Let’s get the boring stuff out of the way!

OK so first things first, I did indeed approach 2 women today, and both swiftly rejected a brother. The first was a blonde I stopped in Shoreditch who seemed flattered by my approach but ultimately was in a rush to meet her friends. The second was an Eastern European substitute yoga teacher who’s covering Anastasia’s shift while she’s away for half term.

Where the yoga teacher was concerned; I spent the whole class telling myself that I’d invite her out for a coffee once it ended and was really excited to see what would happen. When I finally got a chance to speak to her, she then said ‘Oh yeah, a coffee would be great, but not right now because I’m on my way to meet a friend. Give me your number and I’ll call you.’

Now I knew for a fact that she’d do no such thing so I said:

‘Yeah but we both know that won’t happen, so here’s the deal. You can either look deeply into my eyes and realise that I’m a fantastic guy who you definitely should have a coffee with, or you can say no, and then have this fantastic guy pick himself up, go into the changing rooms, shower, get dressed and carry on with his life with no hard feelings. What do you say?’

Now she was still umming and ahhing after that, and I could tell it was because she didn’t know how to say no, so eventually I just said:

‘Hey, it’s OK, really. Just say no. Nothing bad will happen.’

Eventually she did indeed squeeze out a no, followed by an ‘I’m sorry but I’m seeing someone and I don’t want to seem rude. But what you’ve said is really flattering.’ and I was like ‘Honestly, it’s fine. Take it easy and have a good day.’’

I think I’m starting to lose patience with people who can’t be upfront and direct and I’m starting to find behaviour like this to be a bit pathetic. That’s not to say that I think this woman’s pathetic, because I’m sure she’s a great person; but all the umming and ahhing she did instead of just saying no isn’t something I can respect anymore. The people I respect now are the ones who say what they do and don’t want and make sure that everyone knows where they stand. Why offer to take somebody’s phone number if you have no intention of calling them?

It’s silly and time wasting behaviour.

Meet Adrasteia

Anyway, the woman I’d really like to talk about today is Adrasteia, a girl I matched on Tinder yesterday and ended up taking out to see comedy later on that evening. She sent me a message shortly after we matched and commented that it seemed like we might have a lot in common which I pretty much agreed with. She’s a spiritual kinda gal, and I’m a spiritual kinda guy, so our being in touch did make some sort of sense to a brother.

Now don’t ask me why this happened, but after about 2-3 messages I had a flash of intuition to ask her out for drinks that night; which I did and to which she agreed.

I then took her to Angel Comedy in Islington that night and there was chemistry between us from the moment we met. What was also interesting was the weird stuff she was into. Loosely put, she’s a firm believer in energies, chakras, entities and the like and was telling me about a race of lower dimensional entities called reptilians who apparently have created and enslaved mankind. Supposedly they treat and use human beings the same way we use hens and cows in factory farms, i.e. as food. She said that the reason we live in a world that’s so rife with war and misery is that these reptilians go out of their way to engineer these situations so that they can feed off the negative psychic energy that’s created by human misery. We’re like biological fuel cells to them, basically. It’s a story I’ve heard before but, never to the level of depth that she dove into.

She even said she’d seen some of these entities too. That not all human beings are real and that some are basically empty biological avatars for our reptilian overlords. Now I’m sure all of this sounds crazy as hell to you, but to be honest I have no idea what the hell I’m doing on this planet so I’m open to all ideas. I also know that people tend to automatically dismiss things as being crazy when they’re not things they were brought up to believe, so who really knows? While being a completely out there concept, the reptilian conspiracy theory isn’t any more crazy than what Christianity, Hinduism or Scientology teach.

On that note, the first doctor who came up with germ theory was considered a lunatic in his day too. Apparently the idea of their being microscopic entities which are littered over every surface of every object you’ve ever seen but number in the trillions and are the cause of disease was too outlandish a concept for people who hadn’t been brought up to believe in such things.

Anyway; Adrasteia and I saw some comedy, had some laughs, had some drinks, and had some kisses. And then; once the comedy was over, we went to a bar near my place for even more drinks.

Thoughts

Tomorrow’s the last day of this challenge. Can you Adam and Eve it? It’s feels like the time has gone so quickly and so slowly at the same time, but I’m glad I pushed myself to do this. When I was with my yoga teacher this morning I honestly couldn’t see why she didn’t just have the balls to say no, but the truth is that she hasn’t been through something like this and was still approaching the concept of rejection like an average person.

She was expecting that by saying no she’d crush me and that’s either because she herself would be crushed in that situation or because she thinks she’s upset other men in the past by rejecting them. But the truth is that while I was slightly disappointed, I didn’t really give a shit. Pardon my French, but that’s how I felt. While she was there dancing around the subject and being tentative, in my head I was thinking ‘Bitch, just say no, it’ll be OK!’ because I couldn’t see why she was being so timid about it.

And you know what, human? If you push yourself to go out and face rejection on a daily basis, you’ll develop a similar attitude too.

49 days down, 1, to go (I got really emotional when I wrote that!)

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