Has anything changed?

DriedUpPlum · 2019-05-29T22:47:19+00:00

Lol. You are probably fine in terms of looks. And you are only going to get more physically attractive with age. Thinking otherwise is an story old people tell younger people when they are frustrated and have given up on trying to be attractive.

Your issue is probably you’ve gotten more self conscious. Likely with people telling you there “isn’t much time left” or “these are the best years of your life... dont squander it!” both of these are false.

Your teenage years and early 20s will be a shit show. Everyone is shallow and nobody knows how to actually engage with each other in a healthy manner.

There is a reason you will see women in their early 20s dating guys 30-50... and no it’s not because they are sugar babies with a sugar daddy. A pretty fuckboy isn’t going to show them the dark recesses of the bed room with the confidence of a god. The man isn’t going to worry about wether or not his girlfriend still likes him because she is staying out later with her friends and flirting with guys. Women react to a non needy guy like a glass of water in a desert.

Fuck looks. Read/internalize Models.

After that if your first question is “How do I improve my text game to slide into DMs with the one girl in my class?” Then go read Models again, you were asleep at the wheel.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-05-30T03:29:36+00:00

At these social events girls used to flirt with me however, this doesn't happen anymore. I don't know why and really it hurts.

Social interactions are tremendously complicated things. You've told us nothing here.

Girls used to flirt with you, you say. But you don't tell us what they did. Or what you did.
They don't now, you say. But you don't tell us what's happening now.
You don't even mention what these social events are. Could be parties, could be bible study groups.

We've all been there, man. It does hurt.

But if you don't give more details about what was and is happening, then we can't tell you what has gone wrong.

I'm beginning to think that as I grow older I'm getting worse looking. I've been told that recently buy some adults ( not my family).

This is a pretty big piece of the puzzle, I think. You're talking about an important concept here called your self-schema. This can be negatively affected by people around you, and can lead to negative voices in your head keeping you down.

It sounds like the big thing here might be your mindset.

Title	Has anything changed?
Author	noahbjets
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	May 29, 2019 10:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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