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[–]subduedReality 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My best friend is kind of like this.
When I spend time with him I am trying to be his best friend. I'm not trying to game. I'm doing everything to be as awesome as I can, and still pale in comparison. This is the thing 90% of girls orbit him at such a great distance they dont even matter. And the first 10 girl he was with had self esteem issues which opened her up to being manipulated away from him. Right now he is with a 10 personality. Happily married. When you can have whatever you want you will find out that the things you want most in a partner are the more rare qualities. Hot girls are a dime a dozen. We have all seen a 6 slap on makeup and become a 9. But what about what is beneath that? You dont want girls that can't help but be distracted by him. What you want is a girl that gets you. If you are just looking for sex that part is easy. Just dont be around him. But at some point in time he will find someone and you will lose him as a friend if you and him can't spend time together because you are the third wheel.
Well damn this is long. My bad.
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[–]subduedReality 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I get it. It isn't magic. Its biology. Tall athletic handsome good fashion sociable witty. It draws people, not just women.
He isn't married. So you aren't the third wheel. Marriage will change him though. It will become more about him and her more. And then she will decide who his friends are to some degree. By being with someone who she can spend time with she will want to spend time with you.
I honestly just went on a rant. Dont know why I went into advice mode. Maybe because I need to hear it myself. That being said I get it. Jealousy shouldn't be an issue. But it's hard to see someone who could have what we want and turn it down and not feel something. Ultimately I get more happiness from seeing others happy now than i used to. I hope others get that too...
[–]CHRT_NIGWIN -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Your english is pretty good, bro! But, if you want to stand out from your best friend, follow these steps.
Don’t compare yourself to him, it will drive you insane.
A lot of people will always compare themselves to the best of the best and try to be better than them but ultimately end up just giving up. It’s an extremely daunting and intimidating task to accomplish, basically setting you up for failure. Go at your own pace, have the motivation to improve yourself and compare yourself to your past self.
Don’t put yourself down. This makes you, in the bluntest of words, look like a beta bitch. It’s also extremely unattractive. No one wants to hear a Negative Nancy.
Have confidence, but stay humble. Acknowledge the things you aren’t good at and aren’t interested in, but also acknowledge the things you are good at and take pride in those things. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground, and don’t be afraid to admit defeat. Knowing how to do those things at the right time will make you a lot more respected by others.
Don’t be afraid to communicate.
Just take your best friend aside and ask him, “damn bro, how do you do it? How did you get so charasmatic and charming?” If he’s really your best friend, and your best friend should be like your siblings, he’ll help you out and give your some pointers!
Get your life together. In a healthy way.
A lot of women find is super attractive when a guy has his life together. Take Chad for example, he goes to the gym everyday, he’s very polite but also charming, he has a successful job, and he owns a dog and a sweet car. People look at Chad and be like “wow he’s so cool,” or, “wow, I don’t know what it is about him but I want him.” Success is a result of hard work and determination. People from anywhere in the world will praise determination.
Most importantly, have fun!
Don’t overthink things and don’t worry about the negative things in life. This alone will improve you as a person. And when you have fun, time flies by faster. Next thing you know, after all the years of self improvement, you realize that you’re the coolest dude on the block.
Happy seducing!
tl;dr: Don’t compare yourself to others, don’t put yourself down, communicate with others, lead a healthy and successful life, and most importantly have fun!
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