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Shit test: "I'm done with casual sex, I want to build a connection first, if I have sex with a guy early on I probably don't like him etc etc"

JW_2

July 21, 2018

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Title	Shit test: "I'm done with casual sex, I want to build a connection first, if I have sex with a guy early on I probably don't like him etc etc"
Author	JW_2
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	July 21, 2018 2:18 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/90lyv6/shit_test_im_done_with_casual_sex_i_want_to_build/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/shit-test-im-done-with-casual-sex-i-want-to-build.1450287 https://theredarchive.com/post/1450287

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[–]BozoCardozo 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

[–]JW_2[S] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]WIA20XX 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]JW_2[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]WIA20XX 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]JW_2[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]WIA20XX 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

The correct mindset is that the girl is thinking about having sex with you.

The "correct" response is a calculated risk.

Her conscious brain is like, "Sarah, we know how we feel after getting fucked and the guy leaves"

Her unconscious brain is like, "I'm getting dick tonight."

So that's the internal battle.

Your options.

agree and amplify.
ignore.
eye roll.
natural change of subject.
smirk and change the subject.
not answer, let the silence hang, and let her fill in the gap, and qualify herself to you again.
misinterpret what she said and make a joke out of it.

Those are the PUA responses.

Only you know her tone, body language, and atmosphere.

You certainly did not include that in your write up, because you don't think that information is important. Just like you didn't mention if it was offline or online.

That says to me that you are a rookie. That's cool though, I have yet to read anything here that wasn't from newbies. Everyone starts someplace.

If she said it jokingly, you come at her jokingly. If she said it dead ass serious, you'd be a fool to agree and amplify.

The Game response is requires more information than you've given and would probably take too much explanation because you need a much better understanding of psychology.

A Game response might be something like.

You sound so serious right now, it's sexy.
But I know you're bullshitting me....

Or.

Hold up a sec.

Get close to her.

sit next to her

thigh touches though

In an honest voice, "Who hurt you?"....

That's off the top of my head. And I know how the confrontational approach will go, as well as the counselling approach will go.

In both cases, I'm going to build massive trust. Because that's what the root issue is. Trust.

I get this trust Not because she tells me shit - girls will tell you all sorts of shit unbidden , but I get her trust because I make her really open up.

In either case, I'm changing the tone, taking back the frame, and delving into some shit that she may or may not want to share - but now feels compelled.

In pickup terms this would be a purposeful phase shift into deep rapport - but none of these guys do that level of headwork for some random notch. They would say to fractionate, instead of going full bore.

All I can say to all the lurkers, if you take this pickup thing seriously, not even the sky is limit.

[–]cuzrog 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

All I can say to all the lurkers, if you take this pickup thing seriously, not even the sky is limit.

I'm a relative newbie, but I've noticed that the belief in 'game' has took a HUGE hit compared to when I read posts from like a decade back.

Even in the actual game community. I'm trying to work out whether people have cottoned on to the fact that is was all basically lies and marketing, or whether the world has changed in that time due to social media etc, or whether for whatever reason, people aren't as 'good' anymore and basically wrong in their beliefs!

I started reading the rooshv forums a few years back (before I was actively trying to 'game') and people would be banned straight away for implying that guys only got laid due to being good looking or because the girl fancied him. And them people were in the vast majority anyway. But I looked at that forum again this week and it's changed lots in that time. Most threads are about how to get better looking and how to make more money. How to fraud your tinder pics to be more handsome etc etc. THhe 'I just got laid' thread is about 90% tinder lays where people admit to being handsome, matched a girl, and banged her straight away after meeting her in a hotel room or whatever. Not really 'game' in my eyes. And people are no longer berated when they question 'game'. It's like the idea of game has changed from being able to MAKE a girl attracted to you, to being able to capitalise when a girl thinks you are handsome.

I notice the exact same thing on the RSD forums to an even greater extent. The readership seem to almost exclusively believe that looks come WAY before 'game'.

I'm curious about who is right and also about how this 'change' came to be, to be honest.

Even here on seddit, I notice that even the MODS tend to write in a way where the underlying tone is ''game is not magic. YOu can't force attraction. Have your shit together, make your intent clear, be funny, if she's not into it, move on''.

It'd be awesome to have an ugly guy with amazing game as my wingman as I really want to believe lol. So far personally, I've not been able to make a girl want me who isn't already attracted to my particular look. People use Tyler as proof, but whose to say from thousands of cherry picked infields that the girls he gets aren't girls who actually think he's decent looking? Like, I don't think he's 'ugly' at all, personally. Certaily not when he was pimping like 5 years back when he was slimmer and didn't look like a sea captain.

Game wise I started with mystery. Didn't really work for me so now i'm looking at RSD style instead.

[–]WIA20XX 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link