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Building a social circle, article has some good points! See my notes :)

Scrub_TLC

July 5, 2018

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https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-to-build-a-social-circle.html

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Title	Building a social circle, article has some good points! See my notes :)
Author	Scrub_TLC
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	July 5, 2018 4:15 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8wbpve/building_a_social_circle_article_has_some_good/
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[–]Scrub_TLC[S] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Of special importance are the points about "make the new friendships ABOUT something" and "make it extra-easy, pick an interest or hobby you ALREADY love"

I think it's also good to keep in mind that you want to be building STRONG connections not just quantity. Any night I can get 20+ numbers, do you how many of those I follow up on?

My strengths are my weaknesses:

Extrovert
Social Butterfly
Love Meeting New People
People Love My Energy
Enthusiasm

I can make a lot of really unsustainable connections, we have nothing in common. That's okay for M to F relationships, I make it up with being a killer in the sack, I serve a function. With building male friendships you really need to have common interests...

For me going forward, I will be focusing on really nailing down what interests I can use to draw in and sustain male friendships and building out my social circle sustainably and slowly really working to go for DEPTH of connection over quantity!

Asking questions and REALLY listening!

[–]hunterpua 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

These are good points. A very important point in the original article is also to have a reason to see them at least once a week. Its sort of "the logistics of friendship" because no matter how much of a connection you have with people, if you don't see each other regularly, there is no way for the friendship to really grow.

One thing I would just like to modify from what you wrote is, you want to focus mostly on actively making female friends as opposed to male friends. You speak of making strong connections. It'll be easier to do that with a smaller number so the way you want to look at it is, with men you want quality over quantity but with women you want quantity over quality in terms of the kind of friendships you develop. Don't worry about getting guy friends, when you meet girls they have friends that are male too that they can introduce to you or if you're just hanging around many enough women then men will just naturally want to become a part of that.

The reason you want to do this is because from a dating perspective (since you're posting this here I assume you want your social circle to help you get laid) it becomes so much easier to get girls when you are surrounded by so many. Whether its the girls inside the social circle or the girls outside looking in.

Pre-selection is very interesting because you rarely get a piece of game that builds both attraction and comfort at the same time. With pre-selection, that's exactly what happens. When girls see you hanging out with other girls, they will be more attracted to you because of the endorsement you're getting and the bandwagon effect but they will also feel more comfortable with you because they will think if you're able to get that many girls to like you enough to hang around you then you must be a cool guy and you'd really need to be a cool guy to sustain that for the long term so their assumption wont even be wrong.

And not only that, because of the sheer number of women you'd have around you, you will barely even need to game because them competing amongst each other will usually be enough so that they pretty much game themselves for you.

[–]Scrub_TLC[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

Don't worry about getting guy friends, when you meet girls they have friends that are male too that they can introduce to you

More picky about my male friends, I am very deep into PUA with advanced knowledge. Most men are so AFC and cringy I can't stand to be near them... It also becomes an act of wearing a mask because they know not shit about the world and spend too much time signaling virtue and white knighting. So yeah I am looking for QUALITY male friends!

since you're posting this here I assume you want your social circle to help you get laid

Not really, with the exception of party girls who like to be invited to groups I am able to same day to 3 day lay most number closes I follow up with. I would like a party scene for the part girls but mostly I just want close male friends.

it becomes so much easier to get girls when you are surrounded by so many

As far as dating goes I actually DON'T want a social circle because I make so many connections that people don't want to hook up with me cause her BFF wants to bang and she'll have to deal with the drama. This is not a message I get as an excuse this is what they say AFTER we fuck and the reason for not fucking again. It's also not the quality of the lay since I have a pornstar size dong and women specifically go out of their way to tell me how good I am with hands mouth etc... lots of return business so :/

Pre-selection

I am tall (NBA tall) attractive confident witty etc... I walk into a room and lead any interaction I enter. I dominate and befriend any competing males and have everybody staying I'm the best and they love me within minutes. That plus all the nudes on my phone and the fact I stop women from looking at them demonstrates I am successful and also don't kiss an tell.

Conclusion:

None of your points are wrong. However, I live assuming I will NEVER get married. I fulfill all my emotional needs through friendships and only date women for sexual fulfillment. So the quality of my male peers is more important than any other single element in my life as it is the backbone of wellbeing as a social animal. I mean to say I don't just want to make friends with some female's orbiters.

[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]Scrub_TLC[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link