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Be emotionally impactful unapologetically and own your own reality, no matter what it is. See your attraction in terms of the emotional impact you're capable of making on women (the role you can play in their life emotionally). You don't have to be reasonable as long as you have emotional reasons for your actions that you articulate clearly, conveying the emotional truth of them. They have to respect thats how you FEEL whether its reasonable or not.
/r/seduction07/10/19 06:02 AM
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Hey. I have. And I have a Facebook group where we discuss the importance of self love and emotional impact on others as dominance. A lot of world class coaches focus on DHV (demonstrating value), story telling, sexual escalation ladders and other "game" techniques. I teach men to have a powerful emotional reality and own their sexuality. By owning their reality so powerfully, they are naturally polarizing (good) and actually showing their boundaries. When someone encounters a powerful reality, t…
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:59 AM
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Hey! One thing you’ll notice as you gain self acceptance and success with women is the ability to see them, their fear, their heart, their sexual energies. Awareness of these dynamics will dictate what parts of yourself you allow them to see. You will always get better results being authentic. If you have questions let me know
/r/seduction17/06/19 03:17 AM
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Being so certain must be a great burden.
/r/seduction17/06/19 03:09 AM
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Check out my posts on self love and explaining why men need a new normal for a better understanding of this mindset
/r/seduction07/06/19 11:46 PM
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This comment made me laugh out loud. Maybe check out my post “men need a new normal”
/r/seduction07/06/19 05:27 PM
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McBeard! This and the PWF tinder bio video are two of the most valuable pieces of content on the psychology texting.
/r/seduction29/05/19 10:25 PM
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Being relaxed is huge. Awareness + set assurance is key
/r/seduction11/12/18 07:33 PM
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disaree. just because something is basic doesn’t mean it’s not accurate and besides guys are not properly implementing this
/r/seduction11/12/18 07:31 PM
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vocal fry? the audio was pretty poor on my early podcasts.
/r/seduction30/11/18 04:46 AM
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0:00-1:29: Intro. Who is Yenny? 1:30-2:53: Yenny explaining the how courtship differs depending on the part of the world you’re in 2:54-6:10: Attractive behaviours of men on first meeting 6:11-8:33: Yenny explaining why you should be careful about the things you keep lying around the house 8:35-9:40: How Yenny signals attraction and things men can look for when trying to meet women they are interested in 9:40-11:47: The attractive response to a woman’s choosing signals + what makes a man attract…
/r/seduction30/11/18 03:51 AM
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Bro the Melbourne community has the top list of crushers in the world, seconded by Sydney. It's nutty. Private message me I'll link you with over 40 guys
/r/seduction30/11/18 01:24 AM
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Haha one of the guys in this group spent years in marketing but he also happens to be world class at game! I did a podcast with him it was actually epic.
/r/seduction30/11/18 01:11 AM
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Looking forward to having you on :)
/r/seduction29/11/18 05:56 PM
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Episode 2 of the daily podcast where I discuss self development with the top guys in the pickup, seduction, and self development communities.
/r/seduction29/11/18 02:51 PM
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I like these 4 pillars. ​ The right mindset helps us frame and execute; beliefs give us the confidence; the emotional state creates the compelling energy for the woman; game is sealing the deal ​
/r/seduction29/11/18 12:52 AM
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It’s not about comparison it’s about finding your capacity. So someone’s objective limits are what they are; mindsets of abundance and assuming attraction approach optimal; thus beliefs are key, not objective reality (the hard ceiling limit of which isn’t changeable)
/r/seduction29/11/18 12:43 AM
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https://youtu.be/8Uy6w7B7PQc
/r/seduction28/11/18 09:52 PM
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Own your reality and take responsibility for your beliefs. If your beliefs do not serve you, find and believe those that will and learn to dissociate intentionally from the that don’t; free your unconscious and reprogram your thinking
/r/seduction28/11/18 08:10 PM
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Being needy is what makes you come off as needy. She wants attention from high value men she vibes with.
/r/seduction28/11/18 05:02 PM
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Fantastic! I love hearing this. I recommend also checking out https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9vu8uv/why_loving_yourself_is_the_most_attractive_thing/
/r/seduction28/11/18 05:01 PM
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Without being metaphysical, belief becomes reality; sometime slowly, sometimes partially. The best way to ensure a reality doesn't come to pass is to fail to believe it can be real for you!
/r/seduction28/11/18 05:00 PM
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Thanks brother. I also recommend reading https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9vu8uv/why_loving_yourself_is_the_most_attractive_thing/
/r/seduction28/11/18 05:00 PM
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Nice. I'd also recommend you read https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9vu8uv/why_loving_yourself_is_the_most_attractive_thing/
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:59 PM
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Luckily, to a vast majority of others, your value lies in the role you play in others' lives and how you impact them emotionally.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:59 PM
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Heard I'm similar to Zan from a few guys actually! My friend Nael told me this.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:58 PM
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Start and grow.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:58 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:58 PM
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Alan Watts!
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:58 PM
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Chad is a stupid word filled with limiting beliefs. You should revisit your own limiting beliefs; you're espousing poison in the guise of beneficial "let's get real" certainties and assessments. I don't see the utility in your beliefs because, even if true, its so fatalistic.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:57 PM
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A lot more of our reality is delusion, even mild delusion; mildly optimistic self delusion is actually healthy and leads to greater life expectancy and fulfillment; being slightly irrationally optimistic is therefore rational.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:55 PM
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Yes!
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:55 PM
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I disagree with this but not entirely. The thing is, once we create perceptual awareness, autistic folks can learn behaviors that are tremendously valuable without feeling FULL empathy. It's a myth autistic folks don't feel any empathy - and social pizazz can be a skill. I'm considering interviewing several autistic men for my podcast to have discussions with them on this very subject.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:53 PM
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Brother, you're arguing over which side of a coin to choose when the coin is made up. Who agreed those standards have value or merit? Secondly, being slightly irrationally optimistic is tied to long term success and fulfillment and happiness. Depression can be called momentary accurate self assessment, because it can be thought of as taking stock of the misery of a moment and believing it is permanent, enduring, and deserved. It isn't. Change your behaviors, change your orientations, and your fe…
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:50 PM
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Sexual content discussion I was told my violate the terms of service, but I'll be looking into this very closely.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:48 PM
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Awesome. I'm really glad you enjoyed it!
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:48 PM
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Ah. I will be posting YouTube friendly content regularity. My old non YouTube friendly stuff could end up on ITunes or my website soon. I’ll keep you posted if you pm me
/r/seduction28/11/18 03:43 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a10a15/youtube_launch_find_self_love_podcast_30_days_to/ This is a link to all the YouTube. You can’t use YouTube? I’ll look into ITunes etc tomorrow
/r/seduction28/11/18 03:31 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a10a15/youtube_launch_find_self_love_podcast_30_days_to/
/r/seduction28/11/18 03:04 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a10a15/youtube_launch_find_self_love_podcast_30_days_to/
/r/seduction28/11/18 03:04 AM
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I hope you're trolling, but if not, check out my 30 days to Self Love youtube series! It will help haha
/r/seduction27/11/18 11:38 PM
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PUA wiki says it was coined by Mystery and is taken from magicians, who use the word to refer to their audiences.
/r/seduction27/11/18 11:36 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a10a15/youtube_launch_find_self_love_podcast_30_days_to/ Check out my 30 days to Self Love, Acceptance, and Successful Dating Series! It's daily videos to help motivate you and inspire you
/r/seduction27/11/18 11:28 PM
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Check out Social Prime or Ultimate Man Project. Yes, they are 100% ​ UMP is actually sold out through March (which the furthest they are offering right now) and Social Prime might be close despite doubling their capacity the last month. These guys are booked because they actually get results.
