I’m a little confused here. I don’t go out on too many dates but read ‘models’, worked on myself a lot and got much more confident. Met this girl on hinge, exchanged numbers, chatted briefly, set up date on a Friday. I picked her up from her place. We went to this rooftop bar. She seemed a lil boring tbh, didn’t have a lot of interests or a great career. But since we were standing, there were a lot of touching. So we were still joking and talking and watching sun set. Got one more drink that she wanted me to try (I wouldn’t say she was disinterested in me). She had half of it. She was hungry so went to this other place and had one more drink. She said she wanted to get back home to let her dog out.

I didn’t wanna drive so she said she would. I let her. But before getting into the car, I started kissing her (everywhere but her lips). I was tipsy, she asked me if I was trying to kiss her, I said maybe.

We couldn’t find a parking spot on the street, so she put it at a temporary spot at her apartment. I couldn’t exactly remember if she let me in to apartment cos I had to pee or she was into me. I played with dog a little bit.

We were playing a bit, she was moaning, but we hadn’t made up with each other yet, since I didn’t wanna force myself into her. I consider myself a feminist so I value consent quite a bit, even if it’s implicit. At that point, I wouldn’t say it was the best date ever, but we had fun. There was no talk about what we were both looking for. I was super surprised, she’d let me into her place she let me ‘seduce her’, all of a sudden she didn’t wanna proceed any further. I asked her if she was attracted to me or not, she said, “at this moment, no” . And she didn’t seem pissed or anything. Since I was bit confused, I asked her something along the lines of “ are you sure you don’t wanna continue” she said “I’m trying to show you the door” and then left.

(If it matters, we are both ethnically conservative minorities but 28 so I don’t think that would even matter)

I sent her the pictures of her that she requested I take at the bar. There was just a “thank you”. I also sent a “I had fun, good night”. No response after.

I wasn’t hoping to particularly get laid or anything. I used to be super shy and I consider this an absolute win tbh. But I do consider myself relatively good looking when in fact she was better looking in the pictures and kept asking me what I thought of her when I first saw her. I just said I thought she was pretty. When I asked her the same of me, she said she I thought I was a nice guy, for which I laughed off, she insisted that was supposed to be a compliment.

If read this far, thank you. So, for someone that’s new to ‘the game’ , what am I missing? I know she was not the most interesting person and we didn’t have the best of chemistry so I’m not mad/salty she didn’t reply after. What are your thoughts on this? Previous dates, I could sense it with “what are you looking for” or “ending with a kiss” or “some kinda feedback even through texting after” .