How good is ignoring someone over text completely when they're not giving you good energy?

1959Chicagoan · 2019-08-20T21:41:40+00:00

I leave them all on read, sometimes for weeks on end. Drives them crazier.

staggeringmind · 2019-08-20T22:15:01+00:00

not giving a fuck, drives then crazy, as soon as you show you are ok with them, that stops. it should be like gloom and doom technique. by the, these days honestly i am less interested, in driving the conv.

Miaou1999 · 2019-08-20T22:39:04+00:00

The best technique is hot and cold. Ignore her for 10 days and then suddenly apologize, engage the conversation, ask her out on an interesting date. Show her you're not just sitting there for days on end contemplating her text messages.

caesarfecit · 2019-08-21T04:26:25+00:00

The only purpose text game should serve is to get to a meetup. Otherwise you fall into the trap of just feeding her attention. Even if your game is tight, an excess of texting will lower attraction and lead to getting taken for granted.

If texting is your only option, usually due to physical or emotional distance, then the important things to remember are tempo, momentum, and the whole reason for texting a girl who isn't a friend or girlfriend - meeting up.

Tempo refers to who is taking the initiative and investing more. Her texting first and often is a good sign, you doing all the heavy conversational lifting is not.

Once you have good tempo, then the game switches to building up some momentum. When you get a good conversation going with a girl, it's important to capitalize on it by rewarding her investment with little bits of interest. If she responds positively and shows some interest herself, then go for a meetup. Even if she says no, it shows that you mean business and you're not looking for a texting buddy.

If the conversation stalls or loses momentum, it's important to pull back. And if she pulls back or stops responding or just gives one word answers, you pull back too. Sometimes it's good to pull back pre-emptively if you're just not getting the right vibe or a meetup isn't feasible for whatever reason.

As for how long to do a pullback, 24-48 hours at an absolute minimum, 1-2 weeks is better, a month or more in extreme cases. This really hinges on her interest level and the context. If she's really interested, she'll likely text first within a week at most. If she's on the fence, 1-2 weeks is a safe amount of time. If you don't know her that well or the conversation stalls out early, I like to wait as long as possible in case it's a shit test. This happens sometimes if you say something really good and she doesn't know how to respond and decides to turn procrastination into seeing how long it'll take before you try to restart the conversation.

And when it comes to how quickly you reply, I generally like to mix it up. You can get away with replying right away occasionally if you reply minutes and hours later normally. If a conversation has momentum, replying quicker isn't that big a deal. But under normal circumstances I like to wait at least 5 minutes before I read it. Another good technique is to mirror her speed.

So basically text game is all about:

Stay off your phone.
Text with a purpose. If you wanna just talk to someone, talk to a friend. And if it's a female friend, make sure you don't overtext them too.
Ration your shits to give very carefully. Do not reward disinterest.
If she pulls back, you pull back.
Get her chasing/attracted, then build just enough rapport and interest to make a date happen.
Do not be afraid to pull back yourself if the conversation isn't turning you on. Similarly if a girl is acting flaky or pulls back suddenly, wait her out, assume she's not gonna text back, remember you have abundance mentality and be pleasantly surprised when she does come back.

Redditaspropaganda · 2019-08-21T03:06:13+00:00

pretty much. you ignore them not because you thin k it'll get them to want you but because you dont waste ur time with people

Title	How good is ignoring someone over text completely when they're not giving you good energy?
Author	Gooner1199
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Date	August 20, 2019 9:32 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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