How Fast to Escalate When a Tinder Girl is at My Place?

SpinPlates · 2019-03-26T01:15:38+00:00

I kind of cheat with a "Motorcycle ride"

I invite tinder girls to my house and we jump on my bike, i take them around the city on a little tour, go fast, spike their emotions, make them trust me. Go back to my house and then invite them inside. I have fucked like 30+ girls doing this exact scheme.

I get them inside. Tell them to get comfortable, put on some netflix and usually try to kiss them within 15 minutes and then escalate from there.

pua_help · 2019-03-26T00:39:59+00:00

It's impossible to say but here's my read on the situation. First: I know some guys on here advocate inviting a girl straight to your house as your first date without even getting a drink at a bar first, but I'd have to disagree. Sure, there are some girls that are willing to come straight to your house without meeting you, but the number of girls who would do that is much smaller than the number who will come over to your house after meeting in person at a bar for a drink or two.

The way I see it, girls who are willing to come over to your house on the first date fall into two big categories. The first are the girls that are incredibly open about sex, understand what it means when a guy from Tinder asks them to come straight to their house, and feel no shame about sleeping with guys they haven't even met yet. The second are girls that are maybe new to dating and aren't savvy enough to understand what it means to come over to a guy they met on Tinder's place. Maybe they're down for sex, but more likely they're just kind of nervous and confused.

So even though this girl came over to your house, the fact that she said she was shy and especially the fact that she ghosted you tell me that she wasn't completely comfortable being there. It's possible that she got uncomfortable about going straight to a stranger's house and having sex with him, so she made up an excuse and then felt weird about the whole thing later and ghosted you.

Obviously, this will vary with each girl, but there have been plenty of times where I've brought a girl home/ gone to her place after a first date at a bar and we've gone straight to the bedroom and started making out and taking off clothes as soon as we're in the bedroom.

So I think the real question isn't "how fast to escalate", it's "how to build enough comfort and attraction that you don't need to worry about speed of escalation." Once you've done that, escalation will often happen so fast you don't even think about it. And in general, I think this is easier to do if you start at a public place (particularly the comfort part) than at your house.

So next time I'd just suck it up and take her out for drinks, build attraction while you're out, and if she's down then escalation should happen quickly once you're one of your places. Obviously, even after going out for drinks at a bar not every girl will be down to come back to your place or to do anything sexual. But I think it'll increase your odds over having her come straight to your place.

As far as how to build that attraction, I'm sure you know the basics, and if not, there are far better resources out there than I can give you in this comment. Best of luck!

Anmol_bakaya · 2019-03-26T03:48:47+00:00

I've been in a similar situation a few times. what has worked best for me is to have a clear sexual frame from the start, asking her '' so what are you looking for on here during the texting phase works well too''. once you have established a frame that you are both looking for something casual. then in a way it becomes highly irrational to not make a move and in your specific case to not escalate further.

the best advice I heard about shy girls was that they are highly insecure about the fact that they are shy similar to how we feel when we are in our heads. her silence doesn't mean she doesn't like your company. it just means she's nervous and thats the way she usually is. just taking the responsibility of the conversation on your shoulders and escalating at peak emotions can work fine too

Title	How Fast to Escalate When a Tinder Girl is at My Place?
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Date	March 25, 2019 11:20 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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