Am I showing a lack of confidence?

2019-03-16T20:17:53+00:00

It's not really a general lack of confidence. You're simply anxious because of her. Just don't put her on a pedestal, don't say she's better than you. You're equals (hopefully).

Try approaching her. She'll appreciate it a lot if you're not awkward.

Good luck!

TheSpartanB345T · 2019-03-16T23:43:30+00:00

You seem to be overthinking it. Stop thinking. Meditation helps massively with this.

Stop putting pressure on that one girl. You clearly have options, so she is just another option.

And finally, remember that SHE likes YOU and so you are doing her a favor just by being there. That mindset should be enough to get you confident. You're MORE cringey when you are self-aware and you care about what you say; if you act like it doesn't matter, it won't.

Frandavsan · 2019-03-16T23:35:43+00:00

Mate listen, this may not sound very helpful. But the next time just GO FOR IT. Think of the worst case scenario; if everything goes wrong, so what? You still have a life to live, things to accomplish, and friends to hang out with. The amount of knowledge you can get from just even trying, without thinking of results, is immense. You will become an improved version of yourself after this, you will be prepared for future scenarios. I'm saying this because I was in a similar situation. I just went for it and things went terribly wrong. But I'm so grateful to myself for having tried because I gained valuable lessons. Living with the fact that you didn't have balls is 100 times more painful, trust me.

ALWAYS remember, our brain bends our reality, we live in a false simulation that is set up by our subconscious. The world is a totally different place than what we think it is.

Noodlelistic · 2019-03-16T20:34:48+00:00

Just don’t be a pussy. Lol

scarcestraw1598 · 2019-03-16T23:52:24+00:00

Approach her, but trust me, don’t keep approaching a bunch of girls in HS. Use the mall, or anywhere else for that. In school you can easily build up the reputation as “the creepy guy” who approaches all the girls in school. In school, focus on your social circle

vincent365 · 2019-03-17T03:57:40+00:00

I would take the other comments as advice. But feel free to message me if they confuse you. I'm about your age and can understand what you're feeling.

Do yourself a favor and at least say hi to her. Get comfortable with her. Realize that it's one girl and you could be talking to other girls

Title	Am I showing a lack of confidence?
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Date	March 16, 2019 7:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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