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[–]WIA20XX 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I did direct approaches early on. Every good player does to see where he generally stands.
It forces the girl to make a decision and express that decision about you instantly. It assumes that a chick knows how she feels instantly, and if she likes you AND can express her feelings it can go well.
And we all know how good girls are at sorting out complicated feelings and then expressing them coherently.
I've gotten way better results by talking to a girl and letting her experience what hanging out with me and interacting with me is like. She might hear something positive or something negative, but she has a much bigger sample size. She has a much better sense of my personality and our chemistry by having an extended interaction with me.
The next level of realizations, is when the guy chats a very attractive woman up and realizes that even after getting her to express herself, she is not really that cool. Pretty looks isn't all. And the road to mastery continues from there.
This is seriously the easiest "game" there is.
Why haven't you gone out and tried it?
What is there to think about?
[–]jaraf540 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What's there to think about well,
I'll throw a bit of a curve ball detail and admit I'm not completely over my ex, but if I'm not going to put myself out there my mind just goes to a dark place, I also feel a little bit guilty for attempting this but that's a whole other topic itself (there were actually good things I learned about myself from the whole thing that should help my game).
But my confidence is definitely lacking for different situations. I have made out with different girls at pubs (which can be easy if certain eye contact is made) and my ex girlfriend was working the front desk of my former gym (which is probably more romantic than meeting at a bar), but I never approached a girl in the street or at the mall. I've been going out for about a week now and almost always see a girl that I regret not approaching and sometimes things happen such as she'll be on the escalator going down while I'm going up which causes more anxiety because at that point I would REALLY have to go out of my way to probably creep her out... then I get too much in my head like "what if the guy monitoring the security camera is watching me go up stairs just to go back down stairs to harass some girl". Sometimes a cute girl will be in a group of 3-4 with a guy somewhere in there and that is another challenge.
Tl/dr I lack confidence and need to grow a pair. :/
What are your thoughts of meeting girls at the mall?
[–]WIA20XX 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So your post isn't really about so-called honest approaching, it is really about your unresolved issues with your ex and your low self esteem.
You need to handle both of those things if you want to be a pickup artist. If you don't want to seduce, you're on the wrong sub, and definitely talking to the wrong dude. I'll tell you how to bag a chick, not how to fix your esteem issues.
2) if it is an indoor mall, Buy something at the mall so that you can carry a shopping bag with a big logo on it. The prop makes you a mere shopper that is friendly to strangers, rather than a threat to business.
Have I used a Victoria's Secret bag as a prop?
Yes I have. But you're not in the right head space
[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Videos from ThatWasEpic are banned in seddit, due to obviously faked videos and stupid antisocial pranks. I suggest you ignore everything they do. Stop watching that crap.
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