Field Tested, Fool Proof Tips To Eliminate LMR Consistently If Done Correctly (Favourite Escalation Routine)

So a lot of you have been asking me questions on LMR (Last minute resistance), and how to deal with it, since most coaches don't cover the process after the pull, which can get a little tricky at times.

Today I'm going to share with you one of my favorite escalation routine in the bedroom.

First of all, before diving deep into the topic, you need to understand that there is nothing you can do to make a girl who doesn't want to fuck you, fuck you. That's called rape.

Everything I'll teach you in this post will maximize your chances to have sex with a girl who wants to have sex with you.
In this day and age with modern social conditioning and slut shaming cultures, girls have a lot of blockages to act on their desires. She may really want to fuck you, but won't due to some limiting beliefs that she has.

Your strategy depends on the frame of the interaction. It depends on the lens she sees it through.

For example, your strategy may be different if you have heavily disqualified sex with a girl who is still on the fence versus having painted yourself as a sexual authority with the explicit premise of sex.

The most ideal route to take is to get your interaction to a point where she escalates on you, to get the frame to the point where she has won YOU over.

This is done through frame control, by giving her a narrative of chasing and winning over a high value guy.

But we will save that for next time.

Today I will give you my favorite escalation routine that almost guarantees no LMR if done right.

First off, a bit of a preface on the mindsets.

Here are two contradicting mindsets that you need to respect.

  1. 2 step forward 1 step back
  2. Be dominant, assertive and manhandle her

The way you should be going about physical escalation is by following a 2 step forward 1 step back method.

  1. 2 step forward 1 step back (avoid negative compliance momentum)

Basically, you want to get as little no's as possible throughout your escalation as well as interaction.

This is because you don't want to create negative compliance momentum, where even if the girl wants to say yes to your advances on the 8th attempt, she will unlikely do so because she has said no so many times already.

  1. 2 step forward 1 step (gradual buildup and play with tension)
    When you're escalating, you want to escalate and build up to sex.

Let's say you guys are in your bed cuddling. You can start by caressing her hair. Then her legs. Then up her thigh. Then maybe give her a neck kiss.

And if at any point you feel like she's about to give a no, or is tensing up feeling uncomfortable for whatever reason, you can release the tension and pull away.

This will keep the interaction engaging and help you avoid negative compliance momentum and following into a chasing frame.

Slowly build up to it whilst avoiding as many no's as possible. Rinse and repeat.

When it comes to escalating in the bedroom, you want to be dominant, assertive and not permission seeking.

One of the worst things you can do is to ask for permission every little step along the way.

"Can I do this?" = LMR

I'm not telling you to ignore consent or what the girl wants, but the girl will let you know if she wants you to stop or to change something.

Asking for permission is a mood killer 10 out of 10 times.

There's emotional and physical dominance.

Emotional dominance is quite broad and hard to describe. It goes far beyond the bedroom.

But in the context of sex, you want to hold a strong frame that you're a sexual man and you are turned on by the girl and you want her.

One of the biggest turn-ons for a girl is to feel sexually appreciated, and craved and have a guy unequivocally and unaplogetically express his strong desires for her.

The way I see physical dominance in the bedroom is basically you want to be sensual and rough. There should be a variety.

Girls want to be MANDHANDLED.

If I'm flipping a girl over, I don't ask for permission.

If I'm tossing her onto the bed, I'm not being gentle with her afraid to hurt her.

If I'm taking her clothes off, I do it assertively.

Now with the mindsets out of the way, let's get into it.

Let's say we're in my room on my bed, just chilling.

Dim the light to mood lighting. Nothing kills a sexual vibe more than blinding white lights.

Whether there is massive amounts of sexual tension built up or not, this is a low pressure natural way to make it happen:
"Are you good at massages? I trained back today and I'm so sore." - I say, and start patting my back.
*She gives answer*
"Okay give me a quick massage." - I say whilst assuming the yes and laying on my stomach so she can massage my back.
I will usually let them massage me for as long as possible until it gets boring for me, usually 5-15 minutes. Then I offer her one back.
"That's very not bad. Here, I'll show you how it's done." - I say, and get her to lay on her stomach.

Now I know a lot of guys love to use coconut oil or massage oil for this, I used to do that and it gets them super fucking wet.
But nowadays I just never have oil with me and haven't bothered buying it, it still works effectively without the oil if you know what you're doing.
When massaging her, I like to take my time with it. I start with the shoulders for a few minutes, then neck, then back, waist, going back and forth.
A few minutes in, I will glide my fingers up to the roots of her hair, grab a fistful of it, gently start pulling her hair, whilst the other hand massaging her shoulders or neck.
They usually get super turned on from this.
After about 5-10 minutes of massage that hits all the right spots, she should be visibly more aroused. Then you can lean in and start kissing her neck from behind.
Neck, ear, back of the ear and back of her neck are all sensitive spots that extremely arouse the girl.
I kiss these areas whilst pulling her hair with the other hand. You can also lock one of her arm behind her back as if you're arresting her. They get super turned on by this.
Eventually I will release the tension and go back to the massage. This time I will focus on the lower part of her body, from the waist down.
I massage her waist, hips, then booty and legs.
When I'm massaging her booty, I start very sensual almost like I'm worshipping it. Then I will spank it once or twice to show some dominance.
Remember that throughout this whole process, I'm gauging whether she's tensing up or about to give non compliance, I always lower the tension (go back one step) if they're about to say no.
When I'm massaging her legs, I will gently slide my fingers up and down her thighs, teasing her. Be extra slow and sensual with this. Take your time. Don't rush it.
If she's wearing a skirt then it's easy from here, you just slowly slide your fingers up and rub the outskirts of her pussy and go from there.
It's a little trickier with jeans but usually at this point, if you have done a good enough job with the interaction and massage, she's so turned on that she wants to have sex.
"Take this off." - You tell her. And they will usually do it.
This usually happens in the span of 5-15 minutes for me.
Here is the thing with this routine, you have to calibrate to the situation.
Sometimes the right move is not to gradually build up to it.
Sometimes the right move is to interrupt her mid sentence, grab her and make out with her. Then rip her fucking clothes off.
It all depends on the type of girl she is, the vibe, and frame of the interaction.
Try it out and let me know how it goes for you 📷;)
-Chen City
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Ps. More articles coming on everything you need to know to overcome LMR in my Facebook group Chen City, including how to remove and change limiting beliefs, mindsets and tips of how to run the interaction inside the bedroom. Let me know if you have any question regarding this topic.