Is Falling for a Playboy ALWAYS Fatal?

dailymanup · 2018-11-15T02:36:27+00:00

Sure. But it won't be accomplished the way you think. Here's how you do it:

In order to win a man's heart you must provide what he wants. A self proclaimed playboy wants one thing: intimate encounters with multiple women. If you want to win his heart, you must provide him that. Now that doesn't mean you become some kind of "hookup receptionist." What it means is that you form a poly relationship and then become the leader of that relationship.

If you can help this man find multiple women on a regular basis, and the "three of you" can have intimate encounters, then this man will become infatuated with you. If you can do it over an extended period, he will fall in love with you. Now you might think: why would he need me? He can find these women on his own.

True. For now. But outsourcing your responsibilities is something most people desire. Eventually they become addicted to it. Once addicted, it becomes very hard to return to the way "things used to be." So make yourself the woman who brings other women around. Jump in the poly-sack and create a magical world [sorry Dude (you know who you are)....you failed...I told you this girl could be yours...you didn't listen] for the three of you. He will become addicted to you. Eventually he will come to rely on you. Especially as he gets older. At some point he will come to love and ultimately be controlled by you.

You want seduction? There it is. Manipulate. Seek. And destroy. But ultimately win his heart in the end. You will have to sleep with him and a lot of girls to get there. But hell, maybe that sounds like fun...

SelfLoveArmy · 2018-11-14T23:07:58+00:00

No. Not monogamous long term. But you can have his genuine empathy compassion and attention while he is with you. Don’t be needy and scare him off. Appreciate that you’re with a truly attractive man and be grateful. What that man does with other women isn’t your concern. High value men are with multiple women. It’s the truth. He is always going to have them and regularly be with them. If you really respect him you’re thankful to have him when you do, not try to control him when you can’t be with him. You can be a grown woman and understand the way the work is or you can be a little girl and tell yourself you’re upset you can’t have more, or have it on your terms, despite the fact that isn’t how the world is. Don’t be an idiot. Good men are fucking rare. You’re on a sub where guys are dedicating themselves to improving constantly and good

men are still RARE. You found one, after sll

the shit you’ve been with. You hot the jackpot. I have occasionally had women try to be mad at me because they see me with other women; I’ll regularly have several at my place and they don’t always get along. After we have a brief talk they relax and are happy; it’s a respect thing and a boundary thing. If you are honest with yourself that you’re happy to know him you can pretend you don’t have feelings or you can own your feelings! Always be thankful for your man, just as he damn sure better appreciate you and show it. My advice is: don’t try to change the way the world is through him.

edit: I’m on my phone, so the grammar etc may be off. I also coach women on dating so if you’re curious about how to communicate your expectations and needs to your man leta me know I can help you :)

beachjoints · 2018-11-15T02:06:34+00:00

Actually I believe you can possibly win him over! Although what the others have said is true, the man is 50 years old! Now that’s not THAT old, I’m sure he’s probably in shape and more youthful than his age as a bachelor, but eventually everyone does want companionship and that’s not the sexy answer but I feel you could win him over because he’s nearing that time. That time definitely varies a lot so maybe you don’t get him and he does this for another 15 years or so, but I’m sure at some point he’ll prefer a constant companion over the tinder flings, mostly because they won’t be so easy to him anymore!!! All bachelors start to lose their charm at some age, it’s inevitable. Unless he’s literally the next hugh hefner! Or at least insanely rich.

TheThrowAwayFish · 2018-11-15T00:53:54+00:00

This man is different to me (also you a both a bit older than me so I guess your priorities might be different), but, here is a small part of my story over the last year to maybe help you understand how guys like him and myself think about the women they are with (usually).

Over the last year since I became single I have rarely been with less than two women at the same time. I have women I am seeing in multiple cities across the state and they all know we are not monogamous. Just this week for example, I've hooked up with a girl last Saturday, and am seeing her again tomorrow, and I hooked up with a girl on Sunday, who I saw again last night. I make sure everyone knows what I want, how I feel and I do my best to treat everyone well and respectfully. These ladies are not 'conquests' they are wonderful people I have shared a great connection with, doesn't matter how long it lasted.

Let's give these two fake names for a second, girl one is Ashley and girl two is Sarah. When I am with Ashley, I am WITH Ashley. We have a lot of mutual friends so we often hang out as a group and sometimes the group discusses my escapades and hers (because we are both dating other people), but when we are with just each other, it's all about us, it's intimate. However that connection is only present when we are there. When we are doing other things, we are our own people.

Sarah on the other hand is a little different. Sarah is working through some stuff and doesn't want a relationship at all but is currently only just discovering her sexuality this year, so it feels a lot more intimate in some ways. But she is still on Tinder for example, (saw a convo notification on her phone the other night). She stayed over for the first time last night, and it was amazing, we fell asleep in each others arms and she actually pulled me tighter around her. I actually think I am developing romantic feelings for her a little.

But, romantic feelings or not, each interaction ends when we leave and is only present during the time we are together. As much as I care about Ashley and she challenges me and Sarah is something ridiculously special...
I have interactions with another two beautiful women planned in another city I am heading to in about 6 weeks time for a month long working holiday.

I wouldn't trade the amazing connections I can make with all of these women (and more that I may meet) for the (albeit, again each is amazing in their own way) solitary connection of one of them. The reason for this is that I just love being able to be intimate with each of these woman. Monogamy can be so restricting, but when I am physically with any of the girls I am seeing, I am only focused on her at that time.

Just enjoy your time with the man. Relationships, casual, monogamous, poly, whatever, are fickle. If he treats you well, don't try to change him, just be your best selves when you are with each other and if he is a bit of a playboy, that means you can be a bit of a playgirl, so you've got that going for you, which is nice... Right?

Title	Is Falling for a Playboy ALWAYS Fatal?
Author	lovinlife1
Upvotes	7
Comments	20
Date	November 14, 2018 10:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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