I can talk to women but it's hard for me to get physical contact

hunterpua · 2019-01-05T19:46:25+00:00

The first thing to do is have your arms bent at the elbow so that you hold your hands in front of you.

You can just hold your hands together or in a steeple.

What happens when you do this is that it encourages gesturing.

And when you're gesturing its very natural to touch from time to time.

If you're confused when the right time to touch is then just think of a question mark and an exclamation point.

If someone were to transcribe the conversation you have then whenever there is a question mark or an exclamation point in your conversation, that's when its time to touch.

So if you say, "That's an interesting accent, where is it from?"

You can place your fingers gently on the outside of her arm while giving her an inquisitive look and then release as soon as you finish asking the question.

Or if you say, "Wow! That's awesome!" then you can hold on to her more firmly on the outside of the forearms or the upper arms if she's already comfortable with you and shake her slightly.

The shaking should come naturally with the excitement you're having because when you say, "Wow! That's awesome!" you should only say that when you're genuinely excited.

Also notice how I say the outside of her arm or the outside of her forearm?

When initially touching someone, they are generally more comfortable being touched on the outer areas.

When someone lets you touch the inner areas, that's when they trust you and if its a girl, that is a good sign she is attracted to you.

Those areas are where the the important blood vessels are located which is why people don't feel comfortable being touched by just anyone there.

Those areas are also the erogenous zones, i.e. the zones to touch to turn a girl on so if she allows you to touch the inside of her wrist or even palm to palm, she already has a good degree of attraction for you.

Once you can develop the general touching use that to make both of you more comfortable.

Yes, doing that makes her more comfortable but you actually also need smooth escalation so that you will be comfortable too.

Remember, she is also a stranger.

Its normal to feel uncomfortable touching a stranger no matter how hot she is.

She also needs to gain your trust.

She also needs to make you feel comfortable.

Its a human interaction, its not one sided, you go back & forth.

When you're comfortable with her then it will be much easier to get things more sexual.

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Sitchnatio · 2019-01-05T19:09:56+00:00

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MrDownhillRacer · 2019-01-06T05:39:19+00:00

I've found that one thing that has helped me overcome awkwardness about how/when to make physical contact with a date is ceasing to care about the stigma of "same-side sitting."

Previously, I'd feel like there never felt like a natural and non-forced way to touch her, especially being on the other side of a table from her. And then when the date ended, I felt like it'd feel to forced and unprecedented to try to kiss her when parting after a few hours of not even so much as holding her hand, because there would be no sense of progression or escalation.

It seemed like the problem really started from not making that physical contact on the actual date. So now, I'll start the date off sitting opposite from her, but part way through, when we get more comfortable and have already gone through some conversation, I'll move and sit next to her, not caring that maybe some bystander will snicker at our social faux-pas of sitting on the same side of a table. From there, I can put a hand on her thigh, put my arm around her, hold her hand, and then kiss her. It's a lot less awkward than having an entire date in which we maintain separate space bubbles, and then having that awkward feeling of "should I kiss her now, or wait for the next date?" at the end. Getting the kiss out of the way partway through the date, rather than having it as some bookend, helps alleviate the pressure by not making the kiss seem like this big important thing, which makes you less anxious about it. It makes it seem more like kissing is normal for you, and like you kiss girls frequently (even if you don't). And though women talk about how they want a guy that makes them feel "special," in my experience, they act differently from how they think they act, and they get freaked out by a guy who makes them feel too special. Or put another way, they want you to make them feel special, but that feeling of specialness comes from "wow, this really cool guy who is different from all the rest of the guys went out with me!" rather than "wow, this guy treats me like I am really cool and different from all the rest of the girls."

Orachi_ · 2019-01-05T18:11:58+00:00

Ask for a kiss, things usually progress from there , and show them what that tongue do

Title	I can talk to women but it's hard for me to get physical contact
Author	Sitchnatio
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	January 5, 2019 6:03 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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