Ok, so I swallowed the pill a few months ago and have lurked on sites and blogs. It really opened my eyes. I landed a plate six months ago, this one is fantastic. Immediately went into a mode where she cooks for me, does my laundry all without asking. It is a beneficial relationship and she always comes to my place, I have no slept in her apartment once. We hung out there quite a number of times, but my bed is the prime bed. ...also her mattress sucks.

Six months in, warmer weather is approaching the east coast. We are in her car, she is driving me to get us some dinner. There is a motorcycle helmet in the back of her car. I saw it and this was the conversation; " " - me, ' ' -her "Motorcycle helmet? Going for a ride or something?" This would not fly with me, if so. Riding with another man? No way.

'Eventually, when I get my bike out of storage.' ......

"You ride a motorcycle? You didn't bother to tell me this?"

'I thought you knew, my gear and a picture of me at a track day is on my wall'

"Track day?"

'When you take your bike and do pick up racing around a track!' She is smiling at this point. I am hiding my annoyance at witholding this information. At this point I change the subject, not wanting to hear anymore. She had a lot of guy friends she would hang out with for hours on end in the summertime. This explains it. Also I am an idiot for not recognizing the helmet in the car with the picture on the wall.

She tried to bring it up again at dinner asking if I was alright, but I just wanted my food, take her home and go to bed. My thought is, she lied to me and didn't say she owned a motorcycle and rides. I asked her in passing how long do some of these group rides take...she said two hours to the whole day. This means she will be out with these men, riding bikes, in a dangerous situation.

I am bothered and honestly...do not know how to feel about this situation. How should I approach this?

She said to me "I just thought you knew, with the pictures and gear on the coat hanger at my apartment. I am sorry I didn't mention it, I figure you didn't care."

ETA: i dont mean to troll, for 32 years i was a beta fuck and for the past six months trp had helped me become a better man..and a person. i might need to take a step back and thing about how i approached this, and my behavior. this is all new to me.. so any guidance is appreciated.