/r/seduction27/11/18 11:13 PM
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I am posting a 30 Days to Self Love, Acceptance, and Success with Women series to Youtube today! Join it! ​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFm0FtygWtM&lc=z23wvtcixwurfzjqn04t1aokgnisyabk2qh42su2l211bk0h00410 ​
/r/seduction27/11/18 11:03 PM
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I have two D and D books on my shelf now, I'm not hardcore about it, but I'm a hearthstone nerd. I've reluctantly put down a hearthstone video to have a threesome on a few occasions :P
/r/seduction27/11/18 10:18 PM
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I actually welcome this kind of talk because it really helps guys have that internal debate and make the decision to consider trying to see reality differently. A lot of guys write off the improvement before even trying.
/r/seduction27/11/18 07:24 PM
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If you want to discuss this, we can. Powerfully embracing your reality and embodying your personal maximum self belief and confidence, whatever its current level, is something that can be learned.
/r/seduction27/11/18 07:23 PM
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A lot of my content isn't Youtube Friendly! But I did just post one of my favorite early podcasts with Jimmy DeFalco. https://youtu.be/Tsmep_eL82s
/r/seduction27/11/18 07:09 PM
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Nah, Ciel is a top coach and instructor and one of the absolute best guys in the world. He's also a crazy bastard that enjoys opening the most difficult sets you can imagine. I was teasing because he will go up to 8 jacked dudes and hit on the one beautiful woman with them and walk away with her.
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:37 PM
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You're on point brother :)
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:36 PM
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Awesome. PM me and let's arrange this :)
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:00 PM
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Join Self Love Army on Facebook for daily podcasts. I am also uploading the podcasts that comply with Youtube Standards as I type this + a 30 Day Challenge to Find Self Love, Acceptance, and Successful Dating. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFm0FtygWtM&feature=youtu.be
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:55 PM
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Thanks for reading!
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:52 PM
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Hey you sound like you're at a great level and can contribute positively to my group. Want to do a call for guys where we discuss this? I do a daily podcast with guys from around the world where we discuss self love, emotional growth, gaining confidence, self belief, etc.
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:40 PM
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Remember, we aren't fighting to compare ourselves to others, we are working to maximize our own capacity.
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:12 PM
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Assuming you are attractive and desirable will maximize whatever your momentary "potential partners" are; there are ways to expand potential partners over time, i.e. exercise, grooming... but there are also optimal ways given what our current reality is. The mental paradigms I am providing will help you maximize your odds regardless of what they are. If it goes from .5% to 3%, and you open 100 women a week, that's still a huge improvement in your dating life.
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:11 PM
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Thanks! I am aiming for a radical thing, which is helping guys see how far their reality can grow once they have self love and self belief!
/r/seduction27/11/18 04:53 PM
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I've seen him say it to servers. They will be taking our order and he will say it and they will smile really big and be really engaged by it. I have seen him walk over to a woman and open her by looking at her and smiling and she smiles back and he says, Oh, i dont want to sound weird, but you've got really pretty teeth. I'm not saying its optimal, he just genuinely likes their pretty teeth! He says it like "he's really into it" but he's not sucking up or kissing ass, just that he's admiring it.
/r/seduction27/11/18 04:52 PM
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Exactly! I've had 4 women at my house all there just to be with me, none of whom knew each other before hand. They all got along great and we all had a great time. I talk about this on my podcast all the time: if it's your reality, others can accept it, or leave. It's not hostile, you want them there, you want them to be a part of it, but it is a hard line. If they are going to be here, they are taking responsibility for their choice and happy to be there. No drama!
/r/seduction27/11/18 04:50 PM
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I love the idea that fear becomes our fuel and our guide instead of our limit! I also think the way you describe finding "worthless" fears and discarding them is very important, because there is usually one of two "fear" paradigms in guys: avoidance or suppression, as you note. "You’ll notice a more stable permanent sense of confidence, while mistakes will stop feeling like a threat to your self-worth" -- agree. To me you're writing about a very important part of self-acceptance and finding self…
/r/seduction27/11/18 04:37 PM
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This is amazing. Shall we go for a second week? I took a week off from work for the thanksgiving Holidays in the US.
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:54 PM
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Are you sure it isn't walking up to a set of 8 guys and one hot girl and pulling the girl like you do? I might need you to teach me how to make that my new normal. EDIT: to whoever is down voting my comment, Ciel is my friend, and he is known for successfully pulling the most difficult sets in the world.
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:47 PM
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I couldn't be more impressed by you guys and the work you're doing. "When in doubt, throw a Hail Mary The funniest, yet most powerful, secret I've learnt from some of the Melbourne slayers is how little compliance is actually needed in order to pull." ​ It's about being "trustworthy" and women gauge trustworthy from the combination of body language, energy, and emotional/presentation congruence. Being a man who knows himself and presents himself that way is of insane value, and why I don't even …
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:46 PM
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"A non-needy man cannot do anything that is needy. If you're coming from the RIGHT PLACE (not NEEDing the result to happen to feel good, not letting the outcome affect your emotional state), you cannot be needy no matter how many times you try." I love this because the concept of persistence in a social way has negative connotations, but when it's coming from a place of confidence and abundance it is a reflection of a healthy mindset and desirable social traits. The social structure doesn't alwa…
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:36 PM
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These are revolutionary mindsets so I know why you have such a weak frame. It's time to recondition yourself -- you're giving someone advice on threesomes and telling me my advice isn't valid. I just made a video in my group for Thanksgiving to teach guys everything they will need, free of charge. "Attraction isn't exclusive (it's) dynamic, it's universal, you have to understand that (this is) normal, and you have to understand that you need an environment where it can happen and that environmen…
/r/seduction22/11/18 05:21 PM
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I spent a week in Poland orchestrating orgies during Sopot Summit with guys in the actual community. The third act in my speech was on how to have orgies. I teach this.
/r/seduction22/11/18 03:17 PM
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We launched the first podcast. Lodi's will be coming out in a few days! https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9yn1py/how_to_become_a_man_and_easily_attract_beautiful/
/r/seduction20/11/18 01:15 AM
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Of course. Anyone can join.
/r/seduction19/11/18 11:24 PM
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Soon. PM me and I'll give ya an update when it goes live.
/r/seduction18/11/18 04:12 PM
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It's on the Facebook group Self Love Army. If you request to join I'll approve you.
/r/seduction18/11/18 03:19 PM
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Check out my podcast with Lodi. He's an Asian manlet who is possibly the best daygamer in the world.
/r/seduction18/11/18 03:01 PM
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Why? A call to courage seems healthier than shame; EDIT I’ll look into Jordan’s concept.
/r/seduction16/11/18 07:51 PM
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It’s a big shift to being more hardcore!
/r/seduction16/11/18 07:50 PM
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When you're smooth they may accuse you of being a player if you're throwing it in her face. Also, most attractive women, when gamed properly, are going to need to be convinced you actually really like them. It's the funny way the power dynamic shifts.
/r/seduction16/11/18 05:12 PM
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Dominance is best seen through the lens of emotional impact. Confident, present, emotionally impactful.
/r/seduction16/11/18 05:10 PM
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You were on a break for a reason. Once things go bad, they rarely get better. Move on and find different, which is going to likely be better as you've learned from your previous relationship.
/r/seduction16/11/18 05:09 PM
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Comfort is built very easily by being authentic which women interpret as trustworthy. These concepts, while easy to understand intellectually, are rather challenging for beginners to appreciate. ​ If I said attraction > comfort it doesn't really say much, despite being true. But a big misconception in this community, especially by men like Mystery, is how little OVERT work for "comfort" is needed where there is attraction. Intermediate guys may recall all the times their results improved by focu…
/r/seduction16/11/18 04:17 PM
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"How do you expect to win over a good number of women?" First, thanks for reading. Second, I'm glad you're picking up on some of the frames in the writing. However, your questions aren't actually questions they are statements disguised as questions. For this reason, I'm not going to continue to provide answers as I don't believe you're sincerely asking. What you're engaging in is called rhetoric. I won't be responding again.
