Take things too seriously - turn off?

WFoster88 · 2019-08-24T08:49:30+00:00

There's an old song called "Girls just want to have fun." Look it up.

You don't have to be super fun all the time, but in general women run off their emotions. If you can provide them with good emotions then they'll be seduced by you. It will be easier, anyway. Being funny is how average men have gotten laid since the first dicks were carved on cave walls.

There's a fine line between "serious" and "boring." If you're boring/introverted but really, really popular or handsome, you can offset it. If you're short, bald, fat, and really confident, popular, outgoing and funny, you can offset that as well.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-08-24T09:47:11+00:00

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By habit and a not-so-good childhood, I take things way too seriously a lot of the time.

This sort of mindset is often an understandable adaptation to being in hurtful environments. Like a defense mechanism; it's safer to be detached and serious.

And a lot of abusers and bullies will be threatened by humor or playfulness and will penalize and stomp it out so they feel better.

The problem is, though being too serious is a reasonable way to cope with a situation you can't get out of, it's maladaptive in the rest of the world..... It has side effects like making someone inflexible and rigid.

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On top of that I feel like people can see that and don’t like me because of that.

This is an oversimplification. It's more that people are made uncomfortable by the over-seriousness. Just like watching a funny movie with someone who wants to logically explain all the jokes, being around someone too serious, can suck the fun out of the experience.

They don't dislike you, it's just that the bulk of you is masked by this old coping mechanism.

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How much of a turnoff is being too serious?

This is the wrong question. We're talking about an aspect of yourself that is, in a way, unnatural and certainly less is the quality of your life.

Asking this question assumes that you're not going to do anything to change something that you can and should change come for yourself, not for any woman.

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Can you give an example of a situation where your over-seriousness came out?

Title	Take things too seriously - turn off?
Author	QuiteTheBrianD
Upvotes	7
Comments	2
Date	August 24, 2019 4:42 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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