Broke up with my girlfriend of six years a week and a half ago and got my own house. As far as breakups go it is the most amicable breakup possible. Hurt feelings sure but it is a very mature breakup and we're still talking here are there.

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Since the breakup I have gone out practically every night. It has been a wild time. Danced with at least a dozen women, mad grind on 5, got 7 numbers, have 3 dates scheduled for this week, approached at least 20 women, got 2 K closes, one from an friend of many years who I've never been romantic with and is potentially shifting towards a FWB, and another from a gorgeous Australian woman last night.

It has been an amazing week.

However, I'm seeing the areas that I need improvement. I want to nip these issues in the bud before the recently single honeymoon phase ends and The Game naturally becomes more difficult.

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  • **Integrate a Close Mentality** - I am pretty fresh in the single life and subconsciously I do not want a rebound lay; consciously.. of course fuck yea! I am seeing the clear difference between floater game and Close Mentality from seeing other guys in the field who are Naturals. You can tell from a mile away when a solid Close is happening and all participants are willing and aware. Knowing what you want, making it clear to everyone around you, and having no doubt will help me Integrate a Close Mentality.
  • **Express More Masculinity** - I am naturally a little effeminate which in many respects disarms women almost immediately. I hardly ever get a hard reject on an approach, especially since I mostly play with warm approaches where I get signals. This may make for an awesome fun time and women feel more okay with initiating KINO, but, I know that this will impact my Close Rate and usually after the good times are over the willingness for the woman to sustain interest is substantially less than what it would be otherwise. Sitting comfortably in my manhood, working out, and building natural Testosterone is the way to go to fix this.
  • **Overcome Slut Shaming Concepts** - I see myself judging women for getting with dudes too quick, especially when I judge that the guys have weak game. A lot of times it is just situational that a hookup happens and we all just want somebody to be close to. It is also highly hypocritical of me to want to be salacious with many different beautiful women and expect women not to potentially want the same out of men. It's 2019 and having a Madonna-Whore Complex is wack as hell and will ultimately affect my game. Having a wide array of girlfriends that I may not fuck that I objectively and without judgement share experiences with and support their sexuality could help me in overcoming this judgmental attitude. Finding time to celebrate female sexuality openly will also help my subconscious mind to overcome this complex, and ultimately elevate my game.
  • **Lower The Energy Output** (Very specific to me) - I'm an event organizer so bringing the party always feels like an intense responsibility for me. I want everyone to have fun. However, too much sugar makes for an upset stomach. Yea women may have a great time with you, yea they may tell you how much they love you, they may even touch you in sexual ways that seem like a green light, however, too much energy makes you into a caricature and sexual attraction lowers. Cool focused energy allows you more room to build sexual tension, creates the allure that sustains interest exponentially, and gives her the chance to work for your attention. Coolly intensifying eye contact will help me not feel that I need to run around in circles in order to sustain attraction. Also not giving a fuck overall will heighten this area greatly.

Last but not least...

  • **Get Better At Sober Game** - I was at least a 5 to an 8 out of 10 on the drunk scale each one of these nights that shit was going down. There is a good chance at least half the women I had "successes" with were also tipsy. This only goes so far and I've already had one potential date fizzle from having a "great time" while drunk then in the waking light sexual attraction is barely there. This can give me many superficial results and its not cool to have the intention of laying drunk girls. I am looking for FWB's that could be sustained for a long period of time and there needs to be a deeper sense of rapport than just a good drunk time. It might be tough, especially since I pick-up almost exclusively at bars, but having a Topo Chico after the first drink and letting that ride for the night will help me game with my Authentic Self. It will make me more confident in my Natural game, make me commit to the moment with awareness, and have more fulfilling relationships in the long run.

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It feels good to know absolutely that women are attracted to me and that I can have success. However, knowing my weak points early on will help me keep the good times rolling and solidify my Closes. I hope you all enjoyed the read and thanks to this overall level headed community for inspiring me to hit the ground running after my breakup.