I'm scared of putting myself out there again. I'm scared of frustration. I'm scared of rejection.

Bobbert84 · 2018-12-15T09:42:32+00:00

Most approaches end in rejection. Just how it is. The best people at game in the world can't do anything about it. All you can do is hang in there and keep approaching and learn to approach and game better.

In the end the problem isn't as big as you think. You just need to learn to be better socially and gain confidence. You can do it. I suggest you stay on this board as well as watch youtube vids on pick up. Then you need to apply it. Don't just watch it. Actually do it. You need to have in your head that you WILL approach 30 women a week at least. 30 GOOD approaches. Not just a 'hi' without a response.

Here is the best thing to do IMO. Go out to a club and approach a lot of women. Go out friday/saturday and even a few week days.

This is good cause you up the chance of people being single and you can get in and out of a lot of sets quickly. It is also nice to have a consistent kind of pick up venue/rules. Club rules are a lot different then casual on campus or talking to a girl at a book store or shopping. Also they are probably less likely to have boyfriends.

Here is my quick 5 step guide.

1 do your research before going out. 2 when you go out to clubs talk to guys first. This isn't about hitting on them. It is about getting use to talking. Don't ask them questions. Just shoot the shit and be the life of the party. This is a great idea for newbies to game IMO. Be a little loud, bring some energy and be fun. If they have a group of lady friends with them that is fine too but just focus on letting yourself open up and be social WITHOUT conducting an interview.
3 Once you have done this 10 times approach a girl or group and being almost the same energy and start to run your game. While you are doing it try to take mental notes as well as remember what you studied and try to apply it. After the set quickly go over what you felt worked and didn't work. 4 if you feel you need a break to get back into the right mental head space approach some guys ago just for a minute and then back to a group of girls. Try to improve from last time. Repeat. 5 At the end of the night write down what you think you did well and what you didn't. Where you think things went bad. Rewatch/reread to get more information. Practice in front of a mirror is fine. Go out the next night.

This won't solve everything but it is a good guideline IMO.

2018-12-15T09:54:10+00:00

You’re looking for someone to fill a void you have about feeling rejected. You have a victim mentality.

Work on yourself and your confidence to develop the mentality of worthiness and abundance.

I’m sorry to say, but you won’t have any success using “pick up” tactics until your mindset has improved.

Be proud of who you are. Be confident. Don’t seek validation from women and you’ll begin to attract people with your improved nature.

recessbadger45 · 2018-12-15T09:54:36+00:00

Just live your life.I've not had a girlfriend either been rejected i don't ask girls out anymore.Focus on being the best person you can be.Life is too short to dwell on the negatives, think positively on how in a universe of trillions of galaxies you are part of the intelligent life on a planet in the milky way with temperatures and distances far away from the sun to support life.

2018-12-15T14:00:05+00:00

I just want to say that you are a real Hero Bro.... I mean I am 23... just like you... but Till now I only approached like 2 girls seriously and was rejected by both ... I thought my life was hell but no... seeing you go for so much, it gives me confidence to go out there and live my life to the fullest!

Title	I'm scared of putting myself out there again. I'm scared of frustration. I'm scared of rejection.
Author	HAWSCHAMPS20189
Upvotes	4
Comments	4
Date	December 15, 2018 9:23 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a6dyw4/im_scared_of_putting_myself_out_there_again_im/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/im-scared-of-putting-myself-out-there-again-im.1458703 https://theredarchive.com/post/1458703

Comments