I realize this could go in AskSeddit but it’s very general so I’ll just put it here.

So I do drink, go to parties, and smoke occasionally. But when I actually hang out with these girls before I fuck them, does it necessarily have to be at a party? Or do I have to be drinking/smoking with them while we’re hanging out? Or can I just do fun action dates sober and then eventually just bring her to my place?