/r/seduction16/11/18 04:06 PM
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pussy noun (3)pus·​sy | \ˈpu̇-sē \plural pussies Definition of pussy (Entry 4 of 4) slang : a weak or cowardly man or boy : WIMP, SISSY Noun. limp dick (countable and uncountable, plural limp dicks) (countable, slang, vulgar) A weak person. We want to include "weak" but also "cowardly" in the emotional resonance. You're better off asking why a vagina is called a pussy rather than why the word pussy is being used to refer to cowardly/weak. This shouldn't have to be explained to you by the way, yo…
/r/seduction16/11/18 03:32 PM
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Your attachments are an OPPORTUNITY for you to experience your emotions, good and bad, they are not the SOURCE of them. ​ Your relationship with that female is your own. Take responsibility for yourself. You're literally cucking yourself right now. This other guy isn't doing shit. This woman wants to be fucked by you and YOU'RE choosing not to. You're AMOGING yourself. It's about getting to your capacity not comparing yourself to others. It's absolutely 0 business of yours what they do together …
/r/seduction16/11/18 03:27 PM
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I was in France, didn't speak a word of French. On a tinder date. First thing I do when I sit down at the table is pay for a drink, we've basically only hugged at this point. My wallet is open in a way that the gold magnum condom falls out of my wallet onto the floor by the girl's feet. I bend down to pick it up and smile and say "American's are optimistic".
/r/seduction16/11/18 03:24 PM
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Great minds think alike
/r/seduction16/11/18 03:19 PM
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Reminds me of what Betty White said "Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are weak ... If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding."
/r/seduction16/11/18 03:13 PM
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I love your attitude! You’ll do great just enjoy the time and make it fun! You found a good one, good job!
/r/seduction14/11/18 11:21 PM
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No. Not monogamous long term. But you can have his genuine empathy compassion and attention while he is with you. Don’t be needy and scare him off. Appreciate that you’re with a truly attractive man and be grateful. What that man does with other women isn’t your concern. High value men are with multiple women. It’s the truth. He is always going to have them and regularly be with them. If you really respect him you’re thankful to have him when you do, not try to control him when you can’t be with…
/r/seduction14/11/18 11:07 PM
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Thanks for showing love and commenting bro. Agree: strong mind strong game.
/r/seduction14/11/18 08:36 PM
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Thanks! Many guys won’t feel this until they can hear it because the truth of it is deeper than the words used.
/r/seduction14/11/18 08:18 PM
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I love that we are appropriately quoting Marcus Garvey on Reddit seduction! That man was on point.
/r/seduction14/11/18 08:16 PM
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Check out Social Prime and Ultimate Man Project on Youtube! My group on Facebook is Self Love Army. I've got about 40 podcast done so far, and I'll be posting them daily to Youtube this week in fact.
/r/seduction14/11/18 05:13 PM
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I was a speaker at Sopot Summit with many of the top guys in the world. It included Markus Wolf Chris Wilde David Swift John Mulvehill Alex Vilinchek Nils Flair Yolmaz Solary Ciel Chen Julian Chwalewski Amine Challouf BJ Gall and more. I taught an Immersion that entire week actually, and I highly recommend Social Prime and Ultimate Man Project. If you live in New York, I recommend Jason James/Lux Life. If you want a full breakdown of these programs let me know. If you're seriously interested, I …
/r/seduction14/11/18 04:46 PM
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I just did a podcast with Sultan who hit 100 in his first year and 9 in his first 10 days in game.
/r/seduction14/11/18 03:56 PM
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I just did a podcast with Sultan who hit 100 in his first year in game. All the top guys hit 100+ a year when they want. Sounds like he has insane numbers to ordinary folks and solid intermediate numbers for our community. That being said, not disparaging the man was just curious. He and his wife are about equally physically attractive, which is pretty standard.
/r/seduction13/11/18 01:43 AM
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No. I was offering help. But you can find PWF on your own easily enough.
/r/seduction13/11/18 12:50 AM
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Probably the two best books to read are the Depression Cure to raise mood and if you like exercise you're doing it wrong by Gary Bannister. My favorite books for understanding the human mind are The Global Brain, Thinking Fast and Slow, and Subliminal. ​
/r/seduction12/11/18 11:19 PM
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Have you ever heard of sexual market value and the concepts used at Playingwithfire? If not let's have a brief discussion. I am an online/text game expert, and I also am friends with probably the best text game coach in the world David Swift. Let me know if you want help.
/r/seduction12/11/18 11:16 PM
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I tell women I'm seeing other women to avoid any issues. Basically every top guy I know does this. The only exception I can think of is John Mulvehill.
/r/seduction12/11/18 11:15 PM
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It is 100% worth it. I am far from the best immersion coach out there. I'd go with Social Prime or Ultimate Man Project (a podcast of a UMP student is up on the group if you're interested!). I always say, it is expensive, and still way underpriced. You're learning life changing skills, its really a no brainer. ​ Here is a 3 month post boot camp review from my recent student (the full review is on my Facebook group). ...it was definitely a life-changing experience, and I know that Thomas's coachi…
/r/seduction12/11/18 11:05 PM
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Please go watch Ciel Chen's most recent post here on opening. I will link you, it will give you all the info you need to get the ball rolling. Ciel is one of if not the best daygamer in the world right now. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9vzokn/open_the_right_way_how_to_skyrocket_your_daygame/?fbclid=IwAR1W3X6OO1QBMmU8V2K3piq2sPZtY3Kpp04yeMiSYHQnbereZ7ybPMm0Kgg
/r/seduction12/11/18 11:00 PM
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Disqualifying her for her age and then telling her you're too old for her before leaning in and telling her all kinds of sexual things you'd do to her before pulling is a common tactic of Pierre De Sousa. He regularly says he wishes he were 10 years older, and will actually lie to women about how old he is. He wanted to say 42 but they wouldn't believe it so he says 38.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:58 PM
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There is a lot of free youtube content I'd recommend over this. Sorry I can't be of more help.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:56 PM
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Yes. Research sexual market value. You can check out playing with fire at www.playingfire.com to get a sense of this concept if you're really curious.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:55 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:55 PM
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Awesome! I hope this catches you in time. The best tips on the first date is don't try to put on a front or be overly impressive to the girl. The truth is, if she shows up for the date, she is really into you. Women tell me all the time, if they show up on a date, they like the guy. The guy only hurts himself by trying to win them over after he's already "won". Simply assume you're attractive and she is attracted. Don't force conversation topics. Make sure to discuss a bit of "real" things, try …
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:53 PM
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This is the kind of idea that, even if somehow it could be measured, I can't see an upside to believing it. Mark has some excellent points. As with all of us, however, there are many other ideas that may be interesting thought experiments but are otherwise not worth believing.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:47 PM
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For crushing validation needs, jump into the magical world of loving yourself, having acceptance, and building self belief. Admittedly I'm biased, username checks out and all that. I advise communicating your situation to the woman in your relationship. You will be surprised what women will accept when you're honest. Furthermore, they deserve your honesty. Lastly, the initial frame is hard to break, so if you framed it as monogamous exclusive we are soulmates type of thing, it's probably going t…
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:45 PM
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I always had a sweet spot for playfully flipping things on women and misinterpreting them (but I disagree with your premise that it shouldn't be sexual). I just fundamentally disagree that most phases of a male female interaction aren't sexual if done right.
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:36 PM
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I don't recommend them. I recommend real effective methods that work. Check out Playing with Fire, Ultimate Man Project, Social Prime, Chen City, Julian Chewalewski, Surgical Pickup, or my group on Facebook.
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:40 PM
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Don't. Bad idea.
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:37 PM
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Don't worry about being good at the actual fucking. Learn about eating women out, the A spot, and other fingering techniques. This way you can comfortably make women cum easily without the intercourse. The sex itself is about being aware of your energy and her energy and listening. I've learned this from experience.
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:34 PM
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Let's do it!
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:31 PM
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I always tell guys to have an attitude of curiosity. How can we know if we are passionate about something if we have never seriously tried it? What passion, in other words, hides within you waiting to be unlocked?
