open everyone around them very easily, without any struggle at all. This increases social momentum over the roof. In fact, this tactic often times has people talking to them too.

This might seem dead-obvious. But it wasn’t for me. Even after 8+ years of “game”.

Next time you go out to a party or bar, GO WHERE EVERYONE IS HANGING OUT. Just stand there. Shoot the shit with your friend. Embrace the chaos. Because it’s about to get loud.

Now, I put myself right in the center of the action all the time. Opportunities open themselves up for me. I just gotta smile and say “hi, whats up”.

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TL;DR:

  1. Have zero intention.
  2. Smile and say, “hi, what’s up”.
  3. Put yourself in high-traffic situations.

That’s it. ​​​​​​​

-Laz