How to not get nervous when kissing/having sex?

recyclablebanthas · 2018-08-20T04:16:31+00:00

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Hi guys, any tips for not feeling nervous when you are about to Kiss a girl? I usually feel very very nervous when I am going to do it.

There's no way to completely avoid it. We're talking about taking a risk. She might reject it. Or she might call for a pause. You never know.

The best you can do is pay attention to the girl and make your best educated guess as to whether you should make a move or not.

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Also, this happens to me in sex, when I am about to penetrate my erection really gives me troubles. Any idea about exercises or tips to forget all these things and focus on enjoying the moment?

You might check in over at /r/sex, but in general, the issue in situations like this, is often that you're focusing on anxious thoughts and letting them distract you from the feeling of the moment. It's actually pretty similar to how guys say you should think about baseball and otherwise try to disconnect from the good feelings if you're close to finishing too early.

But when you do that sort of thing at the wrong time, like you're describing, then yeah, trouble.

One answer is to do what you can to focus on the pleasure you're feeling and where you're feeling it in your body.

redititititit · 2018-08-20T08:09:23+00:00

This sounds counter-intuitive but it’s something I learnt from No More Mr Nice Guy. You should put your needs first. You shouldn’t care about your partners pleasure, your needs come first. That’s not to say you don’t want your partner to have a good time, by doing this your partner will have a great time.

Putting your needs first takes pressure off of yourself and off of your partner. If you’re trying to make sure she’s having a good time, then she’ll feel pressure to have a good time and may even fake it to make you feel good. The best sex is pure sexual expression where both parties are just feeling the pleasure and exploring it, with no goal of climax . The best sex is when people are comfortable and free to be themselves and feel pleasure openly.

By putting your needs first you’ll have a great time, shell feel that and want to have a great time with no expectations too. She’ll love that you’re loving it. You’ll love that she’s loving you loving it. Forget about sexual expectations and being good in bed. The best sex is when you are sexually expressing yourself and being in the moment , searching for pleasure in ways that come to you right then and there.

One of the best ways I found to get comfortable with new women is when you get a hard on from making out, or whatever, grab her hand and put it on your cock. Works every time.

Title	How to not get nervous when kissing/having sex?
Author	DiscoPhasma
Upvotes	1
Comments	2
Date	August 20, 2018 2:22 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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