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:30 PM
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I wrote this as a post, but I recommend you read it, especially the funnel at the end. The important thing to understand is you are likely avoiding LOTS of things because of anxiety that you don't even realize. You probably won't ride public transport, for example, or may hate crowds, or public speaking, or sharing your feelings. I would catalog a list of behaviors you avoid and systematically expose yourself to those anxieties by engaging in those behaviors. For example, years ago I used to not…
/r/seduction12/11/18 03:49 PM
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Exposure therapy is great and cold approach will help you realize social situations are not dangerous. But I would really encourage you to attempt a mindset shift. Expectations are inversely related to serenity, as they say in the recovery community. You're on a process of self improvement. That's exciting. Importantly, stress is mitigated heavily by refusing to avoid things because of anxiety and instead doing them, systematically. Make a list of anxieties and behaviors you avoid and do them. L…
/r/seduction12/11/18 03:46 PM
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I always remember what Krishnamurti said about Gurus. There is no such thing. And when you try to be your own, the self imposed authority will likely fuel the ego if you aren't careful. As for help: we can all use help from those who care, it's a vital part of our social-biology. Asking for help is a HUGE step. Good for you. Iron sharpens iron. Let's go! ​ Week 1: ​ Step 1: gratitude list. Each day, make a list of things you are grateful for. Expand on this list. Hand write it. Then once its wri…
/r/seduction12/11/18 03:40 PM
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Is Mark successful with women? Is his wife attractive? His advice is praised regularly in my group, I probably need to read this.
/r/seduction12/11/18 03:34 PM
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Best flirting tips are using open loops to create curiosity while sexualizing including intentionally misunderstanding them in a sexual way.
/r/seduction12/11/18 03:34 PM
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Haha 2 out of 50 is about my average :D It could be better but I dated two women at the same time from bumble and didn’t tell either of them about one another before the date and pulled both home but only closed one. It still counts as a non close
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:06 AM
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Exactly. And women view the men differently and experience that energy differently so this shows you “get it”
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:04 AM
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Own your life. Agree. Side note: Chris Wilde Pierre de Sousa and others have games that allow them to say to women exactly the kind of graphic sexual shit they will want to do to them and pull. When I’m organizing orgies and on my dates I don’t need to be graphic because just being with me it’s understood there is a sexual vibe. Texting on the other hand is a good time to be graphic
/r/seduction12/11/18 04:03 AM
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Yea there are entire strategies around raising perceived sexual market value and having a congruent bio
/r/seduction12/11/18 03:12 AM
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Easy nice guys are liars and dishonest they want to fuck just as bad as anyone but will just say what they think you want to hear; other guys will use you for sex and lie to you to make you think they care when you don’t.
/r/seduction12/11/18 02:49 AM
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Thanks. It’s a post that could easily have been several, for sure. Side note, one day the Sydney and Melbourne crews will merge and form the best pickup crew in history. I had Sultan and Rose on the podcast yesterday actually.
/r/seduction12/11/18 12:11 AM
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Hey! I post it each day in Self Love Army on Facebook. We are adding it to YouTube and Reddit starting Monday. I work with all the top companies. PWF UMP social prime etc
/r/seduction11/11/18 09:40 PM
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Thanks. People underestimate the attractive nature of authenticity.
/r/seduction11/11/18 09:39 PM
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Absolutely. If you add me on Facebook I can take a look. Or pm me pics. Bio matters also.
/r/seduction11/11/18 09:38 PM
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You won't get much from me telling you its a spot in the vagina that responds really well to pressure and come here motions, as well as a come here finger firmly against it repeatedly. I'd do research brother.
/r/seduction11/11/18 08:15 PM
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Groom yourself, shave, wear nice fashionable clothes. Then approach. Check out Ciel's guide to opening that he posted today.
/r/seduction11/11/18 08:01 PM
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Of course. I have over 200 closes from online game. We have a group on Facebook that covers this. Also, I recommend you check out my friend David Swift's and Alex Vilinchek's www.playingfire.com it's crazy value.
/r/seduction11/11/18 08:00 PM
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Time to start googling my friend, you're about to enter a whole new world of making women orgasm.
/r/seduction11/11/18 07:05 PM
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I work with guys that get real results for themselves and clients. Social Prime, Ultimate Man Project, Playing with Fire.
/r/seduction11/11/18 06:53 PM
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Iron sharpens iron. Emotionally robust women are my favorite women. I'm not here to measure the length of streams of piss, and the disrespect behind your tone isn't appreciated. I won't be responding further than this post. My comments were made in the context of a world where 1/3 of women are sexually assaulted, perhaps more than 1/2 due to under reporting. I am not here to lord superiority over anyone. I am saying that, in a journey of meeting many folks, understanding how to help them in thei…
/r/seduction11/11/18 06:49 PM
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My first date is about framing myself relative to "nice guys" and assholes that just use women for sex. Once I've established this frame I ask some personal questions to get a sense of their history talk for a bit and pull.
/r/seduction11/11/18 06:36 PM
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But then again, the person may have done this for a while and now feels that there are no results. I agree they may feel this way. Acquiring skills or emotional machinery is the premise of game. I'm not anti game. I'm anti negative mindsets that the individual is responsible for. You should see the transformations guys undergo when you destroy the root of their limiting beliefs. It's the entire premise of the regression work I do with guys, with the trauma processing work that is so important, w…
/r/seduction11/11/18 06:01 PM
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Being direct and authentic is masculine. Good job.
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:58 PM
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Great post. I regularly have women coming straight to my place. I invite them there first before meeting them (we "meet" with tinder/bumble). If they decide they need to meet in public first, I say let's meet at X (5 minutes tops form my place) until they get over their stranger danger. There is an entire sequence to these texts, but the gist of it is this. I'm sexual, my intentions are conveyed directly and honestly, I'm comfortable with women and will consider fucking her if we are compatible.…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:56 PM
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The post is aspirational , right. Lots of guys are focused solely on being able to get a date, or get laid. But when you orient yourself toward this more impactful way of being, the inevitable byproduct is how incredibly attractive you are and how self assured you can be. The basis of my entire orientation toward a woman is the knowledge of my ability to emotionally impact her, sexually please her, and the knowledge of my own attractive traits, which include the fact that I love myself. My reaso…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:51 PM
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Open with any line. It's actually fine to compliment someone. "Oh, you look handsome today." "I like your X". If he responds well, with any verbals at all, you can let him know you'd like to hang out sometime. This may feel unnatural to your mind initially, but simply owning how you feel and owning your life is actually incredibly attractive. Here is the truth: if for some reason he isn't interested, he won't resent you, or be mad. He will appreciate how direct and honest you were, and will walk…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:46 PM
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Love these points.
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:43 PM
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Laughing it off is fine. But you need to understand her emotional reason for acting this way and focusing so much attention on you. She sounds like she is really into you. I'd use this an opportunity to isolate her, have a genuine conversation with her conveying sexual energy, and pull her.
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:41 PM
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Tell them how to do better Ciel :)
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:37 PM
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"Oh, you look nice today." random flirting for a second. "We should hang out sometime, what's your number." It can be really simple. Are there "better" things to say, sure. But if you're confident, present, and feeling this, it can be this easy. I recommend you watch Ciel Chen's video on opening here: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9vzokn/open_the_right_way_how_to_skyrocket_your_daygame/ Also, Social Prime argue if you're feeling nervous, just say, "I'm nervous to say this, but I th…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:36 PM
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I actually don't agree with the speaking Japanese part in FULL. A lot of top guys just use google translate and non-verbals. Women are the same man, even when there are differences. ​ Join Tinder and let me know what results you're getting. Let's discuss this. I have multiple friends that travel the world using Tinder meeting and sleeping with hundreds of women A YEAR.
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:33 PM
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Brother, the NUMBER of women you sleep with is irrelevant. Your ability to connect with them through showing vulnerability, being authentic, and having a sexual energy are what will matter. Also, while it is healthy to have sexual desires and be aware of your needs, there is also a need for self love and self acceptance to truly experience calm, grounded, confident presence with women. Once you are present, you won't "sleep with 3" women you'll sleep with every single woman you make contact with…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:31 PM
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Nice post man. You should join my facebook group Self Love Army (600+) guys right now, you sound like you'd be an awesome addition.
