I (20M) messed up my chance with this girl (23F) after having a one night stand :( How do i clutch this situation before its too late?

FaP_caesar · 2019-07-31T23:29:32+00:00

By spinnin plates.

justbanterbro · 2019-08-01T06:50:47+00:00

Girls that have ONS you met in a club, is just that. She was attracted to you, but in her current situation getting more involved with you is not the best for her. She liked you enough to sleep with you, but something else is holding her back from seeing you again.

Could be anything or a mix of few different factors. 1. She could have a bf 2. She is still not over her ex 3. She was just trying to get revenge on her bf/ex that cheated on her 4. She wants to get back together with her ex 5. She is just trying to fuck as many guys as she can 6. Sex was bad or texting/neediness vibe

From my personal experience, it was #6 and her trying to get back with her ex (what she said). I'm guessing same might be true for your situation. My point is there are many reasons why she is not interested, but if you ask it will give a neediness vibe since you don't really even know the girl (you met her once, while you both weren't sober). That will turn her off even more. It will be hard for the first few weeks you'll think about her, but after that you'll get over it.

Radicalmattitude1 · 2019-08-01T08:47:28+00:00

Start thinking of you’re own journey instead of focusing on this one girl. The game is fickle like that, especially when you start getting your first ONS and stuff.

Girls will generally make dating decisions based on emotion. It’s generally hard to get call backs from ONS because it was a short passionate night. There’s not a lot of time to build comfort and familiarity with each other.

Not saying it’s impossible. But next time try to seed some “logical” plans into the interaction before you sleep with her (what you’re going to do together, what you’re time together will look like etc.) Don’t get too logical and kill the mood, but try and “skim the logical water” so she can look back on it in the following days.

Also look up the concept of *callback humour * to get some more ideas on this kind of thing!

anartis08 · 2019-08-01T01:46:54+00:00

Wait a week or two and then follow up with an easy going conversation. Explain that you don't like texting because of x, y, z and ask her out on a proper date. Maybe even apologize for seeming creepy before if you're up to it. Off the bat, as a female around that age I don't take younger guys seriously. So, show her that you deserve to be taken seriously! Hope this helped any

justbanterbro · 2019-08-01T18:43:16+00:00

I will dm you bro, you seem like you good at this!

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