I have this issue where I really struggle to think of what to reply back at times. There are times where it comes across as flowing and natural and it's generally a breeze. Usually this happens when I begin to feel more confident, like good things are happening in my life. I get this sort of rush of confidence. But other times when I'm at, I guess you could say, equillibrium, I don't have that confidence rush and suddenly it takes me a really long time to put together a message. Not only that I second guess myself and it gets to the point where I don't even see something stupid and offensive as being hurtful. It goes the opposite way too where I over analyze messages I'm trying to write and think there's something wrong, when it could have been completely trivial. I'm generally a confident guy who feels good about himself though. Of course when I'm in "equillibrium" though I don't have that flow or connection so everything just comes across as really forced and I think it pushes girls away.