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:28 PM
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"I feel like there will never be a future for me so I might as well end it all now. " Would anyone say a person with this mindset is attractive? You and you alone are responsible for your beliefs. You can choose what meaning to derive from every moment of life. Work on your attitude, your self care, your self love, your true belief in yourself. Once you can know why you should assume you are attractive, you can make that assumption and interact with confidence. Be a man who is honest, trustworth…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:27 PM
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Be direct. Say you think she's cute with confidence. Invite her to an activity with you. If she doesn't agree, you know where you stand :)
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:24 PM
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Good points!
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:23 PM
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When we start taking responsibility for our beliefs and boundaries and living according to our values, life starts to "make sense" and outcomes just favor us more. It's awesome to hear you're working at all this stuff. The journey is incredibly rewarding and only gets better man.
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:21 PM
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Get a massage. Regularly hug family and shake hands. Practice saying goodbye when you leave stores. Basically exposure therapy. Just understand that there is NOTHING dangerous about these situations AT ALL. Own your beliefs. Take responsibility for them. If you have an anxious thought running in a loop, learn about pattern interrupts. ​ If you have an anxious thought running in a loop, learn about meditation, visualization, and systematically confronting anxiety. Let me know if you have more que…
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:20 PM
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Dude that's awesome to hear! I did cognitive behavioral therapy and I regularly tell guys to check out ACT therapy and the Confidence Gap book. It's so cool when we start systematically confronting our anxieties and that eliminates them. As for text advice and online game: I have a lot in my group on Facebook. And my buddy David Swift is a genius, he runs playingfire.com and I would check it out if I were you!
/r/seduction11/11/18 05:15 PM
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Don't ask. Say what kind of relationship you want unapologetically but kindly. Her continued presence is agreement with the terms presented. Frame it as I am down to let any emotions form between us but right now I don't see myself settling down with just one person. I'm currently dating a few women and I find that works for me until I form stronger feelings naturally, which cannot be rushed.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:56 PM
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My pleasure my friend! If tinder and bumble cause anxiety, I think you have some emotional issues to work through that, when fixed, will maximize your options for a girlfriend :)
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:53 PM
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You seduce multiple women the same way you seduce one woman. Simple as that. I've had over 50 threesome+ in my life. I lost my virginity to a threesome. I actually would invite two strangers off of tinder to a date with me at the same time and try to close both. Once you understand your role and how the women orient to you and look to you for guidance, it's simply a matter of getting them both in an environment where it can happen and escalating normally.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:52 PM
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I love your attitude and this is a great point.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:50 PM
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Bro you should check out my podcast with TraceMarquis he is a 5'4 filipino with an accent and he is absolutely killing it. If I'm not mistaken he just closed 20+ in a month in Krakow while building a rotation, we talked about his journey at the halfway mark of the month.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:50 PM
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I just remember when I first found out about the A spot. Game changer.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:48 PM
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I am hoping to have him on the podcast in the near future actually.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:47 PM
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Of course, my pleasure! For a more direct, simple style check out: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9vkdee/what_it_means_to_be_strong/ For a more comprehensive and BIG PICTURE style: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9w4v4n/game_theory_how_to_interact_at_the_highest_level/
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:46 PM
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"Throughout our journey of transforming weaknesses into strengths, there is a pivotal point. That point is when through practicing self-acceptance, your sense of self turns from egocentric to unconditional self love. You will then fully grasp that self love is not about yourself as an individual, it is an unconditional feeling of connectedness. It is when there is no reason for separating youtself. At that point, others are literally part of you." This is huge. "Love is constantly being judged f…
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:44 PM
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Trying to meet women while incredibly busy is difficult. I use tinder and bumble quite successfully. I also date stack during my limited times for dating. As for places to meet girls, I've had lots of success while shopping for groceries or at the mall.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:39 PM
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The underlying assumption that someone is "rejected" when they approach a stranger and do not continue to interact is weak minded. You weren't offering her anything. You were giving her a chance to get to know you. If she declines that chance it is objectively her loss. Even if she is happy in her interactions with others, by all measures she has LOST OUT ON the chance to interact with you. That is not rejection.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:37 PM
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Even top guys are impressed by Ciel's daygame work. Just breaking down that first Bitcoin comment, lots of subtle things (she's paying for him, he's rich, he's clearly teasing and being playful, she buys in immediately). His demeanor during the interaction is also very calm because he is "trusting his capability to deal with whatever happens after the approach". It's natural and at ease, effortless. I also like the advice about not using the same cringey opener. I don't even have a set opener. ​…
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:34 PM
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I tried to be concise but thorough here. Hopefully it was helpful to you men.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:01 PM
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Here is my best advice for you, in two parts: Join Facebook communities to discuss game regularly with guys and find guys to get on skype calls with, or join inner circles with. If you want advice on this let me know, I know all the top Facebook communities and I run one of them. They include Social Prime, Ultimate Man Project, Chen City, my own is called Self Love Army. You can also check out the excellent playingfire.com which got banned from Facebook. The second is from my first post on here:…
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:43 PM
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There are so many reasons for this. A man who has sex every day is at ease. When I am single I regularly sleep with three women a day (all aware of one another). While it always feels natural to me, I do notice that with each woman I am with that day it feels even more effortless and natural.
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:36 PM
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Question 1: If you're being honest, how do you believe the interaction SHOULD go?You're nervous and suppressing yourself. ​ I have had several clients who keep themselves suppressed because they are guarding themselves from feeling rejected and they don't realize they are also suppressing their emotions toward others. Question 2 : Do you view the women as hostile? ​ Question 3: Do you have any pre-conceived sense of how the interaction will go? ​
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:32 PM
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I definitely agree about it becoming habit and how the subconscious body languages change over time. Once we have the sense of freedom to express our reactions to others we become quite powerful.
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:29 PM
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This is a good way to start opening up and gaining confidence. Good job.
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:28 PM
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Be authentic and sexual while assuming you're attractive without conditioning any of your worth, emotions, or self esteem on her, the interaction, or those around you. Learn about the power of curiosity and be playful and fun.
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:27 PM
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When you see yourself as the prize she is able to see you in the same light. Let's talk about a dating mindset youcan adopt right now that is very powerful. First, own your belief in yourself and take full responsibility for it. Believe you are worthy of any woman. You are trustworthy, sexually unselfish, a man with boundaries. Believe this as much as you can. Now let's talk about ridding ourselves of one misapprehension: There is no such thing as an intimidating woman. There is just a woman. Yo…
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:24 PM
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Hey I've been writing copy so long I always want to give spelling tips. You meant Tantric not Trantic right? The advice on listening and connection are good, but I'd like to hear more. I do a daily podcast in my Facebook group and would enjoy having you on to discuss this sometime. ​ In the meantime, I'd love your thoughts on whether you believe there is such a thing as sexual incompatibility. Is it possible that even with listening and gaining awareness of one another there can be too little co…
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:17 PM
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Let's have a call and I can give you better feedback. Generally, when men are perceived as creepy it's because they are unaware of their physical space and their expressions of sexuality, or they are "awkward" in the sense that they are not aware of the emotional response of others so their emotional calibration is off. Autistic men are not creepy by any means, but they also regularly struggle with emotional calibration. You could be: uneasy, smarmy, etc. but I suspect you are TRYING WAY TOO HAR…
/r/seduction11/11/18 03:10 PM
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The top guys all have YouTube Facebook etc. www.playingfire.com for text game, ultimate man project has almost 200 valuable articles. My group has daily podcasts with top guys.
/r/seduction11/11/18 04:10 AM
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I am really excited to show you guys the podcasts I’ve been doing with top guys from around the world. Going to be bringing a lot of free value to the community and all my buddies are also.
/r/seduction11/11/18 02:13 AM
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I’m really glad to hear it. The journey begins today. Time to love yourself and grow :)
/r/seduction11/11/18 12:41 AM
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Narcissism isn’t self love.
