So this question is specifically for before you've managed to kiss the girl. You've opened her, you've built rapport, maybe you even have previously texted and are meeting her for a date and kino is present. You feel confident in your emotional output - is it ever smart to blatantly make a reference to the fact that you are flirting to the girl - sort of as a flirting technique in and of itself..?

I am multilingual, and prefer to flirt in english compared to my mother tongue, so something I sometimes like to say on tinder is "Hey mind if we speak English? My german vocab isnt exactly tailored to flirting with strangers on tinder". This tends to work quite well but I suspect that this has to do with the fact that the environment (tinder) already implies that flirtation is acceptable and expected.

I am hesitant, to use a similar line which teasingly and explicitly conveys the fact that I am flirting, when talking to a girl I've met in real life as I am worried that this will have a similar effect as to directly talking about sex, where even though we both want it, the girl is restrained due to societal expectations to admit it.

Wanted to hear some opinions on the subject, and whether you guys ever blatantly use the "F" word ;) when chatting to a girl (pre kiss).