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Much appreciated. Thanks again man. I'll look into this. Regarding therapy - I've had friends who have had positive experiences but I think the issue will be finding a therapist aligned with TRP beliefs. I get the sense that the profession is mostly filled with left-leaning types. In any case, the book you suggested will be a good place to start.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/23 02:17 AM
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Thanks for that. I know this is the right answer but I'm not sure how to make it happen. I'm thinking perhaps therapy would help, assuming I can find a therapist who generally aligns with TRP philosophy.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/23 01:16 AM
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Remember most big universities also offer lots of masters and doctoral degrees. So you'll see plenty of law students, MBA students, PhD students, etc on campus. Many of these women are in their late 20s or even early 30s. You may end up seeing more undergrads overall but definitely not everyone will be an 18-22 year old.
/r/seduction06/04/21 04:09 AM
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Fair points. I know it’s a reach but I figured I might as well try. The only thing I have to lose is the possibility of a FWB situation with one of them. Which isn’t nothing, but it seemed worth the risk. Although I don’t agree that Bumble is for friends. Maybe on the BFF part of the app (I’ve never used it) but definitely not on the dating side. That’s a pretty clear dating app that I’d place in between Tinder and Hinge on the hookup - relationship spectrum.
/r/seduction04/04/21 04:40 AM
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Love the advice man. Thanks for commenting. I think I'll start by suggesting we all three go out for drinks or something. Should be easier than convincing them both to come to my apartment before we've met in person but will leave an opening for that to happen after a couple drinks at the bar.
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:39 PM
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Great suggestion man. Would you recommend seeing them separately first or going straight to inviting both of them over to my place? I know there's a risk that I could lose both of them by inviting them both over as a first date but if that's the case then maybe they wouldn't have been down for a threesome anyways.
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:24 PM
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Absolutely man - I completely agree. Using Facetime as a way to build rapport before meeting in person is probably the only good use of it as far as dating/seduction goes. Of course, there will inevitably be times when a girl is unwilling to go over to a guy's place after a Facetime chat or two. Just like there are times when a girl is unwilling to go over to a guy's place after grabbing drinks. But as long as a guy is using Facetime with that goal in mind, and is willing to set a hard limit of …
/r/seduction15/04/20 02:14 AM
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I completely agree that it's crazy for a guy to do 3,4,5+ Facetime "dates" and expect to use that as his only form of communication with a girl until things go back to normal. I apologize if I misunderstood your argument. But I still think there's a place for Facetime right now. In normal times, my standard move with girls from dating apps is to grab a drink or two at a bar near my apartment and then invite her back to my place where I can escalate. I know some guys who will invite girls to thei…
/r/seduction14/04/20 06:18 AM
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There's a big difference between "100% completely back to normal" and "more normal." The former means a return to everything, including massive sporting events, concerts, music festivals, etc that bring together tens of thousands of people. The latter is anywhere on a spectrum between normal life and current life. The former could take 18 months. The latter definitely won't. While most people on here might consider bars, restaurants, movie theaters, and such just places to meet girls or take dat…
/r/seduction14/04/20 05:03 AM
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Good to hear it man. I'm glad you're on the road to self improvement. Best of luck and don't hesitate to reach out
/r/seduction07/04/20 07:04 PM
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Haha I still have it in my closet and take it out every now and then for old time's sake. But I haven't seriously played it in years.