/r/seduction10/11/18 11:27 PM
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I have some thoughts on this and some questions. I’m slammed right now but if you pm me we can discuss this in detail.
/r/seduction10/11/18 10:55 PM
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It was intentionally stylistic. I wrote a post yesterday that was more motivation based. I like to write with different “frequencies” to reach people in different places emotionally. I’ll be posting each day plus dropping videos so my hope is if one doesn’t quite resonate another will. Man thing here is iron sharpens iron and we are all on a journey to grow and impact others
/r/seduction10/11/18 10:55 PM
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Thanks I made an earlier post yesterday that is much easier to read. It’s abot strength and being “hardcore”
/r/seduction10/11/18 10:34 PM
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I think of techniques as play. Can be fun and effective (and helpful) but not in and of themselves fulfilling. Thanks for liking the article.
/r/seduction10/11/18 10:31 PM
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I have thoughts for you and questions but I’m slammed at the moment. Shoot me a message I’ll follow up with you.
/r/seduction10/11/18 09:39 PM
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Awesome. Gonna be a lot more where this came from and I hope you share the journey with us.
/r/seduction10/11/18 08:55 PM
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Join ultimate man project on Facebook for full breakdown. But one basic example is “is it true what they say about girls from x” they ask... “actually wait I want to see if it’s true first.”
/r/seduction10/11/18 08:54 PM
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Values, boundaries, and self belief are a big part of "owning your life" and a big part of self care, which is a functionally inseparable piece of the self love puzzle.
/r/seduction10/11/18 08:17 PM
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Disagree about most of the guys here. I also don't believe indiscriminate self love is self love. If you really love yourself you don't want character defects because that isn't self care and avoiding self harm, and that isn't going to help you have true acceptance. I'm not trying to play a word game here. There is a functional difference between self love and narcissism which is an excessive polluted self esteem.
/r/seduction10/11/18 08:15 PM
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You've seen one now :)
/r/seduction10/11/18 08:14 PM
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Believe it or not, open loops are a HUGE part of securing female investment. David Swift and Alex Lindberg are murdering it with this technique right now. Open questions that elicit her asking that you never answer is chick crack.
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:48 PM
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Who is responsible for your beliefs? Who and who alone has control over what you choose to believe? Who gives you the conclusions you are drawing? You. I am not suggesting you are the stimulus for all beliefs. The external world can send us horrors to face. But in the end we are, each of us, truly the only gatekeeper for our self belief.
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:41 PM
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Agree. Boundaries, values and self love apply to all areas of life. Freedom is security and a mind with security is truly powerful.
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:39 PM
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Thanks so much.
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:31 PM
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Self love is often very much an acceptance and a surrender. It is a humility, and not of the ego. You might love yourself and also just be a narcissist :)
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:31 PM
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Thanks a lot. I try to alternate frequencies so guys of all mental orientations can find a way to vibe.
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:17 PM
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Damn right. Self love and taking responsibility, “owning your life” is huge!
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:16 PM
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Thanks. Have a lot more where this came from. We are just getting started. I’ll be posting daily podcasts with top guys from all over the world.
/r/seduction10/11/18 06:16 PM
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Self love necessarily includes self care and avoiding self harm. Pursuing happiness in a healthy way and health in a happy way. We can desire to grow and improve and still love ourselves for how we are exactly in this moment. The implicit premise of this as you perceive it :) my premise is that blithe excuses for misdeed and fault isn’t self love.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:58 PM
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I am really glad you like it. I'll be posting regularly, but I also have a group Self Love Army on facebook. Feel free to join brother.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:51 PM
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Most top guys don't see boyfriends as a barrier for any logistical reason, only their own ethical reasons. I can link you to men in the community that have absolutely lethal and unfair "boyfriend" game. This is a limiting belief for you that it's a barrier. The real barrier is whether she is fully emotionally content AND can resist the short term mating strategy attractiveness of a truly desirable man. In a very real way, for MANY people, loving their partner doesn't mean that is the ONLY man or…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:50 PM
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Haha I am saying it IS her loss, unless you aren't a man who is valuable enough that her choosing not to be around you is her loss. In which case, work on your belief and your value.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:48 PM
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Try this and let me know how it works for you
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:47 PM
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It's succinct. But it's absolutely not making light of it. Responsibility is huge.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:47 PM
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I'm pretty sure your sticking points come from a lack of self love and belief in yourself rather than a tendency to associate your reality with conclusions based on a compulsive need to think and form conclusions for the sake of feeling certain or sure. Agree that being present is huge. But if you have fundamental beliefs in your inadequacy being present won't entirely alleviate your unconscious limiting beliefs.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:44 PM
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So many things went wrong before this comment. The comment isn't your problem it's the build up. That being said, "I won't apologize for being a man and having interest in a woman. I also won't apologize for being protective and keeping you warm. I know plenty of guys that are scared to touch a woman, I can introduce you to them if you want. [cheeky, amused]. Can use entire frame above. or any combo of one or two of the three lines.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:37 PM
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5 is HUGE. This is actually a really good guide.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:35 PM
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Tight. Let's discuss doing a podcast together. I regularly have Subs on my channel to give guys' their perspective. Have only had one Dom buddy on.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:34 PM
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Dude you have to contact the Melbourne crew. And also the Sydney crew, to a lesser extent. Add me on Facebook and I'll link you up with all the top guys in Australia (which literally has the best click of gamers in the entire history of this shit). Lodi Markus Nick Tuck Pierre Alex Marc Mioch Tuan Jin Ahmed Dicko on and on and on each one is an insane world class crusher and they all will help new guys.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:32 PM
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Be a hardcore motherfucking gentleman not a "dancing monkey" try hard. You aren't trying too hard for her. You're trying too hard because you feel like something is missing inside you. Let me tell you something. The woman is lucky to be with you. She wants good sex. If she shows interest, she has considered you as someone capable of giving her that. She wants it bad. Generally speaking, women are far more sex starved than men because sex for them is typically awful. But you just know in your hea…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:27 PM
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Same game works everywhere. Logistics only matter when a woman's potential "awkwardness" invades your sense of calm, grounded purpose. Women that are sufficiently aroused will have a "spontaneous" moment anywhere. Believe in your ability to have fun with her and that she wants sex, and try to make it comfortable. But women can be comfortable in rooms full of people (as I well know from experiences too numerous to name). I've literally forgotten more group/public sex than most men will have. Wome…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:23 PM
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Listen there is no such thing as "chances". Your life is going to be awesome with or without her. She can join or not. There is a concept called date stacking that you might not be familiar with. I would never have a period of time that I wanted company from a woman set aside for only one woman. I'd book two three even four women for a time (especially on certain nights). The one I want to spend time the most with will get priority (unless there are exceptional reasons not to). Move the others t…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:19 PM
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Video guides: Self Love Army podcasts for a healthy perspective on sex, vulnerability, strength and self love. Social Prime content for the radical honesty and importance of authenticity Ultimate Man Project for the most effective mindsets and techniques on earth. these guys are changing technical game. Ciel Chen also has a new channel. he's a top daygame guy and funny as fuck. for text: Playing with Fire www.playingfire.com for texting and mindset. Check out John Mulvehill's youtube for date st…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:13 PM
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You are in control of the single most important thing in this world: your beliefs. Right now I'm going to tell you something crazy: you're probably both egotistical and a pussy. And you lack real confidence. A man that believes in himself doesn't condition his sense of self worth on the reception of a stranger, even if she does have lovely fat hanging from her chest and great curves... Let's talk about responsibility for your beliefs. Can anyone believe anything for you? Of course not. And can y…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:07 PM
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It's not luck. This will sound tough but consider this: How attractive we are depends on our belief in our attractiveness. Is there such a thing as an intimidating woman? Nope. There is just a woman. You psyched yourself out not her. You got nervous and spastic. You felt like you wanted to be wanted more than you focused on being fully present and having a positive interaction. You, in short, beat yourself, when all she probably wanted was to meet a powerful, dynamic man to enjoy. Be hardcore. I…
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:01 PM
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I have sweaty hands too brother. Own what you are. Here's the deal. If you aren't able to effectively understand space around a woman you aren't able to effectively communicate with her. Space includes physical touch. I get this shit out of the way fast. Hug when meeting. Open the door for the woman. Lead her to a chair. Pull out the chair for her "like a gentleman". Lead her to the bar. I'm physically gentle but communicate I'm comfortable touching. I use tons of screening text lines to make su…
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:53 PM
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You set the expectation of how long the date will be there if you're going to do this. Personally I would just have the girl meet me at whatever bar was closest to my house for one drink, seed, and pull. I also recommend you get good at having women come straight to your place.
