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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I've already been to that place so that's why I'm writing to you... whatever the reason they ended up was for something so don't think/think they're going to take something back... that never works.If she is already dating someone has nothing to do with what you feel which although it sounds cold put in a realistic way what you like and what you don't like about her and the good and bad of your acting in the relationship, once you are clear in having a new relationship with her because you look for a friendly moment and at the right time you manifest your conclusions and see how she acts.
[–]Matthew_Wants_Death 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah you’re right thank you for replying and giving advice I think what might be best is just moving on and avoiding whatever problem this might bring and just find someone better. I shouldn’t stick to the past because it’s familiar I should go to the future because it’s better
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
In my experience meddling in relationships never ends well, but it is not unusual that they could return but it is not going to be the same and that is often not clear ... they lie thinking that they take up the relationship ... maybe what you think you really feel is custom and how you feel with it ... I encourage, the future is always better because it is different 😎.
[–]Matthew_Wants_Death 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Mmhm you’re right because I got her in the first place because I became such good friends with her and was flirting with her a bit that her boyfriend got jealous of me and cheated on her with another girl then dumped her and then I took the spoils from the conflict (I.E her) and made my Mary way away 😂 it wasn’t even intentional to ruin it it just happened and I don’t want to do that again you know?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Of course, you were the relationship rebound from her... I didn't want to be alone and you took advantage... be honest with yourself and think if you want a new relationship with her.
[–]Matthew_Wants_Death 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s what my friends said when I first dated her that I was just her rebound and they were right and I didn’t listen but now I know that when my friends say something i should definitely listen because it would’ve saved me a big chunk of 2019
[–]its_going_down_ 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I can have fun conversations with my exes, there is always some kind of connection between us. Will always be the case, but this does not mean you will get together again, but only that you have a connection. There was a reason for the break up. I'd rather put energy into building something new with a new girl, than trying to fix something broken.
You’re right I was thinking I should just move on because there’s no point sticking around for something that’s probably not gonna happen again
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
.....she dumped me..... .....we didn’t talk again for about two or three months. .....she’s dating someone else rn.... I would like to get her back but it’s complicated and I’m confused and I’m not sure what to do really.
.....she dumped me.....
.....we didn’t talk again for about two or three months.
.....she’s dating someone else rn....
I would like to get her back but it’s complicated and I’m confused and I’m not sure what to do really.
The operative words here are she dumped you and she's dating someone else.
You're confused because part of you knows that the main draw her is that you feel comfortable with the idea of getting back with her.
She clearly doesn't want that. She broke up with you, man. And she's sleeping with someone else now.
You're confused because you really want to find a sign that she's into you, but you know everything logically goes against that except the fact that she seems to be mature and friendly towards you.
Do yourself a favor and stop assuming that means anything. A lot of people are mature enough to be friends after a breakup.
[–]Matthew_Wants_Death 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The thing is after the break up I asked to still remain friends and she said no and was always very hostile towards me and said she hated me then she’s nice to me and it doesn’t add up
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The thing is after the break up I asked to still remain friends and she said no and was always very hostile towards me and said she hated me.....
So she wasn't dealing with the break up very well then.
Clearly part of the break up process for her involved needing to completely disengage from you in a way that required her to go through a period of hating you.
...then she’s nice to me and it doesn’t add up
The inconsistency of her behavior adds up to someone that doesn't warrant a level of trust or connection above acquaintance.
You know this oh, really if you think about it.
The only reason you're considering a way to get back at her romantically or sexually is because of desperation.
There's no other reason that you would consider someone this unstable or unreliable as a good prospect for anything casual or serious.
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