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:37 PM
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That's definitely been the case for me. I posted on this a couple years ago and had forgotten about it but a recent conversation made me remember so I figured I'd post it here. I've had my ups and downs since I made this post, but I've been happy with my overall progress. I'll share a few recent updates at the end. 26 year old here and I can totally relate. I'm not sure I'm exactly a "hero" even now but I've made some huge progress and I'm sure you can too. The only advantage I had over you is h…
/r/seduction07/04/20 05:52 AM
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There's definitely a bias towards meeting girls through cold approach on this sub. And not for no reason. Doing cold approach is harder and requires better all around skills than matching on the apps. It can also be more fun and more of a thrill. But at the end of the day, whatever you're looking for can be found on the apps too. One night stands? They're on the apps. FWBs? On the apps. A girlfriend? On the apps too. If you've never done cold approach, I'd recommend it. It's the fastest way to p…
/r/seduction05/04/20 07:16 AM
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Ignore the negative commenters. Plenty of girls are also looking for FWBs and enjoy these types of relationships. A couple things I'd suggest to you. First, be upfront about your intentions. You don't necessarily have to mention it on the first date if she doesn't ask, but if you know you don't want anything serious I'd be clear about it by the third date. Also, try to escalate sexually on the first date. If you wait too many dates before escalating sexually, you risk coming off as someone who's…
/r/seduction05/04/20 07:05 AM
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I was in a similar situation to you several months ago. I was laid off from my job last June and moved to a new city in September after finding a new job. I was excited about making the move (especially about the dating scene), but during this whole time I was feeling a little off. My sex drive was low, I lost my motivation to meet new girls, and I was just feeling more anxious and less passionate about life in general. This feeling started right after I got laid off and improved somewhat after …
/r/seduction05/04/20 06:42 AM
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Thanks man! Will check it out
/r/seduction26/01/20 02:07 AM
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Thanks for the comment man. Good to know you can relate.
/r/seduction25/01/20 04:58 PM
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Thanks for the tip. I haven't had hormones checked in a few years so I'll look into that.
/r/seduction25/01/20 04:57 PM
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You make some good points and I think you're approaching it from the right way. I saw a coach for a private bootcamp a couple years ago and I think it was helpful, but only because I went into with exactly the right ideas about what to expect and not expect. Before seeing a coach, I had done a lot of work on improving myself to get better at meeting and attracting women. From the time I was 22 (when I first realized I needed to improve) to the time I was 27 (when I saw a coach), I started liftin…
/r/seduction02/08/19 08:19 AM
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It's impossible to say but here's my read on the situation. First: I know some guys on here advocate inviting a girl straight to your house as your first date without even getting a drink at a bar first, but I'd have to disagree. Sure, there are some girls that are willing to come straight to your house without meeting you, but the number of girls who would do that is much smaller than the number who will come over to your house after meeting in person at a bar for a drink or two. The way I see …
/r/seduction26/03/19 12:39 AM
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Damn bro that's some scary shit. Definitely scarier than this. Good call getting the fuck out of there. I haven't heard of this before but I'll definitely watch out if any girl invites me to a "party" at her place before we've even met.
/r/seduction24/03/19 08:22 AM
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That was some quick thinking man - glad you were able to avoid any issues. This girl also had a Facebook that matched all the info on her Tinder and Instagram. Crazy shit.
/r/seduction24/03/19 07:57 AM
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Thanks man! Happy to help.
/r/seduction24/03/19 07:55 AM
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I wouldn't go quite that far because it's definitely still possible to get dates through Tinder. But if the scams keep getting more realistic, that's not a good sign for its future.
/r/seduction22/03/19 09:23 PM
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Thanks for the tips. I know Skype has fallen out of use here in the US, but I didn't know if that was the case everywhere in the world. Kind of like how WhatsApp is very popular in most of the world but isn't used as much in the US. But I'll keep that in mind in the future :)
/r/seduction22/03/19 07:22 PM
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Lol my post didn't say anything about my ability to get girls IRL or on Tinder. I've been with plenty of girls that I've met both IRL and online, several of them hotter than this scammer. Actually, the fact that I know it's very possible to get dates and sex through Tinder is the only reason I almost fell for this.
/r/seduction22/03/19 07:21 PM
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Yeah, bots are definitely a problem on Tinder. Just saying that in my experience not everything on there is a scam :)
/r/seduction22/03/19 07:19 PM
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I wouldn't say Tinder itself is a scam, which is why this scam was more believable. I've had many, many dates with girls I met on Tinder, the most recent one not even two weeks ago. I won't deny that real life is better, but Tinder is hardly a scam.
/r/seduction22/03/19 05:47 PM
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I'm sure they can, but in this case she didn't give me a phone number, so she didn't have mine. And our messages were pretty G-rated, nothing dirty. But just to be safe I still blocked her on Skype, Tinder, and Instagram as soon as I realized it was a scam.