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:47 PM
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I always tell guys when she is mad about the dishes it's frequently not about the dishes.
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:35 PM
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The best wings are honest humble bold and fun to chill with. ​ There are truly insane guides on being good wings out there. Markus Wolf wrote an incredible one I reccomend you and your wing check out at Ultimate Man Project on Facebook. Also, TraceMarquis and two other Aussie crushers are going to be doing a call with me in the next two days and winging will be the topic, so I'd recommend checking that out!
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:22 PM
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If you operationally orient to a woman through her words you're going to regret it. Orient to them based on their emotions. YOU use words to emotionally impact her. Don't allow her words to emotionally impact you. Look for her actions. She will give you emotional energy cues. You can literally read a woman by her limbic responses. If I told you by extending self awareness and empathy to women you would actually be able to read them almost perfectly, would that surprise you? Does it surprise you …
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:19 PM
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You accepting this as rejection shows a fundamental limiting belief and possibly red flag supplicating behavior internally. She missed out on interacting with you further. You're the prize and if you aren't the prize you weren't going to have an awesome interaction with her anyway. And if you aren't the prize you better damn sure be working on that instead of worrying over how to quantify the girl you're talking to deciding whether or not to give a phone number :)
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:07 PM
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I always teach students to not see any outcome with a woman they are meeting or getting to know as rejection. She doesn't know you at all. What she is deciding is to not continue an interaction further. This is a reflection of her emotional sense of compatibility. She can't know anywhere close to enough about you to reject you. Even her emotional sense of your compatibility is going to depend on where she is in her hormonal cycle, your own sub communications, whether she is happy with her boyfri…
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:05 PM
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The fact that her comment made you a bit confused is something I'd look at. I would really STOP worrying about her comment and instead worry about what mechanism inside yourself could hear "damn u eat so fast" and be confused. You were eating quickly. Own your behavior and own yourself. You were hungry, the food tasted good, you ate the food. You had a feeling, a desire, and the ability to act on it. And you did. Trying to perfectly calculate responses to women's comments is going to exhaust you…
/r/seduction10/11/18 02:01 PM
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The moral here isn't "keep going and don't give up" its that this wasn't even a rejection. She doesn't know you in any kind of deep or intimate way. Own your feelings. You took a swing and had an interest. As a man you don't have to apologize for having an interest. Just don't be weird about it now, and don't try to force the interactions to continue. She missed out by not going on a date with you (as presumably you've developed yourself emotionally to have self awareness and be impactful on the…
/r/seduction10/11/18 01:53 PM
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Hey in the event this isn't a huge troll, and even if it is, check out Playing With Fire. I have had more success with Tinder and Bumble than most guys would think is possible. I've found and secured SUBMISSIVES just from texting. The guys there are doing top tier work. My friend David Swift put up some truly world class texting advice on there (along with Alex Vilinchek). www.playingfire.com I had the pleasure of meeting them in Poland at the Sopot Summit (basically where most of the top guys i…
/r/seduction10/11/18 01:35 PM
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I always advise guys to systematically expose themselves to other fears and stop avoiding behaviors because of anxiety. Don't like crowds? Stand in one and realize it's safe. Public transportation is stressful? Make yourself do it and realize you have real freedoms. This will make other anxieties less palpable. As for the actual advice: start off with hi, or high five (shout out to Eduard Stinga, this is his go to warm up for night game), start off talking to men and saying good morning/afternoo…
/r/seduction10/11/18 01:31 PM
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Even in despair there must be determination.
/r/seduction10/11/18 01:28 PM
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Not letting your identity be dependent on her perception is not the same as not caring what she thinks. Connection with women is a kind of caring. You might not “care” if she chooses to judge you but... consider this analogy: you can go up to a woman and say she’s fat (and be honest) but why would you do it? Not all honesty is compassionate or socially skillful. I always tell the women I’m with I’m dating multiple women. That doesn’t mean I go into graphic detail (although I may).
/r/seduction09/11/18 09:35 PM
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Check out Self Love Army on Facebook. Check out Sopot Summit 2018. And it’s not “me” doing this. I know Ciel I met him in Poland at the Summit. Regardless, his content is on point. The guys who made comments below are top instructors: Mark is from Ultimate Man Project. These are some of the most elite guys in the community.
/r/seduction09/11/18 09:32 PM
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That’s not how I day game :)
/r/seduction09/11/18 09:31 PM
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Join Self Love Army on facebook and make a post, you'll have over 600 guys who regularly weigh in. I'll be sure to give you some step by step advice and refer you to lots of resources. If you decide not to do that, here is the best advice for you: understand you may be nervous/excited. It's ok, don't identify with the fear or give it "thought" in your head. As for the date, do whatever activity you're enjoying, then ask her to go have a drink and sit down. When you're inside the house, you can g…
/r/seduction09/11/18 05:17 PM
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Strong minds are attractive for lots of short and long term evolutionary mating reasons to women.
/r/seduction09/11/18 05:15 PM
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Actually in CBT there is a legitimate argument for exposure therapy through cold approach. Speaking to a stranger. And no it is not harassment to say hello to a woman. STOPPING THEM WITHOUT CONSENT is something you made up just now, I never said that.
