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[–]ekoagobuchi 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
After attraction there needs to be an extended period of comfort. It doesn't sound like you are able to build the requisite comfort with women... And both you and her seem to get frustrated because you are trying to push directly from Attraction --> Seduction without the comfort phase.
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Comfort phase is about getting to know the girl. It lets her also know more about your character. This is important for women because character is more fundamental to attraction than looks to them. I would try to avoid porn and prostitutes, and focus on a period of time where you just spent time talking to girls and getting to know them as people without trying to sleep with them. Fall in love with how she talks, her face, etc. And try to open lots of random people to get practice at this "Comfort" phase.
[–]ekoagobuchi 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Set a soft target for yourself to have 1 conversation per day with a random girl about random things with no intention of hooking up with her. Just try to make friends with her (maybe at your school or work or in line for coffee). Or maybe even say you will just have a 20 second conversation and then move on... It can help you to see women as "just people". And have fun with it.
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