/r/seduction22/03/19 05:06 PM
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Interesting. The "girl" I was talking to claimed to be from Argentina so I didn't think anything of her slight spelling/ grammar errors. We were Skype texting mostly in Spanish and when we talked on the phone she actually had an Argentine accent, which made the whole thing more believable.
/r/seduction22/03/19 05:00 PM
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Hahaha I'm surprised no one commented on that earlier. I'm not gonna pretend it isn't true lol
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:33 PM
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Lol do you mean texting or a voice call? I've run into some bots like that on Tinder but we've only messaged on the app. I've never heard of one that can actually talk in a believable way.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:32 PM
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Yeah mine was probably a prerecorded video too. But after talking to a real person for a few minutes over voice chat I didn't suspect it right away. My initial thought was she was an escort, but I hung up quickly either way.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:30 PM
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True, but the problem is that she didn't seem too good to be true until we got on the phone. And even then, I suspected she was an escort or a sugar baby. The scammer thing never crossed my mind until I looked it up online.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:27 PM
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Haha thanks!
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:26 PM
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Tip of the iceberg? Can you share anything about what you stumbled into? I'm curious to know how far this shit goes.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:26 PM
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I wouldn't say that's true, which is why this scam is so effective. I think most normal, internet-savvy guys know better than to look for dates on CL. But I literally just had a Tinder date with a new girl two weeks ago and another one a week before that. The scam works because Tinder is a place you can go to find actual dates. Scammers have been on the app as long as I've had it, but I've never seen anything this sophisticated and believable.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:25 PM
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Not sure if this girl was transgender or not but she was definitely trying to scam me. Sorry to hear you had a similar experience.
/r/seduction22/03/19 07:17 AM
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Haha yeah that's too bad that I'm a few years too young to have ever experienced the PUA lair. Anyways I'll be moving up there in a few months. Shoot me DM and let's stay in touch.
/r/seduction16/03/19 12:02 AM
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Hey - I'm 28
/r/seduction15/03/19 11:31 PM
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Yeah, dating apps. I went to college in a small town so there aren't a lot of other ways to meet girls if you're not a student. At 24 you'll have no problem dating undergrads. Even once you're a few years older it'll still be no problem assuming you stay in shape and dress decently. Plenty of girls are into older guys, and they can be hard to find as a college student depending on where you go to school.
/r/seduction13/03/19 11:37 PM
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As someone hopes to start grad school in the fall I've wondered this too. I'm sure the previous commenter is right about the workload being harder and leaving fewer opportunities for partying. But as far as Tinder goes, I've had no problem meeting undergrad girls when I've gone back to my college campus for reunions and stuff, and I'm almost 30. I wouldn't want to have a social circle of all undergrads at my age but I wouldn't be opposed to dating an older undergrad. So if it's only the hooking …
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:40 PM
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If you’re anything like me it’ll definitely help. And btw 35-40 women is pretty fucking impressive. I think the average number for a lifetime for most guys is like 8-9 so you’re already many times higher and I’m sure you’re not done yet. I wouldn’t sweat a 6 month dry spell because you’re clearly someone who can get girls. But if you think seeing an escort would help you jumpstart your dating life again, I’d recommend it 100%
/r/seduction13/03/19 01:20 AM
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Literally just posted this on a post from a few days ago and I got back online and saw this. But I think it's very relevant to your situation. Personally, I'd recommend seeing an escort. I have several reasons why, so I'll list them out to make it easier to follow: 1) It will make sex seem like less of a big deal. When I saw my first escort, most of the girls I had had sex with were longish term girlfriends, plus a few one night stands that I had only gotten because we were both drunk and the ci…
/r/seduction13/03/19 12:26 AM
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Yes, I have some experience with this. I wasn't exactly in your situation because I had already had a few girlfriends and a couple one night stands before I saw my first escort, but I was still in a position where I wasn't as confident around women as I am now. I know some guys on here would disagree, but personally, I'd recommend it. I have several reasons why, so I'll list them out to make it easier to follow: 1) It will make sex seem like less of a big deal. When I saw my first escort, most o…
/r/seduction12/03/19 10:08 PM
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I was super skinny throughout my teens and early 20's and started working out about 5 years ago. In that time I've gone from 135 lbs to 190 lbs (I'm 6'1). Ideally I'd still like to gain about another 10-15 lbs, but I'm pretty ok with where I'm at now. Getting in better shape has helped in two ways. First - I definitely get a lot more attention from women now than I did before. Granted, women still don't usually approach me and ask me for my number or anything, but I've had much better success ge…
/r/seduction03/03/19 02:44 AM
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Thanks for the perspective! Glad to hear from a girl's point of view that it's not a problem.