/r/seduction09/11/18 05:14 PM
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Sex on the first date is the norm. I close 96% of dates I bring home, and my buddy (and PUA legend) David Swift has a 100% close rate. I also end up pulling over 80% of my actual dates, often within less than 1 hour. I realize this isn't actionable advice, but it does answer the question of how far to escalate. Now there are important concepts at play here: screening, being authentic, being a man who is regularly with women and women enjoy being with, being sexual; understanding how to show vuln…
/r/seduction09/11/18 04:06 PM
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For flirting with a man: complimenting him, laughing at his jokes, light touching, being close to him physically, smiling, saying how he is making you FEEL, are all ways to built rapport and create interest. Being aware of your own sexuality and your own sexual energy, and having confidence in yourself, plus enjoying yourself, are all very attractive to men. ​ For dating, my advice to women usually centers around communicating your expectations and securing commitments. When I say commitments, i…
/r/seduction09/11/18 04:02 PM
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I've coached autistic men before. It can be difficult because a lot of high level game involves emotional connection. Regardless, it begins with emotional awareness. Let's talk more about this. If you PM me on facebook or ask to join Self Love Army and make a post we can do a free phone call together.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:57 PM
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This story makes me smile. Luckily we don't need to murder pets and tattoo our faces to be able to stick to our beliefs and be emotionally secure in ourselves.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:55 PM
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Big takeaway from this was sharing about childhood and upbringing. Good stuff. Women want someone who they can be vulnerable with. The best way to initiate that is being vulnerable yourself.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:52 PM
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We all begin where we begin, and you're well on your way getting make outs while going out. Feel free to join Self Love Army as well, on facebook, it's my group. I have daily calls with top guys from around the world. ​
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:48 PM
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You'd be surprised how just being strong, self secure, and kind in high school will make you really stand out. I mean this works for grown ass men as well, but in high school where everyone else is awkward as fuck or overcompensating or not quite used to themselves because still discovering themselves, just having a simple set of values and boundaries will help a lot. If part of your values are that you communicate authentically with women that catch your eye by giving them a compliment or brigh…
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:47 PM
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I actually just made a post about the fact there is no such thing as an intimidating woman. There is just a woman. Also I wouldn't put women on a pedestal either :)
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:44 PM
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Getting feedback is very important and useful if you are able to contextualize it.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:43 PM
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Love this advice. A lot of guys underestimate the importance of hobbies and improving approaching skills with an intent to make friends.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:42 PM
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I always tell guys to read the Depression Cure, study some ACT therapy, and start systematically exposing themselves to situations that make them anxious. Stop avoiding your anxieties. It's making you more anxious. Exercise. Meditate. Gain self awareness. Learn to love yourself. Talk to strangers in a non-sexual context first. Just try saying hello or "high five" and try to get a high five sometime. Talk to male strangers first if its easier.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:41 PM
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We just had a post in my group about this. Often it is more dangerous to work with emotionally unstable and hurt individuals without an inordinate amount of necessity and skill. If it isn't neccessary, why do it? If a desire to help is your value, then are you actually helping? While it can be rewarding to watch a partner overcome their substance abuse issues, for example, you're setting yourself up for a ride that isn't needed. What mindset of abundance decides to spend MONOGAMOUS time with peo…
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:38 PM
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Awesome post man. Agree with all of this. EDIT: I want to just elaborate a bit on the part about "need". Agree that NEEDING others to make the night good is mad. But some people take not being needy to far. I am actually comfortable saying I have sexual and emotional needs. I want to get them met the same way I need food to address my hunger. I see talking to women as an expression of self care, and getting my needs met. Being needy to a particular female is the worst, but owning to ourselves we…
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:30 PM
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would it be the right thing to do that if i see her alone i just go up and talk to her and tell her i find her attractive" yea and then something like "I'm going to X place on Y day, around Z time. you should join me." is fine. if she bites you're good, and if not you can begin to move on productively and possibly try again at a relevant time in the future.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:27 PM
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It's always surprising to me how few men take responsibility for their beliefs. They would rather allow things to happen to them than see it as happening for them. I can't imagine a worse prison than the one I'd put on myself by believing negative things are "truth" when, in a fundamental way, we must make our own meanings.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:18 PM
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Besides the fact you are being a BIT needy, let's just re-orient your perspective. You're the prize. She is lucky to have met you. You know you have more fun emotional experiences for her to enjoy. If she decides not to do so, it is by all objective measures her loss. You don't need a response from her, though you may enjoy one. With this frame in mind, we can say that to make her most lucky is probably to hear from you, and to start with a comment from the other night. "Remind me to tell you a …
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:16 PM
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Of course. When you know your value, you can be very confident in your interactions. Guys that are advanced go for "instadates" and I've seen guys do this purely through google translate. Remember, if her language is not common either, she can feel even more "lonely" and "unengaged" than you.
/r/seduction09/11/18 03:07 PM
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Look, being honest with women about your interest in social dynamics + sharing some insight and cold read can be very attractive. Saying specifically I'm a PUA here is the techniques I use here is why etc. sounds like an uncalibrated socially awkward thing. For example when you're playing football you can let everyone know you're playing, but you don't sit there reciting the rules the entire time. being good with women and desired by women is attractive. calling yourself a PUA is awful; what doe…
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:53 PM
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Yes you should, but you really need to make the approaches meaningful. Intelligent action is 100x better than spam action without calibration. You need to be spending a LOT of time on self awareness, emotional growth, and understanding what is attractive from a woman's perspective. Also, I'd really recommend doing approaches that are designed to make the woman's day better, rather than get a number, until you get a sense of where the woman is at emotionally and start to develop a better understa…
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:51 PM
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I don't like confirmation text. I like making plans with multiple other women or friends for the same time.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:38 PM
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Seduction is definitely not one sided. Women are constantly trying to seduce a man also :) I do think there is a fundamental sense that there is something hostile or aggressive about day game, which is stupid.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:30 PM
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Psychology today published a bunch of studies actually saying there is wisdom in most of the "conventional wisdom" of the PUA community. They typically are leery of someone's motivations in doing it, not the methods. Operating from a healthy place can be difficult and isnt always directly correlated with sexual success.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:30 PM
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Go lose your virginity to this wonderful cougar :) If you want advice on the date itself let me know.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:24 PM
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Nah man. Just say I'm going to X on Y day, lets meet up. Then tell her what time is good for you.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:22 PM
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What have you texted her already? Typically a re-open is just some inside joke or funny comment from before + shoot the shit for a second then transition into "I'm free DAY, lets meet at X place at Y time," or "X place at Y day at Z time works, lets meet."
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:16 PM
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Agree with what you said about the right path! Once we can be strong and confident sober the entire world feels full of options.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:14 PM
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I was basically all daygame like you're talking about Then I found out about Tinder. For me, I kind of just got lazy at that point. I think you're making a mistake avoiding Tinder/Bumble. That being said, its definitely possible to daygame your way to victory; happiness, confidence, options with women, etc. If you develop the skills to daygame successfully, the entire world is your oyster. I was never a go to bars guy to MEET women, but I would regularly take tinder/bumble dates to a bar to have…
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:11 PM
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A lot of top guys will say cool I have a girlfriend and move on. There is also a good line "how long have you been together" she says X, "oh cool so you're not that serious" and move forward. I believe Saul from Australia used to use this "destroyer" line, and now I see it being used fairly regularly.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:09 PM
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I've seen guys use google translate to fill an entire interaction. Don't fall into the trap of thinking it has to end because of a language barrier when a TON of attraction is non-verbal. Believe in yourself, assume you're attractive, and show a controlled, sexual intent (man to woman energy, not friend to friend). By the way, congratulations, these steps are huge.
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:07 PM
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I turn 35 on Saturday. I regularly coach guys in our age range. This age is great because we are financially more secure and emotionally more experienced. Even if you're struggling, I've seen guys go from terrified to approach to closing with beautiful women in a weeks time (with proper coaching and mentors). The point isn't that this will be easy, because no journey to genuine self love, confidence, and assuming you're attractive is. But being able to 'get laid' can be made pretty simple and ac…
/r/seduction09/11/18 02:03 PM
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In writing about self love for a while now, I've found that a huge issue with guys is "boundaries". There is skill in knowing what is acceptable treatment from others, communicating it, and enforcing it. It's a three step process really. Without insight into what is acceptable, we cannot communicate it. Without communicating it (not always verbally), we are not able to enforce it coherently and be respected for our enforcement. Without enforcement, our insight and communication did little work. …
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:55 PM
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I have a buddy Julian who literally says game goes "step one, move right foot, step two, move left foot,". I found this was easier once I had intentional thoughts that acted as a pattern interrupt, since my previous "not approaching" behavior was a habit, just as approaching becomes a habit. Chris Alvino talks about "anchor thoughts" that can really bolster us once we make our fear unconscious. Glad to hear about your success man. Not enough time in the community is spent celebrating the little,…
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:47 PM
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I remember the days of analyzing over perfectly crafted response text messages waiting the right amount of time :) By the way, I do think it matters if a woman likes us. I don't think we need to care about it, and definitely should't make that our focus. Unless you meant "mattering" and "caring" are synonyms.
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:43 PM
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I'll repost my comment from Ciel's other thread: Several of us know one another from Facebook. I have a group of 600+ guys called Self Love Army. Ciel has his own group and was a speaker at the Sopot Summit in 2018 where a lot of top guys in the community spoke. Many of us are friends, yes, but we are all interested in reaching more people with our ideas.
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:39 PM
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As usual Ciel goes straight for the most ruthless and limiting beliefs guys can have. Markus Wolf always says you'll never see a man more creative than when he's making an excuse not to approach a beautiful woman. I agree it is an ongoing process (what isn't in a sense?) but I want to say that beliefs can be permanently discarded. In fact they must be. Trauma can have a kind of radioactive half life, and past mental associations to our emotional interpretations of reality, and even our emotional…
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:25 PM
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Several of us know one another from Facebook. I have a group of 600+ guys called Self Love Army. Ciel has his own group and was a speaker at the Sopot Summit in 2018 where a lot of top guys in the community spoke. Many of us are friends, yes, but we are all interested in reaching more people with our ideas.
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:01 PM
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