Women, how do you feel about men giving you their phone number as opposed to asking for yours?

I mean, I get there is some pay off for now, but I think you underestimate how much this strategy turns off every other woman who sees it happening regularly.

The strategy itself doesn't need to be independently successful to be done. Even if cold approach pick up never worked at all (even though it completely does) it would still be worth doing. Men who do cold approaches have more interactions with different woman than men that don't do cold approaches. This means that the men not only are more capable at cold approaches, but attracting woman across all contexts.

I am also curious how you determine the difference between a "genuine" interaction with a guy approaching you and a "cold" approach. Is it possible the guy that was "genuine" simply had better social/seductive capabilities? If game is done right, the woman shouldn't know she is being gamed.

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Here's the thing, girls feeling pressure starts long before the number close, because a lot of tone deaf guys approach a social interaction with a woman by one-sidedly pursuing their agenda with little to no regard what the girl might want.

Totally agree with this.

She will show what she wants clearly in her nonverbal and verbal responses. If the guy the guy is tuned in, he'll pick it up.

This is not necessarily the case. Very often the pressure (that you have mentioned in the previous point) gets the better of them and they react in ways that are not in line with their desires. A woman may be interested in you but act disinterested because she is nervous. Or she might not be interested but she still reacts positively (for fear of embarrassing you/she's just a friendly person in general). Trying to read emotions/intentions is tricky game, especially in a high-pressure scenario such as this one.

As for the number part: Just go for an equal number exchange. You both get each other's numbers at the same time.

There's no reason to be choosing between simply giving or receiving a number.

In an approach scenario you have already shown her you're interested (by making the approach). Giving her your number has the benefit that if she contacts you she is highly likely to be interested. If she isn't, it gives her an easy way out (by simply not texting). You need to spend zero time and energy after the approach.

In the number exchange method (which might be better when approaching in a social situation), the guy will still have to initiate in most cases. Yes, you will eventually come to know if she is interested but you might waste some mental energy and time on lukewarm prospects.

Some women might want men to take the lead and hence want the guy to initiate.

There is no silver bullet that will work for all situations because every woman is different. Every exchange method has its pros and cons.

Asking for people's opinions is not very useful.

People's opinions can be useful because they give us an insight into one specific scenario. Now that scenario might apply to only 1% of cases but it's still helpful in making sure all voices are heard. The writer might phrase it as a generalization though which is wrong on their part.

A lot of bad advice comes from someone giving their opinion of what they like, as if that applies to everyone, which it often does not.

There is barely anything at all in the dating world that applies to everyone all the time. This does not mean that those opinions are useless. It is up to the reader to understand that what has been written is an opinion and not a hard fact.

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Title	Women, how do you feel about men giving you their phone number as opposed to asking for yours?
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Date	September 12, 2019 1:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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