/r/seduction03/03/19 02:29 AM
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If so, it's definitely not consciously. But it's possible that subconsciously I'm coming off as less confident/ dominant because I know that I don't have the place to myself. I'll have to be more aware next time I'm in that situation.
/r/seduction03/03/19 02:28 AM
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In my opinion, the idea of men peaking at 35-40 can be true, but it usually doesn't work that way in practice. If a man works out regularly, eats healthy, dresses well, takes care of grooming and skincare, and stays away from excessive drinking and smoking, he can still look attractive at that age. If he works on getting an education and building a career, he's ideally making more money at that age too. And if he spends time traveling, reading, learning new skills, and generally becoming a more …
/r/seduction17/01/19 07:16 PM
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Great suggestion. I've been dabbling in meditation over the past couple years but would like to get more committed to it. Sounds like another helpful "tool" to use
/r/seduction16/01/19 05:57 PM
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Thanks man, I appreciate the encouragement. I think you're basically correct. As you mentioned, I could probably be more calm and secure. I'm still in my 20's and spent my teenage years, early 20's, and even into my mid 20's having relatively little success with women. So I'm sure that there's some lingering anxiety and insecurity because my self-image hasn't quite caught up with who I actually am now. Best of luck to you!
/r/seduction15/01/19 11:22 PM
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Find a table and sit on adjacent sides. Hope this makes sense. Or sit at the bar if there is one and sit next to her. Sitting next to her at a booth might be a little forward for a first date. But sitting across from her won't give you many opportunities for kino. Although at the end of the day, it isn't the most important thing. I've had plenty of success and failure both ways.
/r/seduction15/01/19 01:46 AM
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Haha fair enough. Even at 27 I rarely match with girls older than 28. I've had more success with older women in person - there are some attractive women who are into younger guys, but I haven't met that many. So I guess I haven't hit that age yet either.
/r/seduction28/12/18 05:56 PM
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Lol if you think all 29 year olds are haggard with three kids you either need to get out more or move to a different city
/r/seduction27/12/18 08:26 AM
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What everyone else said about being able to get younger girls into your 30's is correct. But the other good news is that in my experience, as you get older, you start to find older women attractive. I'm 27 now and just a few years ago, I used to find women in their late 20's far too mature looking and used to prefer the 18-22 year old look. Now I think lots of women in their late 20's are attractive and more rarely find 18-20 year olds attractive. Part of it is that they look too young and part …
/r/seduction26/12/18 09:55 PM
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Not too childish and could be a great idea for a third or fourth date. But I’d keep the first date simple: meet for drinks at a fun but low key spot. Maybe dinner beforehand. You want to be able to talk, get to know someone, and get comfortable with them before doing anything more unique on a date. Just my two cents
/r/seduction13/12/18 05:22 AM
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Awesome, thanks for the tip! I actually went a few years ago and loved it. I'd definitely be down to go back.
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:16 PM
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Yes - I realize you can hookup in any part of the world. But some places have more favorable conditions (better nightlife, more backpackers/ international travelers, open minded culture, etc). And seeing as I only have a few weeks at most, that's something I want to take into account.
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:15 PM
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Interesting perspective. I haven't used Tinder in Los Angeles but that doesn't surprise me. I guess the sweet spot is probably somewhere a little smaller but not so small that you run out of people easily.
