The solution to most dating problems: SCREEN HARDER

PickUpEdgeLord · 2018-08-20T02:21:15+00:00

I'd say most guys issues on here is they want sex TOO much and they shouldn't worry about having sex the first time they meet a girl. It's fucking desperate frankly.

They should worry about creating a strong frame and game that makes girls WANT to have sex with him more than he does with her.

Having that power is infinitly better than just fucking on the first date.

Go on as many dates as you want if you enjoy being with a girl. If you don't like being with the girl why are you trying to fuck her?

PS you don't have to pay anything to go on dates. Just choose location and activities better.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-08-20T04:07:52+00:00

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....the typical newbie that experiences this will be convinced by feedback that his dates give him, which is that he needs to "slow down" when it comes to sex on the first date. the newbie will listen to these girls and try to play the long game. he will go on MORE dates, invest MORE time, and try to make his move on date 2-3 with new girls that he hits up.

This is a bit of a distortion:

It's not that the feedback is "convincing" a newbie. The issue is that a call for a pause, is being interpreted in a black or white way to mean full stop or I want a relationship, when it might just mean, stop at this moment, maybe later tonight will be fine. The mistake is that guys assume the answer is something it isn't, and then they unplug from the girl and the situation, missing further feedback.
The other common thing that happens when a guy gets this sort of feedback, is that they lose their cool and completely disengage from escalating and throw a wet blanket on any charged vibe that's been building up. This is a mistake. Often "slow down," simply means, "don't go any further just yet, but maybe a little bit later." When newbs make the mistake of completely disengaging, they come off immature and sometimes, unstable emotionally.
SO the answer is not that the feedback is false or that he shouldn't slow down. Nor is it to try to figure out who's DTF before you even meet them. The answer is to slow down and stay at the level of escalation that they were at when the girl called for a pause. Unless the girl did call for an all stop. In which case, that should be followed, of course.

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in my opinion, the best way to tackle this issue and many other dating problems is to SCREEN HARDER. it's that simple. you need to be screening AGGRESSIVELY, i cannot stress this enough. when you don't screen, you let several girls slip through the cracks.

There's some semantic issues with how you're using the word, "screen." You're misusing it.

Screening harder would mean that you're weeding girls OUT of contention, because they aren't meeting standards. And you're dealing with better quality girls, but fewer, overall. This is about being picky about which shots you take.
Letting girls slip through the cracks is about not taking shots. This implies that one simply didn't have the balls to try. Not really related to whether one is being picky or not.

The question of letting shots slip away, is a different issue from being discriminating about the shots you take. One can let girls slip through the cracks, whether or not they're screening more or less. But maybe it's just unintentionally awkward wording.

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many of which are conditioned to not fuck on the first date for one reason or another. this creates a situation where you may be getting dates and even pulling, but your closing is very random. when you screen harder, you actually get LESS dates which is GOOD. no point in going on 4-5 dates in a month and closing 1 of them, it's the same as going on only 1 date the entire month and closing that date. see what i mean?

Interesting area to explore, though sometimes you can only really finish the screening process by going through that first date.

There's only so much you can know without that first date interaction. The good news is that this first date interaction can be as quick as:

Meeting for a drink
Meeting for coffee.

That's precisely why these are common suggestions for first time meets. They're easy, quick if needed, yet leave the option for more stuff if it's going well.

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the best tool that you have is the ability to screen. if you're able to screen out all the girls that aren't down to fuck before you meet with them, you'll save yourself a lot of time, money, and frustration. as i've said before,

You really CAN'T screen before you meet most girls. And if you try to figure this out before you meet a girl, all you're really doing is risking some really awkward texts that will most likely end in you blocking yourself out of meets with girls who would have otherwise been perfectly down.

There really is NO substitute for an in-person meet. This idea that you can screen before you meet a girl, is just false. All you're going to do is screen yourself out of potentially good situations.

Title	The solution to most dating problems: SCREEN HARDER
Author	DarkArtsPUA11
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	August 20, 2018 2:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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