/r/seduction20/11/18 01:09 AM
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I'm 27. So maybe I'm just outside the age settings that some of the 18-20 year old girls have, but I don't think I'm to the point where it's impacting me. But who knows. Could be that it's one of the factors.
/r/seduction19/11/18 06:48 PM
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Thanks man!
/r/seduction28/09/18 11:50 PM
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Nice thanks for the tips. Is there a time you’d recommend going? I’d rather avoid going all the way there to see a bunch of overweight, rough looking girls. Not sure if there’s a best day or time when the hotter girls are there but if so then I’ll try and check it out then.
/r/seduction28/09/18 11:24 PM
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Reading through this conversation about Pink Pony has got me wondering. Is it actually worth going? I've only been to a few strip clubs in my life and every time the women have been mostly unattractive and kind of rough looking. But if there are porn star type women there it might change my mind. Otherwise I'll stick to the regular bars but I keep reading about strip clubs in Atlanta, and hey, when in Rome.
/r/seduction28/09/18 05:27 PM
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It sounds like you have two different but closely related issues: skinnyness and lack of confidence. Your body and your lack of confidence are probably both negatively affecting your success with women. And your skinnyness is likely contributing to your lack of confidence. I can kind of relate to your situation. In my teens and very early 20's I was super skinny - I weighed 130 lbs at 6'1. I lost my virginity at a reasonable age (18) and had girlfriends off and on when I was at that weight, but …
/r/seduction26/09/18 11:40 PM
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I don't know of any but if nothing like this exists I think it would be awesome if someone created it. I would definitely use it. When I travel for work to cities where I don't know anyone I'd love to find a wingman. Same goes for solo travel.
/r/seduction26/09/18 06:55 AM
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Sounds good! If the weather holds up over the weekend I'll check it out.
/r/seduction26/09/18 06:50 AM
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Thanks for the tips! Asked this to another commenter but would you recommend any places downtown/ closer to downtown? That's where I'm staying and I've found that I usually have more success when logistics are ideal. If not I'll check out Buckhead, just wanted to make sure.
/r/seduction26/09/18 06:49 AM
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Thanks man - appreciate the tips! Yeah, I thought it was a bit odd that three commenters had the exact same feedback about Atlanta being cliquish and there being few white girls. I have my suspicions that at least one is the same person but who really knows. Anyways, I'll definitely check out some of these spots. Just one more question. I'm staying downtown, looks like the eastern side not far from the King Center. Are there any places closer to that area you'd recommend? I'm ok taking an Uber i…
/r/seduction26/09/18 06:44 AM
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Thanks for sharing, bro. Glad things are going better for you. Sounds like you're in a good relationship now, but a sex spree could be fun haha!
/r/seduction08/05/18 04:25 PM
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Obviously I don't know you so it's hard to give good advice. But I think you've gotta think positively and look for way to get yourself into a better situation. At least where I live (US), there are plenty of ways to go back to school while still working full time. And there are plenty of options for people who don't want to go to uni. Make long term plans and recognize that even if they don't work out 100%, they'll still be there to guide you throughout different life circumstances. And as for …
/r/seduction07/05/18 10:15 PM
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Got it. I don't know anything about you or your situation, but for 99% of people my advice would be to get back in school and start working on your career. Doesn't matter if it's university, trade school, whatever. Just go where your interests are. Even if it requires taking on debt, your career options will be far better with more school than without it. This obviously doesn't apply if you can get to your dream career with only HS, but that doesn't sound like you (and it isn't most people eithe…
/r/seduction07/05/18 09:16 PM
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Thanks for your input bro. Sorry to hear you're in a rough spot at the moment. Are you in any kind of university or trade school? I don't know you at all but I think that getting your education/ career in order will be the best foundation to help you have more success in your social and dating life.
/r/seduction07/05/18 08:49 PM
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Thanks for sharing bro. Sounds like you developed the right mindset earlier than a lot of guys, certainly earlier than me. And in regards to having fucked up in HS and college - I don't know you at all but it doesn't seem like that's the case. CS is a super in-demand field so it shouldn't be hard for you to find a job. And it sounds like you've worked on self-improvement enough that you've had plenty of success with girls. I'm speaking from experience that it actually gets better post-college, a…
/r/seduction07/05/18 06:05 PM
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Appreciate your sharing, man. The one thing I'm seeing in common here is a distant father and/or overbearing mother, which leads to shyness in high school, which leads to lack of success with women, which leads guys to pickup. This was kind of the case with me, but I never thought much about it, because my parents weren't nearly as bad as others I knew. But I'm sure it affected me negatively. It'll be interesting to see what happens to you vs your brother as you get older. I wonder if a natural …
/r/seduction07/05/18 04:31 PM
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Awesome that you turned things around so quickly in college. Getting better with women took years for me, probably because I was far behind my peers in a lot of ways. So that meant learning to dress well, spending a couple years working out, and improving overall social skills before getting to a place where I could focus on pickup and see results. But I think your situation still relates to my overall point about what we were like in high school. Appreciate you sharing, man.
/r/seduction07/05/18 04:25 PM
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Sounds exactly like my situation at that age. Thankfully my relationship with my parents has evolved, but I think it impacted me negatively for years.
/r/seduction07/05/18 04:19 PM
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Damn, not sure what to tell you in that case. I still tend to go for girls within a couple years of graduating college or in college because I've found they have a less relationship-oriented mindset. But I can imagine that changing as i get older. Best of luck to you either way, sounds like you're in a great place overall.
/r/seduction26/04/18 06:10 AM
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Hmm I'm in my late 20's so there may be some different dynamics at your age I'm not taking into account. But a couple other things come to mind. How often are you seeing them? I shoot for once every two-three weeks. With that much time in between hopefully it'll give her enough space not to become attached. And how old are the women you're seeing? If they're in their 30's, that might explain more relationship-focused mindset.
/r/seduction26/04/18 02:22 AM
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Sweet, I've gotta give it a try. Can't hurt to have another trick up my sleeve.
/r/seduction25/04/18 09:43 PM
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Thanks a lot - I'll check it out. Any personal Instagram tips you have, other than what's on Luke's channel?
/r/seduction25/04/18 07:53 PM
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Make sure you escalate sexually on the first date. Once you've had sex with her a couple times, be upfront that you're not looking for a relationship. Maybe she'll ditch you at that point or maybe she'll want to be FWB. But even if she walks away, you've already gotten laid and she likely won't be too upset because hasn't had a chance to develop feelings. Do this enough times and you'll end up with a few FWBs and a regular stream of one/two night stands. Which is a pretty great thing.
/r/seduction25/04/18 06:10 PM
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Thanks man, appreciate the tips. In your experience how important is Instagram? I have one but rarely post on it. But if it'll help me get laid more often maybe it's time to step up my game.
/r/seduction25/04/18 05:05 PM
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Agreed. When I've gone out with friends who aren't as good, I feel bad leaving them talking to the overweight chick or off by themselves. But if I'm with a guy who's at my level or better, I wouldn't care if he ditches me to go off with a girl. But I don't have anyone like that to game with, so I'm gonna have to try solo soon.
/r/seduction23/04/18 07:10 PM
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Ha! Thanks man. Forgot to ask earlier - it seems like going for the same night lay vs number close would make going out alone more attractive. Because it's less about having a good time talking to friends and talking to girls and getting numbers and more of a mission, at least once you find a set you want to stick with. Do you typically do night game alone or with friends? Any preference for either?
/r/seduction23/04/18 06:56 PM
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Thanks for this, bro. Like I said in another comment, my problem has been ejecting from the set after building a little bit of attraction and comfort. Because I know I'm pretty good at closing once I've got a girl on a date, and figured that I made enough of a connection at the bar for her to agree to a date. And my thinking was that if I could make that connection with let's say 5 girls in a night, I'd have a couple dates even if half don't respond. But clearly that's not the case. In the futur…
/r/seduction23/04/18 06:10 PM
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Yeah that's a great point. So far I've not gone for the same night lay because I've been concerned about coming off as too pushy or clingy. And I'm pretty good at closing once I've got a girl on a date. But if the alternative is getting her number and never hearing back, I guess being a little pushy/ clingy isn't so bad.
/r/seduction23/04/18 06:03 PM
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Thanks man. That's about what I was expecting but it's good to get your opinion. When you're out alone do you typically go for the same night lay? In your experience is that more effective than getting the number and trying to get her on a date?
/r/seduction23/04/18 05:10 PM
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Yeah I know what you mean. Especially if I'm with a friend who's not quite on my level, I feel bad isolating one girl while he's stuck talking to her less attractive friend or just wandering around the bar getting blown out. In your experience what are the numerous downsides of solo gaming? I can guess what some of them are, but I'd like to hear from someone who's actually done it.
/r/seduction23/04/18 04:26 PM
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Good point to keep in mind. Even for the best, seduction will always be a numbers game to some degree.
/r/seduction23/04/18 04:21 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I had been looking at night game the same way I approach online/social circle/day game. Which is to say, spend some time building rapport, ask for her number, ask her on a date, and escalate while on the date. But it sounds like drilling down and going for the same night lay might be a better approach. What's been your personal experience with going that route vs getting the number and trying to get her on a date?
/r/seduction23/04/18 04:20 PM
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Haha I guess it comes with the territory. Why do you prefer to game solo? I've gone out with a friend every time so far and it's good to have a buddy there, but I've noticed that I feel weird spending too much time with one girl, especially if he's not talking to anyone or stuck with a girl he's not into. I'm guessing that might be part of why you game solo? I need to give it a try if I can pump myself up enough to make it happen.
/r/seduction23/04/18 04:09 PM
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Good tips bro! I'll definitely check out 6th street
/r/seduction09/03/18 10:34 PM
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I think you've got some good points, but your last bullet point and last sentence are where I really start to disagree with a lot of the general attitude I've seen around here. Personally, I think it's much easier for men to hookup today than ever before. And I think feminism has overall been a positive thing for both men and women. We both agree that prior to the 1950's, being unmarried and having casual sex into your late 20's and beyond wasn't common. Maybe in certain super progressive circle…
/r/seduction11/02/18 05:47 AM
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Absolutely man, glad to share my perspective. About the dating apps - remember the average height for a woman (at least in the US but it can't be too different worldwide) is only around 5'4. So more than half the girls you're likely to see on there are shorter than you. And some that are taller might not care. If you're really anxious, just list your height in your bio, make a joke about it, and you'll be confident that any matches you get are cool with it. And I can't say I disagree with you fo…
/r/seduction04/01/18 08:45 PM
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Hey bro, 26M here and I can totally relate. I'm not sure I'm exactly a "hero" even now but I've made some huge progress and I'm sure you can too. The only advantage I had over you is height. I'm not dismissing that, but I was in your same situation in almost every other way. For background, in high school I was 6'1 and weighed 120 pounds. If that wasn't bad enough, I had zero fashion sense and spent all my free time practicing bassoon. And on top of that, I was raised in a conservative Christian…
/r/seduction04/01/18 01:14 AM
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Lol absolutely. Hopefully I'll be at your level before too long - hanging out in beach towns in Ecuador with Colombian girls I barely know.
/r/seduction08/12/17 10:00 PM
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Awesome, many thanks man!
/r/seduction08/12/17 09:57 PM
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Thanks for the replies all. I think I'm gonna go with the consensus (and my gut feeling) and go with Spanish. After all, I got into game in the first place to challenge myself and grow as a person (and hopefully get laid in the process lol). Absolute worst case, we switch to English if I'm fucking up too badly.
/r/seduction08/12/17 06:02 PM
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Good suggestions man. Based on her profile, she's Mexicana, not Mexican-American. So I'll go with your tips of starting in Spanish. At the end of the day, why am I doing game if not to challenge myself.
/r/seduction08/12/17 05:59 PM
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Thanks bro - really appreciate the tips. My small talk vocab is alright, but I'm not really familiar with any words specific to Mexico. Any chance you could help with that? Gracias!
/r/seduction08/12/17 05:57 PM
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